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Do you make plans in advance to hook up at parties?
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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Most of the social nights ive attend ive been messaged though the group chat by one or two showing interest about meeting me on the night or over the weekend ill be there, id rather have some plans in place but not exclusively on the night, just attend together and interact with who ever we want with at the social and hook back up at the end of the night and do out own thing back at the hotel  |
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Yes it's nice to have Pre Planned made. But in order to do so. You probably must meet on a social before hand to see if there is a click and say Hi , or else have chatted coming up to the event in the group chat . Make the connection 1st and the night will be more enjoyable. Very hard to walk in and find what you want on the night . Best of Luck in the search  |
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I agree make no plans and let the night do its thing at a party, at a social a lot of people tend to plan their night ahead so you could miss out but normally I leave to chance and see what happens. |
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I’ve had pre planned meets at socials before but the last few I’ve been to have be gone in blind. I think having something planned even if it’s just to meet up with particular people would be good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've never been to a party so have never been in that position.
Been to plenty of socials though and have never put plans in place beforehand. Don't think we would for parties either; for me it adds a layer of pressure and expectation that I don't enjoy |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
limerick |
"I usually greet the first female or couple I meet with "Hi do u fancy a fook" 
At a social its usually rock up have a laugh and enjoy the night see who u click with if something happens it happens if not ur a a shoe in for a follow up met, A party id have no expectations but again go with the flow "
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Only ever been to one party and didn't know anyone there apart from the woman who invited me. Nothing was preplanned as I was just dipping my toes in.
I was invited back by the hosts but circumstances meant I've never had the opportunity to go to another one.
Last few socials I've gone with someone but we've always had to leave early due to work commitments the next morning so haven't been able to arrange anything either in advance or spontaneously. |
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By *ofusplus OP Couple
over a year ago
Limerick |
Spontaneity seems to be the desired approach but I think there's no harm in letting someone know in advance that you might be interested, especially if you've met (and liked) them in person already  |
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"Spontaneity seems to be the desired approach but I think there's no harm in letting someone know in advance that you might be interested, especially if you've met (and liked) them in person already "
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Yes this would be our approach too . |
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"Spontaneity seems to be the desired approach but I think there's no harm in letting someone know in advance that you might be interested, especially if you've met (and liked) them in person already "
We never make plans to play but we talk about possibilities and likes beforehand when we have met and chatted to the people attending.
There has been parties where we haven’t played… and maybe letting peeps know we were interested beforehand might have stop that… who knows?
Not knowing what’s going to happen is exciting though so we prefer that! |
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Great Post.. We kind of go with the flow.. if therescpeople we click with we fuck.. if not we don't. It can require avoiding who you don't want or saying thanks but no thanks, but it's never been awkward yet anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Worse thing you can do is pre arrange.
We have been there in the early days.
Some people are magnificent at taking selfies."
I think we've all had this unfortunate experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Worse thing you can do is pre arrange.
We have been there in the early days.
Some people are magnificent at taking selfies.
You mean taking pics without consent?
Yes, we've been there too  "
I assumed they meant people look nothing like their pics here (true in the majority of cases IMO) so it's best not to arrange sex until you've seen them in the flesh |
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By *ofusplus OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Worse thing you can do is pre arrange.
We have been there in the early days.
Some people are magnificent at taking selfies.
You mean taking pics without consent?
Yes, we've been there too
I assumed they meant people look nothing like their pics here (true in the majority of cases IMO) so it's best not to arrange sex until you've seen them in the flesh "
We often find the opposite... people's pictures don't do them justice.
God no, we'd never arrange fun without meeting them first, why would we do that?
What I meant was when considering making arrangements with people you already know, I should have clarified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Worse thing you can do is pre arrange.
We have been there in the early days.
Some people are magnificent at taking selfies.
You mean taking pics without consent?
Yes, we've been there too
I assumed they meant people look nothing like their pics here (true in the majority of cases IMO) so it's best not to arrange sex until you've seen them in the flesh
We often find the opposite... people's pictures don't do them justice.
God no, we'd never arrange fun without meeting them first, why would we do that?
What I meant was when considering making arrangements with people you already know, I should have clarified. "
Ah ok, gotcha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Spontaneous for me....it's like going out with mates to have a great night .....and its a disaster
Then go out with no expectations and it turns into a great night
Always the way "
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We always like the idea of everyone going into events with an open mind to playing with new people. The last 3/4 socials and parties we have gone to most have pre planned their hook ups which does work out well I'm sure. The last two socials we went to most left by 11pm to head off to a few pre planned Airbnb parties and the events v quickly died off. Its just people making the best use of their time |
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I have made plans before socials and parties before but sometimes they don't work out. Either they aren't anything like their photos (shock horror!) or I just bump into someone else and go with the flow, on the night.
Always good to have a fallback plan though! |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
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I've tried to make plans with friends in advance of play parties but often those nights are hard to plan and it can be like trying to herd kittens especially when drink may be taken by others.
No matter what plans have been made I've learned to kinda take them with a pinch of salt and see what the evening brings. Either way I show my interest and leave the ball (not my balls) in their court  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've tried to make plans with friends in advance of play parties but often those nights are hard to plan and it can be like trying to herd kittens especially when drink may be taken by others.
No matter what plans have been made I've learned to kinda take them with a pinch of salt and see what the evening brings. Either way I show my interest and leave the ball (not my balls) in their court "
You're some smooth operator...
I've watched your game plan a few times |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
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"I've tried to make plans with friends in advance of play parties but often those nights are hard to plan and it can be like trying to herd kittens especially when drink may be taken by others.
No matter what plans have been made I've learned to kinda take them with a pinch of salt and see what the evening brings. Either way I show my interest and leave the ball (not my balls) in their court
You're some smooth operator...
I've watched your game plan a few times "
That's cause you like to perv  |
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Any swing events we use to go to (don't go to them now for a number of reasons including family ones) we made a point of arranging to chat to people. If play happened following said chat great. Never attended an event with the view to play with certain people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have made plans before socials and parties before but sometimes they don't work out. Either they aren't anything like their photos (shock horror!) or I just bump into someone else and go with the flow, on the night.
Always good to have a fallback plan though! "
I'd hate to be someone's fall back plan  I'd rather they not bother |
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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago
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"Is it best to make your wishes clear prior to a party or is it best to see how things go and be spontaneous?
What have your experiences been like?"
We never make plans in advance, just play it by ear at the time. Though if we're chatting with someone in advance and like what were seeing, we'd let them know we'd like to chat on the night and see what happens.... |
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What of you don't fancy them in person?
What if you're not horny?
What if she got her period?
What if you fancy someone else more?
What if the nibbles give you the shits
Many reasons not to reeplan party fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What of you don't fancy them in person?
What if you're not horny?
What if she got her period?
What if you fancy someone else more?
What if the nibbles give you the shits
Many reasons not to reeplan party fun "
So true
Or they end up not being there for one reason or another
Or it's so busy you never actually bump into them |
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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago
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"Usually don’t make plans but did for once for a little pre party fun with people we knew well and it was hot hot hot… so obviously sometimes it works "
So did you make it to the party, or just stayed where you were??? |
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"Usually don’t make plans but did for once for a little pre party fun with people we knew well and it was hot hot hot… so obviously sometimes it works
So did you make it to the party, or just stayed where you were??? "
Well we were the hosts of the party and the couple were guests… they just arrived earlier than the others |
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