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Ok, so I have a date with a girl off Bumble next week in Kildare.
I was with my ex for practically 6 years and this will technically be my 1st actual date date since we broke up.
You'd swear I was 14 again but I have absolutely zero clue anymore where to take someone on dates when starting out.
Where and what do people even do on 1st dates nowdays? |
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By *yche_xWoman
over a year ago
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I'd always suggest something that requires you to talk to eachother. Hate cinema first dates when you don't get a chance to get to know someone.
Dinner, or if your really nervous try something like mini golf followed by something else. |
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I prefer casual first dates where you can talk easily. So coffee or a drink. Maybe go somewhere nice where you can go for a walk and get a coffee after?
Save dinners and other stuff for subsequent dates, in my opinion.
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Agreed, wasn't going to go near a pub, bit too early for that, plus I have to drive back to Limerick after hahah
I was thinking something fun where we can flirt and stuff but wouldn't no Kildare town in the slightest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Agreed, wasn't going to go near a pub, bit too early for that, plus I have to drive back to Limerick after hahah
I was thinking something fun where we can flirt and stuff but wouldn't no Kildare town in the slightest "
She probably would just like a quiet coffee and a chat just don’t try to over impress |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was the same after 22 year relationship... I had a few pints first then went to a cocktail bar got levelled.... I drink pints was not ready for cocktails... Arrive SOBER |
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Feel your pain bro, was with ex for 22 years as well and still haven’t had that first date and we been split 3 years now lol not looking forward to it as I think I would be like a dog chasing a car… wouldn’t know what to do if I caught it lol but hay good luck |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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So a coffee in Kildare village...with a lite bite to eat in one of the restaurants or in a nice pub.....good food in Silken Thomas pub
Depending on the day / weather
National stud or Japanese gardens
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
Far far away |
Ah it's so fabulous to hear you're excited and nervous about your date.
Good luck with it, you sound lovely already so I'm sure it will go great.
Ah... I'm hankering for a date date now.... Sad face emoji |
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"Ah it's so fabulous to hear you're excited and nervous about your date.
Good luck with it, you sound lovely already so I'm sure it will go great.
Ah... I'm hankering for a date date now.... Sad face emoji "
Is this soft side to me going to ruin any "Fab swinger" rep I have, if any? Lol |
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"So a coffee in Kildare village...with a lite bite to eat in one of the restaurants or in a nice pub.....good food in Silken Thomas pub
Depending on the day / weather
National stud or Japanese gardens
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Decent ideas them unkow |
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
Far far away |
"Ah it's so fabulous to hear you're excited and nervous about your date.
Good luck with it, you sound lovely already so I'm sure it will go great.
Ah... I'm hankering for a date date now.... Sad face emoji
It's OK, your rep is intact
Is this soft side to me going to ruin any "Fab swinger" rep I have, if any? Lol"
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"For our first date we went ice skating. Over 4 years later we're still together still mad about each other 
Last time I went ice skating I nearly broke my ankle hahah"
You can be the slow skater and have a wee perve from behind, you can be an unconfident skater and ask to hold her hand for support... it's an active thing where you can have a conversation, bit of physical touch with mixed in adrenalin - perfect combo  |
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"For our first date we went ice skating. Over 4 years later we're still together still mad about each other
Last time I went ice skating I nearly broke my ankle hahah
You can be the slow skater and have a wee perve from behind, you can be an unconfident skater and ask to hold her hand for support... it's an active thing where you can have a conversation, bit of physical touch with mixed in adrenalin - perfect combo "
Well definitely like the touch part, thats for sure.. and the perv from behind |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
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National stud"
Dam right……  
Good shout on Kildare village, sit down coffee, or take it to go if the conversation takes a little while to flow, walking around the shops will give great opportunity for different subjects, you can get to know a lot about a person shopping or walking around shops.
Hope it goes well…… |
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"So a coffee in Kildare village...with a lite bite to eat in one of the restaurants or in a nice pub.....good food in Silken Thomas pub
Depending on the day / weather
National stud or Japanese gardens
Check out kilcullen farm an nature trails again weather depending an obviously what herself may be into you need to take into account, she could hate walking for eg.
Im sure you will land on your feet. Keep it simple light hearted and have a giggle an it wont matter where you are after that.
Njoy
Decent ideas them unkow "
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"So a coffee in Kildare village...with a lite bite to eat in one of the restaurants or in a nice pub.....good food in Silken Thomas pub
Depending on the day / weather
National stud or Japanese gardens
Check out kilcullen farm an nature trails again weather depending an obviously what herself may be into you need to take into account, she could hate walking for eg.
Im sure you will land on your feet. Keep it simple light hearted and have a giggle an it wont matter where you are after that.
Njoy
Decent ideas them unkow "
Who said to check out Kilcullen farm and nature trails? I can't see that suggestion atall |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well , have you decided that you're ready for dating . I mean are you just doing it for the sake of it, or actually wanting to meet someone with a viewv to a relationship |
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"Well , have you decided that you're ready for dating . I mean are you just doing it for the sake of it, or actually wanting to meet someone with a viewv to a relationship "
I'd love a relationship. For me personally, no better feeling in the world than getting a message from your gf or the smile on thier face when they are happy to see you and about 50 other things that make it great |
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By (user no longer on site)
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@_astello
"Ah it's so fabulous to hear you're excited and nervous about your date.
Good luck with it, you sound lovely already so I'm sure it will go great.
Ah... I'm hankering for a date date now.... Sad face emoji "
There is always someone  |
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Firstly congratulations.
Try not to be thinking about it to much in your head. Just go with the flow(so to speak), you'll do great.
Your getting good advice from other's on here.
I'd be thinking alone the same lines as meeting in a coffee shop, quite pub, have a drink, chat & go for a walk, somewhere like the Japanese wall garden.
The ice skating is a great idea for them reasons. I'd never have though about any of them thing's happen. Also I'd be afraid to go near ice skating, cause of the fear of ending up A&E in a heap 
Once again you'll do great, you've got this. |
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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago
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Keep it simple for the first meet up and see how you get on.
Every journey has to start with a single step so go with the flow and see how you get on.
If either of you not feeling it during the first meeting then there is no pressure as you are not doing anything too grand.
If its ment to be it will. If it's not it wont..
You just got to roll with it and see what happens.
Good luck and enjoy it. |
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By *apncookMan
over a year ago
Somewhere you aren't |
We all require the result description from the above advice....
No nosiness here!! 
"Ok, so I have a date with a girl off Bumble next week in Kildare.
I was with my ex for practically 6 years and this will technically be my 1st actual date date since we broke up.
You'd swear I was 14 again but I have absolutely zero clue anymore where to take someone on dates when starting out.
Where and what do people even do on 1st dates nowdays?"
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Hahahah I'll let ye know how it all goes.
And thanks for all the advice, I do think a a chill coffee meet and then go for a stroll so we could talk is probably the way to go alright for a 1st meet.
And if might seem off cause I'm on fab and everything and no offence to absolutely everyone on here, but genuinely for me personally, I'd love nothing more than to find a girl that I can have a proper connection with and can be 100% myself around them and they would love me for it...
Sorry for being all soppy lol |
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By *efeinMan
over a year ago
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"Ok, so I have a date with a girl off Bumble next week in Kildare.
I was with my ex for practically 6 years and this will technically be my 1st actual date date since we broke up.
You'd swear I was 14 again but have absolutely zero clue anymore where to take someone on dates when starting out.
Where and what do people even do on 1st dates nowdays?"
junction 14 monasterevan perfect .. |
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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago
South County Dublin |
There is a new section in Kildare Village, not all shops open. There is a van selling coffee, nice coffee by the way, with a few benches to sit on near by if it is not raining.
Best of luck on your date. |
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"Well finally had that date today..
Met her at Kildare village, walked around for a while and had dinner. Had a great time and she wants to meet again so at least I did something right haha"
Glad to hear it happened & went very well for you .
Before you know know it, you'll be leaving here,to constraint on ye're relationship.
Once again congratulations,new you could do it. |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"Well finally had that date today..
Met her at Kildare village, walked around for a while and had dinner. Had a great time and she wants to meet again so at least I did something right haha"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The advice is great, fair play OP it's not easy to be vulnerable. Give yourself every opportunity to get to know and allow her to get to know you. Stick to situation that you're comfortable with to start with, coffee and a stroll through a park, lake or around a castle, whatever floats your boat. Keep the chat light and get a feel for a second date that you can be a bit more adventurous on. Lockdown really did a number on some people's chances at dating. |
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"Well finally had that date today..
Met her at Kildare village, walked around for a while and had dinner. Had a great time and she wants to meet again so at least I did something right haha"
Congrats
Delighted for ya |
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"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...
It's like I'm a proper child hahah
Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.
Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero "
hahah
Well haven't heard from her since Sunday so I'm not hopefull anymore haha |
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"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...
It's like I'm a proper child hahah
Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird."
Your not to bad. Imagine still dating while in your 40's. Believe me it's not easy at all. |
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"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...
It's like I'm a proper child hahah
Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.
Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero
hahah
Well haven't heard from her since Sunday so I'm not hopefull anymore haha"
Give it/her more time. It's only Tuesday yet. |
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"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...
It's like I'm a proper child hahah
Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.
Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero
hahah
Well haven't heard from her since Sunday so I'm not hopefull anymore haha
Give it/her more time. It's only Tuesday yet. "
Before our date we messaged everyday  |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...
It's like I'm a proper child hahah
Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.
Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero
hahah
Well haven't heard from her since Sunday so I'm not hopefull anymore haha
Give it/her more time. It's only Tuesday yet.
Before our date we messaged everyday "
Don’t read into that too much, could be lots of reasons….. |
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And thank you for this thread as there is many who probably feels the same way 