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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples " No I have not attended any parties or socials | |||
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"Welcome to the Real world pal" The there is always this guy | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials " Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way | |||
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"Nope. Can't say I have experienced this. " Glad to hear it ?? | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way " Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party " A social isn't an orgy or a sex party. | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party " I did say socials .....not orgies or sex parties | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party A social isn't an orgy or a sex party. " WHAT? Ah FFS….  | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party A social isn't an orgy or a sex party. WHAT? Ah FFS…. "I've sent you pictures explaining this to ya | |||
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"Plenty of single guys do well on here, maybe look at your approach to here it's not dial a ride. Your 29 for some women that's too young. Get to a social its not the golden ticket to the ride but it can open some doors "Was curious to see if beeing a single lad is something that the community or the majority of fabs users are against or not too keen to encounter .but I think I got my questions answered | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party I did say socials .....not orgies or sex parties " Ok socials my bad , never been to one so don't know what is categorised as socials | |||
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"Plenty of single guys do well on here, maybe look at your approach to here it's not dial a ride. Your 29 for some women that's too young. Get to a social its not the golden ticket to the ride but it can open some doors
Was curious to see if beeing a single lad is something that the community or the majority of fabs users are against or not too keen to encounter .but I think I got my questions answered "Definitely not I only meet single guys and I know plenty other women and couples that do too. | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party I did say socials .....not orgies or sex parties Ok socials my bad , never been to one so don't know what is categorised as socials " Social usually a coffee with just one person Socials are usually a larger gathering of fabbers...in a pub,cafe or even a hotel just chatting and enjoying the company for what it is | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party A social isn't an orgy or a sex party. WHAT? Ah FFS….
I've sent you pictures explaining this to ya "It was too late then, I’d already arrived for coffee in my assless leather chaps….  | |||
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"My inbox is full to capacity, I can't keep up at all. I'll filter through them all and offload some of these very many interested women to you. Just to get you started, coz I'm sound..." Lucky you , you must be doing something right  | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party I did say socials .....not orgies or sex parties Ok socials my bad , never been to one so don't know what is categorised as socials Social usually a coffee with just one person Socials are usually a larger gathering of fabbers...in a pub,cafe or even a hotel just chatting and enjoying the company for what it is " Thanks for the explanation I will certainly attend one or two in that case and see where it leads . | |||
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"Ah I'm taking the mick, I use these forums to pass away working time and don't really take a lot of things seriously "As I should | |||
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"Plenty of single guys do well on here, maybe look at your approach to here it's not dial a ride. Your 29 for some women that's too young. Get to a social its not the golden ticket to the ride but it can open some doors
Was curious to see if beeing a single lad is something that the community or the majority of fabs users are against or not too keen to encounter .but I think I got my questions answered "I don't think this place is against single men, in fact they are necessary for many of the scenarios that many couples are looking for. It's just that there are so fucking many of them that it's hard for one to stand out. They also have a habit of shooting themselves in their own foot by behaving badly, having unrealistic expectations, and being unreliable. Having said that plenty of single men do well. Attend a social. Make some contacts. Do some coffee meets. Put in the groundwork. Be thick skinned and expect knock backs. | |||
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"If ye want to get in touch with fellas who feel that the place is against them and meets are impossible then go ahead but it’s the road to ruin" U must be trolling aswell coz , I simply asked how other single lads do here The place is called fabswingers to be a swinger you need a partner and I thought I'm pissing against the wind and even windy ppl up coz this isn't a place for single lads but some of the less troll guys explain this isn't the case so you can crawl back now | |||
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"Plenty of single guys do well on here, maybe look at your approach to here it's not dial a ride. Your 29 for some women that's too young. Get to a social its not the golden ticket to the ride but it can open some doors
Was curious to see if beeing a single lad is something that the community or the majority of fabs users are against or not too keen to encounter .but I think I got my questions answered
I don't think this place is against single men, in fact they are necessary for many of the scenarios that many couples are looking for. It's just that there are so fucking many of them that it's hard for one to stand out. They also have a habit of shooting themselves in their own foot by behaving badly, having unrealistic expectations, and being unreliable. Having said that plenty of single men do well. Attend a social. Make some contacts. Do some coffee meets. Put in the groundwork. Be thick skinned and expect knock backs."That is a great explanation, thank you . | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party A social isn't an orgy or a sex party. WHAT? Ah FFS….
I've sent you pictures explaining this to ya
It was too late then, I’d already arrived for coffee in my assless leather chaps…. "All the staff on costa collapsed that day | |||
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"Plenty of single guys do well on here, maybe look at your approach to here it's not dial a ride. Your 29 for some women that's too young. Get to a social its not the golden ticket to the ride but it can open some doors
Was curious to see if beeing a single lad is something that the community or the majority of fabs users are against or not too keen to encounter .but I think I got my questions answered
I don't think this place is against single men, in fact they are necessary for many of the scenarios that many couples are looking for. It's just that there are so fucking many of them that it's hard for one to stand out. They also have a habit of shooting themselves in their own foot by behaving badly, having unrealistic expectations, and being unreliable. Having said that plenty of single men do well. Attend a social. Make some contacts. Do some coffee meets. Put in the groundwork. Be thick skinned and expect knock backs."I never actually thought is against single man just an abundance of us and it's seems like there is a trend to start the convo with a dick pick which I assume would set a lot of ladies off | |||
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"If ye want to get in touch with fellas who feel that the place is against them and meets are impossible then go ahead but it’s the road to ruin U must be trolling aswell coz , I simply asked how other single lads do here The place is called fabswingers to be a swinger you need a partner and I thought I'm pissing against the wind and even windy ppl up coz this isn't a place for single lads but some of the less troll guys explain this isn't the case so you can crawl back now " Why do you think you need a partner for swinging? Im on off here 5 years give or take, never had a partner | |||
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"For me its all about the opening message, a face picture always helps but if your not comfortable with that then you need something to stand out, females get so many repetitive messages. No long essays either but just something short and funny. Just usually what turns my head! "Makes sense , I mean is not rocket science to do so .thx | |||
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"If ye want to get in touch with fellas who feel that the place is against them and meets are impossible then go ahead but it’s the road to ruin U must be trolling aswell coz , I simply asked how other single lads do here The place is called fabswingers to be a swinger you need a partner and I thought I'm pissing against the wind and even windy ppl up coz this isn't a place for single lads but some of the less troll guys explain this isn't the case so you can crawl back now Why do you think you need a partner for swinging? Im on off here 5 years give or take, never had a partner " I must have tried the wrong approach so that's why . | |||
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"If ye want to get in touch with fellas who feel that the place is against them and meets are impossible then go ahead but it’s the road to ruin U must be trolling aswell coz , I simply asked how other single lads do here The place is called fabswingers to be a swinger you need a partner and I thought I'm pissing against the wind and even windy ppl up coz this isn't a place for single lads but some of the less troll guys explain this isn't the case so you can crawl back now " I’m not trolling at all. You did ask if anyone felt the same and I’m saying it’s prob not best listening to those fellas. There’s posts all the time about how the place is rigged against single fellas and those fellas will not succeed here. So ye can either chat away to single fellas not doing well or spend that time putting more effort into chatting to females and couples, ones clearly going to lead to more success than the other | |||
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"If ye want to get in touch with fellas who feel that the place is against them and meets are impossible then go ahead but it’s the road to ruin U must be trolling aswell coz , I simply asked how other single lads do here The place is called fabswingers to be a swinger you need a partner and I thought I'm pissing against the wind and even windy ppl up coz this isn't a place for single lads but some of the less troll guys explain this isn't the case so you can crawl back now I’m not trolling at all. You did ask if anyone felt the same and I’m saying it’s prob not best listening to those fellas. There’s posts all the time about how the place is rigged against single fellas and those fellas will not succeed here. So ye can either chat away to single fellas not doing well or spend that time putting more effort into chatting to females and couples, ones clearly going to lead to more success than the other" I see what you mean , sorry my bad . No my plan wasn't to listen to complains nor do I wanna complain .I think I displayed my concern clearly now and most people have give a fair and helpful answer . | |||
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"I think socials are a great way of making contact with like minded people. Its easy to get lost in a sea of messages or let your true self come across in the written word. " Couldn't said it better , I agree . Unless I strip and show abs and cock etc .but that's just not me so I'm gonna have to see some socials and see how that goes | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party I did say socials .....not orgies or sex parties " Ah ffs just go into restaurants and talk to strangers | |||
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"A social isn't an orgy or a sex party. WHAT? Ah FFS….
I've sent you pictures explaining this to ya
It was too late then, I’d already arrived for coffee in my assless leather chaps….
All the staff on costa collapsed that day "The whole building nearly collapsed…. 
You definitely don’t need a partner to be a swinger I’m pretty sure Tarzan had a singles profile before he met Jane and he was king of the swingers….. | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party I did say socials .....not orgies or sex parties Ah ffs just go into restaurants and talk to strangers "You can talk to me anytime OP  | |||
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"I actually think you've come across quite well in this thread. Fingers crossed someone interested will notice. I was part of a couple years ago, and went onto a single male profile for a year or two, before becoming a different couple. I agree, the experience that single guys have here is totally different to that of a couple or a single girl. " Thanks bottom line is , need to try socials and find a better way to approach whoever profile I like .now the 2nd one I won't give much time as I understood inboxes can be quite full and set ppl off . | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party I did say socials .....not orgies or sex parties Ah ffs just go into restaurants and talk to strangers
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party " Lol a social is a SOCIAL just drinking and dancing and flirting | |||
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"Are you only depending on sending messages or have you attended parties or socials to make connections with women and couples No I have not attended any parties or socials Well if the messages aren't working would you go to a social to make contacts and start that way Tbh orgies and sex parties don't think are my thing , I mostly like one on one where the female gets all my attention .but I might give it a try to see how it is ina swing party Lol a social is a SOCIAL just drinking and dancing and flirting "Well now I know | |||
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"As other posters have mentioned try and get to some group socials. They are a great way to meet new people in a safe friendly environment with no expectations. Also maybe try and join a k#k group as you can chat away to people and make connections. Chat on the forums and showcase who you are by being friendly to others. It will happen but you must have patience. " Thought kick is for scammers , I'll give it a try .good advice thx x | |||
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"As other posters have mentioned try and get to some group socials. They are a great way to meet new people in a safe friendly environment with no expectations. Also maybe try and join a k#k group as you can chat away to people and make connections. Chat on the forums and showcase who you are by being friendly to others. It will happen but you must have patience. Thought kick is for scammers , I'll give it a try .good advice thx x" Best of luck | |||
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"Ahh dunno , most messages sent by guys aren’t even read " Winge man needed in Dublin ? I did a pretty good job up here irl , might wanna come out for a night out in the oll beal feirste  | |||
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"Ahh dunno , most messages sent by guys aren’t even read " So don't send messages | |||
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"As other posters have mentioned try and get to some group socials. They are a great way to meet new people in a safe friendly environment with no expectations. Also maybe try and join a k#k group as you can chat away to people and make connections. Chat on the forums and showcase who you are by being friendly to others. It will happen but you must have patience. Thought kick is for scammers , I'll give it a try .good advice thx x" K*k is safe , no phone numbers, it is of course as everywhere else totally dependant on who you are chatting to there ,a genuine person or a total Timewaster could have given you their k*k. | |||
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"Ahh dunno , most messages sent by guys aren’t even read So don't send messages " Yea I'm done with messages in the inbox | |||
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"As other posters have mentioned try and get to some group socials. They are a great way to meet new people in a safe friendly environment with no expectations. Also maybe try and join a k#k group as you can chat away to people and make connections. Chat on the forums and showcase who you are by being friendly to others. It will happen but you must have patience. Thought kick is for scammers , I'll give it a try .good advice thx x K*k is safe , no phone numbers, it is of course as everywhere else totally dependant on who you are chatting to there ,a genuine person or a total Timewaster could have given you their k*k." Yes I agree it's probably as toxic as any other app would be when it comes to scammers .ok Kik is installed,wheels are in motion | |||
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"Joking aside... I'm only giving my own story of being on here. I'm here about 5 years across 2 profiles. I've met only half a dozen women on here in those 5 years. I don't attend group socials or organised events. Any in-person meet-ups I've had have all been a result of engaging on forums over time. Which then resulted in messages being exchanged over time. Which in turn ended up in a social meetup, whether they were well organised in advance or at short notice with the person being nearby for whatever reason. I've had my fair share of no-shows too but that's another story. Some meetups ended with a friendly goodbye and no more contact, some ended in more friendly contact but no fun, some ended in repeat meets and fun (hell of a lot of fun...)... some may in time end up in repeat meets and fun, who knows. But it took me a lot of time and patience. Engage in the forums, attend the social sides if you like. Once you're a genuine bit of craic, don't have the proverbial instant "dial-a-ride" attitude, all the rest should come naturally really." Biscuits = Yoda. Well said. You gotta pick a lane  | |||
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"We'd be happy to meet you for a drink OP "Bingo! Lucky fella | |||
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"We'd be happy to meet you for a drink OP "Now there’s an offer you can’t refuse op Lucky man | |||
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"We'd be happy to meet you for a drink OP "Did he accept ? | |||
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"Beein here for about a year and when I was as a couple profile the inbox was booming from both ends but now as single profile seems like all I attracted are lads .now I understand this might be a look-esthetic issue but anyone else experiencing same ? " Your pictures are fine and your in shape so aesthetically you should be grand. Maybe just get involved in the forum a bit more. Also, try to get to a meet and greet which will help. Being honest, it can be a slow boil for everyone on here | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. " 100% this | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. " Just the same what I thought when I read it before | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. " Yeah, this is what some people fail to get. It's primarily for couples and what they want, whether we like it or not we are extras | |||
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"The best place for this kind of thread is left in your head. There is one weekly and the same advice gets trotted out. I would have started on here early to mid 30's and that's probably the ideal age but there's lads of all ages getting some on here." Yup..you hit the nail on the head ..one weekly...same meat .. different gravy is all...what l mean by that is it's the same thread but by different people. | |||
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"Joking aside... I'm only giving my own story of being on here. I'm here about 5 years across 2 profiles. I've met only half a dozen women on here in those 5 years. I don't attend group socials or organised events. Any in-person meet-ups I've had have all been a result of engaging on forums over time. Which then resulted in messages being exchanged over time. Which in turn ended up in a social meetup, whether they were well organised in advance or at short notice with the person being nearby for whatever reason. I've had my fair share of no-shows too but that's another story. Some meetups ended with a friendly goodbye and no more contact, some ended in more friendly contact but no fun, some ended in repeat meets and fun (hell of a lot of fun...)... some may in time end up in repeat meets and fun, who knows. But it took me a lot of time and patience. Engage in the forums, attend the social sides if you like. Once you're a genuine bit of craic, don't have the proverbial instant "dial-a-ride" attitude, all the rest should come naturally really. Biscuits = Yoda. Well said. You gotta pick a lane "Thanks for the sums up and keep the craic goin | |||
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"If any single guy came to me and asked for advice and said their preference is one to one meets I'd absolutely steer them away from fab. There's much better places to find nsa sex with one person without having to be treated like you are Larry Murphy. That's not too say fab is a terrible place, it's a swinger site. Couples and people interested in the "scene" will have much more success here. The advice on socials is a good one, but don't get disheartened or feel you're the inky single guy who finds it difficult. Everyone one does. The ones who don't, have either spammed the fuck out of the forums or put in significant spade work into attending socials etc. Getting into someones knickers on fab is a marathon, not a sprint. " I agree, I thought fabs is a place for couples more then for singles .but it all got clarified along these lines | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. " Yes and a lot of hatred caught into it | |||
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"I completely agree with you, I’m new as a single but was here before as a couple and the difference is stark between the 2 ! But I completely understand why a single guy with no verifications is greeted with scepticism… it’s a pity, but it’s justified considering the amount of creeps and fake single male profiles out there ! I am not comfortable doing parties and big group meets because of my career, but that might change… and in the meantime I realise that meeting anyone even for coffee will be a challenge cos of the risk for any couple or woman ! Keep on truckin, genuine lads like us will be fine in the long run "I agree , and also thouth I am verified .anyways , as you can see from these comments there is definitely a hatred from women for single lads but it's grand .will craic on | |||
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"I completely agree with you, I’m new as a single but was here before as a couple and the difference is stark between the 2 ! But I completely understand why a single guy with no verifications is greeted with scepticism… it’s a pity, but it’s justified considering the amount of creeps and fake single male profiles out there ! I am not comfortable doing parties and big group meets because of my career, but that might change… and in the meantime I realise that meeting anyone even for coffee will be a challenge cos of the risk for any couple or woman ! Keep on truckin, genuine lads like us will be fine in the long run
I agree , and also thouth I am verified .anyways , as you can see from these comments there is definitely a hatred from women for single lads but it's grand .will craic on "I'm not sure where you're seeing hatred from women for single lads in the comments  I see sound advice, well wishes and even a couple of offers. | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. " I use fab as a hook up site primarily, should I not be here? Or is it only single lads that shouldn’t be using it as a hook up site? While some couples try to be gatekeepers of swinging, everyone has a right to use the site however works for them. There are plenty of men and women here who have no interest in getting involved with couples. Also OP, there isn’t a hatred of single males…plenty of us only meet single males. | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. " All the definitions I looked up include singles. It started out as a couple thing but has since evolved into a more open and inclusive activity. Anyhow peeps will use the site the way they want and not per definition. Although I agree some have the misconception that it's sex on tap here. | |||
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"Lots of guys not willing to put any effort to meet even for a social. They think it's waste of time...or even have a conversation.
It's all about shagging in their little heads
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"I completely agree with you, I’m new as a single but was here before as a couple and the difference is stark between the 2 ! But I completely understand why a single guy with no verifications is greeted with scepticism… it’s a pity, but it’s justified considering the amount of creeps and fake single male profiles out there ! I am not comfortable doing parties and big group meets because of my career, but that might change… and in the meantime I realise that meeting anyone even for coffee will be a challenge cos of the risk for any couple or woman ! Keep on truckin, genuine lads like us will be fine in the long run
I agree , and also thouth I am verified .anyways , as you can see from these comments there is definitely a hatred from women for single lads but it's grand .will craic on
I'm not sure where you're seeing hatred from women for single lads in the comments I see sound advice, well wishes and even a couple of offers. "It's not hard to spot it ,look again if you may but this time be totally biased | |||
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"Lots of guys not willing to put any effort to meet even for a social. They think it's waste of time...or even have a conversation.
It's all about shagging in their little heads
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"I completely agree with you, I’m new as a single but was here before as a couple and the difference is stark between the 2 ! But I completely understand why a single guy with no verifications is greeted with scepticism… it’s a pity, but it’s justified considering the amount of creeps and fake single male profiles out there ! I am not comfortable doing parties and big group meets because of my career, but that might change… and in the meantime I realise that meeting anyone even for coffee will be a challenge cos of the risk for any couple or woman ! Keep on truckin, genuine lads like us will be fine in the long run
I agree , and also thouth I am verified .anyways , as you can see from these comments there is definitely a hatred from women for single lads but it's grand .will craic on
I'm not sure where you're seeing hatred from women for single lads in the comments I see sound advice, well wishes and even a couple of offers.
It's not hard to spot it ,look again if you may but this time be totally biased"Perhaps you should take a look again and be totally unbiased….. | |||
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"For some reason people think I'm complaining but I simply wanted to see others opinion ." Granted it can be difficult at times for us single men but that's life. Just as it is for others using the site. Patience and building a relationship with others takes time and trust Or just keep the head down and plough on | |||
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"Plenty of single guys do well on here, maybe look at your approach to here it's not dial a ride. Your 29 for some women that's too young. Get to a social its not the golden ticket to the ride but it can open some doors
Was curious to see if beeing a single lad is something that the community or the majority of fabs users are against or not too keen to encounter .but I think I got my questions answered
I don't think this place is against single men, in fact they are necessary for many of the scenarios that many couples are looking for. It's just that there are so fucking many of them that it's hard for one to stand out. They also have a habit of shooting themselves in their own foot by behaving badly, having unrealistic expectations, and being unreliable. Having said that plenty of single men do well. Attend a social. Make some contacts. Do some coffee meets. Put in the groundwork. Be thick skinned and expect knock backs."This is the most correct response to this just wish I was This diplomatic (dickhead) been there a long time and most of it as a single. The long and short of it is some guy's get it others never will and very few get it truly. People are not going to flock to you | |||
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A good personality
GSOH
A Positive attitude
A willingness to make an effort
Lots and lots and lots of patience
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don't rely on private messaging, in fact don't even bother
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"Wow wheres the hatred towards single men? You asked for an opinion and you got pretty good advice. I have no interest in orgies or oarties and I'm here nearly 5 years. People.can use fab whatever way they want. Take the advice or don't take it but I definitely have seen single guys attend socials and it has made their journey a lot more enjoyable on here. As for single women been sceptical/fussy/cautious/having stabdards/won't meet verified there's a REASON because unfortunately a % of guys are just here to be pricks, simple as ( and this is my opinion) " Yes I agree , but just as somenguys are here to be pricks,some gallies can do the same or even gay guys | |||
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"Plenty of single guys do well on here, maybe look at your approach to here it's not dial a ride. Your 29 for some women that's too young. Get to a social its not the golden ticket to the ride but it can open some doors
Was curious to see if beeing a single lad is something that the community or the majority of fabs users are against or not too keen to encounter .but I think I got my questions answered
I don't think this place is against single men, in fact they are necessary for many of the scenarios that many couples are looking for. It's just that there are so fucking many of them that it's hard for one to stand out. They also have a habit of shooting themselves in their own foot by behaving badly, having unrealistic expectations, and being unreliable. Having said that plenty of single men do well. Attend a social. Make some contacts. Do some coffee meets. Put in the groundwork. Be thick skinned and expect knock backs.
This is the most correct response to this just wish I was This diplomatic (dickhead) been there a long time and most of it as a single. The long and short of it is some guy's get it others never will and very few get it truly.
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"Wow wheres the hatred towards single men? You asked for an opinion and you got pretty good advice. I have no interest in orgies or oarties and I'm here nearly 5 years. People.can use fab whatever way they want. Take the advice or don't take it but I definitely have seen single guys attend socials and it has made their journey a lot more enjoyable on here. As for single women been sceptical/fussy/cautious/having stabdards/won't meet verified there's a REASON because unfortunately a % of guys are just here to be pricks, simple as ( and this is my opinion) Yes I agree , but just as somenguys are here to be pricks,some gallies can do the same or even gay guys " Yes anyone is capable of pricky I was giving my opinion. | |||
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" Attend socials. The smaller ones are best at the beginning
don't rely on private messaging, in fact don't even bother
chat on the Irish forum, but only if you enjoy it as it's a VERY slow burner."Acknowledge, I'm done with mailing and inboxes and I'm gonna keep an eye on the forms and maybe attend a social why not | |||
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"I completely agree with you, I’m new as a single but was here before as a couple and the difference is stark between the 2 ! But I completely understand why a single guy with no verifications is greeted with scepticism… it’s a pity, but it’s justified considering the amount of creeps and fake single male profiles out there ! I am not comfortable doing parties and big group meets because of my career, but that might change… and in the meantime I realise that meeting anyone even for coffee will be a challenge cos of the risk for any couple or woman ! Keep on truckin, genuine lads like us will be fine in the long run "Great song that .." In the long Run " | |||
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"The magic formula is this: A decent profile with good bio and pics
A good personality
GSOH
A Positive attitude
A willingness to make an effort
Lots and lots and lots of patience
If you're looking for hookups, this is probably not the best site.
Good luck "Now everyone knows the secret
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"The magic formula is this: A decent profile with good bio and pics
A good personality
GSOH
A Positive attitude
A willingness to make an effort
Lots and lots and lots of patience
If you're looking for hookups, this is probably not the best site.
Good luck
Attend socials. The smaller ones are best at the beginning
don't rely on private messaging, in fact don't even bother
chat on the Irish forum, but only if you enjoy it as it's a VERY slow burner."These should be pinned to the top of the forum… | |||
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"The magic formula is this: A decent profile with good bio and pics
A good personality
GSOH
A Positive attitude
A willingness to make an effort
Lots and lots and lots of patience
If you're looking for hookups, this is probably not the best site.
Good luck
Attend socials. The smaller ones are best at the beginning
don't rely on private messaging, in fact don't even bother
chat on the Irish forum, but only if you enjoy it as it's a VERY slow burner.
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Did he accept ? "Didn't even acknowledge the offer. Looks like we're not his type  | |||
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Didn't even acknowledge the offer.
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"We'd be happy to meet you for a drink OP
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Didn't even acknowledge the offer.
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Didn't even acknowledge the offer.
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"We'd be happy to meet you for a drink OP
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Didn't even acknowledge the offer.
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"A social meet with a well verified couple is a golden opportunity for a single guy looking to get involved in the scene. Just the fact that someone is taking this seriously enough to turn up and do things "in real life" can do wonders in the eyes of others who are looking at a profile and making meet decisions. Doors also open to larger events and parties etc. Just something to think about. " I understand,thank you ,I will take in consideration everything was said here .some with a bit of salt for sure | |||
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"Why should he have to have coffee with someone he’s not interested in though? He’s said he has no interest in parties etc so them being organisers of socials and parties are really of no consequence. " He did say he would probably attend one or two once he understood they weren't sex parties or orgies | |||
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"Why should he have to have coffee with someone he’s not interested in though? He’s said he has no interest in parties etc so them being organisers of socials and parties are really of no consequence. " I'm with you on this one , but still gonna be nice , as most ppl here are nice and I'd like to treat them with the same coin | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given." Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty | |||
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"Why should he have to have coffee with someone he’s not interested in though? He’s said he has no interest in parties etc so them being organisers of socials and parties are really of no consequence. Yes but I still think it's not withing my books but I will try it before I knock it He did say he would probably attend one or two once he understood they weren't sex parties or orgies " | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty " But you didn't even acknowledge their offer until it was brought up by somebody else. People you may actually be interested in are reading these comments and making their own judgements. Please be mindful if that if you want to be successful on here. | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty " I suppose what some here are trying to tell you, is that within the swinging community, like in many other communities, it's about who you know. A verification from the profile you turned down may have opened many doors and it was just an offer of a cuppa, nothing more, nothing less. Now if you're only interested in one-to-ones, it may not matter but you could still have had a verification from a well known, well respected and well verified profile - that, for some, is worth a lot - particularly the ladies who look for verification trails so to know they are safe and to know you will turn up. Best of luck on your journey here | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty I suppose what some here are trying to tell you, is that within the swinging community, like in many other communities, it's about who you know. A verification from the profile you turned down may have opened many doors and it was just an offer of a cuppa, nothing more, nothing less. Now if you're only interested in one-to-ones, it may not matter but you could still have had a verification from a well known, well respected and well verified profile - that, for some, is worth a lot - particularly the ladies who look for verification trails so to know they are safe and to know you will turn up. Best of luck on your journey here "This 100% | |||
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"TBH finding single women to join us is our major issue. I don't look too bad myself, I'm no Tom Cruise but I'm pretty happy for 45 where I'm at. For us it's all been single men. They never seem to have a problem. It's the single ladies that are our issue. We are frigging sound out too. "I hope the comments on this form will help you a bit with that or at least give you a better understanding | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty But you didn't even acknowledge their offer until it was brought up by somebody else. People you may actually be interested in are reading these comments and making their own judgements. Please be mindful if that if you want to be successful on here." Not answering is also an answer , didn't wanna say no as it's not nice so I thought they understood that it's a subliminal no .that's why when I was asked again I said no so they don't waste their time | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty But you didn't even acknowledge their offer until it was brought up by somebody else. People you may actually be interested in are reading these comments and making their own judgements. Please be mindful if that if you want to be successful on here. Not answering is also an answer , didn't wanna say no as it's not nice so I thought they understood that it's a subliminal no .that's why when I was asked again I said no so they don't waste their time " He makes a fair point there…we’re always preaching that no reply is a reply when it comes to messages. Or does that only apply to women? | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty I suppose what some here are trying to tell you, is that within the swinging community, like in many other communities, it's about who you know. A verification from the profile you turned down may have opened many doors and it was just an offer of a cuppa, nothing more, nothing less. Now if you're only interested in one-to-ones, it may not matter but you could still have had a verification from a well known, well respected and well verified profile - that, for some, is worth a lot - particularly the ladies who look for verification trails so to know they are safe and to know you will turn up. Best of luck on your journey here "Thank you , likewise .I'm not entirely happy with the hole process on fabs .I don't wanna get verified by anyone , I already got verified a year and half ago .in a hotel in Belfast a couple approached me at the bar and told me all about fabs and explained it to me to the best of their abilities .that ended up in steam in a hotel room where we verified eachother .with that beein said one verification is enough ,I'm not here to gather verifications or hear people's feedback as most of the time the feedback is not realistic and most ppl write nice stuff coz they got their hole | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty But you didn't even acknowledge their offer until it was brought up by somebody else. People you may actually be interested in are reading these comments and making their own judgements. Please be mindful if that if you want to be successful on here. Not answering is also an answer , didn't wanna say no as it's not nice so I thought they understood that it's a subliminal no .that's why when I was asked again I said no so they don't waste their time He makes a fair point there…we’re always preaching that no reply is a reply when it comes to messages. Or does that only apply to women?" | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty I suppose what some here are trying to tell you, is that within the swinging community, like in many other communities, it's about who you know. A verification from the profile you turned down may have opened many doors and it was just an offer of a cuppa, nothing more, nothing less. Now if you're only interested in one-to-ones, it may not matter but you could still have had a verification from a well known, well respected and well verified profile - that, for some, is worth a lot - particularly the ladies who look for verification trails so to know they are safe and to know you will turn up. Best of luck on your journey here
Thank you , likewise .I'm not entirely happy with the hole process on fabs .I don't wanna get verified by anyone , I already got verified a year and half ago .in a hotel in Belfast a couple approached me at the bar and told me all about fabs and explained it to me to the best of their abilities .that ended up in steam in a hotel room where we verified eachother .with that beein said one verification is enough ,I'm not here to gather verifications or hear people's feedback as most of the time the feedback is not realistic and most ppl write nice stuff coz they got their hole "Wow none of my veris got their hole from me lol | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty I suppose what some here are trying to tell you, is that within the swinging community, like in many other communities, it's about who you know. A verification from the profile you turned down may have opened many doors and it was just an offer of a cuppa, nothing more, nothing less. Now if you're only interested in one-to-ones, it may not matter but you could still have had a verification from a well known, well respected and well verified profile - that, for some, is worth a lot - particularly the ladies who look for verification trails so to know they are safe and to know you will turn up. Best of luck on your journey here
Thank you , likewise .I'm not entirely happy with the hole process on fabs .I don't wanna get verified by anyone , I already got verified a year and half ago .in a hotel in Belfast a couple approached me at the bar and told me all about fabs and explained it to me to the best of their abilities .that ended up in steam in a hotel room where we verified eachother .with that beein said one verification is enough ,I'm not here to gather verifications or hear people's feedback as most of the time the feedback is not realistic and most ppl write nice stuff coz they got their hole "Fab is a minefield. I'm sure you'll navigate it just fine and as you see fit. Remember, there's no pleasing everybody. | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty But you didn't even acknowledge their offer until it was brought up by somebody else. People you may actually be interested in are reading these comments and making their own judgements. Please be mindful if that if you want to be successful on here. Not answering is also an answer , didn't wanna say no as it's not nice so I thought they understood that it's a subliminal no .that's why when I was asked again I said no so they don't waste their time He makes a fair point there…we’re always preaching that no reply is a reply when it comes to messages. Or does that only apply to women?" No it doesn't only apply to women but as a single guy, perception is everything and on a public forum it is wise to acknowledge kind offers such as this imo. | |||
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" Wow none of my veris got their hole from me lol You don't need to keep reminding me
Bring the biscuits next time you might "I'll bring my hobnob, you bring your pink wafers and we might end up with custard cream Sorry, jaysus that sounded awful | |||
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"Don't mean to be salty at all, but its hard to claim "Single lads seems to have no chance" and then not take a chance given. Didn't meant to sound desperate or anything of the nature , I just wanted to see what opinions I get if I get any .the question was simple , I didn't get into details nor I said who wants to meet me oh please meet me .they offered to meet and I said no .simple as ,I'm not beeing salty I suppose what some here are trying to tell you, is that within the swinging community, like in many other communities, it's about who you know. A verification from the profile you turned down may have opened many doors and it was just an offer of a cuppa, nothing more, nothing less. Now if you're only interested in one-to-ones, it may not matter but you could still have had a verification from a well known, well respected and well verified profile - that, for some, is worth a lot - particularly the ladies who look for verification trails so to know they are safe and to know you will turn up. Best of luck on your journey here
Thank you , likewise .I'm not entirely happy with the hole process on fabs .I don't wanna get verified by anyone , I already got verified a year and half ago .in a hotel in Belfast a couple approached me at the bar and told me all about fabs and explained it to me to the best of their abilities .that ended up in steam in a hotel room where we verified eachother .with that beein said one verification is enough ,I'm not here to gather verifications or hear people's feedback as most of the time the feedback is not realistic and most ppl write nice stuff coz they got their hole
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"Op can I ask how you normally socialize Within fabs or outside of it ? Ok so someone that organizes some of the biggest socials in your own city offer you the chance to meet up for a drink and chat and you decline Sitting here scratching my head they didn’t put a time line on it either so I was just wondering why 1.im not looking couples . 2.im not looking to get my knob polished by any means necessary 3.their too cool and popular for me " Good lad showing your true colours, should have just left it at your last comment. | |||
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"Wow this got out of control quickly. We offered a drink as OP seemed confused about why he's not successful. We meet people we're not sexually interested in to help them out their fab journey all the time and don't see it as a big deal. The way we see it - there's someone for everyone and we feel very privileged knowing so many amazing fabbers, so it's good to share that privilege with those who genuinely need help. And no, sexual favours are not what we offer anyone. Those things are kept behind closed doors without us shouting from the rooftops who, when and how we have fucked. OP doesn't owe us anything nor do we owe him anything. He asked for advice. We offered him to meet in person just for that (writing any advice in forums is usually lost on people who ask for it). OP refused. No water off our backs - we are plenty busy as is. After some of his replies to other people offering genuine advice - we gracefully take our offer back. Have a good day "I apreciate it ,my understanding of fabs is much better now | |||
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"Wow this got out of control quickly. We offered a drink as OP seemed confused about why he's not successful. We meet people we're not sexually interested in to help them out their fab journey all the time and don't see it as a big deal. The way we see it - there's someone for everyone and we feel very privileged knowing so many amazing fabbers, so it's good to share that privilege with those who genuinely need help. And no, sexual favours are not what we offer anyone. Those things are kept behind closed doors without us shouting from the rooftops who, when and how we have fucked. OP doesn't owe us anything nor do we owe him anything. He asked for advice. We offered him to meet in person just for that (writing any advice in forums is usually lost on people who ask for it). OP refused. No water off our backs - we are plenty busy as is. After some of his replies to other people offering genuine advice - we gracefully take our offer back. Have a good day
I apreciate it ,my understanding of fabs is much better now "Our understanding of your attitude is better now also. P.S. neither of us remotely wanted to even see your knob, nevermind "polish" it. Good luck  | |||
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"If any single guy came to me and asked for advice and said their preference is one to one meets I'd absolutely steer them away from fab. There's much better places to find nsa sex with one person without having to be treated like you are Larry Murphy. That's not too say fab is a terrible place, it's a swinger site. Couples and people interested in the "scene" will have much more success here. The advice on socials is a good one, but don't get disheartened or feel you're the inky single guy who finds it difficult. Everyone one does. The ones who don't, have either spammed the fuck out of the forums or put in significant spade work into attending socials etc. Getting into someones knickers on fab is a marathon, not a sprint. " Well said ... Whats this about places ?????  | |||
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"Wow this got out of control quickly. We offered a drink as OP seemed confused about why he's not successful. We meet people we're not sexually interested in to help them out their fab journey all the time and don't see it as a big deal. The way we see it - there's someone for everyone and we feel very privileged knowing so many amazing fabbers, so it's good to share that privilege with those who genuinely need help. And no, sexual favours are not what we offer anyone. Those things are kept behind closed doors without us shouting from the rooftops who, when and how we have fucked. OP doesn't owe us anything nor do we owe him anything. He asked for advice. We offered him to meet in person just for that (writing any advice in forums is usually lost on people who ask for it). OP refused. No water off our backs - we are plenty busy as is. After some of his replies to other people offering genuine advice - we gracefully take our offer back. Have a good day
I apreciate it ,my understanding of fabs is much better now
Our understanding of your attitude is better now also.
P.S. neither of us remotely wanted to even see your knob, nevermind "polish" it.
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. " Well if you build , we will cum | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. I use fab as a hook up site primarily, should I not be here? Or is it only single lads that shouldn’t be using it as a hook up site? While some couples try to be gatekeepers of swinging, everyone has a right to use the site however works for them. There are plenty of men and women here who have no interest in getting involved with couples. Also OP, there isn’t a hatred of single males…plenty of us only meet single males. " Best response thus far | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. Well if you build , we will cum "How’s the dog doing | |||
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"We'd be happy to meet you for a drink OP
Did he accept ?
Didn't even acknowledge the offer.
Looks like we're not his type
Sorry guys not my cuppa , thanks for the invite tho "You were hoping to get a verification... large socials not your thing, you feel single woman on here are haters , your offered a coffee meet to get your verification without attending a larger event .... and your still not happy... | |||
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"We'd be happy to meet you for a drink OP
Did he accept ?
Didn't even acknowledge the offer.
Looks like we're not his type
Sorry guys not my cuppa , thanks for the invite tho
You were hoping to get a verification... large socials not your thing, you feel single woman on here are haters , your offered a coffee meet to get your verification without attending a larger event .... and your still not happy... "Mind boggling ain’t it? Although I’m not sure the “oh woe is me” approach will change anything. Plenty of single guys on Fab manage to have great success without using witchcraft | |||
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"Wow this got out of control quickly. We offered a drink as OP seemed confused about why he's not successful. We meet people we're not sexually interested in to help them out their fab journey all the time and don't see it as a big deal. The way we see it - there's someone for everyone and we feel very privileged knowing so many amazing fabbers, so it's good to share that privilege with those who genuinely need help. And no, sexual favours are not what we offer anyone. Those things are kept behind closed doors without us shouting from the rooftops who, when and how we have fucked. OP doesn't owe us anything nor do we owe him anything. He asked for advice. We offered him to meet in person just for that (writing any advice in forums is usually lost on people who ask for it). OP refused. No water off our backs - we are plenty busy as is. After some of his replies to other people offering genuine advice - we gracefully take our offer back. Have a good day "Ahha | |||
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"Just looked up swinger in the dictionary. It say a couple who swap sexual partners . The site is called Fab Swingers . Not Fab Hook Up for single guys . Yes there is a place for single guys and girls but I think a lot of single guys join here thinking its gate way to sexy on demand. Well if you build , we will cum
How’s the dog doing "Fuckin Lazarus
He's going well. I had vet organized To put him down at home the next morning. Well if he didn't get-up-and-get his breakfast and go for a walk in the back garden big bright eyes. Dressing rooms every 12 hours on a Pan of fortune to keep him in shape, Good luck he didn't ask for live with me so at the least I can do for him. Thank you very much for asking though. | |||
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