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How many men crossdressin private with or without their partner?
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I’d imagine that 99% of guys who crossdress do it in secret and nobody from their “real life” knows.
I almost treat it like I’ve 2 different personalities, I have my real life everyday boring personality and then I have Alesha who appears a couple of times a year who is a lot less boring. |
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I don't do it often but I like to wear tights now and again when I'm feeling horny. Then when I cum the guilt and shame can be overwhelming lol.
The missus wouldn't be into it as she likes men to be men.
I did have a few fwbs that used to let me wear them whilst we were having sex. Must say I loved it! |
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By *ani57Man
over a year ago
Naas |
Oh, I'm not on my own, I tried to come out only to be told I'm not Bruce Jenner cop on to myself and I was demanded to promise I'd never do it nor was I ever to bring it up again and it's horrible because Danielle still wants to come out |
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By *inag101 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
Galway |
"Oh, I'm not on my own, I tried to come out only to be told I'm not Bruce Jenner cop on to myself and I was demanded to promise I'd never do it nor was I ever to bring it up again and it's horrible because Danielle still wants to come out "
That's so sad and disheartening   |
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By *oe15Man
over a year ago
Belfast |
Only in the past year or even less have I got into it - firstly wanking with wife's knickers, then into wearing them, alongside stockings and suspenders. Stockings and suspenders turn me on so so much.
I ended up buying a pair of stockings and some panties but threw them out as I was so nervous
My wife would never understand and be pretty horrified so have to be very careful, but I can't help what I'm into! Seeing lots of other fellas on here into similar has helped.
One of my favourite things is the roulette of what panties I'll find in the washing basket! |
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By *ani57Man
over a year ago
Naas |
"Oh, I'm not on my own, I tried to come out only to be told I'm not Bruce Jenner cop on to myself and I was demanded to promise I'd never do it nor was I ever to bring it up again and it's horrible because Danielle still wants to come out
That's so sad and disheartening "
Yea fairly sucks alright took every bit of courage I had to have the conversation, it's not easy to think up excuses to go off and dress up either |
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Society is a strange thing.
Going off target a bit but not so long ago it was frowned upon men wearing make up. No make uo brand would advertise make up with male models wearing it.... now branded company's have skin care designated for males and brands have male models wearing make up..
People should be happy to express them selves in any way and not feel ashamed. |
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In my experience it seems to be something a lot of women are into. I've had many requests for it and I've no problem wearing lingerie for someone and I very much enjoy it. I have a selection of men's lingerie. Eg lace boxers, satin jock straps and they're all designed with men's shape in mind so they're a bit more comfortable than a woman's thong where you'll have a ball or 2 falling out the sides  |
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I have no other half to be concerned by my dressing and I haven't come out any family members but I have come out to quite a few friends and acquaintances and I have visited them in their homes or met them for shopping. I have one really great cis female friend who actually encourages me to be myself but she doesn't live near enough to visit often enough.
I would really like to have more people to be friendly with in my female persona. |
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Some partners have loved it and helped and bought me stuff and done sexy things with me dressed.
I don’t really keep it a secret anymore when I meet people. Half the town has seen me out in a dress anyway!
It used to be a secret thing for me but that just made me sad.
I think If something is really important then it needs to be aired. Although I do know that once you are in a relationship it’s harder to open up about things, but I’d rather be happily single than stuck in a relationship with someone who didn’t understand me whatever the thing about me was.
You might have to topple your whole world to be who you are and it can be a big step to take.
Bx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could not agree more. This isn't really something you can and should hide from your partner/spouse.
I've always been open to all my partners over the years about it from the get go. While not all of them embraced this side of me, they at least accepted it as a part of me like anything else.
It's also obviously something very different when this is something not just for the bedroom as well. |
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By *inxySTV/TS
over a year ago
dublin |
Great to see how lots think it should be out in the open. I'm lucky enough that my partner knows, while it will never be a big part of our relationship she's perfectly OK now with me having time to myself to dress.
On the flip side I've been dressing since I was a nipper and over the years I've talked to hundreds of others and a tiny % have had partners who are understanding nevermind supportive. Lost count of the amount of cd/tvs who's partners have left them just because they dress in private, not because they are any different as a person but purely because the female partner isn't open minded to letting a male explore a feminine side. Really sad but the norm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do it all the time. Tried to tell my wife and she said i was weird and that she needs her husband to be a real man and not to talk about it again  "
Well she is right! |
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"Oh, I'm not on my own, I tried to come out only to be told I'm not Bruce Jenner cop on to myself and I was demanded to promise I'd never do it nor was I ever to bring it up again and it's horrible because Danielle still wants to come out "
Liking to cd and wanting to take on a different persona are two very different things I would think |
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By *inxySTV/TS
over a year ago
dublin |
"I do it all the time. Tried to tell my wife and she said i was weird and that she needs her husband to be a real man and not to talk about it again
Well she is right! "
This is actually mad because you have liked my photos before  |
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"I do it all the time. Tried to tell my wife and she said i was weird and that she needs her husband to be a real man and not to talk about it again
Well she is right!
This is actually mad because you have liked my photos before "
Lmao |
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By *inxySTV/TS
over a year ago
dublin |
"I do it all the time. Tried to tell my wife and she said i was weird and that she needs her husband to be a real man and not to talk about it again
Well she is right!
This is actually mad because you have liked my photos before
Lmao "
Lol and he's unlikely my photos. Jesus some people are utter gobshites |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"I do it all the time. Tried to tell my wife and she said i was weird and that she needs her husband to be a real man and not to talk about it again
Well she is right!
This is actually mad because you have liked my photos before "
You could at least provide a bit of aloe Vera with that burn…..
A closed book cannot provide knowledge,
A closed mind cannot gain wisdom….. |
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"I do it all the time. Tried to tell my wife and she said i was weird and that she needs her husband to be a real man and not to talk about it again
Well she is right!
This is actually mad because you have liked my photos before "
Ruthless!!; |
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It's a big deal for me. My missus is generally supportive. Her shopaholic tendencies take over, so she's my personal stylist and shopper.
Now that the kids are older and out of the house for the odd night or week, we managed to arrange my first outing in August, which was amazing. We were away from home, didn't want to risk running into friends or family.
Hopefully, I'll get another chance for an outing soon. |
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I get a lot od messages from straight guys too and a lot of fabs so its much more common than we all thought we were the only CD in the village or the country LOL My wife accepts thats I dress but would love if she was more supportive and helped me buy but its not like I'm short of clothes or lingerie LOL |
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Maybe the secrecy is part of the turn on. Our very secret life, very private, just time to enjoy a simple pleasure.
I wonder why so many women prohibit, forbid, and dont want to have the conversation around it, with a partner. Id like to hear a woman's point of view, what are your objections? A man who wears tights is still a man. |
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By *inxySTV/TS
over a year ago
dublin |
"Maybe the secrecy is part of the turn on. Our very secret life, very private, just time to enjoy a simple pleasure.
I wonder why so many women prohibit, forbid, and dont want to have the conversation around it, with a partner. Id like to hear a woman's point of view, what are your objections? A man who wears tights is still a man. "
Having talked to probably hundreds of other since my teens, unfortunately the over riding consensus is the wish with have a supportive partner. The responses from many I've chatted to are the end of relationships because "you're not a real man" how can you be masculine when you wear fem clothes.
I think all the lines we hear as standard reasons are a pretty accurate representation of the coming out or getting caught process. I won't judge anyone for their reactions to finding out a partner enjoys some fem time but God I've seen some CD/TVS lives absolutely destroyed out of partners fear and spite.
A man in tights (I hate tights lol) is still a man for sure and given the all encompassing circle of kinks we mix in here I'm still so disheartened that so many are viewed as a side show. Such is life |
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"Maybe the secrecy is part of the turn on. Our very secret life, very private, just time to enjoy a simple pleasure.
I wonder why so many women prohibit, forbid, and dont want to have the conversation around it, with a partner. Id like to hear a woman's point of view, what are your objections? A man who wears tights is still a man.
Having talked to probably hundreds of other since my teens, unfortunately the over riding consensus is the wish with have a supportive partner. The responses from many I've chatted to are the end of relationships because "you're not a real man" how can you be masculine when you wear fem clothes.
I think all the lines we hear as standard reasons are a pretty accurate representation of the coming out or getting caught process. I won't judge anyone for their reactions to finding out a partner enjoys some fem time but God I've seen some CD/TVS lives absolutely destroyed out of partners fear and spite.
A man in tights (I hate tights lol) is still a man for sure and given the all encompassing circle of kinks we mix in here I'm still so disheartened that so many are viewed as a side show. Such is life "
This is 100% spot on I am blessed that while my wife found out I dressed that it didn’t wreck the marriage (not that it didn’t do damage to it mind you especially around trust and keeping secrets) |
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