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By *he Mick OP Man
over a year ago
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"Get in touch with a friend and catch up
Get out for a walk
What do you enjoy that you havent done in a while? "
Thanks but I've buried someone very close and had friends around, looking for something out of the ordinary I guess , just can put my finger in it at the moment |
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Personally I enjoy a dander among the headstones in Glasnevin cemetery, followed by a cup of coffee in the rather good café. They also have time museum if you haven't visited. There's also the Daniel OConnell tower that you can climb and get a panoramic view of the north city. If all of that isn't enough, you can walk straight through into the National Botanic Gardens and spend hours in there. It's the gift that keeps on giving.
A visit to Arbour Hill cemetery can be incorporated into a visit to the National Museum at Collins Barracks.
I realise that my tastes are not the same as everyone else's but those are ideal outings for moi. |
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"Get in touch with a friend and catch up
Get out for a walk
What do you enjoy that you havent done in a while?
Thanks but I've buried someone very close and had friends around, looking for something out of the ordinary I guess , just can put my finger in it at the moment "
Sorry for your loss. I've had to do this twice in the last few months and the only escape was into nature and all its distractions.
Don't know what your interests are so it's difficult to suggest anything else. |
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Pick somewhere in Ireland you've never been to but have wanted to then head off for a night, see what it is you've wanted to then maybe explore a few of the local pubs that night if that's your thing |
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" Thanks but I've buried someone very close and had friends around, looking for something out of the ordinary I guess , just can put my finger in it at the moment "
Condolences on your recent loss. Could you do something that you might have done with this person previously? Would that appeal?
Or, might you get a massage? You are probably holding a lot in your body.
Hope you find something suitable. |
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"Get in touch with a friend and catch up
Get out for a walk
What do you enjoy that you havent done in a while?
Thanks but I've buried someone very close and had friends around, looking for something out of the ordinary I guess , just can put my finger in it at the moment "
Sorry for your loss.
I think getting back into your body, after a loss like that would be very good for your nervous system.
So, a cold water swim, sauna, hot tub, massage..? All of these can change your mood. |
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"Saturday night mass could be a game changer? 
Some churches have mass on other days of the week. Live a little for goodness sake."
With the advent of masses being broadcast live on the Internet you can new even bring mass into the bedroom! |
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"Saturday night mass could be a game changer?
Some churches have mass on other days of the week. Live a little for goodness sake.
With the advent of masses being broadcast live on the Internet you can new even bring mass into the bedroom! "
And if your timing is on point can get quite a few masses in a row!! |
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"Saturday night mass could be a game changer?
Some churches have mass on other days of the week. Live a little for goodness sake.
With the advent of masses being broadcast live on the Internet you can new even bring mass into the bedroom!
And if your timing is on point can get quite a few masses in a row!!"
In my youthful innocence many years ago I failed to understand that when the priest was talking about praying, what he actually meant was preying.  |
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I'm sorry for your loss, OP. Losing a loved one is devastating! Take your time grieving. Everyone grieves differently. The most important thing is to allow yourself to grieve - cry those tears, allow that anger and frustration out, constructively.
I was once given advice to schedule times for grieving, remembering, in order to not allow grief to take life over either because you do have to keep living and I'm sure that you, as well as the loved one you lost, want you to live the best life you can.
Ask yourself what you want to achieve by doing a different activity this weekend? Do you want to forget, be distracted or do you want to remember and choose an activity based on your aim.
Going back to nature is always therapeutic. As is looking after your body. The Irish countryside has a lot to offer and there are lots of alternative therapists out there who can help you through grief holistically (mind, body and soul).
You mentioned you don't know yet what but you will find your answer, I'm sure.
I wish you all the best through this process   |
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"I'm sorry for your loss, OP. Losing a loved one is devastating! Take your time grieving. Everyone grieves differently. The most important thing is to allow yourself to grieve - cry those tears, allow that anger and frustration out, constructively.
I was once given advice to schedule times for grieving, remembering, in order to not allow grief to take life over either because you do have to keep living and I'm sure that you, as well as the loved one you lost, want you to live the best life you can.
Ask yourself what you want to achieve by doing a different activity this weekend? Do you want to forget, be distracted or do you want to remember and choose an activity based on your aim.
Going back to nature is always therapeutic. As is looking after your body. The Irish countryside has a lot to offer and there are lots of alternative therapists out there who can help you through grief holistically (mind, body and soul).
You mentioned you don't know yet what but you will find your answer, I'm sure.
I wish you all the best through this process "
Beautiful, thoughtful reply. |
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By *he Mick OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry for your loss, OP. Losing a loved one is devastating! Take your time grieving. Everyone grieves differently. The most important thing is to allow yourself to grieve - cry those tears, allow that anger and frustration out, constructively.
I was once given advice to schedule times for grieving, remembering, in order to not allow grief to take life over either because you do have to keep living and I'm sure that you, as well as the loved one you lost, want you to live the best life you can.
Ask yourself what you want to achieve by doing a different activity this weekend? Do you want to forget, be distracted or do you want to remember and choose an activity based on your aim.
Going back to nature is always therapeutic. As is looking after your body. The Irish countryside has a lot to offer and there are lots of alternative therapists out there who can help you through grief holistically (mind, body and soul).
You mentioned you don't know yet what but you will find your answer, I'm sure.
I wish you all the best through this process
Beautiful, thoughtful reply. "
Thank you all ,
Just feeling lost and sorry for myself probably shouldn't have posted on forum but thank you again , much appreciated .
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Thank you all ,
Just feeling lost and sorry for myself probably shouldn't have posted on forum but thank you again , much appreciated .
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And it's ok to feel lost, it's ok to feel sorry for yourself. Your feelings are valid. Acknowledge them, accept them. Give yourself time.
Posting in a relatively anonymous forum can work either way - against you or for you. You've gotten a lot of helpful and kind feedback. See how you can use it to move forward.
I hope you have a support network. And there are always helplines too. Speaking with someone who is impartial and has a certain amount of training can help across the worst times, a kind listening ear without judgement.
And seeing the response here has hopefully sent a little light your way. |
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