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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do Fabbers regard as a complete no-go on someone's profile? Now I know there is no one answer for everyone but I think it could be interesting.
For me the moment I see they are have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time. |
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"What do Fabbers regard as a complete no-go on someone's profile? Now I know there is no one answer for everyone but I think it could be interesting.
For me the moment I see they are have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time."
No single guys ain’t really a red flag, thats just a woman/couple saying that they’re not here for single guys.
Red flag to me is if a profile is over a few months old and has no verifications whatsoever ( everyone should at least be able to get photo verified )
Other red flag would be “couples” profile where it says the lady is taking a break for a while….. but quite a few of them are just single guys keeping a couples profile to increase chances of a meet |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wouldn't consider that a red flag more of a preference in my option...."
Yes I get that. I think it is more of an issue with how I phrased it. More a reason why you wouldn't contact a profile? Does that make more sense. |
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Any permanently negative bios or forum contributions with nasty statuses all while claiming "It was self defence your honour."
Any members of the AKA (Arse Kissers Anonymous) who are happy to ignore all of the above. |
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" For me the moment I see they have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time."
Are you referring to that automated line "Not looking for single guys"?
If you are, it shows on a profile when they have blocked single guys from messaging. It doesn't mean they're not looking for single guys, it means they don't want the usual crappy messages. It's a misleading setting and I wish they'd change it to what it actually means. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" For me the moment I see they have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time.
Are you referring to that automated line "Not looking for single guys"?
If you are, it shows on a profile when they have blocked single guys from messaging. It doesn't mean they're not looking for single guys, it means they don't want the usual crappy messages. It's a misleading setting and I wish they'd change it to what it actually means."
Do what your saying is ignore it and message them anyway?
Got it ...  |
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" For me the moment I see they have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time.
Are you referring to that automated line "Not looking for single guys"?
If you are, it shows on a profile when they have blocked single guys from messaging. It doesn't mean they're not looking for single guys, it means they don't want the usual crappy messages. It's a misleading setting and I wish they'd change it to what it actually means.
Do what your saying is ignore it and message them anyway?
Got it ... "
Try it on our profile and see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"- The obvious, no photo verification etc.
- People asking to talk on Kik.
- no clear pics, messy room in background ??
- Overly combative feel to the profile description."
"Combative"  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" For me the moment I see they have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time.
Are you referring to that automated line "Not looking for single guys"?
If you are, it shows on a profile when they have blocked single guys from messaging. It doesn't mean they're not looking for single guys, it means they don't want the usual crappy messages. It's a misleading setting and I wish they'd change it to what it actually means."
Exactly that line. If I cannot message them, which is totally fine, I just move on. If someone is looking to be contacted by a single guy I will leave it until they want to contact me instead. |
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" For me the moment I see they have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time.
Are you referring to that automated line "Not looking for single guys"?
If you are, it shows on a profile when they have blocked single guys from messaging. It doesn't mean they're not looking for single guys, it means they don't want the usual crappy messages. It's a misleading setting and I wish they'd change it to what it actually means.
Exactly that line. If I cannot message them, which is totally fine, I just move on. If someone is looking to be contacted by a single guy I will leave it until they want to contact me instead."
So who do you contact then ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Veri rabbit holes that have a group of hidden profiles all verifying each other.
A lack or tits.
Condescending attitude to the people you are apparently trying to fuck.
Lack of boobs.
Photos that look like they were taken with a 1990 disposable camera.
No titties on sight
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"Veri rabbit holes that have a group of hidden profiles all verifying each other.
A lack or tits.
Condescending attitude to the people you are apparently trying to fuck.
Lack of boobs.
Photos that look like they were taken with a 1990 disposable camera.
No titties on sight
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Man boobs sufficient? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Veri rabbit holes that have a group of hidden profiles all verifying each other.
A lack or tits.
Condescending attitude to the people you are apparently trying to fuck.
Lack of boobs.
Photos that look like they were taken with a 1990 disposable camera.
No titties on sight
Man boobs sufficient? "
There is a flag on the play |
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"Veri rabbit holes that have a group of hidden profiles all verifying each other.
A lack or tits.
Condescending attitude to the people you are apparently trying to fuck.
Lack of boobs.
Photos that look like they were taken with a 1990 disposable camera.
No titties on sight
Man boobs sufficient?
There is a flag on the play"
What ? |
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A red flag to me implies danger. I doubt there are any profiles advertising the fact that they might be dangerous - be that because they're hunting for vulnerable prey to abuse, stalk, assault or similar.
If you had a different meaning in mind, as in, what puts us off? The answer is a possible collection and combination of little things that add up, like for example:
name of the profile, pics displayed or lack of, profile text or lack of, veris displayed or lack of, status updates, forum contributions, a previous message received... whole host of things |
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By *aracarMan
over a year ago
waterford |
A profile with no photos.
No verifications on old profiles.
A "couple" profile with no photos or the other half being overseas etc.
People who ask for your kik or WhatsApp straight away.
Pushy people.
Good riddance to them all |
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"A truckload of verifications! "
So what ratio of veris to time on Fab would qualify as 'a truckload'?
Or are we talking pure numbers?
For example, would a profile 10 years old with 300 veris be worse than a profile a year old with 100 veris?
What about coffee veris? Would all coffee veris be a red flag?
Would all meet veris be a red flag?
Would 20 veris from a Meet n' Greet after a week on the site be a red flag or a green one?
Your point raises many questions, my head hurts  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sure verifications could be all from socials, I wouldn't regard that as an issue. Even if they were all sex, who cares? As long as people are safe it shouldn't make a difference. |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"A truckload of verifications! "
If a person doesn’t show their veri summary (like me) you have no idea how many veris they have.
It’s who the veris are from and the type of veris they leave others that would be a red flag for me. |
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"What do Fabbers regard as a complete no-go on someone's profile? Now I know there is no one answer for everyone but I think it could be interesting.
For me the moment I see they are have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time."
when don't have many pics lol |
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"What do Fabbers regard as a complete no-go on someone's profile? Now I know there is no one answer for everyone but I think it could be interesting.
For me the moment I see they are have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time."
when profile like a novel lol |
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"Profiles who describe themselves as 'good looking' or 'attractive' you know they are probably an ahole lol."
Not sure if they're an asshole or not but considering that looks are very much subjective, they are possibly setting themselves up for a major fall |
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Any mention of narcotics or abusive status updates. Certain comments on the forums would be also a red flag especially political comments that would be the opposite of ours. Also any mention of how intelligent they are (9 times out of 10 the opposite is true) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any mention of narcotics or abusive status updates. Certain comments on the forums would be also a red flag especially political comments that would be the opposite of ours. Also any mention of how intelligent they are (9 times out of 10 the opposite is true)"
10% of people know that's 90% |
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"People with their face in their profile pic and mention how discreet they are in their bio
The redflag in this case is flagging their stupidity
Maybe it's not their own face? "
Ah jeez, if ye had to pick a face surely you’d pick one that was good looking |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
There are so many red flag warning signals, that it is probably easier to list the green flags; but for me the most significant red flag, by a long chalk, is a female (from Dublin) who has the most scanty profile that has just been uploaded, with impatience to meet! |
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Been on here 7 years! Don't want to say how many verifications but I love the meet and Greet socials, can easily get 10/15 verifications from there, and still guys say I've fucked the site!!
Really??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A truckload of verifications!
Those who are bitter and jealous of the success of others."
Why assume it's from bitterness or jealousy?
It depends on what you consider 'success' and if their goals match your goals.
As numbers go up attraction can go down. And that's as common on fab as much as off fab.
There have been recent threads in the Lounge on this and many many posts on being selective in partner choice or poly or ENM or other non-mono lifestyles that don't result in a high or frequent turnover of partners. |
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"What do Fabbers regard as a complete no-go on someone's profile? Now I know there is no one answer for everyone but I think it could be interesting.
For me the moment I see they are have 'No single guys' I back out of the profile. Best not to waste either of our time.
No single guys ain’t really a red flag, thats just a woman/couple saying that they’re not here for single guys.
Red flag to me is if a profile is over a few months old and has no verifications whatsoever ( everyone should at least be able to get photo verified )
Other red flag would be “couples” profile where it says the lady is taking a break for a while….. but quite a few of them are just single guys keeping a couples profile to increase chances of a meet"
Yea
Exactly this,
Strange you never see the male half of the couple taking a “break”  |
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Anyone calling themselves any variation of Mr Grey is a pretty big red flag for me - wannabe doms can be dangerous.
Snap chat filtered photos (especially face photos) is another red flag - likely a catfish.
Lots of bj photos with different people- that person likes pulling out their phone during sex. Big no no. I'm here to enjoy a moment, not for a photoshoot.
Missus |
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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago
tipperary |
"Veri rabbit holes that have a group of hidden profiles all verifying each other.
A lack or tits.
Condescending attitude to the people you are apparently trying to fuck.
Lack of boobs.
Photos that look like they were taken with a 1990 disposable camera.
No titties on sight
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This made me lol |
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"Anyone calling themselves any variation of Mr Grey is a pretty big red flag for me - wannabe doms can be dangerous.
Snap chat filtered photos (especially face photos) is another red flag - likely a catfish.
Lots of bj photos with different people- that person likes pulling out their phone during sex. Big no no. I'm here to enjoy a moment, not for a photoshoot.
Missus "
Ahh yes I have that photoshoot thing too. Any profile that wants photos or video would be a red flag. |
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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago
Cork/Dublin |
Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot "
Have to admit, the GAA jersey is one for me also |
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot "
Ah now, that's wheelbarrowist!  
#Wheelbarrowshavefeelings too!
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
There are very few red flags I see on profiles like a la said there are things I may not like or appeal to me on a profile but they aren't red flags.
The only red flags would be veris from people I know would stir shite if you met someone they met so it's easier to avoid even chatting to those so you stay away from unnecessary drama.
And the other would be profiles that show they are into the more extreme side of sex but then after being told by others it's wrong they change it to better their chances of a meet.I have seen that happen on here a few times and that would be a red flag to me as I'd prefer to know before interacting.That is when notes come in handy though. |
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot "
Must organise a "spot the above items" photo |
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot "
What if there was a naked woman with pink shoes in the wheelbarrow?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me its not often I'd see red flags on profiles. I would take more heed as to how people inteact with others on the forums especially when in a horrible condescending manner. That tells me a lot more than a carefully written profile. |
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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago
Cork/Dublin |
"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot
What if there was a naked woman with pink shoes in the wheelbarrow? "
Titties trumps wheelbarrows. Blind spot. |
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot
What if there was a naked woman with pink shoes in the wheelbarrow? "
Love it 
I was going to dare you but something told me to double check your profile  |
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot
What if there was a naked woman with pink shoes in the wheelbarrow?
Love it
I was going to dare you but something told me to double check your profile "
Lockdown boredom that was! Grass in every orifice but it was fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot
What if there was a naked woman with pink shoes in the wheelbarrow?
Love it
I was going to dare you but something told me to double check your profile
Lockdown boredom that was! Grass in every orifice but it was fun "
Haha I thought of you guys (and Geralt) when wheelbarrows were mentioned. Great pic |
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot
What if there was a naked woman with pink shoes in the wheelbarrow?
Love it
I was going to dare you but something told me to double check your profile
Lockdown boredom that was! Grass in every orifice but it was fun
Haha I thought of you guys (and Geralt) when wheelbarrows were mentioned. Great pic "
(Runs to check out Ger's wheelbarrow) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Requesting a specific word be used as the title of the message to prove you've read their profile.
Notions. "
Jesus with some you’d be up until next Thursday reading |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Red flags for me...if I spot any of the following in their photos or Bio text.
Wheelbarrows. Gaa jerseys. Air fryers. Dog shit. Wheelie bins. Messy kitchens. Firearms. Lava lamps. Plastic coverings on the sofa. Balaclava's. Bus passes. Toenail clippings. There's others but that's the highlights.
However, if there's loads of Titties in the photos I tend not to see the other stuff in the Back round. Blind spot
What if there was a naked woman with pink shoes in the wheelbarrow?
Love it
I was going to dare you but something told me to double check your profile
Lockdown boredom that was! Grass in every orifice but it was fun "
I had to go check that was real and fair play to you both. |
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Very explicit pics, bareback pics, open face pics, pics of just one of a couple. What we want to see is pics that show you can be discreet but still give a sense of who you are.
References to things like pounding all night, can fuck for hours etc. Maybe I'm getting old but give me a few play sessions of 30-40 minutes each with nice glasses of wine in between any day lol
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"Very explicit pics, bareback pics, open face pics, pics of just one of a couple. What we want to see is pics that show you can be discreet but still give a sense of who you are.
References to things like pounding all night, can fuck for hours etc. Maybe I'm getting old but give me a few play sessions of 30-40 minutes each with nice glasses of wine in between any day lol
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Haha I’m one who actually likes to fuck all night and those who say they can never acutely can  |
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"Very explicit pics, bareback pics, open face pics, pics of just one of a couple. What we want to see is pics that show you can be discreet but still give a sense of who you are.
References to things like pounding all night, can fuck for hours etc. Maybe I'm getting old but give me a few play sessions of 30-40 minutes each with nice glasses of wine in between any day lol
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The one thing I’d take from porn (well maybe back in the day porn) was that everything could be done in about 25-40 minutes
Red flags?
Close up pussy pics
Send a face pic first (with NO pics at all) |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"Very explicit pics, bareback pics, open face pics, pics of just one of a couple. What we want to see is pics that show you can be discreet but still give a sense of who you are.
References to things like pounding all night, can fuck for hours etc. Maybe I'm getting old but give me a few play sessions of 30-40 minutes each with nice glasses of wine in between any day lol
Haha I’m one who actually likes to fuck all night and those who say they can never acutely can "
But by the time you discover they can’t, they probably don’t care….
But I’m a great little trier…… |
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