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Hey all, maybe it's just me but no matter what I put for an opening message or in the subject line, I can barely get any women to even read my messages not to mind respond. And when they do read them, most don't respond either.
I've tried the nice approach, the joke, the flirty, the naughty and honestly, the outright graphic lol
What do women on here reccomend? |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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When i send a first message its usually something they might have said on here (like i did with you) or id usually pick something from there bio or pic's and make something funny from that  |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
Ask yourself what is it about your profile, pictures and opening message that sets you apart from the hundreds of other guys profiles, pictures and opening messages.
If you can't answer that, Wathen there's your answer and work on trying set yourself apart by focusing on exentuating your own personality traits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?
Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears "
There's nothing in your profile that I'd consider a red flag or off-putting. It just is a little low on wow-factor.
That being said, always be yourself in your pics and profile as that's who will be turning up to a date or a social.
Your pics are good to be fair. You look good. No toilets, no mess, nothing unpleasant, no 57978 dickpics.
Maybe add in variety or something that grabs attention more. Make sure it looks as good in the tiny size as when it's full size. Some can turn in to a blob when small and people will just scroll on by.
Some like a fun pose. But then some are put off by googly eyes and cartoon emojis. Again, don't do what you don't like yourself.
As far as your 'wordy bit' goes. It's fine and nice, you seem a vety decent guy, but perhaps a little too tentative and shy for the fab search style.
This will definitely suit many. Lots love a genuine and less braggy guy, too cocky isn't great imho, but too low-key won't stand out enough to make folk think 'ohhhh, I NEED to find out more about this guy'
One thing to consider is to maybe say if you are single or attached as having CANNOT ACCOM will be taken as a sign you are perhaps attached.
You seem like a lovely guy OP, good luck! |
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"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?
Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears
There's nothing in your profile that I'd consider a red flag or off-putting. It just is a little low on wow-factor.
That being said, always be yourself in your pics and profile as that's who will be turning up to a date or a social.
Your pics are good to be fair. You look good. No toilets, no mess, nothing unpleasant, no 57978 dickpics.
Maybe add in variety or something that grabs attention more. Make sure it looks as good in the tiny size as when it's full size. Some can turn in to a blob when small and people will just scroll on by.
Some like a fun pose. But then some are put off by googly eyes and cartoon emojis. Again, don't do what you don't like yourself.
As far as your 'wordy bit' goes. It's fine and nice, you seem a vety decent guy, but perhaps a little too tentative and shy for the fab search style.
This will definitely suit many. Lots love a genuine and less braggy guy, too cocky isn't great imho, but too low-key won't stand out enough to make folk think 'ohhhh, I NEED to find out more about this guy'
One thing to consider is to maybe say if you are single or attached as having CANNOT ACCOM will be taken as a sign you are perhaps attached.
You seem like a lovely guy OP, good luck!"
Am I picking it up wrong or do u mean take pictures of himself when he's not excited? hahah
And I'd agree with the "woordy bit" but not sure what'd be too much and I also don't want too far that I sound like a pervert hahah |
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"Ask yourself what is it about your profile, pictures and opening message that sets you apart from the hundreds of other guys profiles, pictures and opening messages.
If you can't answer that, Wathen there's your answer and work on trying set yourself apart by focusing on exentuating your own personality traits. "
I do think some of my opening messages are different than what's usually said by other guys but still don't get opened to be fair |
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"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?
Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears
There's nothing in your profile that I'd consider a red flag or off-putting. It just is a little low on wow-factor.
That being said, always be yourself in your pics and profile as that's who will be turning up to a date or a social.
Your pics are good to be fair. You look good. No toilets, no mess, nothing unpleasant, no 57978 dickpics.
Maybe add in variety or something that grabs attention more. Make sure it looks as good in the tiny size as when it's full size. Some can turn in to a blob when small and people will just scroll on by.
Some like a fun pose. But then some are put off by googly eyes and cartoon emojis. Again, don't do what you don't like yourself.
As far as your 'wordy bit' goes. It's fine and nice, you seem a vety decent guy, but perhaps a little too tentative and shy for the fab search style.
This will definitely suit many. Lots love a genuine and less braggy guy, too cocky isn't great imho, but too low-key won't stand out enough to make folk think 'ohhhh, I NEED to find out more about this guy'
One thing to consider is to maybe say if you are single or attached as having CANNOT ACCOM will be taken as a sign you are perhaps attached.
You seem like a lovely guy OP, good luck!"
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Ask yourself the question would you respond to the message you've sent if you had read your own bio does it resemble anything as you would if you read another bio you're sending the message to |
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"Ask yourself what is it about your profile, pictures and opening message that sets you apart from the hundreds of other guys profiles, pictures and opening messages.
If you can't answer that, Wathen there's your answer and work on trying set yourself apart by focusing on exentuating your own personality traits.
I do think some of my opening messages are different than what's usually said by other guys but still don't get opened to be fair "
Most people look at the profile before deciding whether to open a message or not so in many cases the message content is irrelevant.
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"Hey all, maybe it's just me but no matter what I put for an opening message or in the subject line, I can barely get any women to even read my messages not to mind respond. And when they do read them, most don't respond either.
I've tried the nice approach, the joke, the flirty, the naughty and honestly, the outright graphic lol
What do women on here reccomend?"
If they aren’t bothered to read then it doesn’t matter what’s in it.
I don’t know what the secret is tbh
Though I think that the drop off in the “read rate” since 10 years ago is probably the added 10 years |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP my rule of thumb is that of I can think of something naturally , that I'd personally find interesting to read, to send someone after seeing their profile/forum posts/updates then I just don't bother |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?
Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears
There's nothing in your profile that I'd consider a red flag or off-putting. It just is a little low on wow-factor.
That being said, always be yourself in your pics and profile as that's who will be turning up to a date or a social.
Your pics are good to be fair. You look good. No toilets, no mess, nothing unpleasant, no 57978 dickpics.
Maybe add in variety or something that grabs attention more. Make sure it looks as good in the tiny size as when it's full size. Some can turn in to a blob when small and people will just scroll on by.
Some like a fun pose. But then some are put off by googly eyes and cartoon emojis. Again, don't do what you don't like yourself.
As far as your 'wordy bit' goes. It's fine and nice, you seem a vety decent guy, but perhaps a little too tentative and shy for the fab search style.
This will definitely suit many. Lots love a genuine and less braggy guy, too cocky isn't great imho, but too low-key won't stand out enough to make folk think 'ohhhh, I NEED to find out more about this guy'
One thing to consider is to maybe say if you are single or attached as having CANNOT ACCOM will be taken as a sign you are perhaps attached.
You seem like a lovely guy OP, good luck!
Am I picking it up wrong or do u mean take pictures of himself when he's not excited? hahah
And I'd agree with the "woordy bit" but not sure what'd be too much and I also don't want too far that I sound like a pervert hahah"
No, no I didn't mean 'himself'.
Just yourself in general  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tiny size versus full size pics is what I had meant.
A pic can look great when filling your own mobile screen but when the pic is uploaded it is just a small icon.
It'll be small obv yes, but also has less pixel definition when it transfers to fab, so is much less clear and less likely to grab attention as well as you might have expected.
It's a good idea to take another look after you have uploaded it to see if it's what you hoped it would be. |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
Dunboyne |
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Do me next
Do you mean it or are you kidding?
Oh dear god please make this an actual thread
The PROFILINATOR thread
Sounds illegal in 50 states"
Which is why there's a load of Kinky Fabbers in the other 2  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually just say Hi, how’s life? Tell me about yourself etc I’ll ask them to tell me about themselves but most don’t respond back or the message just goes unread, but others just want really dirty talk in their first message and it’s not for me! I like to get to know someone first before doing anything like that. It’s different for everyone I suppose but it’s all about gaining that trust isn’t it? |
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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago
Cork/Dublin |
I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.
However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.
However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache "
I dare you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do me next
Do you mean it or are you kidding?
Oh dear god please make this an actual thread
The PROFILINATOR thread
Sounds illegal in 50 states"
Girl you should start charging for this next they’ll be asking you to do their returns |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
Things that I haaaaate in an opening message:
Having any fun on here?
I’m in Galway tonight, wanna entertain me.
Tell me about yourself (nothing makes me forget anything mildly interesting about myself more than that question).
Telling me what they’d do to me given half a chance.
It’s really hard to advise on the perfect opening message but usually referencing something in their profile or something they’ve said in the forum is a good start. Begin a conversation about something, give something to respond to. All else fails, tell a joke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Things that I haaaaate in an opening message:
Having any fun on here?
I’m in Galway tonight, wanna entertain me.
Tell me about yourself (nothing makes me forget anything mildly interesting about myself more than that question).
Telling me what they’d do to me given half a chance.
It’s really hard to advise on the perfect opening message but usually referencing something in their profile or something they’ve said in the forum is a good start. Begin a conversation about something, give something to respond to. All else fails, tell a joke. "
E.g
Hi Jaffa just wondering are you an easy peel
Haha |
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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago
Cork/Dublin |
"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.
However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache
I dare you "
Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.
However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache
I dare you
Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?"
Of course |
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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago
Cork/Dublin |
"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.
However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache
I dare you
Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?
Of course "
Done . I wonder will I get an answer!. |
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"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.
However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache
I dare you
Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?
Of course
Done . I wonder will I get an answer!."
Don't mind me being nosy but what's the counterdare? |
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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago
Cork/Dublin |
"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.
However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache
I dare you
Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?
Of course
Done . I wonder will I get an answer!.
Don't mind me being nosy but what's the counterdare? "
I think that's what's called stirring the pot
I've a few ideas. Suggestions gratefully received btw. |
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"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.
However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache
I dare you
Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?
Of course
Done . I wonder will I get an answer!.
Don't mind me being nosy but what's the counterdare?
I think that's what's called stirring the pot
I've a few ideas. Suggestions gratefully received btw."
Oh I'll stay outta that  |
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