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Ladies. - how quickly do you cum an why?
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"So I've been with women whom I can get to orgasm in 2mins and others in 20mins. I've experienced both in oral/fingers/toys/penetration. I'm asking the women of Fab how they orgasm, why, how quickly, the different types, g spot/clit/C spot/anal/etc. The scenarios that make a difference, the clothing you are wearing, whatever heightens your arousal. Interested in the longer also and what gets you there. Do you have a method that you use only alone that does it quicker and, if so, why you don't share that with your current or incoming partner? Or do you? There are no wrong answers and the men of Fab are delighted with your answers in advance "Nobody? Cum on ladies, give us some clues and we may give you some tips  | |||
"So I've been with women whom I can get to orgasm in 2mins and others in 20mins. I've experienced both in oral/fingers/toys/penetration. I'm asking the women of Fab how they orgasm, why, how quickly, the different types, g spot/clit/C spot/anal/etc. The scenarios that make a difference, the clothing you are wearing, whatever heightens your arousal. Interested in the longer also and what gets you there. Do you have a method that you use only alone that does it quicker and, if so, why you don't share that with your current or incoming partner? Or do you? There are no wrong answers and the men of Fab are delighted with your answers in advance
Nobody? Cum on ladies, give us some clues and we may give you some tips "I orgasm so easily that I really don't need any tips, but thanks for your concern. 
Personally, I think a lot of it is psychological, in that there is an element of surrendering. Then, some women are merely luckier than others, when it comes to their ability to orgasm.
I experience different types of orgasm, in terms of their origin, as well as different levels. I enjoy them all, for varying reasons. I don't enjoy very intense vibrations, if using a toy, as it causes me to orgasm very quickly, but it doesn't tend to feel complete.
As much as I love to orgasm, I also really enjoy being brought very close to the edge, over & over, too.
As to methods, there is no one size fits all. I think that taking the time to explore one's body, alone, is key. Then, a partner can be guided and/or introduce some methods of their own. | |||
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"Thanks to all who replied. Always interesting to read the different elements that work for different folks xx"I agree - thanks to all who replied it was an interesting read and the only common thread was…. Everyone is different, but knowing, listening and giving guidance are the keys to success | |||
"Thanks to all who replied. Always interesting to read the different elements that work for different folks xx"You are welcome.  | |||
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"Think its obviously different for each individual. Foreplay is sex for women in my opinion penetration is for the men to finsih " Well that's bit general too. From comments on here I noticed that a fair amount of women beside myself love a good 'fuck' and not just a spurt on the finishing line. | |||
"Think its obviously different for each individual. Foreplay is sex for women in my opinion penetration is for the men to finsih Well that's bit general too. From comments on here I noticed that a fair amount of women beside myself love a good 'fuck' and not just a spurt on the finishing line. "General yes but the exception does not make the rule. | |||
"Hopefully you get more answers I need all the help I can get " | |||
"So I've been with women whom I can get to orgasm in 2mins and others in 20mins. I've experienced both in oral/fingers/toys/penetration. I'm asking the women of Fab how they orgasm, why, how quickly, the different types, g spot/clit/C spot/anal/etc. The scenarios that make a difference, the clothing you are wearing, whatever heightens your arousal. Interested in the longer also and what gets you there. Do you have a method that you use only alone that does it quicker and, if so, why you don't share that with your current or incoming partner? Or do you? There are no wrong answers and the men of Fab are delighted with your answers in advance
Nobody? Cum on ladies, give us some clues and we may give you some tips
I orgasm so easily that I really don't need any tips, but thanks for your concern.
Personally, I think a lot of it is psychological, in that there is an element of surrendering. Then, some women are merely luckier than others, when it comes to their ability to orgasm.
I experience different types of orgasm, in terms of their origin, as well as different levels. I enjoy them all, for varying reasons. I don't enjoy very intense vibrations, if using a toy, as it causes me to orgasm very quickly, but it doesn't tend to feel complete.
As much as I love to orgasm, I also really enjoy being brought very close to the edge, over & over, too.
As to methods, there is no one size fits all. I think that taking the time to explore one's body, alone, is key. Then, a partner can be guided and/or introduce some methods of their own. "You like being brought to the boil and left to simmer for a while  | |||
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"Women can have orgasms ? ?? Lol "Yes and even without men's help, shock horror | |||
"Women can have orgasms ? ?? Lol
Yes and even without men's help, shock horror "I don’t believe it … it’s a myth just like the g spot !! | |||
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I definitely need to really focus non the moment and get really mentally aroused. I noticed I often can't come at all if i've had one to many drinks.
There can be times that i'm feeling really into it, really comfortable and relaxed and having a long horny make out session and the slightest touch gets me off.
Other times where I'm a bit awkward, distracted, often with someone new, where no matter what he does, I am not going to get there. The right headspace is a requirement for me.
Another curveball I have is that my clitoris is really sensitive (in a bad way) and receiving direct friction on it feels terrible. So a lot of guys who try to rub me or eat me out actually are doing a terrible job, even though the same technique might work with other women. | |||
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"I think guys downplay how hugely mental it is. I've seen it describing as women saying they need to 'focus' on order to orgasm. Whereas men say they need to focus in order to NOT orgasm.
I definitely need to really focus non the moment and get really mentally aroused. I noticed I often can't come at all if i've had one to many drinks.
There can be times that i'm feeling really into it, really comfortable and relaxed and having a long horny make out session and the slightest touch gets me off.
Other times where I'm a bit awkward, distracted, often with someone new, where no matter what he does, I am not going to get there. The right headspace is a requirement for me.
Another curveball I have is that my clitoris is really sensitive (in a bad way) and receiving direct friction on it feels terrible. So a lot of guys who try to rub me or eat me out actually are doing a terrible job, even though the same technique might work with other women. "I can identify with all of that
A woman's body is one big erogenous zone which responds to lots and lots of kissing and sensual touch.
But guys often go straight for the clit and it feels like an electric shock for all the wrong reasons 
I find this happens a lot at parties...presumably because they want to get to the main act as quickly as possible, or because they don't know what works.
We may be different in what works but I'm pretty confident that a long horny make out session (as mentioned above ) works for all of us ladies.
So guys sensuality, kissing, patience and communication is really the key to unlocking what works for us (in case you were quietly wondering) | |||
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Thanks again to all who got involved and for your very honest responses. All are read in good humour and with an open and learning mind xx | |||
"It's not the exception. You already came to a conclusion. and you're conclusion is not based on what women say about themselves. I would definitely disagree with your view, based on the experience of sleeping with nearly entirely bi-women during our swaps. They always end up gravitating away from me and back to my guy. they definitely WANT penetration. "His conjecture might be a better match with his stamina.
Sure what would we women know anyway... | |||
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"I have a friend who can cum without any physical stimulation….. She says she thinks of me….. "To stop it happening in public? | |||
"I have a friend who can cum without any physical stimulation….. She says she thinks of me…..
To stop it happening in public?"Probably…….  | |||
"From my experience women absolutely need penertration. It's an essential part of the mental stimulation which is big part for an orgasm. While a direct orgasm from penetration might be less common than other means, that feeling of a hard cock inside them is almost impossible to replicate through a toy. " You couldn't be more wrong Sex can offer orgasms without penetration. People with vulvas are so diverse that you must learn what your partner enjoys. It seems you are that kind of person that approaches all ladies in the same way. | |||
"From my experience women absolutely need penertration. It's an essential part of the mental stimulation which is big part for an orgasm. While a direct orgasm from penetration might be less common than other means, that feeling of a hard cock inside them is almost impossible to replicate through a toy. " Which goes to show the difference in people and their experiences, I’ve had women cum from nothing more that the tip of my finger or my tongue, and I’ve had previously married women cum from penetrative sex for the first time. Everyone is different, it’s what makes it fun. | |||
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"I light a scented candle on my way out and they can do it themselves...." | |||
"From my experience women absolutely need penertration. It's an essential part of the mental stimulation which is big part for an orgasm. While a direct orgasm from penetration might be less common than other means, that feeling of a hard cock inside them is almost impossible to replicate through a toy. " A cock comes with a pulse and body temperature | |||
"From my experience women absolutely need penertration. It's an essential part of the mental stimulation which is big part for an orgasm. While a direct orgasm from penetration might be less common than other means, that feeling of a hard cock inside them is almost impossible to replicate through a toy. " It's not often i flatly disagee with comments on the forum, but THIS! I understand your opinion is based on your experience, fair enough, but I totally disgree. Every woman you ask will give a different answer to this. A La Carte outlines it very well above. A hard cock might give great satisfaction, but then there are countless women who dont come from penetration. There are many women who dont like a hard cock, or the man attached to it. Women orgasm in many mysterious ways, a head massage, hair pulling, foot massage, sucking her toes, clitoral, labial or G spot stimulation, spanking, gentle caresses, anal play, a man with just the right sexy voice and accent whispering into her ear. And that's just with a man, the experience with a woman is different again. So, the rigid hard cock in the pussy idea... Yes, works for some, but there's so much more. | |||
Many factors at play.
Unfortunately women don't come with an AI pop-up that shows their mood and likely scenario to get them where we would like them, orgasmic and happy, so we can tell them that shirt needs ironing
Kidding
Need penetration to orgasm? Absolutely not!
My wife has orgasmed strongly from just nipple play.
What was the next thing she wanted?
Me inside her, as she always does after oral/finger play but that's just a want, not what she needs to orgasm.
If you get a BJ you still want to fuck.
We're all a bunch of animals at the end of the day and the procreation gene is in all of us. Thanks be to the baby jaysus and the carpenter for rubber is all I'll say
Thanks again for all those who gave considered, genuine responses. Your insight is illumination for those of us with a true interest | |||
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"A La Carte and Tantra Massage both right
Many factors at play.
Unfortunately women don't come with an AI pop-up that shows their mood and likely scenario to get them where we would like them, orgasmic and happy, so we can tell them that shirt needs ironing
Kidding
Need penetration to orgasm? Absolutely not!
My wife has orgasmed strongly from just nipple play.
What was the next thing she wanted?
Me inside her, as she always does after oral/finger play but that's just a want, not what she needs to orgasm.
If you get a BJ you still want to fuck.
We're all a bunch of animals at the end of the day and the procreation gene is in all of us. Thanks be to the baby jaysus and the carpenter for rubber is all I'll say
Thanks again for all those who gave considered, genuine responses. Your insight is illumination for those of us with a true interest "Jaysus, I might even orgasm if someone were to iron for me while I watch | |||
"A La Carte and Tantra Massage both right
Many factors at play.
Unfortunately women don't come with an AI pop-up that shows their mood and likely scenario to get them where we would like them, orgasmic and happy, so we can tell them that shirt needs ironing
Kidding
Need penetration to orgasm? Absolutely not!
My wife has orgasmed strongly from just nipple play.
What was the next thing she wanted?
Me inside her, as she always does after oral/finger play but that's just a want, not what she needs to orgasm.
If you get a BJ you still want to fuck.
We're all a bunch of animals at the end of the day and the procreation gene is in all of us. Thanks be to the baby jaysus and the carpenter for rubber is all I'll say
Thanks again for all those who gave considered, genuine responses. Your insight is illumination for those of us with a true interest
Jaysus, I might even orgasm if someone were to iron for me while I watch "Now that's a kink too far! | |||
"From my experience women absolutely need penertration. It's an essential part of the mental stimulation which is big part for an orgasm. While a direct orgasm from penetration might be less common than other means, that feeling of a hard cock inside them is almost impossible to replicate through a toy. You couldn't be more wrong Sex can offer orgasms without penetration. People with vulvas are so diverse that you must learn what your partner enjoys. It seems you are that kind of person that approaches all ladies in the same way." That’s the key, a woman is like a musical instrument and each one has their own way to be played, it both can find the rhythm the music sounds wonderful … that is why the emotion and sparks of a new body … new date. | |||
