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"No I don't believe it's true.Of course some give ott veris but it's not just men who do that. And to be fair if people are solely relying on what someone says to them on a veri to decide if they will meet them or not again that would be pretty sad. A veri someone has given me or not given me as the case may be has no bearing on whether I meet them again that all depends on how we get on when we meet and nothing else. " Thank you for the reply. That is a fair point re. O.T.T verifications not only being given by men. I would think like you. However, I wondered if I am unaware of certain aspects, simply as my experience here is centred around being a woman. | |||
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"This has not been our experience from our 12 verifications so far" Glad to read.  It hasn't been my experience, either. However, I wanted to allow for the idea that others may navigate the site quite differently. | |||
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"I've never left a veri with the hope and expectation of getting another meet out of it I'm sure people do but its all part of the fun in deciphering veri's " Neither have I. Pray tell, how might you know if someone was doing that? What do you look to decipher? | |||
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"Verifications are indications of what someone's experience was with a person couple ets...verifications are not a guarantee.. a pinch of salt like everything else...I've never seen a poor/ negative Verification ....I don't think they exist ss everyone is amazing "Oh, I understand that they merely denote what another person's experience of that person/couple was. For me, it is more about the possibility of a calculated move, whereby a very flattering one is left, so as to, well, flatter and leave the door open... | |||
"YES" Care to elaborate? | |||
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"Verifications are indications of what someone's experience was with a person couple ets...verifications are not a guarantee.. a pinch of salt like everything else...I've never seen a poor/ negative Verification ....I don't think they exist ss everyone is amazing
Oh, I understand that they merely denote what another person's experience of that person/couple was. For me, it is more about the possibility of a calculated move, whereby a very flattering one is left, so as to, well, flatter and leave the door open... "I'm sure there are a few on here just like in life that use calculated moves. | |||
"I've never left an over the top veri in the hope of meeting the guy again. And I don't think any I've got were ott, if someone wanted to see me again they just need to ask. " Neither have I. However, from what I have gathered, women would supposedly be less inclined to do so, as they have less need. I think the same re. my own, but thought I would ask, anyway. | |||
"It definitely happens. But it's not just verifications, it's the same in many interactions with women. Traditionally, men have been educated to believe that over top compliment and over the top actions are what is required, or at least significantly improves a guys chances of success with a women. " Oh, this is interesting. Yes, traditionally, men have been taught to flatter. Something I hadn't considered, thanks. | |||
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"Verifications are indications of what someone's experience was with a person couple ets...verifications are not a guarantee.. a pinch of salt like everything else...I've never seen a poor/ negative Verification ....I don't think they exist ss everyone is amazing
Oh, I understand that they merely denote what another person's experience of that person/couple was. For me, it is more about the possibility of a calculated move, whereby a very flattering one is left, so as to, well, flatter and leave the door open... "I'm sure there's that practise but who cares? Flattery is part of the fab courtship. I'd only repeat a meet if I enjoyed myself not because someone verbally liked my ass.  | |||
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"YES" Yes, to answer your question, in a similarly lengthy way as to how it was posed, of course there is some truth in the proposition that most men will leave embellished verifications in anticipation of getting "the ride" or a repeat thereof. | |||
"I highly doubt that everyone on Fab is the greatest shag of someone's life but that being said I think most people aim to be complimentary for sure." Just like that most veris are embellished imo | |||
"I highly doubt that everyone on Fab is the greatest shag of someone's life but that being said I think most people aim to be complimentary for sure. Just like that most veris are embellished imo" Ya maybe but what you see in one person, the next person might see different, I've read veris and thought " I must have met a different person" I think the tip is take them with a pinch of salt and if your interested enough in the person meet them and decide for yourself | |||
"I don't find veries easy to write because I've never given or received a play related one. There isn't a lot you can say for a social veri that isn't repetitive or relies on a few fab clichés. I've never gone to a social with the expectation of having sex with that person so it's highly unlikely I'm going to have those expectations hanging on a few lines I write on their profile. It would be pretty sad if someone did expect a smoke blowing verification to take it to the next level but it would be equally sad if the person receiving an OTT verification based their decision to meet again or not solely on that. Words do have power on here though and some are easily swayed by them. The general consensus is that women have choices so therefore to get their attention men have to up their game, kiss a few arses and validate their every word and deed so obviously that would account for the ott veries. On the flip side, men are told every day they don't have options and have to be grateful for any attention they receive. Women are reluctant to fab pics because that's seen as a come on so any veries they write will naturally be more reserved for similar reasons. " Okay, lots to take into consideration, thank you for your reply.
Re. the disparity in the amount of choices women have on here, in comparison to men, I'd well believe it has an impact like you described. I do think that many women are wise to this, though. For my part, I instantly distrust anything O.T.T. I actually go out of my way to make my profile as unappealing as possible, as I simply have no interest in having my ego flattered.
Interesting point you made re. women being hesitant to fab pics. While I have approached men directly, I would be hesitant to do this and I am also mindful of any conversation I engage in, in case it could be construed as misleading. | |||
"Verifications are indications of what someone's experience was with a person couple ets...verifications are not a guarantee.. a pinch of salt like everything else...I've never seen a poor/ negative Verification ....I don't think they exist ss everyone is amazing
Oh, I understand that they merely denote what another person's experience of that person/couple was. For me, it is more about the possibility of a calculated move, whereby a very flattering one is left, so as to, well, flatter and leave the door open...
I'm sure there are a few on here just like in life that use calculated moves. "Most likely. | |||
"Verifications are indications of what someone's experience was with a person couple ets...verifications are not a guarantee.. a pinch of salt like everything else...I've never seen a poor/ negative Verification ....I don't think they exist ss everyone is amazing
Oh, I understand that they merely denote what another person's experience of that person/couple was. For me, it is more about the possibility of a calculated move, whereby a very flattering one is left, so as to, well, flatter and leave the door open... "It's a game too which in most cases is no harm...calculated is open interpretation and sounds negative as if someone is doing something wrong.. when I think people are keeping their options open which is cool too. It's play at the end of the day no biggie. everyone makes fab their own experience.the rest is just opinions from strangers | |||
"I highly doubt that everyone on Fab is the greatest shag of someone's life but that being said I think most people aim to be complimentary for sure." Well, I think it is better not to type anything at all, if uncomplimentary. However, one would hope that there might be a balance between the best shag ever and abysmal. | |||
"Verifications are indications of what someone's experience was with a person couple ets...verifications are not a guarantee.. a pinch of salt like everything else...I've never seen a poor/ negative Verification ....I don't think they exist ss everyone is amazing
Oh, I understand that they merely denote what another person's experience of that person/couple was. For me, it is more about the possibility of a calculated move, whereby a very flattering one is left, so as to, well, flatter and leave the door open...
I'm sure there's that practise but who cares? Flattery is part of the fab courtship.
I'd only repeat a meet if I enjoyed myself not because someone verbally liked my ass.
"Oh, I don't particularly care, but I was curious to hear from others. Same re. a repeat meet. | |||
If I see a sexy pic, I will fab it.
It doesn't mean I want to shag you...well not all the time it doesn't
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"YES Yes, to answer your question, in a similarly lengthy way as to how it was posed, of course there is some truth in the proposition that most men will leave embellished verifications in anticipation of getting "the ride" or a repeat thereof. " You could have just said no to my request that you might elaborate, particularly given that you didn't actually elaborate... You merely lengthened your yes, while passing remark upon the length of my opening post. Look, I know a certain lady stole your yellow underwear, but no need to take it out on me.  | |||
"I highly doubt that everyone on Fab is the greatest shag of someone's life but that being said I think most people aim to be complimentary for sure. Just like that most veris are embellished imo" Potentially... Perhaps to a greater, or lesser, degree, depending on the person giving. | |||
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"Verifications are indications of what someone's experience was with a person couple ets...verifications are not a guarantee.. a pinch of salt like everything else...I've never seen a poor/ negative Verification ....I don't think they exist ss everyone is amazing
Oh, I understand that they merely denote what another person's experience of that person/couple was. For me, it is more about the possibility of a calculated move, whereby a very flattering one is left, so as to, well, flatter and leave the door open...
It's a game too which in most cases is no harm...calculated is open interpretation and sounds negative as if someone is doing something wrong..
when I think people are keeping their options open which is cool too. It's play at the end of the day no biggie.
everyone makes fab their own experience.the rest is just opinions from strangers
"I mostly agree with the above. However, as fab is there for each person to approach as they so choose, I don't think everybody is in that "play", "no biggie" mindset. The vast majority may be, but not all, so some may see it differently. | |||
"I highly doubt that everyone on Fab is the greatest shag of someone's life but that being said I think most people aim to be complimentary for sure. Well, I think it is better not to type anything at all, if uncomplimentary. However, one would hope that there might be a balance between the best shag ever and abysmal. "Maybe they don't display those verifications? A lot easier to have a glowing report part if you only show parts of it. | |||
"YES Yes, to answer your question, in a similarly lengthy way as to how it was posed, of course there is some truth in the proposition that most men will leave embellished verifications in anticipation of getting "the ride" or a repeat thereof. You could have just said no to my request that you might elaborate, particularly given that you didn't actually elaborate... You merely lengthened your yes, while passing remark upon the length of my opening post. Look, I know a certain lady stole your yellow underwear, but no need to take it out on me. "I always try to accede to a ladies reasonable request and would try if possible not to be too brief. And speaking of brief(s) the missing item has been recovered and the recoveree suitably rewarded, despite she being the thief in the first place. | |||
"I write verifications based on my experience with meeting the particular person. I have never had a bad social meet and have remained friends with a few even though it never went beyond a social meet. Play meet verifs are few and always kept private. I just never felt the need to share my experiences in the bedroom. As has been said previously, you never read a bad verification. And just because I don't feel the sexualy chemistry with a particular guy, certainly doesn't mean others won't and vice versa. If that were true, how boring life would be if we all liked the same men/women. Lol Over the top verifs make me laugh. But hey, if thats what the guy felt, good for him. Will it get him another meet? Depends on how good he was I suppose
If I see a sexy pic, I will fab it.
It doesn't mean I want to shag you...well not all the time it doesn't
"Thank you for your reply. Yes, an important note to make re. leaving a complimentary verification, even if that person isn't for you, but may be for another. Keep fabbing those pics!! | |||
"I highly doubt that everyone on Fab is the greatest shag of someone's life but that being said I think most people aim to be complimentary for sure. Well, I think it is better not to type anything at all, if uncomplimentary. However, one would hope that there might be a balance between the best shag ever and abysmal.
Maybe they don't display those verifications? A lot easier to have a glowing report part if you only show parts of it."Oh, this is true, too. | |||
"YES Yes, to answer your question, in a similarly lengthy way as to how it was posed, of course there is some truth in the proposition that most men will leave embellished verifications in anticipation of getting "the ride" or a repeat thereof. You could have just said no to my request that you might elaborate, particularly given that you didn't actually elaborate... You merely lengthened your yes, while passing remark upon the length of my opening post. Look, I know a certain lady stole your yellow underwear, but no need to take it out on me.
I always try to accede to a ladies reasonable request and would try if possible not to be too brief.
And speaking of brief(s) the missing item has been recovered and the recoveree suitably rewarded, despite she being the thief in the first place.
"Well, next time, I suggest that you practice same, without passing comment.
Haha, sounds like a win-win situation for all involved. Hope you continue to enjoy each other. | |||
Are there people who hope for more by giving them? I'm sure there are, but I haven't come across them. | |||
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" Are there people who hope for more by giving them? I'm sure there are, but I haven't come across them." Do you think they would say it if there were? | |||
"I don't believe that we've been left with overly flattering verifications on our couple's profile in order for a repeat meet to be secured. Neither have we left a verification for that purpose. On my single's profile (herself here), I have left OTT veris in the past - for a laugh more so than anything else, generally in the belief they won't be displayed anyway. Most socials/meets were never verified because I don't generally bother, unless asked or in receipt of one, where I felt a return veri was "justified" - you read into that what you will.
Are there people who hope for more by giving them? I'm sure there are, but I haven't come across them."Thank you for your response.
It seems to be the case that those responding to this thread don't give overly flattering verifications, as a means to secure more encounters. However, I suppose it needs to be acknowledged that the likelihood of those who perhaps act as such openly saying as much is relatively slim. | |||
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"Veri's for me only prove the person is real and genuine, there are some you leave if the person requires it ..ie to be verified etc but l will never go ..as you say ..OTT ..on anything ..the truth in veri's , if asked , yes but if a person has no interest in them then it's a case of not writing one .. simply really " Yes, maybe they should be a simple box ticking exercise, acknowledging that such a person exists and, as much as any person on here can tell, is who they claim to be. No personal commentary required. | |||
"I think everyone’s veris are OTT but you can often read between the lines…. That said it’s not easy to be totally honest in them I’ve bright red hair, one leg, a pot belly, a tiny cock and an shit in bed but I’ve been lucky enough to meet some kind folks on here " Yeah, that is fair. Maybe people are merely being kind. Haha, whatever about the rest, being a redhead shouldn't be considered a disadvantage. | |||
"From reading veris I'd say the vast majority of play veris are at least slightly over the top. I don't think the gender of the person actually makes much of a difference in this aspect of fab" Yeah, they potentially are. Maybe so. To date, I haven't paid much attention to which gender tends to be more generous, so can't say. | |||
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"I don't do play veris nor do I want to receive them as I believe that is a private moment between me and the other person and all of fab don't need to know about it...I prefer to meet the person who sounds like I can habe a good laugh with and not what size his dick is or what his like in bed... tbh an ott veri kinda puts me off the person.." I would tend to agree with this. I find an overly detailed verification quite offputting. | |||
"Some do seem a little bit suspect but the other 99% seem pretty much legit from any we have read and those we have left are honest without giving details as what they do with us is between us and them only " Yes, maybe it is only a small minority. I must pay closer attention. | |||
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"For me I hate giving verifications I never know what to say it's very embarrassing, it's like Fr Ted the lovely girls competition lol "Ah you can just say that I am a very nice fella. | |||
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"For me I hate giving verifications I never know what to say it's very embarrassing, it's like Fr Ted the lovely girls competition lol
Ah you can just say that I am a very nice fella."I will  | |||
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