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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When chatting to someone and exhange face pics would you rather get a message saying sorry the attraction isn't there for me or would or ghosted? Me personally I'd prefer the message.
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I've never done this but I have been blocked a few times after exchanging face pics so I'd prefer to be told there was no attraction. Then again I haven't swapped facepics on here in a very long time for different reasons. |
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"When chatting to someone and exhange face pics would you rather get a message saying sorry the attraction isn't there for me or would or ghosted? Me personally I'd prefer the message.
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I'd prefer a message, but ultimately ghosting has the same result (not meeting) so if there is no attraction then continuing is pointless. |
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Message. Being ghosted after a face pic can have a really devastating impact on your self esteem.
I now hold off on sending them unless I think the conversation has been worthwhile and that the person seems genuine. Only fair to give them the chance to then say "uggh - no thank you"  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Message. Being ghosted after a face pic can have a really devastating impact on your self esteem.
I now hold off on sending them unless I think the conversation has been worthwhile and that the person seems genuine. Only fair to give them the chance to then say "uggh - no thank you" "
Exactly mate 100% |
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"Message. Being ghosted after a face pic can have a really devastating impact on your self esteem.
I now hold off on sending them unless I think the conversation has been worthwhile and that the person seems genuine. Only fair to give them the chance to then say "uggh - no thank you" "
We prefer early facepics, would rather know if its never going to happen and move on. At the end of the day a rejection is a rejection regardless of reply/no reply. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Message. Being ghosted after a face pic can have a really devastating impact on your self esteem.
I now hold off on sending them unless I think the conversation has been worthwhile and that the person seems genuine. Only fair to give them the chance to then say "uggh - no thank you"
We prefer early facepics, would rather know if its never going to happen and move on. At the end of the day a rejection is a rejection regardless of reply/no reply."
Agree rejection is rejection its shit either way but ghosting is a bit more shitty than the latter because you don't know why is it how you look or do they know you already do they know you from work the list goes on it doesnt just come down to physical attraction but also could have real life implications |
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"Message. Being ghosted after a face pic can have a really devastating impact on your self esteem.
I now hold off on sending them unless I think the conversation has been worthwhile and that the person seems genuine. Only fair to give them the chance to then say "uggh - no thank you"
We prefer early facepics, would rather know if its never going to happen and move on. At the end of the day a rejection is a rejection regardless of reply/no reply.
Agree rejection is rejection its shit either way but ghosting is a bit more shitty than the latter because you don't know why is it how you look or do they know you already do they know you from work the list goes on it doesnt just come down to physical attraction but also could have real life implications "
I'd say if it's a ghosting after sending facepics then you know why  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't send face pics then, not sure why a face is important on a swinging site, you don't look at the mantlepiece when you're poking the fire"
Because it's important to some people. We all get turned on by different things and different aspects of sexual partners. I'm surprised that this has to be explained. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Prefer to be told, I've been ghosted numerous times, stood up numerous times, even had one guy who knew what I look like, meet me for a coffee, look me up and down, says " no thanks your not for me" turned on his heels and left me standing in middle of coffee shop. Now I just don't bother |
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To be fair I find it extremely uncomfortable to tell people that I don't find them attractive.. I've also had people full on argue with me and calling me names for telling them they're not my type, so now I just don't do the "let's chat a bit then I'll send you my face photo". If a person doesn't attach their face photo to first or second message - I've no interest in any interaction with them.
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"Don't send face pics then, not sure why a face is important on a swinging site, you don't look at the mantlepiece when you're poking the fire"
Oh wow.
Maybe because swingers aren't dogs that fuck any other dog that happens to be on heat.
Basic human attraction and some kind of connection leads to better experience and not some half arsed 5 minute wonder where you're left to finish yourself off and potentially schedule a trip to a gum clinic 
Missus |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't send face pics then, not sure why a face is important on a swinging site, you don't look at the mantlepiece when you're poking the fire
Oh wow.
Maybe because swingers aren't dogs that fuck any other dog that happens to be on heat.
Basic human attraction and some kind of connection leads to better experience and not some half arsed 5 minute wonder where you're left to finish yourself off and potentially schedule a trip to a gum clinic
Missus "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be fair I find it extremely uncomfortable to tell people that I don't find them attractive.. I've also had people full on argue with me and calling me names for telling them they're not my type, so now I just don't do the "let's chat a bit then I'll send you my face photo". If a person doesn't attach their face photo to first or second message - I've no interest in any interaction with them.
Missus "
This is the thing like, you get arseholes everywhere and theyre usually next to a cunt or a dick but the block button exists so 'hey sorry the attraction isnt there for me" if they want to be a cunt block |
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"To be fair I find it extremely uncomfortable to tell people that I don't find them attractive.. I've also had people full on argue with me and calling me names for telling them they're not my type, so now I just don't do the "let's chat a bit then I'll send you my face photo". If a person doesn't attach their face photo to first or second message - I've no interest in any interaction with them.
Missus
This is the thing like, you get arseholes everywhere and theyre usually next to a cunt or a dick but the block button exists so 'hey sorry the attraction isnt there for me" if they want to be a cunt block "
Thing is - you only find out that they're a cunt after they start spewing their shite, so most logical way is to avoid the unpleasant situation all together.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be fair I find it extremely uncomfortable to tell people that I don't find them attractive.. I've also had people full on argue with me and calling me names for telling them they're not my type, so now I just don't do the "let's chat a bit then I'll send you my face photo". If a person doesn't attach their face photo to first or second message - I've no interest in any interaction with them.
Missus
This is the thing like, you get arseholes everywhere and theyre usually next to a cunt or a dick but the block button exists so 'hey sorry the attraction isnt there for me" if they want to be a cunt block
Thing is - you only find out that they're a cunt after they start spewing their shite, so most logical way is to avoid the unpleasant situation all together.
Missus "
Can't argue with that. Hope you have a good day  |
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What they look like is not that important to me. I never send a face pic anyway. Personality is more important to me. I rarely turn down people, and that would be because i dont have time, or im away, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm not sure it matters either way. If someone ghosts us after seeing our face photos it has the same effect as if they'd said we're not for them *shrug* |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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"Message. Being ghosted after a face pic can have a really devastating impact on your self esteem.
I now hold off on sending them unless I think the conversation has been worthwhile and that the person seems genuine. Only fair to give them the chance to then say "uggh - no thank you" "
This 100% |
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What this thread confirms yet again to me is that meeting people at events is so much easier, more time efficient and less pressurising than trying to meet privately. Some do prefer the private meets though and that's fine.
Maybe those having trouble with this stuff should consider attending events instead of relying on face pics and coffee for decision-making.
For the ladies, we're hosting a lunch social in Limerick soon. Also one in Belfast the following weekend. Ladies, you won't be ghosted at those! Nic  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't send face pics then, not sure why a face is important on a swinging site, you don't look at the mantlepiece when you're poking the fire
Oh wow.
Maybe because swingers aren't dogs that fuck any other dog that happens to be on heat.
Basic human attraction and some kind of connection leads to better experience and not some half arsed 5 minute wonder where you're left to finish yourself off and potentially schedule a trip to a gum clinic
Missus "
I had a uncomfortable coffee date when I first joined Fab where I had to tell him sorry there's not a attraction for me so don't want to take this further. The genuine disbelief on his face I'll never forget his reply " This is Fab there doesn't need to be a attraction it's just sex ". That's when I realised I'm just a set of 3 holes to some people on Fab and that makes my fanny drier than the Sahara. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are lots of single lady and couples profiles that demand a face pic or they would even converse never mind meet anyone. Why is it that male profiles that have to send their face pic? 99% of the time you’ll never see what the lady or the couple look like but they can pass their opinion on you!!! It’s the worst thing about fab!! |
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"There are lots of single lady and couples profiles that demand a face pic or they would even converse never mind meet anyone. Why is it that male profiles that have to send their face pic? 99% of the time you’ll never see what the lady or the couple look like but they can pass their opinion on you!!! It’s the worst thing about fab!!"
No-one HAS to send a facepic. Some people like to see who they are perhaps going to be having sex with, and thats just fine. Don't wanna send a facepic? No worries just don't. You have your requirements and they have theirs. |
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"There are lots of single lady and couples profiles that demand a face pic or they would even converse never mind meet anyone. Why is it that male profiles that have to send their face pic? 99% of the time you’ll never see what the lady or the couple look like but they can pass their opinion on you!!! It’s the worst thing about fab!!"
I've never sent a facepic to anyone on here like that.
My rule is anyone asking for a pic sends one first but anyone pushing for a pic can push on to someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are lots of single lady and couples profiles that demand a face pic or they would even converse never mind meet anyone. Why is it that male profiles that have to send their face pic? 99% of the time you’ll never see what the lady or the couple look like but they can pass their opinion on you!!! It’s the worst thing about fab!!"
You don't have to do anything though. Make your own rules. Tell them you'll reciprocate when they send theirs, or however YOU want to work it. |
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"I gave up sending them after one lady replied that she has asked for a face pic and not an arse pic.
#harshbutfair  "
I used that to my advantage on the non face pic friday thread the other day. No-one could tell the difference |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't send face pics then, not sure why a face is important on a swinging site, you don't look at the mantlepiece when you're poking the fire
Oh wow.
Maybe because swingers aren't dogs that fuck any other dog that happens to be on heat.
Basic human attraction and some kind of connection leads to better experience and not some half arsed 5 minute wonder where you're left to finish yourself off and potentially schedule a trip to a gum clinic
Missus
I had a uncomfortable coffee date when I first joined Fab where I had to tell him sorry there's not a attraction for me so don't want to take this further. The genuine disbelief on his face I'll never forget his reply " This is Fab there doesn't need to be a attraction it's just sex ". That's when I realised I'm just a set of 3 holes to some people on Fab and that makes my fanny drier than the Sahara. "
What a post lmao
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