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over a year ago
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"I'm not sure I'd go so far as to needing an 'emotional' connection. There needs to be some chemistry, as well as a physical attraction "
This for me, no interest in emotional connections, I've got that covered |
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Not all emotional connections are good or healthy especially on here as is very obvious at times.
A physical and biological connection with a natural chemistry thrown in for good measure works for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Physical in the first instance. And a sense of mutual respect.
I wouldn't be expecting or looking for real emotional connection here.. that can only happen over time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure I'd go so far as to needing an 'emotional' connection. There needs to be some chemistry, as well as a physical attraction "
This pretty much. Physical attraction first then we need to be able to rub along together. An emotional connection is a bit of a stretch...we have each other for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The 'we get our needs met at home with eachother' is obviously a great thing as a swinging couple. Essential even. But there's a mild sense of singles being used by couples as a novelty sex toy when you see these posts.
Not in a nasty way, it's just the blunt reality.
And it's where singles and couples needs often seem to conflict.
If that's all you came on fab for as a single person then you're flying, the fabled unicorn, but others would have to feel a sense of worth in the estimation of those they consider meeting and not just be 4 limbs and 3 holes to play with and be discarded.
It's always nicer to be seen and valued and wanted as a whole person. That'd be how I see the 'emotional' quotient being a factor for single fabbers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The 'we get our needs met at home with eachother' is obviously a great thing as a swinging couple. Essential even. But there's a mild sense of singles being used by couples as a novelty sex toy when you see these posts.
Not in a nasty way, it's just the blunt reality.
And it's where singles and couples needs often seem to conflict.
If that's all you came on fab for as a single person then you're flying, the fabled unicorn, but others would have to feel a sense of worth in the estimation of those they consider meeting and not just be 4 limbs and 3 holes to play with and be discarded.
It's always nicer to be seen and valued and wanted as a whole person. That'd be how I see the 'emotional' quotient being a factor for single fabbers."
I guess it's how you define an emotional connection, yes. None of us want to be used, not even us couples (unless that's your thing of course). We'd like to think we've treated both the men and women we've been with respectfully, and our encounters have satisfied their needs as much as ours.
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As long as I don't dislike the person then there's no need for an emotional connection but there does need to be a a meeting of minds in terms of the role play or type of sex that we are going to have.
I've definitely realized that there's more to it than a simple physical attraction which would have been the way I thought when I was out and about "on the pull"
Probably missed out on some great times but hey  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me the word emotional isnt the correct one, I'd say a mental connection or chemistry, then of course there has to be an element of lust too. "
I agree , chemistry and attraction ! You gotta be able to have a laugh and enjoy it without getting serious! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The 'we get our needs met at home with eachother' is obviously a great thing as a swinging couple. Essential even. But there's a mild sense of singles being used by couples as a novelty sex toy when you see these posts.
Not in a nasty way, it's just the blunt reality.
And it's where singles and couples needs often seem to conflict.
If that's all you came on fab for as a single person then you're flying, the fabled unicorn, but others would have to feel a sense of worth in the estimation of those they consider meeting and not just be 4 limbs and 3 holes to play with and be discarded.
It's always nicer to be seen and valued and wanted as a whole person. That'd be how I see the 'emotional' quotient being a factor for single fabbers.
I guess it's how you define an emotional connection, yes. None of us want to be used, not even us couples (unless that's your thing of course). We'd like to think we've treated both the men and women we've been with respectfully, and our encounters have satisfied their needs as much as ours.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has to be a bit of both 
Lengnt and girth? 
You're on a roll today  . How can you not get emotional AND physical when presented with an exemplary showpiece that is a man's pride and joy?!? "
Stop, you will make me cry |
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"Has to be a bit of both
Lengnt and girth?
You're on a roll today . How can you not get emotional AND physical when presented with an exemplary showpiece that is a man's pride and joy?!?
Stop, you will make me cry "
I take it you drive a Micra not a Range Rover |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has to be a bit of both
Lengnt and girth?
You're on a roll today . How can you not get emotional AND physical when presented with an exemplary showpiece that is a man's pride and joy?!?
Stop, you will make me cry
I take it you drive a Micra not a Range Rover "
It's silver whatever it is |
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"Has to be a bit of both
Lengnt and girth?
You're on a roll today . How can you not get emotional AND physical when presented with an exemplary showpiece that is a man's pride and joy?!?
Stop, you will make me cry
I take it you drive a Micra not a Range Rover
It's silver whatever it is "
And pretty? |
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"For me the word emotional isnt the correct one, I'd say a mental connection or chemistry, then of course there has to be an element of lust too. "
Yep...absolutely agree with this. For me, a mental connection & chemistry just leads to better sex in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has to be a bit of both
Lengnt and girth?
You're on a roll today . How can you not get emotional AND physical when presented with an exemplary showpiece that is a man's pride and joy?!?
Stop, you will make me cry
I take it you drive a Micra not a Range Rover
It's silver whatever it is
And pretty? "
Takes diesel |
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By *ere70Man
over a year ago
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chemistry is important of course... but i like to be friends with who i am, and its not "love" but just friendship, people you can joke with even hard jokes and noone is offended. maybe i am dreamer but this is possibile |
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"Has to be a bit of both
Lengnt and girth?
You're on a roll today . How can you not get emotional AND physical when presented with an exemplary showpiece that is a man's pride and joy?!?
Stop, you will make me cry
I take it you drive a Micra not a Range Rover
It's silver whatever it is
And pretty?
Takes diesel "
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Physical attraction is a really good start for us, having a connection, in the sense of being able to have good banter and craic is just as important. Stupid questions and comments, or being totally full of themselves or the slightest hint of drama and we are out.
Emotional is not something we look for or want. I personally feel getting emotional involved is a risky move. But hey what to we know !!! |
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You could say that friendship is an emotional connection, in that, you are happy when around them.
It's when it becomes romantically emotional that you need to either check out, or if single to see if the feeling is mutual.
I'd imagine that romantic connections are common on here, considering the nature of the site and that's when the drama can start.
But it's great when relationships, engagements and marriages happen through Fab. You'd be delighted for them really  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Five years ago We met on here just looking for no strings attached riding lol
Now we are married
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Congratulations...has your hubby a brother I can borrow lol? |
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"You could say that friendship is an emotional connection, in that, you are happy when around them.
It's when it becomes romantically emotional that you need to either check out, or if single to see if the feeling is mutual.
I'd imagine that romantic connections are common on here, considering the nature of the site and that's when the drama can start.
But it's great when relationships, engagements and marriages happen through Fab. You'd be delighted for them really "
I agree friendship is a type of emotional connection… getting on with someone… liking them
Doesn’t mean you are gonna want to marry them… but then again it happens to some even when they are not looking!
Congrats again to madhatters xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both ,plus if no respect for each other then it's a waste of time as if no respect it's a total insult, it may be the site is is but imoh respect is something you have to have . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what's more important on fab physical connection or emotional one or do you need both. Or can you just function with one rather then other just curious see what people say "
I think more should chill out not to take things so serious on the forum, it's only a bit of craic if you can't take it .... off  |
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"So what's more important on fab physical connection or emotional one or do you need both. Or can you just function with one rather then other just curious see what people say
I think more should chill out not to take things so serious on the forum, it's only a bit of craic if you can't take it .... off "
Amen Lou xx  |
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I feel that physical attraction with a healthy and balanced dose of Non-romantic emotional connection (let's call it affection or friendship or chemistry etc..) could be very rewarding, fulfilling and pleasurable to all involved.
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Romantic emotional connections on the other hand, which in most cases come with unnecessary Drama and expectations of physical monogamy (which is quite unrealistic these days) are a No No No. They get messy and ultimately lead to someone getting hurt. I am staying away from that and would rather be single forever than being in a suffocating physically monogamous relationship ever again.
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Having said that, if I am ever lucky enough like the one or two examples mentioned above to find that someone who is GENUINELY open-minded, and not just think they are, and who is capable of enjoying the romantic emotional monogamy and its security without any possessiveness, jealousy and the demands for the prison of physical exclusivity, then I would be a happy bunny and could consider the idea of going all in. That kind of person is more rare than unicorns and yet to be found.
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@ Madhatter, well done you two for finding eachother. Wish you both all the happiness and good fortune in life xxx. |
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