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"Putting a knife to their mouth" No exceptions for a knife kink? | |||
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"Silently? I'm sorrybI don't understand the question "Not understanding simple questions | |||
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"People in the queue at the checkout with a full conveyor of food that dont let me skip them when I've only one thing in my basket " That's the signal to start judging them silently on their eating habits studing their shopping items until it's your turn. | |||
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"If you silently judge Catholicism do you not judge Protestantism I think you mean Christianity but then why stop at one religion "Both my father and my other half were forced by the church to be born in Catholic mother and baby homes, and my father went on afterwards to be abused in a Catholic school. They were both systematically lied to afterwards and allowed to be physically and mentally abused by the systems in the church. I actually feel sick with anger when I see a Catholic priest. How anyone can be proudly part of this particular organisation when these systematic abuses are so well known, and are present in every jurisdiction that they operate, is completely beyond me. Hence judgement on them specifically. | |||
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"People who take up 2 parking spaces " Strongly concur | |||
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"People who take up 2 parking spaces " I usually hock up a lugey on their window if I see a car that has deliberately parked in to spots to protect their car fuck em or if there's a space beside their drivers door I park my passenger side door as close as possible to their drivers door. | |||
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"People in the queue at the checkout with a full conveyor of food that dont let me skip them when I've only one thing in my basket That's the signal to start judging them silently on their eating habits studing their shopping items until it's your turn. "As I stand there with my Tayto and bar of chocolate | |||
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"Both my father and my other half were forced by the church to be born in Catholic mother and baby homes, and my father went on afterwards to be abused in a Catholic school. They were both systematically lied to afterwards and allowed to be physically and mentally abused by the systems in the church. I actually feel sick with anger when I see a Catholic priest. How anyone can be proudly part of this particular organisation when these systematic abuses are so well known, and are present in every jurisdiction that they operate, is completely beyond me. Hence judgement on them specifically." This is simply awful but, very sadly, the painful reality for so many... Like you, the various abuses of the Catholic Church within Ireland have had real and lasting impacts on people close to me and, while I am very much respectful of a person's personal religious beliefs, I have had judgement, when it comes to practicing Catholics not taking a more meaningful stand against the abuses of their Church & some of its clergy. Meaningful reparations have not been made, in my view, and I hold the whole church responsible for that, not just the abusers. I will add that I think the Irish government hasn't taken real responsibility for their part in it, either. So, lots of judgement there... | |||
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"People in the queue at the checkout with a full conveyor of food that dont let me skip them when I've only one thing in my basket " People who use a basket when they're only buying one item!  | |||
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"Taking personal phone call in work on loudspeaker or face time " Speakerphone in public.. I was in my local Lidl the other day and was trying to get some eggs but there was a woman talking on the phone blocking me. She had the phone on loudspeaker and was speaking quite loudly herself. I politely said "excuse me, I just want to get some eggs".. She glared at me and said "do you mind, I'm on the phone". I said "yes, I know you're on the phone. The entire shop knows your on the phone but I still want the eggs" She moved reluctantly and I got my eggs. As I was walking away I could hear the two of them talking about how rude people in Lidl are. I could only agree.  | |||
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" Those who have been standing in a queue for an age, but still don't have their choice of payment ready, causing further delays. (Silently) " That 
It's like... Yes... Just like last time it's not fucking free... Take your €10 off vouchers out while you wait to be served not after you've out your card in the machine ..
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"Both my father and my other half were forced by the church to be born in Catholic mother and baby homes, and my father went on afterwards to be abused in a Catholic school. They were both systematically lied to afterwards and allowed to be physically and mentally abused by the systems in the church. I actually feel sick with anger when I see a Catholic priest. How anyone can be proudly part of this particular organisation when these systematic abuses are so well known, and are present in every jurisdiction that they operate, is completely beyond me. Hence judgement on them specifically. This is simply awful but, very sadly, the painful reality for so many... Like you, the various abuses of the Catholic Church within Ireland have had real and lasting impacts on people close to me and, while I am very much respectful of a person's personal religious beliefs, I have had judgement, when it comes to practicing Catholics not taking a more meaningful stand against the abuses of their Church & some of its clergy. Meaningful reparations have not been made, in my view, and I hold the whole church responsible for that, not just the abusers. I will add that I think the Irish government hasn't taken real responsibility for their part in it, either. So, lots of judgement there... " it wasn’t just the Catholic Church it went on in unfortunately children and adults were abused in most religions | |||
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"Taking personal phone call in work on loudspeaker or face time Speakerphone in public.. I was in my local Lidl the other day and was trying to get some eggs but there was a woman talking on the phone blocking me. She had the phone on loudspeaker and was speaking quite loudly herself. I politely said "excuse me, I just want to get some eggs".. She glared at me and said "do you mind, I'm on the phone". I said "yes, I know you're on the phone. The entire shop knows your on the phone but I still want the eggs" She moved reluctantly and I got my eggs. As I was walking away I could hear the two of them talking about how rude people in Lidl are. I could only agree. "Getting tyres on the car last night and a Scottish guy stood in the waiting area right in front of the TV talking loudly on his phone. There were half a dozen people trying to watch the TV and one or two asked him to move to no avail. The depot manager threw me the remote and i turned the volume up so loud he couldn't hear the person he was talking to and had to go outside. Finished his call and came back in a fighting mood but couldn't work out who had the remote | |||
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"People who listen to songs without headphones on public transport." People that use public transport  | |||
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"People who decide to have a full blown conversation with the till operator when there's a queue forming behind them " This could be the only person that they may speak to during the day so I wouldn't judge | |||
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"People in the queue at the checkout with a full conveyor of food that dont let me skip them when I've only one thing in my basket People who use a basket when they're only buying one item! "People who stand and stare behind you with one thing in their basket EXPECTING you to let them skip, while you're efficiently and hurriedly unloading your trolley because you're a busy person 
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"People who decide to have a full blown conversation with the till operator when there's a queue forming behind them This could be the only person that they may speak to during the day so I wouldn't judge " Agree, I read recently that a Dutch supermarket are introducing "slow lane checkouts" for that very reason | |||
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"People in the queue at the checkout with a full conveyor of food that dont let me skip them when I've only one thing in my basket People who use a basket when they're only buying one item!
People who stand and stare behind you with one thing in their basket EXPECTING you to let them skip, while you're efficiently and hurriedly unloading your trolley because you're a busy person
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"People in the queue at the checkout with a full conveyor of food that dont let me skip them when I've only one thing in my basket People who use a basket when they're only buying one item!
People who stand and stare behind you with one thing in their basket EXPECTING you to let them skip, while you're efficiently and hurriedly unloading your trolley because you're a busy person
PERSPECTIVE
PS I generally let these people go but never if they're standing there expecting it!"I gave up letting ppl thru, if you want convenience go pay extra at a smaller shop | |||
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"Taking personal phone call in work on loudspeaker or face time Speakerphone in public.. I was in my local Lidl the other day and was trying to get some eggs but there was a woman talking on the phone blocking me. She had the phone on loudspeaker and was speaking quite loudly herself. I politely said "excuse me, I just want to get some eggs".. She glared at me and said "do you mind, I'm on the phone". I said "yes, I know you're on the phone. The entire shop knows your on the phone but I still want the eggs" She moved reluctantly and I got my eggs. As I was walking away I could hear the two of them talking about how rude people in Lidl are. I could only agree.
Getting tyres on the car last night and a Scottish guy stood in the waiting area right in front of the TV talking loudly on his phone.
There were half a dozen people trying to watch the TV and one or two asked him to move to no avail.
The depot manager threw me the remote and i turned the volume up so loud he couldn't hear the person he was talking to and had to go outside.
Finished his call and came back in a fighting mood but couldn't work out who had the remote "Omg love it
Ignorant people (but I’m not always quiet about it)
Courtesy and politeness don’t cost much and make the world a more pleasant place.
On Fab, people bragging how tolerant and drama free they are… above all once you know them and know it’s far far far from true! | |||
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"Grown men wearing tracksuits when not training " What about runners when not running? | |||
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"Grown men wearing tracksuits when not training What about runners when not running? " That’s like almost everyone nowadays lol | |||
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There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
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"People in the queue at the checkout with a full conveyor of food that dont let me skip them when I've only one thing in my basket People who use a basket when they're only buying one item!
People who stand and stare behind you with one thing in their basket EXPECTING you to let them skip, while you're efficiently and hurriedly unloading your trolley because you're a busy person
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PS I generally let these people go but never if they're standing there expecting it!"Believe you me if I was standing behind you in the Queue I wouldn't want to skip | |||
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out
Deep breath .....
Sorry, didn't mean to bring the thread down. I know it's just for fun "Sure why would you apologise... Everyone needs to rant sometimes and ya can't do it in front of the kids | |||
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out "Ah sure that's the wimmin for ya! | |||
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out
Ah sure that's the wimmin for ya! "I tell ya - I need a strong coffee, a decent night's sleep and a good ol' seeing to | |||
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out
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Sorry, didn't mean to bring the thread down. I know it's just for fun
Sure why would you apologise...
Everyone needs to rant sometimes and ya can't do it in front of the kids "I sure got it off my chest here today
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out "So true noone knows what's going on, I let a lady go ahead of me in the queue the other day, she looked so surprised and kept thanking me. There are days I might not speak to anyone do if I get a chance to chat to a cashier I will. | |||
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out
Ah sure that's the wimmin for ya!
I tell ya - I need a strong coffee, a decent night's sleep and a good ol' seeing to "I can fix you up with one of them. I know a place that has good coffee | |||
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"Well, that is all entirely valid and many will identify and empathise with you. Just have to realise & accept that the person(s) you might think of when listing all of that just might tick a lot of your situational boxes themselves and be in just as highly stressed of a place in life. Keep on keeping on, being our best selves. People like to say 'Be kind' these days. Remember to be kind to yourself first and that will fuel the rest "Indeed, and they were examples on the thread I used to try and make exactly that point in a roundabout way. I frequently stop in my tracks and take stock of my thoughts/behaviour towards others for exactly that reason but am also human and not always successful - and I certainly didn't mean to make any personal digs aimed at anyone in particular. . I just wanted to point out that a little kindness can go a long way for more people than you'd think.
Anger, aggression and contempt breeds the same. It's amazing how a different approach in difficult situations can be turned to a positive by a positive attitude and behaviour even when you think it's not called for.
Being kind to yourself is often the hardest part!
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I tell ya - I need a strong coffee, a decent night's sleep and a good ol' seeing to
I can fix you up with one of them. I know a place that has good coffee "As long as it's not Costa | |||
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" That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out
So true noone knows what's going on, I let a lady go ahead of me in the queue the other day, she looked so surprised and kept thanking me.
There are days I might not speak to anyone do if I get a chance to chat to a cashier I will.
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" People who stand in the queue at the supermarket ahead of me, play on their phones then fart around looking for shopping bags when it's time to pack and then take another minute to produce cash or a payment card "Jeez, I'd never be caught farting in public | |||
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
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"People in the queue at the checkout with a full conveyor of food that dont let me skip them when I've only one thing in my basket People who use a basket when they're only buying one item!
People who stand and stare behind you with one thing in their basket EXPECTING you to let them skip, while you're efficiently and hurriedly unloading your trolley because you're a busy person
PERSPECTIVE
PS I generally let these people go but never if they're standing there expecting it!
Believe you me if I was standing behind you in the Queue I wouldn't want to skip "In which case I'd bend over a bit more and maybe wiggle it a bit while taking my stuff out of the trolley really really slowly | |||
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"Well, that is all entirely valid and many will identify and empathise with you. Just have to realise & accept that the person(s) you might think of when listing all of that just might tick a lot of your situational boxes themselves and be in just as highly stressed of a place in life. Keep on keeping on, being our best selves. People like to say 'Be kind' these days. Remember to be kind to yourself first and that will fuel the rest
Indeed, and they were examples on the thread I used to try and make exactly that point in a roundabout way.
I frequently stop in my tracks and take stock of my thoughts/behaviour towards others for exactly that reason but am also human and not always successful - and I certainly didn't mean to make any personal digs aimed at anyone in particular. . I just wanted to point out that a little kindness can go a long way for more people than you'd think.
Anger, aggression and contempt breeds the same. It's amazing how a different approach in difficult situations can be turned to a positive by a positive attitude and behaviour even when you think it's not called for.
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out "I agree with you mostly. That’s why most of the time I don’t react to certain bad behaviour (even if they may annoy me silently) because as I say to my kids, you don’t know what that person is dealing with in her/his life. We all have bad days. But they are limits nonetheless, having a bad day or a bad run in life should not excuse everything. And I’m sure you agree. I don’t think any of us are perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals. When you pass superficial chitchat, you often realise that we all deal with some problems at some stage, some more serious than others… and while some manage to handle big ones, others get swamped under what the others would call small ones. I do hope you are ok xxx Ranting is definitely needed from time to time… or a punching bag… that can help too Big hugs xx | |||
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out
Deep breath .....
Sorry, didn't mean to bring the thread down. I know it's just for fun
Sure why would you apologise...
Everyone needs to rant sometimes and ya can't do it in front of the kids
I sure got it off my chest here today
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Women not putting it up
The amount of times I've nearly fallen in
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
That's my rant over for today. Fuck me, I'm worn out ". It could not have been put better. Well said
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#never-go-online-when-in-a-mood#
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"Perfectly well behaved, well balanced and adjusted individuals who haven't got a fucking clue what others are dealing with in their day-to-day not so perfect lives with conditions, disabilities and mental health issues or who have children with the same. While you judge those of us who do their damnest not to be a burden, imposition or hindrance while you're waiting in a queue at the checkout when I have one item in the basket because the other stuff I needed was out of stock or because I've been called to an emergency and that's all I have time for and I'm in a hissy because I'm panicked and don't have the right payment ready. You're at a crossroads where I am so lost in my own world that I didn't have the time to salute you for letting me out or didn't have the kindness to allow you out because again, I'm running late for an important appointment with a needy child. While you have managed to park your car perfectly whereas some of us struggle to organise neuro diverse children for appointments and are running late and the only parking space available is to park across 2 spots because the last person parking had to park awkwardly across 2 spaces for whatever reason .
There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
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The amount of times I've nearly fallen in
As the saying goes “look before you leap”
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"Life now presents a very varied tapestry, that my long experience counsels me never to judge nor denigrate in any fashion; I may not like certain behaviours that I see such as aggression, prejudice or overt violence, but who am I to judge anyone; I live my life as I choose as most others do too. Judge not and you shall not be judged; live and let live, as best you can!" Excellent it’s a pity only a few will do this | |||
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"How they dress, I know, so judgmental How clean the inside of Their car is Sometimes what they drink, ha oh god, I’m An awful person "Lol what drink would get someone judged out of interest | |||
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"If you silently judge Catholicism do you not judge Protestantism I think you mean Christianity but then why stop at one religion
Both my father and my other half were forced by the church to be born in Catholic mother and baby homes, and my father went on afterwards to be abused in a Catholic school. They were both systematically lied to afterwards and allowed to be physically and mentally abused by the systems in the church. I actually feel sick with anger when I see a Catholic priest. How anyone can be proudly part of this particular organisation when these systematic abuses are so well known, and are present in every jurisdiction that they operate, is completely beyond me. Hence judgement on them specifically."If tour going to judge people let it be individuals who do wrong... not those who try do right ... let it be those who do wrong by hiding stuff .. not those who dont... Those pei3sts and such who did your family wrong and those who covered it up are wrong or at the very least weak and shameful. Not all priests are .... not to trivialize your situation. Imo its like not all Russians are wrong . | |||
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"People who decide to have a full blown conversation with the till operator when there's a queue forming behind them This could be the only person that they may speak to during the day so I wouldn't judge Them cunts Agree, I read recently that a Dutch supermarket are introducing "slow lane checkouts" for that very reason " | |||
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"Couples who have just met, and are so unsuited to each other, but will "settle".... For whatever reason. " Holy judgment call batman
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There's bad behaviour and ill manners and even those can be misconstrued at the best of times when you're dealing with people who have different needs to the "normal" neuro typical person. You can count yourself lucky if that's you and your loved ones!
Whatever happened to showing a little kindness, empathy and compassion for those who you know nothing about or the struggles they live daily. A kind smile, encouraging word or oversight never goes amiss.
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"Life now presents a very varied tapestry, that my long experience counsels me never to judge nor denigrate in any fashion; I may not like certain behaviours that I see such as aggression, prejudice or overt violence, but who am I to judge anyone; I live my life as I choose as most others do too. Judge not and you shall not be judged; live and let live, as best you can!" Ah jeasus ... you of all people should know ... living life how ya choose always ,,, is the fasted way to end up judged and sentenced | |||
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"If you silently judge Catholicism do you not judge Protestantism I think you mean Christianity but then why stop at one religion
Both my father and my other half were forced by the church to be born in Catholic mother and baby homes, and my father went on afterwards to be abused in a Catholic school. They were both systematically lied to afterwards and allowed to be physically and mentally abused by the systems in the church. I actually feel sick with anger when I see a Catholic priest. How anyone can be proudly part of this particular organisation when these systematic abuses are so well known, and are present in every jurisdiction that they operate, is completely beyond me. Hence judgement on them specifically.
If tour going to judge people let it be individuals who do wrong... not those who try do right ... let it be those who do wrong by hiding stuff .. not those who dont...
Those pei3sts and such who did your family wrong and those who covered it up are wrong or at the very least weak and shameful. Not all priests are .... not to trivialize your situation.
Imo its like not all Russians are wrong . "No thank you... I will continue to silently judge those who stand up and be counted with the abusers, those who hide and move around the abusers, and those who to this day fail to pay (court ordered) abuse reparations to survivors, and those who believe that babies can be "born of sin", and those who preach in hiv hotspots that condoms cause aids, and those who falsified babies death records in Bessbourough to cover up the brutality, and those who put these sinful babies in mass unmarked graves in Tuam, and those who forced mothers to give their babies away and to work to atone for their sins. The supporters of these people are trying to do right you say? Give me a break. They have their head firmly buried in the sand and can't see the horror that they are financually supporting and enabling each Sunday. | |||
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"If you silently judge Catholicism do you not judge Protestantism I think you mean Christianity but then why stop at one religion
Both my father and my other half were forced by the church to be born in Catholic mother and baby homes, and my father went on afterwards to be abused in a Catholic school. They were both systematically lied to afterwards and allowed to be physically and mentally abused by the systems in the church. I actually feel sick with anger when I see a Catholic priest. How anyone can be proudly part of this particular organisation when these systematic abuses are so well known, and are present in every jurisdiction that they operate, is completely beyond me. Hence judgement on them specifically.
If tour going to judge people let it be individuals who do wrong... not those who try do right ... let it be those who do wrong by hiding stuff .. not those who dont...
Those pei3sts and such who did your family wrong and those who covered it up are wrong or at the very least weak and shameful. Not all priests are .... not to trivialize your situation.
Imo its like not all Russians are wrong .
No thank you... I will continue to silently judge those who stand up and be counted with the abusers, those who hide and move around the abusers, and those who to this day fail to pay (court ordered) abuse reparations to survivors, and those who believe that babies can be "born of sin", and those who preach in hiv hotspots that condoms cause aids, and those who falsified babies death records in Bessbourough to cover up the brutality, and those who put these sinful babies in mass unmarked graves in Tuam, and those who forced mothers to give their babies away and to work to atone for their sins. The supporters of these people are trying to do right you say? Give me a break. They have their head firmly buried in the sand and can't see the horror that they are financually supporting and enabling each Sunday. "No the point I'm making is most of those people are dead! All I'm suggesting is to tar all with one brush, dosnt strike me as true justice. | |||
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"Guys who walk around with a sweater draped over their shoulders and the back of their neck..... you know the type... propper knobs... I usually stare at them with a pure boulde head on me and shake my head in disgust "Hahahaha . I see me in this reaction
And guys wearing shorts and ankle socks in winter when they aren't even required to. It chills me.
But look we all judge each other all the time especially on appearance. Just need to cop on to it and realise a/ we could be wrong b/ 90% of the time it's none of our business and c/ unless it's illegal, being silent is probably best. | |||
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"Guys who walk around with a sweater draped over their shoulders and the back of their neck..... you know the type... propper knobs... I usually stare at them with a pure boulde head on me and shake my head in disgust
Hahahaha . I see me in this reaction
And guys wearing shorts and ankle socks in winter when they aren't even required to. It chills me.
But look we all judge each other all the time especially on appearance. Just need to cop on to it and realise a/ we could be wrong b/ 90% of the time it's none of our business and c/ unless it's illegal, being silent is probably best."Nah.... I prefer to let them know they're leaving the side down .... being subtle is difficult for me a lot of the time, especially in moments like the one decribed | |||
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