im sure im not the only one here but how many are here just looking for friendship and someone to chat to and anyone who denies bet there a liar at least im honest yes i feel isolated and lonely no i dont want symphaty im asking for other users to aknowlegde and maybe actually ;listen to other users we aint all looking for sex (maybe)
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By *ustBoWoman
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I'm sure there are people who are lonely and want to just chat. BUT in my experience from answering messages and saying no thanks and then people saying could we just chat as no one chats to them .When I have they then expect you to meet them after a few messages.The last guy who did this,after a handful of messages started pushing to meet even though I had been very clear to him from the start I had no interest in him that way but he said no one was chatting and he felt lonely so I stupidly felt a bit sorry for him and chatted on and off.I even told him twice more over the space of 24 hours I wasn't going to meet him and he still pushed for a coffee meet when I finally said a pretty blunt no he then expected me to meet him for sex because he had taken time to chat for a handful of days. 
So now no I won't fall for sob stories and chat to people who claim they just want to chat after I've said no to them. I don't have time for it and I can't be dealing with the expectations and agro it brings when they believe that a chat means they get a meet.
So while yes I'm sure people are lonely on here but it's fab most don't come on here with expectations of just a chat. In my experience chats lead to them thinking they are getting sex. So I for one won't do it anymore. |
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I'm sorry for your situation it must be difficult. Loneliness is so painful.
This IS the wrong place to look though. This place does not generally aid single male loneliness. It will probably make you feel worse.
Join a community group. Get involved with something locally. Join a gym, A men's shed. Do a course. A book club. A movie club.
Nearly anything would be better for you than here. |
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"I'm sorry for your situation it must be difficult. Loneliness is so painful.
This IS the wrong place to look though. This place does not generally aid single male loneliness. It will probably make you feel worse.
Join a community group. Get involved with something locally. Join a gym, A men's shed. Do a course. A book club. A movie club.
Nearly anything would be better for you than here."
Would totaly agree with this, as a single guy on here if you feel that way already this kind of site/app will just make them feelings worse
Apps like meetup might be better as give you the chance to meet new people on a more platonic level and try find a new friend group for yourself |
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"im sure im not the only one here but how many are here just looking for friendship and someone to chat to and anyone who denies bet there a liar at least im honest yes i feel isolated and lonely no i dont want symphaty im asking for other users to aknowlegde and maybe actually ;listen to other users we aint all looking for sex (maybe)
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Like it's been said OP this place sounds like the wrong place for you after all this site is what it is there are plenty of other places you can try where people simply want to chat and nothing more and yes this place would be more bad for you than good wish you well op with whatever you do  |
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Fab can turn into a very lonely place for some if it's affecting your mental health I always suggest hiding your profile. This time of year there's new things starting like local Operation Transformation the local Men's and Women's sheds, community gardens evening classes etc. Or if people are looking to meet new people on Fab there's socials going on all around the country. I did the couch to 5 K when I moved to New area and met lots of lovely people. |
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"I'm sorry for your situation it must be difficult. Loneliness is so painful.
This IS the wrong place to look though. This place does not generally aid single male loneliness. It will probably make you feel worse.
Join a community group. Get involved with something locally. Join a gym, A men's shed. Do a course. A book club. A movie club.
Nearly anything would be better for you than here."
Couldn't agree more |
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"im sure im not the only one here but how many are here just looking for friendship and someone to chat to and anyone who denies bet there a liar at least im honest yes i feel isolated and lonely no i dont want symphaty im asking for other users to aknowlegde and maybe actually ;listen to other users we aint all looking for sex (maybe)
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First, my respect to you on expressing and letting your emotion out…hats off to your courage. Most of us we suppress our emotions, which are considered by others as negative energy. We are always expected
to have the happy face, all grand, life is sound…but everyone of us in our lives we go through some pain in one way or other. So it’s better to express rather than to suppress it in our subconscious, which is not good for one’s mental health.
The truth is a person can still feel lonely in a company of people laughing and having a good time. It’s highly depends on an individual state of mind. Also the meet ups, Gym, Book Club, Yoga, Art classes, Fab, Tinder, Fancy Apps…all are mere pleasure…once the classes are over or once you put your phone down you will be back to your lonely state…I bet you have tried these all the fancy apps and classes already.
I would like to give one example from my counselling session with a 23 year old, working in a tech company with good salary. He was unhappy with his life. He said ”nobody likes me at office, I feel lonely and desperate and I have no friends to hang out.
I asked him, “have you ever expressed to your colleagues that you like to hang out with them? have you ever taken any initiatives, like planning for a movie or outing? he was quite and his face was shut.
Here expectations and assumptions are the route cause for his problem. So in summary I quoted “Be the lighthouse and spread/give your love and kindness to the universe and enjoy the process of giving…then in right time you will receive back in abundance”
The above example might sound you a bit of sympathy. Since I am picking it from other person’s life.
From my personal life experience. I was in my early 20’s. I was completely lost it, broke and depressed. I took my mobile and texted to random numbers roughly around 50 saying that I am lonely and depressed. LOL that was mad…I got only one reply and that changed my state of mind it was - You will be alright…All is well. That put a smile on my face and I had a kind of greatest satisfaction. I am always grateful to that one unknown.
Earleybird66, just look at the replies you got for your post with this title Loneliness…10 replies and thousand of people would have read your post. So mate you are grand and you are not alone on this there are very many.
“The capacity of being alone is the capacity of love”. - From the book “Love, Freedom and Aloneness”. -Osho. This book talks about the difference between loneliness and aloneness and it’s worth reading. I also recommend “Power” by Rhonda Byrne, this one is mainstream though…I personally loved it.
On a juicy note try exploring Tantra techniques from the Buddhism point of view. Today it’s highly commercialised and lot of them thinks that Tantra is massage and sex which is not true lol
Also here are a few movies that kindled my mind and touched my heart:
Children of Heaven
Ikiru
My Octopus Teacher
This platform is yours simply play and enjoy the process! Join the socials send them messages and believe me your friends are here. BELIEVE
Xx and HUGE HUGS
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"im sure im not the only one here but how many are here just looking for friendship and someone to chat to and anyone who denies bet there a liar at least im honest yes i feel isolated and lonely no i dont want symphaty im asking for other users to aknowlegde and maybe actually ;listen to other users we aint all looking for sex (maybe)
First, my respect to you on expressing and letting your emotion out…hats off to your courage. Most of us we suppress our emotions, which are considered by others as negative energy. We are always expected
to have the happy face, all grand, life is sound…but everyone of us in our lives we go through some pain in one way or other. So it’s better to express rather than to suppress it in our subconscious, which is not good for one’s mental health.
The truth is a person can still feel lonely in a company of people laughing and having a good time. It’s highly depends on an individual state of mind. Also the meet ups, Gym, Book Club, Yoga, Art classes, Fab, Tinder, Fancy Apps…all are mere pleasure…once the classes are over or once you put your phone down you will be back to your lonely state…I bet you have tried these all the fancy apps and classes already.
I would like to give one example from my counselling session with a 23 year old, working in a tech company with good salary. He was unhappy with his life. He said ”nobody likes me at office, I feel lonely and desperate and I have no friends to hang out.
I asked him, “have you ever expressed to your colleagues that you like to hang out with them? have you ever taken any initiatives, like planning for a movie or outing? he was quite and his face was shut.
Here expectations and assumptions are the route cause for his problem. So in summary I quoted “Be the lighthouse and spread/give your love and kindness to the universe and enjoy the process of giving…then in right time you will receive back in abundance”
The above example might sound you a bit of sympathy. Since I am picking it from other person’s life.
From my personal life experience. I was in my early 20’s. I was completely lost it, broke and depressed. I took my mobile and texted to random numbers roughly around 50 saying that I am lonely and depressed. LOL that was mad…I got only one reply and that changed my state of mind it was - You will be alright…All is well. That put a smile on my face and I had a kind of greatest satisfaction. I am always grateful to that one unknown.
Earleybird66, just look at the replies you got for your post with this title Loneliness…10 replies and thousand of people would have read your post. So mate you are grand and you are not alone on this there are very many.
“The capacity of being alone is the capacity of love”. - From the book “Love, Freedom and Aloneness”. -Osho. This book talks about the difference between loneliness and aloneness and it’s worth reading. I also recommend “Power” by Rhonda Byrne, this one is mainstream though…I personally loved it.
On a juicy note try exploring Tantra techniques from the Buddhism point of view. Today it’s highly commercialised and lot of them thinks that Tantra is massage and sex which is not true lol
Also here are a few movies that kindled my mind and touched my heart:
Children of Heaven
Ikiru
My Octopus Teacher
This platform is yours simply play and enjoy the process! Join the socials send them messages and believe me your friends are here. BELIEVE
Xx and HUGE HUGS
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What a lovely response fair play..
And op I commend your bravery in posting but echoing others I fear this is not the place to find what you are looking for... there have been some excellent suggestions I think it would be worthwhile exploring and the best of luck |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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Loneliness, isolation and depression can often be inter-connected.
Go to your GP, tell them how you have been feeling and ask for their help, which will not always be medication; the Nurse Practitioner will have access to local resources and contacts such as sheds and other local groups.
Volunteering is satisfying because giving shifts the focus from yourself to others' needs. |
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"Fab can turn into a very lonely place for some if it's affecting your mental health I always suggest hiding your profile. This time of year there's new things starting like local Operation Transformation the local Men's and Women's sheds, community gardens evening classes etc. Or if people are looking to meet new people on Fab there's socials going on all around the country. I did the couch to 5 K when I moved to New area and met lots of lovely people. "
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