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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I have just gotten off a 2 hour call with a good friend who normally would never call on with relationship issues.
He has been suspecting his partner is cheating on him here's why,
Phone constantly on silent and during the night lighting up at odd hours.
Phones used to be synced with ipad and has since been removed, and phone pin changed
New working ours adding additional hour here or there, he works away so cant verify its true.
He has been getting accused regularly of cheating which he swears that he isn't.
Hot cold and arguments started for any reason.
Constantly getting compared to other Girlfriends partners.
Getting accused of gaslighting, had to Google that!
They are luckily only tied together with a property and don't have kids.
What are others opinions on this?
I asked him if she was cheating would he stay and try to sort it he said yes, as long as its not a personal friend..
My opinion is to just walk, simply due to the fact the trust is gone.
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Regardless of whether she is cheating or not.... neither side are happy with the relationship as it stands. Ideally they would have a honest conversation about what is going on in their relationship and both have the opportunity to air whatever it is that's on their minds. If a way forward to the satisfaction of both can't be found then separation would be an option. Couples counselling can facilitate this discussion if they can't do it themselves. |
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over a year ago
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"Stay out of it ..people go through their own struggles in life ..lend a friendly ear but keep advice to yourself...if they work through it you could come out of it looking like a dick"
Agree with above.
Be there if he needs you, but don't advise. Similar thing happened to me. A really good friend had a gf, he really loved her, she was continually cheating. He asked my advice, I told him. Happened several time from he found out, he forgave her each time. So, from my own experience, love is blind and you will be the one seen as being in the wrong. |
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"Regardless of whether she is cheating or not.... neither side are happy with the relationship as it stands. Ideally they would have a honest conversation about what is going on in their relationship and both have the opportunity to air whatever it is that's on their minds. If a way forward to the satisfaction of both can't be found then separation would be an option. Couples counselling can facilitate this discussion if they can't do it themselves."
I'd go with this. I would hate giving advice on this topic.
They need to sit down and have a serious adult conversation that can't become an arguement.
Put it all out on the table. As above counselling could facilitate this.
Your friend has lost trust, she may have too. But if she's not open to that conversation, high likely the relationship has run its course! |
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"It feels like their relationship has progressed to its natural next stop: fabswingers.com
That might bring them closer, no ?"
This is the exact type of relationship that is absolutely not suitable for Fab.
They'd definitely be separated in a month! |
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I'm with the consensus here tbh.
Personally I'd have ran a mile along time ago..
I am going to give him an ear however I know how I am and eventually I'll get sick of being agony aunt and tell him exactly my opinion.. perhaps he also knows I hold no punches! |
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"So I have just gotten off a 2 hour call with a good friend who normally would never call on with relationship issues.
He has been suspecting his partner is cheating on him here's why,
Phone constantly on silent and during the night lighting up at odd hours.
Phones used to be synced with ipad and has since been removed, and phone pin changed
New working ours adding additional hour here or there, he works away so cant verify its true.
He has been getting accused regularly of cheating which he swears that he isn't.
Hot cold and arguments started for any reason.
Constantly getting compared to other Girlfriends partners.
Getting accused of gaslighting, had to Google that!
They are luckily only tied together with a property and don't have kids.
What are others opinions on this?
I asked him if she was cheating would he stay and try to sort it he said yes, as long as its not a personal friend..
My opinion is to just walk, simply due to the fact the trust is gone.
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Your opinion is valid and walking would be the right thing to do, otherwise he will spend his life in limbo, wondering. Once the trust is gone, it’s next to impossible to get back. From what you’ve stated about the behaviour…these are red flags. Best to be a shoulder when he needs it. |
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