My girlfriend is amazing, I would love to have a bi mmf with her. We have talked about it, and in the throws of passion, she is up for it. However, outside of the throws of passion, she is not. Have spoken to a few guys here who are more than willing to take part in a bi mmf, for now it's a no, but I hope she will have that experience with me one day. The question is, how have others got their partner into a bi mmf? |
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If she's saying Yes in the throws of passion then I think it's very possible she'll come round in time. At other times, she may be limited by her fears as opposed to simply not being interested.
Give it time and don't push it. Be sure that she's not just saying Yes to please you.
Sometimes it can take years for people's mindsets to adapt to the idea once the 'seed' is planted.
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"Thanks, good advice. I'm definitely not going to push it. She means everything to me, the 'seed' is planted, and spring is on the way....."
Why not set up a couples before and see how it goes |
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For us there was no having to get the other into it. It was just something that evolved and that we both wanted to experience.
So keep the lines of communication open, continue to share your desires with each other, always read the room and never push.
Good luck |
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In time, we have discussed that, she ain't there yet. She is the most bubbly fun person I've ever known. I know she would be swamped if we had a profile with her pictures on it. A lot going with her in the real world at the moment. She did say she wants a "fucking February", so here is hoping she'll be on here in Feb and we have lots of fun with fabbers
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Why don't you try a surprise straight mfm with a guy first??
Doesn't matter if he's straight or bi.
That might determine if she likes the idea or not to move to the mmf?
That's how I've had my mfms previously and she liked it.
P.s. I wasn't looking for an invitation to a mfm with ye!!! |
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Thanks for advice, it is a very big step for her in any scenario and I'm not going to push it. I should probably forget about the whole idea and be grateful for what I have.... but there is an itch..... |
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I think this is a lot of wishful thinking.
"Throws of passion" is fantasy. As in, unrealistic. Dumb horny talk.
If she is saying no in all situations aside from that, you should be listening to her.
Most people have fantasies (things they think about that get them off)that they don't actually want to do. We know the reality won't be as fun.
It's easy for us swingers to say "sure why wouldn't she want that?".
But you DO have to respect that no. You let her know you're up for it if she is. And leave it there.
Fact is, if she is saying she doesn't want it when she's not "in the moment" then it's really likely she will experience serious regret if you try to force it to happen and she gives in.
You trying to force it to happen against her wishes could also really mess up her trust in you, and your relationship.
Basically the age old answer to endless question:"how do I convince my unwilling partner to swing" is:
YOU DON'T
Sorry if this isn't the answer you wanted to hear. |
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