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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx |
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I often scan veries to see who wrote them and rarely read the content.
I've never seen one yet that would encourage me to meet someone but I've seen plenty that help me avoid people.
I've verified people that haven't returned the favour for whatever reasons. They were only social veries so not performance related.
People use them in different ways or are selective in those they display so that they don't reflect badly on them or might ingratiate themselves with certain circles so I don't place much value on them in general. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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Do you not think it helps , in some cases to help you see if you like to meet this person / couple etc and see for your self , I know a lot of people just veirfy , but I do it because I enjoy there company and I show my appreciation , |
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"They (some of the time anyway)show you've met, most of the content is hyperbolic. Who's going to display a negative one?"
This exactly!...They might give an idea of your "type" but mainly they just confirm your real. After a few you dont really need any more!
Although I've a few blocked on here where blokes have managed to get a veri and then use it to create fake verified couple profiles |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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Don’t get me wrong I have had people that were well verified and some I had to block , but everyone has there own judgement and take on them but I was just giving you mine ,like I have said before I do like to see what impression I make , but also is not important for socials / parties etc so they get to view, look I could be completely wrong I was just giving my point of view !!!! |
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"Do you not think it helps , in some cases to help you see if you like to meet this person / couple etc and see for your self , I know a lot of people just veirfy , but I do it because I enjoy there company and I show my appreciation , "
I don't meet very often and like to chat and get to know people first so someone else's opinion on them has no bearing on my decisions.
If they are verified by certain people it confirms we wouldn't be compatible so wouldn't be chatting on the first place.
They are often used for lamppost pissing and nobody needs that kind of crazy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx "
If its a 1-1 meet i think its good manners to write a verification.
But dont put too much value on them, just enjoy yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you not think it helps , in some cases to help you see if you like to meet this person / couple etc and see for your self , I know a lot of people just veirfy , but I do it because I enjoy there company and I show my appreciation ,
I don't meet very often and like to chat and get to know people first so someone else's opinion on them has no bearing on my decisions.
If they are verified by certain people it confirms we wouldn't be compatible so wouldn't be chatting on the first place.
They are often used for lamppost pissing and nobody needs that kind of crazy.
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Exactly how we see it |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
Guilty of this as charged....the last 6 weeks have been mental in my life with a death in the family and my mother in and out of hospital and I know I didn't veri you when you came back on
I've read messages and haven't answered which is completely not like me but life got in the way so one couple in particular...sorry
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
Life gets in the way and things happen , but I’m on about going forward , and in general speaking as you make connections with people thinking good things and leave a veirfy as respect and you enjoy their company , or are fab friends to get nothing back is it disheartening |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah I've g8ven up worrying about veris that I get or don't get, there's plenty I've met socially and have never verified me.
At end of day a social veri doesn't say a huge amount, it's never going to be negative it literally just says your real and what one person might like about me the next person might think I'm a twat.
I've also met people that other people love and even are great in bed for me to walk away thinking something wrong with me as I thought they were a gobshite or the sex was shocking.
As for people been friends on here I'm sorry but a lot are just acquaintances and a few are real friends |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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DD I completely agree with a lot of what you said and I have thought that too , people that think that person , was great and looked great on paper so to speak but done noting for you , or who ever
But I just feel sometimes they are good for you to make a conversation etc , yes I agree but fab friends I would say and some a bit more x |
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Life gets in the way and things happen , but I’m on about going forward , and in general speaking as you make connections with people thinking good things and leave a veirfy as respect and you enjoy their company , or are fab friends to get nothing back is it disheartening "
I don't equate veries with friendship. There are a couple of veries I've given to people who displayed their true colours after meeting and I would like an option to take those back.
I agree that it's always nice to be appreciated and have others say something nice about you but fab friendship is very fickle. It makes me laugh sometimes when I see people on the forums tagging their amazing friends and joining their chatgroups as well as public displays of affection while at the same time they are digging them out of it in private and calling them fat, hideous headcases who should be locked up.
Use veries whatever way you wish but don't rely on them if you are expecting truthful assessments of others.
As DD said above there are some productive forumites who have their arse kissed every time they post who in my opinion are extremely ugly and self possessed people but because they are verified by certain others they get away with the shit they cause. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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I never said anything about friends , I said fab friends people I go to m&g / Socials that I can enjoy there company , I completely agree with a lot of what you said and dd , I’m only giving you my take / point of view etc and just wondering what other people think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never said anything about friends , I said fab friends people I go to m&g / Socials that I can enjoy there company , I completely agree with a lot of what you said and dd , I’m only giving you my take / point of view etc and just wondering what other people think "
And I did the same, I used to worry and be upset about not getting a veri back especially if they displayed mine, but honestly I don't worry about it anymore. |
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Hey everyone! Happy NY
Fairly new ish to fab and have regular work trips to Ireland so looking to make connections.
Happy to connect virtually if anyone would be interested? Also would be great to get any recommendations of clubs in Ireland.
Thanks in advance!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So other that show your veris for viewing or hide them but they still show on your verification summary as hidden,
Is there another option?
That you have hidden verifications but they don't show up on your verification summary? |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"I never said anything about friends , I said fab friends people I go to m&g / Socials that I can enjoy there company , I completely agree with a lot of what you said and dd , I’m only giving you my take / point of view etc and just wondering what other people think
And I did the same, I used to worry and be upset about not getting a veri back especially if they displayed mine, but honestly I don't worry about it anymore. "
Good for you DD xx |
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I always make it clear at the beginning of a meet that I'll write a veri, and its up to them whether to publish or not.Of course a veri for me is a great affirmation. Ive never received a bad one, but if i did(I'd be very surprised), I'd probably publish it, purely for amusement. Some people dont give veris, as they like our meeting to be completely private, which im ok with. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Nothing gives me the ick more than a lot of verifications on a profile. I don’t like displaying mine as I don’t like other people knowing my business… I know, I’m probs on the wrong site."
Everyone has there own opinion x |
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I’ve become very hit and miss with verifications lately. Sometimes I’ll write one sometimes I won’t, I’m terrible at writing them anyway, but it’s nothing against the recipient. I’ve even stopped displaying any new ones I receive and the last social I was at I asked people not to leave me one.
There are people on fab who are interested in meeting me and there are those that have zero interest and more verifications won’t change any of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And don't forget the judgement that happens when you have lots of veris, was told recently I'm very experienced with 164 meets and I've been busy. When replied they were social veris was called a fantasist and timewaster so you can't win lol |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve become very hit and miss with verifications lately. Sometimes I’ll write one sometimes I won’t, I’m terrible at writing them anyway, but it’s nothing against the recipient. I’ve even stopped displaying any new ones I receive and the last social I was at I asked people not to leave me one.
There are people on fab who are interested in meeting me and there are those that have zero interest and more verifications won’t change any of that. "
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I always read the verifications before I decide to meet someone as you can always read between the lines to know how good they actually are.
That said I love receiving them to see what they think about our meeting and always send one as well, can never have enough verifications in my opinion |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"And don't forget the judgement that happens when you have lots of veris, was told recently I'm very experienced with 164 meets and I've been busy. When replied they were social veris was called a fantasist and timewaster so you can't win lol"
See that’s the point too , should there be play veiris and social/ m& G etc it’s tough |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I always read the verifications before I decide to meet someone as you can always read between the lines to know how good they actually are.
That said I love receiving them to see what they think about our meeting and always send one as well, can never have enough verifications in my opinion "
I completely agree too , I read to give me a little extra and feel for the person and people , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And don't forget the judgement that happens when you have lots of veris, was told recently I'm very experienced with 164 meets and I've been busy. When replied they were social veris was called a fantasist and timewaster so you can't win lol
See that’s the point too , should there be play veiris and social/ m& G etc it’s tough "
Think that's a personal choice I wouldn't display play ones as noones business and as I've said above I've met guys who had great play veris and well my experience was bleh, and I felt like crap after cause I thought there was something wrong with me |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
Never you DD they just didn’t appreciate what was there chatting , and my attitude to somethings too , us women get bad press at times , we get dressed up look good etc and go to what ever is on , and if you don’t make the move or interact , something is wrong with you etc but I feel at least make a effort and find out !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to read a person's verifications because I'm a nosey shit!!
But how many ladies here don't bother to show their verifications??
It's their own business what they want to put up.
Guys put it up to show that they are genuine possibly.
Just my thoughts |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I like to read a person's verifications because I'm a nosey shit!!
But how many ladies here don't bother to show their verifications??
It's their own business what they want to put up.
Guys put it up to show that they are genuine possibly.
Just my thoughts "
Completely get it , but I’m happy to show mine if needs but also I feel having them shows that this person is genuine ,( don’t get me wrong done could be made up by people ) but that in turn intrigue you to find out more and if it’s someone you like to me meet !! |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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Tbh I’m not sure why you’d be upset about not getting a veri from a friend. If they’re a friend, you already know what they think of you.
Veris are an odd thing. They can give you an idea of the type of person they like to meet etc but in all honesty they mean nothing. They’re an ego stroke really.
With regards to numbers of veris, I hide my summary so I don’t have to listen to the shite about numbers. Jaffa exists on fab since 2015 so the numbers are high enough
If you’ve fallen out with someone you have verified and want to retract the veri, just block them. That removes the veri. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to read a person's verifications because I'm a nosey shit!!
But how many ladies here don't bother to show their verifications??
It's their own business what they want to put up.
Guys put it up to show that they are genuine possibly.
Just my thoughts
Completely get it , but I’m happy to show mine if needs but also I feel having them shows that this person is genuine ,( don’t get me wrong done could be made up by people ) but that in turn intrigue you to find out more and if it’s someone you like to me meet !! "
I completely understand what your saying.
I sometimes hide mine due to guys messaging me regarding who I've met and looking for me to put in a good word for them or join me if I was meeting them. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I like to read a person's verifications because I'm a nosey shit!!
But how many ladies here don't bother to show their verifications??
It's their own business what they want to put up.
Guys put it up to show that they are genuine possibly.
Just my thoughts
Completely get it , but I’m happy to show mine if needs but also I feel having them shows that this person is genuine ,( don’t get me wrong done could be made up by people ) but that in turn intrigue you to find out more and if it’s someone you like to me meet !!
I completely understand what your saying.
I sometimes hide mine due to guys messaging me regarding who I've met and looking for me to put in a good word for them or join me if I was meeting them."
Wow different take on them |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Tbh I’m not sure why you’d be upset about not getting a veri from a friend. If they’re a friend, you already know what they think of you.
Veris are an odd thing. They can give you an idea of the type of person they like to meet etc but in all honesty they mean nothing. They’re an ego stroke really.
With regards to numbers of veris, I hide my summary so I don’t have to listen to the shite about numbers. Jaffa exists on fab since 2015 so the numbers are high enough
If you’ve fallen out with someone you have verified and want to retract the veri, just block them. That removes the veri. "
Thank you Jaffa x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really get the chance to verify people these days, but on my last time here I used to. I would always be 100% honest and never over embellish.
Those that promise heaven on earth are a bit odd. |
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"I like to read a person's verifications because I'm a nosey shit!!
But how many ladies here don't bother to show their verifications??
It's their own business what they want to put up.
Guys put it up to show that they are genuine possibly.
Just my thoughts
Completely get it , but I’m happy to show mine if needs but also I feel having them shows that this person is genuine ,( don’t get me wrong done could be made up by people ) but that in turn intrigue you to find out more and if it’s someone you like to me meet !!
I completely understand what your saying.
I sometimes hide mine due to guys messaging me regarding who I've met and looking for me to put in a good word for them or join me if I was meeting them."
I've never had anyone ask about my veries but I have had people contact those I have veried asking for my details.
I don't agree with contacting anyone for a reference. If you can't make up your own mind on someone you shouldn't be meeting them but this had nothing to do with that. They were looking personal details such as name and facepic.
I've also had a woman who was unable to contact me because of age filters who contacted people I verified asking them to get be to message her.
When she was told to do one she started a thread on the forums about me in the hope of getting my attention. It had the opposite effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to read a person's verifications because I'm a nosey shit!!
But how many ladies here don't bother to show their verifications??
It's their own business what they want to put up.
Guys put it up to show that they are genuine possibly.
Just my thoughts
Completely get it , but I’m happy to show mine if needs but also I feel having them shows that this person is genuine ,( don’t get me wrong done could be made up by people ) but that in turn intrigue you to find out more and if it’s someone you like to me meet !!
I completely understand what your saying.
I sometimes hide mine due to guys messaging me regarding who I've met and looking for me to put in a good word for them or join me if I was meeting them.
I've never had anyone ask about my veries but I have had people contact those I have veried asking for my details.
I don't agree with contacting anyone for a reference. If you can't make up your own mind on someone you shouldn't be meeting them but this had nothing to do with that. They were looking personal details such as name and facepic.
I've also had a woman who was unable to contact me because of age filters who contacted people I verified asking them to get be to message her.
When she was told to do one she started a thread on the forums about me in the hope of getting my attention. It had the opposite effect. "
Oh, that was a little bit creepy!!!
Hope you kept a good eye on your bunny rabbit?? |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I like to read a person's verifications because I'm a nosey shit!!
But how many ladies here don't bother to show their verifications??
It's their own business what they want to put up.
Guys put it up to show that they are genuine possibly.
Just my thoughts
Completely get it , but I’m happy to show mine if needs but also I feel having them shows that this person is genuine ,( don’t get me wrong done could be made up by people ) but that in turn intrigue you to find out more and if it’s someone you like to me meet !!
I completely understand what your saying.
I sometimes hide mine due to guys messaging me regarding who I've met and looking for me to put in a good word for them or join me if I was meeting them.
I've never had anyone ask about my veries but I have had people contact those I have veried asking for my details.
I don't agree with contacting anyone for a reference. If you can't make up your own mind on someone you shouldn't be meeting them but this had nothing to do with that. They were looking personal details such as name and facepic.
I've also had a woman who was unable to contact me because of age filters who contacted people I verified asking them to get be to message her.
When she was told to do one she started a thread on the forums about me in the hope of getting my attention. It had the opposite effect. "
Wow so sorry to hear ya , I had that happen to me in my previous profile , asking people about me etc and like you if I didn’t message , |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I do read them and look at who has veried others. The only thing they do apart from showing the person is real is sometimes makes me decide not to interact with someone if they are veried by someone who causes drama. It's easier to avoid any of it by avoiding people they met I have found.
Content of veris don't really matter to me as one persons perfect meet could be another person's disaster one.
I've veried people and haven't gotten veris back it isn't a big deal. And I've probably forgotten to veri others as well. There has also been times when neither of us have veried each other just because neither of us bothered rather than it was a bad meet or anything like that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get why some people use them heavily.
But they are very open to manipulation, especially for newer people who cant spot the signs.
I prefer to use my own judgement though certain veris will aid that.
As an ego boost... well nobody ever leaves bad ones so no on that front |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I do read them and look at who has veried others. The only thing they do apart from showing the person is real is sometimes makes me decide not to interact with someone if they are veried by someone who causes drama. It's easier to avoid any of it by avoiding people they met I have found.
Content of veris don't really matter to me as one persons perfect meet could be another person's disaster one.
I've veried people and haven't gotten veris back it isn't a big deal. And I've probably forgotten to veri others as well. There has also been times when neither of us have veried each other just because neither of us bothered rather than it was a bad meet or anything like that.
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Very true , but I have done some that I thought I got on well with and felt genuine , I don’t veirfy everyone don’t get me wrong , like I said above I do get a bit disheartened, I have kinda gone to a stage that if they veirfy then I do it back etc , but I do look at the veris to give me the choice to interact etc xx but completely understand your point of view too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx "
Did you ask them why they didn't verify you back? |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I get why some people use them heavily.
But they are very open to manipulation, especially for newer people who cant spot the signs.
I prefer to use my own judgement though certain veris will aid that.
As an ego boost... well nobody ever leaves bad ones so no on that front "
Very true , but I don’t leave any if things or coffee don’t go and if they do , I would leave a minimal one as respect … |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
Did you ask them why they didn't verify you back? "
Unfortunately no I don’t see reason why should we or me , just feel I know better next time |
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
Did you ask them why they didn't verify you back? "
I verified a guy that met my ex and I and he didn't verify me back. Be a while waiting for another invite from me!!!  |
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Fabs is full of fakes and not reliable people so verification is the best way to confirm is someone is genuine, especially tracking the people who are verifying and seeing if they are verified as well.
Just to see if someone is genuine, punctual and the look match on her pictures is enough for me to drive my car miles away for a meet up. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
Did you ask them why they didn't verify you back?
I verified a guy that met my ex and I and he didn't verify me back. Be a while waiting for another invite from me!!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
Did you ask them why they didn't verify you back?
Unfortunately no I don’t see reason why should we or me , just feel I know better next time "
I just felt from your thread that you were looking for answers. So I thought you would have started at the source.
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Fabs is full of fakes and not reliable people so verification is the best way to confirm is someone is genuine, especially tracking the people who are verifying and seeing if they are verified as well.
Just to see if someone is genuine, punctual and the look match on her pictures is enough for me to drive my car miles away for a meet up. "
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By *lassic guyMan
over a year ago
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I always veirfy someone when I meet them let it be a social or a play meet but I never go in much detail as for not meeting someone because they are verified by someone else I really couldn't care who verified someone if I want to meet them im old enough to make up my own mind ..if I want to meet someone or not |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I always veirfy someone when I meet them let it be a social or a play meet but I never go in much detail as for not meeting someone because they are verified by someone else I really couldn't care who verified someone if I want to meet them im old enough to make up my own mind ..if I want to meet someone or not "
Great reply and very to the point , like a lot of people here but interesting to see peoples take on it too |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
Did you ask them why they didn't verify you back?
Unfortunately no I don’t see reason why should we or me , just feel I know better next time
I just felt from your thread that you were looking for answers. So I thought you would have started at the source.
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Very true but no need to add fuel to fire too , sometimes better dust yourself off and start again and learn , but also just thought common curtsy if you done it that you get one back that’s all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx "
I think the non return of a first veri hits people differently depending on the personality traits of the person who sends it..some people couldn't care less while some like myself begin to wonder maybe why a person didn't return it..that maybe they didn't have a good time after all..its just part of my personality..we are who we are..I always veri after a first meet..however if after a fortnight or so I don't receive one back I just block..veri gone from being displayed and that particular chapter is closed..x |
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A lot of veris are clichéd stuff like "he is sound and she is stunning", obviously written by the male of the couple! Doesn't help me make an informed decision on that profile as the female 
What we look for when reading veris is consistency in the descriptions across many veris. So of a lot of people say that a person (couple) is (are) great craic or sound out, then they probably are that.
Also a bit of creativity shows that they thought enough of the person/couple to give it a bit of effort.
Yes, we've given veris that were not returned. No big deal. Remember that if you are outside of their age range or what they have indicated they are looking for, then your veri may not even get to them, it just disappears, so they will never know you tried to verify them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
Did you ask them why they didn't verify you back?
Unfortunately no I don’t see reason why should we or me , just feel I know better next time
I just felt from your thread that you were looking for answers. So I thought you would have started at the source.
Very true but no need to add fuel to fire too , sometimes better dust yourself off and start again and learn , but also just thought common curtsy if you done it that you get one back that’s all x"
Will they read about it in your thread though. ??
I've verified some people that didn't verify back. Both were at group socials. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think the non return of a first veri hits people differently depending on the personality traits of the person who sends it..some people couldn't care less while some like myself begin to wonder maybe why a person didn't return it..that maybe they didn't have a good time after all..its just part of my personality..we are who we are..I always veri after a first meet..however if after a fortnight or so I don't receive one back I just block..veri gone from being displayed and that particular chapter is closed..x"
Very good answer snd completely agree too x |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
Did you ask them why they didn't verify you back?
Unfortunately no I don’t see reason why should we or me , just feel I know better next time
I just felt from your thread that you were looking for answers. So I thought you would have started at the source.
Very true but no need to add fuel to fire too , sometimes better dust yourself off and start again and learn , but also just thought common curtsy if you done it that you get one back that’s all x
Will they read about it in your thread though. ??
I've verified some people that didn't verify back. Both were at group socials. "
Maybe but , unfortunately I needed find out other people takes on it , and there feelings |
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over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx "
I like getting a verification of some sort, saying that I've only 1 so far but still nice! But I return and would return the favour. Seems like to be able to go to events you need some so it's always good to give one in my eyes especially someone's first veri. Maybe I'm to green but its kind of the way I see it, so far anyways |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"A lot of veris are clichéd stuff like "he is sound and she is stunning", obviously written by the male of the couple! Doesn't help me make an informed decision on that profile as the female
What we look for when reading veris is consistency in the descriptions across many veris. So of a lot of people say that a person (couple) is (are) great craic or sound out, then they probably are that.
Also a bit of creativity shows that they thought enough of the person/couple to give it a bit of effort.
Yes, we've given veris that were not returned. No big deal. Remember that if you are outside of their age range or what they have indicated they are looking for, then your veri may not even get to them, it just disappears, so they will never know you tried to verify them."
I always love your input to things and no b/s attitude
but great way of bring the point across , I agree with it if you have a great chat / conversation etc and enjoy there company or theirs would it not be nice to show with one that’s all , but everyone is different and have there take on it , |
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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago
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"I do read them and look at who has veried others. The only thing they do apart from showing the person is real is sometimes makes me decide not to interact with someone if they are veried by someone who causes drama. It's easier to avoid any of it by avoiding people they met I have found.
Content of veris don't really matter to me as one persons perfect meet could be another person's disaster one.
I've veried people and haven't gotten veris back it isn't a big deal. And I've probably forgotten to veri others as well. There has also been times when neither of us have veried each other just because neither of us bothered rather than it was a bad meet or anything like that.
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I'd totally agree with this. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I like getting a verification of some sort, saying that I've only 1 so far but still nice! But I return and would return the favour. Seems like to be able to go to events you need some so it's always good to give one in my eyes especially someone's first veri. Maybe I'm to green but its kind of the way I see it, so far anyways"
It’s true and understandable that socials / m&g or parties need them as with the people they ask they have to make sure everyone is safe and thing run smoothly ( not always snd you get the odd few ) but helps with other organisers , I feel |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I do read them and look at who has veried others. The only thing they do apart from showing the person is real is sometimes makes me decide not to interact with someone if they are veried by someone who causes drama. It's easier to avoid any of it by avoiding people they met I have found.
Content of veris don't really matter to me as one persons perfect meet could be another person's disaster one.
I've veried people and haven't gotten veris back it isn't a big deal. And I've probably forgotten to veri others as well. There has also been times when neither of us have veried each other just because neither of us bothered rather than it was a bad meet or anything like that.
I'd totally agree with this."
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over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I like getting a verification of some sort, saying that I've only 1 so far but still nice! But I return and would return the favour. Seems like to be able to go to events you need some so it's always good to give one in my eyes especially someone's first veri. Maybe I'm to green but its kind of the way I see it, so far anyways
It’s true and understandable that socials / m&g or parties need them as with the people they ask they have to make sure everyone is safe and thing run smoothly ( not always snd you get the odd few ) but helps with other organisers , I feel "
100% safe is number one and at least of someone else has met them before. it can help people especially for socials with women I would imagine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone doesn't verify me after a meet I just put down that I'm that good that they want to keep me all to there self and doesn't want to share me lol"
Oh I like your thinking |
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx "
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone doesn't verify me after a meet I just put down that I'm that good that they want to keep me all to there self and doesn't want to share me lol"
Damn I should of thought of that |
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"If someone doesn't verify me after a meet I just put down that I'm that good that they want to keep me all to there self and doesn't want to share me lol
Damn I should of thought of that "
Who would dare not verify you? I'd imagine most men would climb the local church steeple to announce meeting you. |
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over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion."
Can I ask why? |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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Verfies are irrelevant to me i sent loads over the year's and not received some back even from people ive met a good few times yet they've verfied others they've met once,i put alot of thought into mine and got some back which to be honest were written with less thought and effort .... |
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?"
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though. |
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though."
What if she has 1 play veri and 49 from socials? |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If someone doesn't verify me after a meet I just put down that I'm that good that they want to keep me all to there self and doesn't want to share me lol
Damn I should of thought of that "
It’s a good one ! |
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though.
What if she has 1 play veri and 49 from socials? "
Does that really need to be answered??
I'm only talking about play. One other thing for me would be the age to verify ratio. Older people who have been in the scene longer would by nature have a few more. |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though."
Ive 155 verfies what does that say about me so??? |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though."
Everyone has there own opinions |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though.
Ive 155 verfies what does that say about me so???"
Your a legend xx |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
Munster /limrick/kerry |
"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though.
What if she has 1 play veri and 49 from socials?
Does that really need to be answered??
I'm only talking about play. One other thing for me would be the age to verify ratio. Older people who have been in the scene longer would by nature have a few more."
True , but it just shows people show up to meets socials , M&g but also that they are not time wasters |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think they are important when starting out so people know you’re serious and are in fact a genuine couple or genuine single,, after one or two I don’t think you need any more!"
It’s important |
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though.
Ive 155 verfies what does that say about me so???"
We need to make it 156 lol |
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though.
What if she has 1 play veri and 49 from socials?
Does that really need to be answered??
I'm only talking about play. One other thing for me would be the age to verify ratio. Older people who have been in the scene longer would by nature have a few more."
It does actually need an answer as you didn't clarify initially. Age has nothing to do with it. I'm here 6 years and have about 60 veries across 4 different profiles in that time. Only 7 of those were play related.
There are people in their 30s who have been here much longer with twice as many.
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though.
What if she has 1 play veri and 49 from socials?
Does that really need to be answered??
I'm only talking about play. One other thing for me would be the age to verify ratio. Older people who have been in the scene longer would by nature have a few more.
It does actually need an answer as you didn't clarify initially. Age has nothing to do with it. I'm here 6 years and have about 60 veries across 4 different profiles in that time. Only 7 of those were play related.
There are people in their 30s who have been here much longer with twice as many.
RB"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though."
Ya but why should it matter if she has had 50 sex meets? Doesn't make her or him any less of a person.
And maybe all my veris are socials and I've had sex with 100 guys this year just didn't ask them to verify me?
If I met a guy and he told me he had a 100 partners I'd be OK I may be a little Vanilla for ya but as long as you have been safe, have been tested I'm OK with that. I'd sooner a guy that has practised safe sex with numerous people thsn one bollix who only has bareback sex
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By *lassic guyMan
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though."
lol I definitely don't Recommend you going to any social or your fab days would be over because you could wake up the next morning with a lot of verification  |
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I’d to hide mine as I had a fella contacting people who verified me looking for them to have fun with me and him. All without my knowledge until one of my verifications messaged me asking was I aware that this was going on. |
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By *asual777Man
over a year ago
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If I am inviting someone new to something, I want to see if someone I know knows them . Hiding your Verris makes being invited trickier . Also makes me wonder if the veri is a made up webcam one from your other profile .
So In summary they’re essential for me . Their absence is a non starter in terms of engaging in chat |
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By *lassic guyMan
over a year ago
my bed to your just ask |
"If I am inviting someone new to something, I want to see if someone I know knows them . Hiding your Verris makes being invited trickier . Also makes me wonder if the veri is a made up webcam one from your other profile .
So In summary they’re essential for me . Their absence is a non starter in terms of engaging in chat "
go away you stud you are giving us guys no chance and you are taken all the ladies |
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"If I am inviting someone new to something, I want to see if someone I know knows them . Hiding your Verris makes being invited trickier . Also makes me wonder if the veri is a made up webcam one from your other profile .
So In summary they’re essential for me . Their absence is a non starter in terms of engaging in chat go away you stud you are giving us guys no chance and you are taken all the ladies "
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over a year ago
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"If I am inviting someone new to something, I want to see if someone I know knows them . Hiding your Verris makes being invited trickier . Also makes me wonder if the veri is a made up webcam one from your other profile .
So In summary they’re essential for me . Their absence is a non starter in terms of engaging in chat go away you stud you are giving us guys no chance and you are taken all the ladies
Not all "
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Receiving a nice veri is always… nice  And we do like it even if we know some have to be taken with a pinch of salt!
We used to attach lots of importance to veris at the beginning but not anymore as we have met people who others described in a positive light (as you do in veris) but had ourselves a not so good experience. People can be 2 faced and you might not get to see the same face as they do. Nothing better than making up your own mind.
We also have left veris and gotten none back. Life is busy maybe they forgot! But I really like Classic Guy’s take on this
Re. numbers of veris, we have a lot, some repeats but mostly from socials. If people judge us negatively because we like to meet people and socialise then so be it. Not a great loss. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though.
Ya but why should it matter if she has had 50 sex meets? Doesn't make her or him any less of a person.
And maybe all my veris are socials and I've had sex with 100 guys this year just didn't ask them to verify me?
If I met a guy and he told me he had a 100 partners I'd be OK I may be a little Vanilla for ya but as long as you have been safe, have been tested I'm OK with that. I'd sooner a guy that has practised safe sex with numerous people thsn one bollix who only has bareback sex
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers xx
Do veris matter ?? I have to say I love getting them and see what people think of me , did I make good impression or not ??
But I always send to people I met and believe that are fab friends , to discover they don’t send back …. I do get a little disheartened, I think they help to build connections with people to show your genuine or am I wrong xx
I think that too many veris is worse than none, but that's just my opinion.
Can I ask why?
Well, and this is just how my stupid brain works, if someone has only one or even none, it's likely they simply haven't met someone yet. If it's a lady, she's probably cautious and careful. I see no problem with that. Someone who has 50 veris, just not what I'm looking for. Live and let live though. lol I definitely don't Recommend you going to any social or your fab days would be over because you could wake up the next morning with a lot of verification "
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’d to hide mine as I had a fella contacting people who verified me looking for them to have fun with me and him. All without my knowledge until one of my verifications messaged me asking was I aware that this was going on. "
Dollybird same thing happened me on my old profile , as a result I have new profile and back rebuilding |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If I am inviting someone new to something, I want to see if someone I know knows them . Hiding your Verris makes being invited trickier . Also makes me wonder if the veri is a made up webcam one from your other profile .
So In summary they’re essential for me . Their absence is a non starter in terms of engaging in chat "
Completely understand |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If I am inviting someone new to something, I want to see if someone I know knows them . Hiding your Verris makes being invited trickier . Also makes me wonder if the veri is a made up webcam one from your other profile .
So In summary they’re essential for me . Their absence is a non starter in terms of engaging in chat go away you stud you are giving us guys no chance and you are taken all the ladies "
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Receiving a nice veri is always… nice And we do like it even if we know some have to be taken with a pinch of salt!
We used to attach lots of importance to veris at the beginning but not anymore as we have met people who others described in a positive light (as you do in veris) but had ourselves a not so good experience. People can be 2 faced and you might not get to see the same face as they do. Nothing better than making up your own mind.
We also have left veris and gotten none back. Life is busy maybe they forgot! But I really like Classic Guy’s take on this
Re. numbers of veris, we have a lot, some repeats but mostly from socials. If people judge us negatively because we like to meet people and socialise then so be it. Not a great loss. "
Love your take and well said |
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest "
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal. |
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal. "
See I'd just laugh at that and still not pick it up |
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal.
See I'd just laugh at that and still not pick it up "
So if we met and I wanted you to know I was interested in doing naked aerobics with you, I either need to finish up the date and give you a very OR just whip our my Wang and ask you to hold it for a minute while I send you a very right then and there? |
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal.
See I'd just laugh at that and still not pick it up
So if we met and I wanted you to know I was interested in doing naked aerobics with you, I either need to finish up the date and give you a very OR just whip our my Wang and ask you to hold it for a minute while I send you a very right then and there? "
Lol at this stage I'd be shocked if you turned up for the coffee |
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal.
See I'd just laugh at that and still not pick it up
So if we met and I wanted you to know I was interested in doing naked aerobics with you, I either need to finish up the date and give you a very OR just whip our my Wang and ask you to hold it for a minute while I send you a very right then and there?
Lol at this stage I'd be shocked if you turned up for the coffee "
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal.
See I'd just laugh at that and still not pick it up
So if we met and I wanted you to know I was interested in doing naked aerobics with you, I either need to finish up the date and give you a very OR just whip our my Wang and ask you to hold it for a minute while I send you a very right then and there?
Lol at this stage I'd be shocked if you turned up for the coffee
Now I'm hurt. "
Don't be noone else turns up lol |
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal.
See I'd just laugh at that and still not pick it up
So if we met and I wanted you to know I was interested in doing naked aerobics with you, I either need to finish up the date and give you a very OR just whip our my Wang and ask you to hold it for a minute while I send you a very right then and there?
Lol at this stage I'd be shocked if you turned up for the coffee
Now I'm hurt.
Don't be noone else turns up lol"
I would if I could. |
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Verifications are of limited value in my opinion. Having some is probably preferable to not having any but it's not difficult to organise a fake one or two.
Someone having a fake one is far worse than someone not having any at all.
Using your own common sense is far superior to accepting a verification as some sort of guarantee. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest
Doesn’t say much I’m afraid
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal. "
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"When I get a veri from a guy it kinda would tell me whether he was interested in meeting again as I'm shocking at picking up signals.
I’m the same or if they have interest
DD your own fire lol
Surely if the guy says, I like your ass, can I wear it as a hat.....that's an unmistakable signal.
See I'd just laugh at that and still not pick it up
So if we met and I wanted you to know I was interested in doing naked aerobics with you, I either need to finish up the date and give you a very OR just whip our my Wang and ask you to hold it for a minute while I send you a very right then and there?
Lol at this stage I'd be shocked if you turned up for the coffee "
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Verifications are of limited value in my opinion. Having some is probably preferable to not having any but it's not difficult to organise a fake one or two.
Someone having a fake one is far worse than someone not having any at all.
Using your own common sense is far superior to accepting a verification as some sort of guarantee. "
Very true but unfortunately some are needed too |
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I think they are good for safety reasons etc as mentioned in the previous post.
A vast majority are kinda run of the mill ones as in they are a nice person, attractive, funny etc.
A few are so detailed they make me want to puke. But obviously the person is proud of them so fair play in showing them.
Then there are the very few that grovel. Saying things like 'The best Fab has to offer' which can be his/her fate sealed as, if you have had the best Fab has to offer, good for you so why would anyone else want to meet you?
But overall, it's whatever floats your boat. It is more who they are from that would put me off meeting and yes, the number of play/party/club meets as well are a turn off for me.
That is just my opinion. I rarely meet so it's not important really.
My verifs are not on show due to strange messages I was getting every time I got a new one.
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"Verifications are of limited value in my opinion. Having some is probably preferable to not having any but it's not difficult to organise a fake one or two.
Someone having a fake one is far worse than someone not having any at all.
Using your own common sense is far superior to accepting a verification as some sort of guarantee. "
Common sense?!  I thought that was a myth |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Think there good for safety reasons and make sure the profile is real ??"
Yes and no unfortunately as some could be fake but I think it gives a person good judgement rather to engage or not ( I could be wrong ) |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think they are good for safety reasons etc as mentioned in the previous post.
A vast majority are kinda run of the mill ones as in they are a nice person, attractive, funny etc.
A few are so detailed they make me want to puke. But obviously the person is proud of them so fair play in showing them.
Then there are the very few that grovel. Saying things like 'The best Fab has to offer' which can be his/her fate sealed as, if you have had the best Fab has to offer, good for you so why would anyone else want to meet you?
But overall, it's whatever floats your boat. It is more who they are from that would put me off meeting and yes, the number of play/party/club meets as well are a turn off for me.
That is just my opinion. I rarely meet so it's not important really.
My verifs are not on show due to strange messages I was getting every time I got a new one.
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Great reply and ya I understand why people have to hide etc |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Verifications are of limited value in my opinion. Having some is probably preferable to not having any but it's not difficult to organise a fake one or two.
Someone having a fake one is far worse than someone not having any at all.
Using your own common sense is far superior to accepting a verification as some sort of guarantee.
Common sense?! I thought that was a myth "
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think veris are great, they're a fab source of information - literally, in-between the lines and interpreted in context, about the author, the receiver and the fab cliques.  "
Very true , and the topic is good way that people thought or experienced |
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"Often it's what the veri doesn't say that is the best info "
Read in between the lines sort of idea?
Hmm the verifications never said they arrived by helicopter... |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think this is a great subject actually and people have posted well about it. Lots of different opinions but no preaching or nasty comments. "
Exactly give everyone idea of there thoughts in the way they view veiris etc |
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"I think this is a great subject actually and people have posted well about it. Lots of different opinions but no preaching or nasty comments.
Exactly give everyone idea of there thoughts in the way they view veiris etc "
Thankyou for thinking of it. |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Often it's what the veri doesn't say that is the best info
Read in between the lines sort of idea?
Hmm the verifications never said they arrived by helicopter... "
I have had few of them , also oh we sent them when clearly they didn’t , like I said in my intro at the start , I have felt little disheartened as a result on a few occasions in the last few weeks , where I thought I left a impression and got on well , shows I may have not , but the comments have helped me , hope they helped ye too xxx |
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over a year ago
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"I think this is a great subject actually and people have posted well about it. Lots of different opinions but no preaching or nasty comments.
Exactly give everyone idea of there thoughts in the way they view veiris etc
Thankyou for thinking of it."
Well it bugged me , and wanted to see everyone’s thoughts , but also gives everyone ideas from the answers |
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It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris. |
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris."
A lot of them do feel like a copy and paste job |
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris.
A lot of them do feel like a copy and paste job"
Sure what do you say in them, |
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"Verifications are of limited value in my opinion. Having some is probably preferable to not having any but it's not difficult to organise a fake one or two.
Someone having a fake one is far worse than someone not having any at all.
Using your own common sense is far superior to accepting a verification as some sort of guarantee.
Common sense?! I thought that was a myth "
Only in my case |
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By *emptress_B OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris."
Very true what you said and it’s the way some people portray them self in messaging and they could have x amount but still be a dick , but I just think it helps in some degree , not everyone is attracted to same people or couple what ever case maybe , but does it not help |
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris.
A lot of them do feel like a copy and paste job"
Easy way out / but some people don’t have time and use that tool |
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over a year ago
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris.
A lot of them do feel like a copy and paste job
Sure what do you say in them, "
Ya it’s true DD , |
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"Verifications are of limited value in my opinion. Having some is probably preferable to not having any but it's not difficult to organise a fake one or two.
Someone having a fake one is far worse than someone not having any at all.
Using your own common sense is far superior to accepting a verification as some sort of guarantee.
Common sense?! I thought that was a myth
Only in my case "
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris.
A lot of them do feel like a copy and paste job
Easy way out / but some people don’t have time and use that tool "
And then of course, there are the one that read like a Barbara Cartland novel.  |
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over a year ago
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris.
A lot of them do feel like a copy and paste job
Easy way out / but some people don’t have time and use that tool
And then of course, there are the one that read like a Barbara Cartland novel. "
Very true simplicity is key |
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris.
A lot of them do feel like a copy and paste job
Easy way out / but some people don’t have time and use that tool
And then of course, there are the one that read like a Barbara Cartland novel.
Very true simplicity is key "
Don't they though? So many sound fake and insincere. |
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"It's no proof of anything bar the image the fabber endorses and wishes us to have of them, so it's wide open to manipulation. Fabber beware
The usefulness for me is seeing any disconnect between what they SAY they are okay with in their bio and what they actually DO.
Prolific player
Social butterfly
Discreet but meets a lot and shows all
Discreet and hides veris so who knows
All on show = could be all they have done via fab but they meet lots off of fab; or could be they say don't veri them.
No veris = could be any of the above
It's no guarantee but it's worth looking. Lots of folk on my block list based on veris.
A lot of them do feel like a copy and paste job
Easy way out / but some people don’t have time and use that tool
And then of course, there are the one that read like a Barbara Cartland novel.
Very true simplicity is key
Don't they though? So many sound fake and insincere. "
That’s the whole point , then they are not real , and that’s how you question if they were just put up or not |
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