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How to deal with loneliness
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"Take a step back from all the madness, a lot of people are struggling, a lot of people are surrounded by people and feel lonely. This time of year heightens the feelings especially when so many are pretending their life is picture perfect and they have the best life going but a lot of it is a complete show I have always hated xmas as I've always been single and once my son was done with santa the magic as such was gone but as I've got older I realise it's about family and friends even of its only a few people and making memories. This will be my 1st Xmas in 28yrs without my son celebrating with me (he's moved abroad) but its one day and the few I have off, I'm not putting any pressure on myself , I'm just going to chill out, watch TV, listen to music and hopefully catch up with friends. Sending you hugs and anyone else that needs them " | |||
"Take a step back from all the madness, a lot of people are struggling, a lot of people are surrounded by people and feel lonely. This time of year heightens the feelings especially when so many are pretending their life is picture perfect and they have the best life going but a lot of it is a complete show I have always hated xmas as I've always been single and once my son was done with santa the magic as such was gone but as I've got older I realise it's about family and friends even of its only a few people and making memories. This will be my 1st Xmas in 28yrs without my son celebrating with me (he's moved abroad) but its one day and the few I have off, I'm not putting any pressure on myself , I'm just going to chill out, watch TV, listen to music and hopefully catch up with friends. Sending you hugs and anyone else that needs them " U honestly should have wings
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"Thanks guys its all common sense at the end of the day.... But hard to get around it " And sometimes just sitting in a corner or alone having a good cry or feeling sorry for yourself does no harm but remember to someone you are important. | |||
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"Fair play for reaching out OP. That's the hardest but, the best thing you can do. Ask yourself in what way are you lonely? Like, are you lacking the company of friends, family, partner/lover or even a pet? (No I won't be your pet lol). Once you've identified the exact reason its easier to deal with the it. " I tried to pm, but let me know in here if you ever wanna talk chief il open my pm up. Stay strong. | |||
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"Feeling pretty lost tonight myself, I've been in a bad place, and I've actually gotten back out of it, dont stress, its the time of year, it'll pass, it wont be easy, we all get lonely, tomorrow is another day, positive thinking is definitely the way, I know from experience that it might sound cheesy or stupid but it does work! New years eve 2011 i wanted to end it all, and here I am 11 years later and happier than ive ever been, everyone's story will be different, imay take more than 11 years, but keep going, happiness is there, it just takes a while to show up! Love to anyone Feeling low, I understand! Trust me, ride it out! You will eventually feel better! Obviously if you're in pain it will feel a lot longer, it WILL pass, im loving proof! Take priority in you're own feelings, dont stoop to pleasing others, make your own path! At the end of the day YOU are the constant! If people cant handle tjat they don't deserve your time! Life is a privilege, enjoy it! X" Fair play buddy. We can all keep fighting together. There's always help out there for us all. | |||
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"Feeling pretty lost tonight myself, I've been in a bad place, and I've actually gotten back out of it, dont stress, its the time of year, it'll pass, it wont be easy, we all get lonely, tomorrow is another day, positive thinking is definitely the way, I know from experience that it might sound cheesy or stupid but it does work! New years eve 2011 i wanted to end it all, and here I am 11 years later and happier than ive ever been, everyone's story will be different, imay take more than 11 years, but keep going, happiness is there, it just takes a while to show up! Love to anyone Feeling low, I understand! Trust me, ride it out! You will eventually feel better! Obviously if you're in pain it will feel a lot longer, it WILL pass, im loving proof! Take priority in you're own feelings, dont stoop to pleasing others, make your own path! At the end of the day YOU are the constant! If people cant handle tjat they don't deserve your time! Life is a privilege, enjoy it! X Fair play buddy. We can all keep fighting together. There's always help out there for us all." Unfortunately, when you're that far down the line you don't think there is anyone left to talk to! I was lucky, i was able to avoid the inevitable! many dont! You definitely have to work at it! Do you want to be happy? Make the change! Think for yourself! Other people's opinions do not matter! It YOUR life! Take control! So many people have taken the easy wayy out and could have been so happy given a little time! Ive been there, I totally understand that time when you're down feels like its so so slow! Push through! Pressure makes diamonds! I am not a psychologist, I have no qualifications, but I've been there! FIGHT!!!! | |||
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"Any tips struggling this Christmas..... Its a mad world" You’ve started by putting it out there Stay strong , think positive | |||
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"Thanks guys bit of a low post but im feeling better "That's good to hear  | |||
"Thanks guys bit of a low post but im feeling better "Good to hear  | |||
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"Escape the madness and do what feels right for you. But pick up the phone to as many people as you can and just chat….about anything …the weather , sport anything I find it helpful just to talk to my friends throughout the day and don’t put any pressure on yourself on the day having to be anything other than another day for you Take care " Alot good people here | |||
"The Power of Meaning: Finding Fulfillment in a World Obsessed with Happiness by Emily Esfahani Smith is an amazing book on connecting with other people and finding your purpose "  | |||
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"Op.....is there anyway you can volunteer to help others over Christmas....it gets you out of the house and talking to new people " Great advice and I would also recommend this. Helping others always helps you feel better and keeps the mind active. | |||
"Any tips struggling this Christmas..... Its a mad world" If you can, send some messages to people who you haven't been in touch with for a long while. Even if they don't reply, it will feel good to reach out. You never know, you might get to re-kindle the buzz with some old companions. Stay in the moment as much as you can - keep occupied and watch /listen to some good films/sporting highlights or music on your downtime that you know and love. Get out of the house in the daytime and get walking or cycling. Take it easy on the booze. Try and remember that you can choose to put your attention somewhere else, somewhere brighter. It's a heavy load - but just getting into good habits can create a good feedback loop. | |||
