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I do think its becoming less and less common. People aren't as willing to compromise to make traditional relationships work.
Online has given people the perception of unlimited options. There's always someone new and shiny a few clicks away.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK so I know its a swingers site but for the singletons that are here do you think traditional dating is a thing of the past? "
Unfortunately I think traditional dating is nearly out , with apps and sites it's to easy to find someone new when you find a fault , which can cause issue in the early part of a relationship in trying to build trust or how many people they talking to,
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
There is really no such a phenomenon as traditional dating anymore, except within ultra-conservative religious groups; because dating practices change and adjust as the social mores of society, change and adjust over time.
I know a guy from an ultra conservative Christian group who is dating a girl, with similar beliefs in exactly the same manner that his parents and grandparents would have dated, many decades ago. |
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over a year ago
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"OK so I know its a swingers site but for the singletons that are here do you think traditional dating is a thing of the past? "
Am not a swinger but traditional dating is not for me as tbh l don't have the confidence to try and impress or humour anyone , it's not being selfish or anything it's just a confidence thing , being with someone and throwing my heart out on the floor with the chance that it can be smashed into a million pieces...l know some might say it's part and parcel of that game ..maybe it is but traditional dating is not for me . |
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By *anandJCouple
over a year ago
Citywest |
For me (Dan) it’s the best thing under the sun. I love traditional dating. I like to meet the person, have a chat, get to know each other in person. Even in the lifestyle I like people who are like that. In the other words I prefer to be with the be person instead of just text few times and fuck them. I’m kinda an old soul that way… |
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Online has given people the perception of unlimited options. There's always someone new and shiny a few clicks away.
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Definitely agree with this. It's almost like ordering online for some people.
Traditional dating...do you mean going out for dinner/drinks/movies etc? It's still around but I find the majority of guys I date (not there has been many mind!) think the date is the pre game & they're gonna end up in my knickers. Just my take on it  |
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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago
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"I do think its becoming less and less common. People aren't as willing to compromise to make traditional relationships work.
Online has given people the perception of unlimited options. There's always someone new and shiny a few clicks away.
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absolutely and utterly agree with this 100%. Definitely has been my experience over the years. 'dating/relationships' are disposable. |
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By *inion42Man
over a year ago
minionland |
While I think traditional dating is great, I’m not really at an age where I chase or be chased, it’s all a compromise and a meeting of personalities, the apps have indeed brought the throw away culture into the courting arena.
I do indeed like some of the profiles I view, however I would be incredibly shy to message anyone, unless I had the met the person at a social etc beforehand |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually hate the online stuff.... Especially in your 40s...just deleted tinder and bumble left my self on hinge.... I actually hate that women have to advertise themselves as wanting to have kids etc.... What a mad world it turned into |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even when you are dating someone it seems they are always in the look out for something new and better so whats the point.
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Absolutely brilliant.. brilliant answer ..l love it , it's so true ..what's the point is right  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK so I know its a swingers site but for the singletons that are here do you think traditional dating is a thing of the past? "
I'm just hanging around here till I find someone who'll make me wanna delete my account...and start one with her maybe haha |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"OK so I know its a swingers site but for the singletons that are here do you think traditional dating is a thing of the past?
I'm just hanging around here till I find someone who'll make me wanna delete my account...and start one with her maybe haha"
The ideal end result for many of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d actually love to go on a date ……. It’s been a while "
Seems like most of us here would like some normality like that,
I'd take you on a date, need get back in out there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I think the pandemic did more of a number on traditional dating than any of the apps. It was just way harder to meet people for almost two solid years! |
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over a year ago
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"Personally I think the pandemic did more of a number on traditional dating than any of the apps. It was just way harder to meet people for almost two solid years! "
Agreed , and prob push online dating more than had been previously , unfortunately it's people having to much choice they can't focus on one thing any more haha |
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over a year ago
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"Personally I think the pandemic did more of a number on traditional dating than any of the apps. It was just way harder to meet people for almost two solid years!
Agreed , and prob push online dating more than had been previously , unfortunately it's people having to much choice they can't focus on one thing any more haha "
The choice thing isn't just a dating app problem though, it's everything. I can see it in myself, can't settle on anything in Netflix, keep needing to find new music, needing to check Facebook all the time etc. Think it's just one of the downsides of modern life unfortunately |
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over a year ago
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"Personally I think the pandemic did more of a number on traditional dating than any of the apps. It was just way harder to meet people for almost two solid years!
Agreed , and prob push online dating more than had been previously , unfortunately it's people having to much choice they can't focus on one thing any more haha
The choice thing isn't just a dating app problem though, it's everything. I can see it in myself, can't settle on anything in Netflix, keep needing to find new music, needing to check Facebook all the time etc. Think it's just one of the downsides of modern life unfortunately "
Yeah kinda noticed myself over last few years technology bit part in it, the more social media we have the less social we are with those that matter
, think some of us with more older what's getting kicked to the side haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I think the pandemic did more of a number on traditional dating than any of the apps. It was just way harder to meet people for almost two solid years!
Agreed , and prob push online dating more than had been previously , unfortunately it's people having to much choice they can't focus on one thing any more haha
The choice thing isn't just a dating app problem though, it's everything. I can see it in myself, can't settle on anything in Netflix, keep needing to find new music, needing to check Facebook all the time etc. Think it's just one of the downsides of modern life unfortunately "
Totally this, everything's replaceable and disposable and yet figures relating to loneliness and suicide in older people are growing. We are socialable people and need to be with people. |
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over a year ago
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"Personally I think the pandemic did more of a number on traditional dating than any of the apps. It was just way harder to meet people for almost two solid years!
Agreed , and prob push online dating more than had been previously , unfortunately it's people having to much choice they can't focus on one thing any more haha
The choice thing isn't just a dating app problem though, it's everything. I can see it in myself, can't settle on anything in Netflix, keep needing to find new music, needing to check Facebook all the time etc. Think it's just one of the downsides of modern life unfortunately
Totally this, everything's replaceable and disposable and yet figures relating to loneliness and suicide in older people are growing. We are socialable people and need to be with people. "
That's the scary part , noone wants to try fix things just throw it out and get a new one ya know,
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By *egsyWoman
over a year ago
Meath |
"OK so I know its a swingers site but for the singletons that are here do you think traditional dating is a thing of the past?
I'm just hanging around here till I find someone who'll make me wanna delete my account...and start one with her maybe haha"
That doesnt work either unfortunately, even when they have that they are still looking for more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Define traditional dating...I would bet that everyone has their own interpretation of what this means to them..."
For me I guess it's meeting someone and spending some time with them till you realise you want to make plans with them all the time  and I suppose it doesn't matter whether you meet them organically or through an app. |
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over a year ago
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"Define traditional dating...I would bet that everyone has their own interpretation of what this means to them..."
One where is not a box ticking exercise to get to the riding? |
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What exactly is traditional dating, boyfriend/girlfriend scenarios are still around but the ease of meeting new faces online makes monogamous relationships more difficult to maintain as the shop window is always on display and open to offers.pretty soon we’ll be needing blood tests to be sure we’re not related before fucking lol  |
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"Define traditional dating...I would bet that everyone has their own interpretation of what this means to them...
One where is not a box ticking exercise to get to the riding?"
Me thinks that might require a financial transaction |
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"Define traditional dating...I would bet that everyone has their own interpretation of what this means to them...
For me I guess it's meeting someone and spending some time with them till you realise you want to make plans with them all the time and I suppose it doesn't matter whether you meet them organically or through an app. "
I'd agree on the initial part of your own definition and I reckon people meeting organically in this day and age of technology is going to be a rare enough occurrence in the future. That part of meeting traditionally will be a ? to the next generation, just like a telephone with a dial on it or a record player...
It'll be a case of "what, you met on number 3 Tesco aisle where he grabbed the last loaf of bread before closing on Christmas Eve?!  - this still happens when you can swipe left or right and tick a few boxes?" |
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over a year ago
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"Define traditional dating...I would bet that everyone has their own interpretation of what this means to them...
For me I guess it's meeting someone and spending some time with them till you realise you want to make plans with them all the time and I suppose it doesn't matter whether you meet them organically or through an app.
I'd agree on the initial part of your own definition and I reckon people meeting organically in this day and age of technology is going to be a rare enough occurrence in the future. That part of meeting traditionally will be a ? to the next generation, just like a telephone with a dial on it or a record player...
It'll be a case of "what, you met on number 3 Tesco aisle where he grabbed the last loaf of bread before closing on Christmas Eve?! - this still happens when you can swipe left or right and tick a few boxes?" "
Realistically how many people met like that?
My dating history is friend of friend/ work or pub/club.
These will still continue to happen too |
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"Define traditional dating...I would bet that everyone has their own interpretation of what this means to them...
For me I guess it's meeting someone and spending some time with them till you realise you want to make plans with them all the time and I suppose it doesn't matter whether you meet them organically or through an app.
I'd agree on the initial part of your own definition and I reckon people meeting organically in this day and age of technology is going to be a rare enough occurrence in the future. That part of meeting traditionally will be a ? to the next generation, just like a telephone with a dial on it or a record player...
It'll be a case of "what, you met on number 3 Tesco aisle where he grabbed the last loaf of bread before closing on Christmas Eve?! - this still happens when you can swipe left or right and tick a few boxes?"
Realistically how many people met like that?
My dating history is friend of friend/ work or pub/club.
These will still continue to happen too"
Maybe it's just separated/divorced sad oldies like myself who (have to) resort to online and we're a dying breed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Define traditional dating...I would bet that everyone has their own interpretation of what this means to them...
For me I guess it's meeting someone and spending some time with them till you realise you want to make plans with them all the time and I suppose it doesn't matter whether you meet them organically or through an app.
I'd agree on the initial part of your own definition and I reckon people meeting organically in this day and age of technology is going to be a rare enough occurrence in the future. That part of meeting traditionally will be a ? to the next generation, just like a telephone with a dial on it or a record player...
It'll be a case of "what, you met on number 3 Tesco aisle where he grabbed the last loaf of bread before closing on Christmas Eve?! - this still happens when you can swipe left or right and tick a few boxes?"
Realistically how many people met like that?
My dating history is friend of friend/ work or pub/club.
These will still continue to happen too
Maybe it's just separated/divorced sad oldies like myself who (have to) resort to online and we're a dying breed.
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Oh no online is huge don't get me wrong.
But the meet cute rom com shite is fantasy/ extremely rare and always was |
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So fab appears to be fans of traditional dating, whereas the younger generation and dating websites are all “I want what I want and I want it now”
We appear to have swapped principles
I’m an oldie so I’m obviously a fan of a date/coffee meet before jumping into bed, there’s nothing like the rush when you both realise the other person isn’t as bad as you might have feared  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK so I know its a swingers site but for the singletons that are here do you think traditional dating is a thing of the past? "
Absolutely a thing of the past 
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By *ostmaryWoman
over a year ago
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As someone relatively young but with 8 years online dating experience, it is essentially all I have known. But what started as a fun way to meet people has slowly became more disillusioned for us all.
The conclusion I’ve drawn is it’s hard to find an all rounder ( I keep matching with and dating completely vanilla people who I don’t fully align to). People in Ireland are generally quite closed minded- a lot of feedback I get is people not understanding my loyalty and trustworthiness given my other interests- I think online platforms push everyone into a box and it’s hard to break back out of that.
So I suppose Fab is the best bet for now and live in the hope someone comes alone to make me want to delete it or even better, start a couples account  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I think the pandemic did more of a number on traditional dating than any of the apps. It was just way harder to meet people for almost two solid years!
Agreed , and prob push online dating more than had been previously , unfortunately it's people having to much choice they can't focus on one thing any more haha
The choice thing isn't just a dating app problem though, it's everything. I can see it in myself, can't settle on anything in Netflix, keep needing to find new music, needing to check Facebook all the time etc. Think it's just one of the downsides of modern life unfortunately
Totally this, everything's replaceable and disposable and yet figures relating to loneliness and suicide in older people are growing. We are socialable people and need to be with people.
That's the scary part , noone wants to try fix things just throw it out and get a new one ya know,
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Few want to work at anything anymore. Too easy to move to the next...same with most things as you mention. Most meets seem to be the same...disposable sex; there's little value beyond the meet, all the build up have sex and then it next please, a verification to remind others their active, it gives a welcome pat on the back but it's all of little value in the end. Relationships between fabbers who have the candy shop window with it's bright lights and all the different sweetie jars on display isn't the best place for starters.
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"Even when you are dating someone it seems they are always in the look out for something new and better so whats the point.
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I do date the traditional way, as you never really find anyone that wants to date on here. Fab is actually a lonely place, soulless really.
I'd love to find someone to be my girlfriend and partner. I wouldn't be looking elsewhere if I found that girl. |
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As I date women I can only talk about women and I think on a first date it's all very black or white. They look for immediate perfection. They don't want to give it a chance as they know another guy and another date is only a click away. They won't go for it or are not willing to commit unless 100 boxes are ticked out of 100. When dates and potential partners were less accessible, people were more appreciative of a love interest and willing to give it a chance where as now it's the opposite. And dare I say it sites like this have aided the change. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As I date women I can only talk about women and I think on a first date it's all very black or white. They look for immediate perfection. They don't want to give it a chance as they know another guy and another date is only a click away. They won't go for it or are not willing to commit unless 100 boxes are ticked out of 100. When dates and potential partners were less accessible, people were more appreciative of a love interest and willing to give it a chance where as now it's the opposite. And dare I say it sites like this have aided the change. "
Have to say men think the same or the ones I've come across |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
I have had an aversion to traditional dating, as it is commonly known,and also tomonogamous relationships too for as long as I can remember: if a connection can be established; if two people click; and share an interest in relationships with similarly minded couples, everyone is a winner and a feeling of being trapped in the same traditional relationship as one's parents will not come to fruition.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few things:
1. Ask a woman on a date here and they don't take it seriously. I've tried.
2. Most dating apps now are paid so it's more difficult.
3. I get there is a new shiny person every 5 mins but its awkward as people stop chatting to you. Can be disheartening.
Therefore my suggestion is that the singles create a singles group for dating. Hopefully some of us will have some luck. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"A few things:
1. Ask a woman on a date here and they don't take it seriously. I've tried.
2. Most dating apps now are paid so it's more difficult.
3. I get there is a new shiny person every 5 mins but its awkward as people stop chatting to you. Can be disheartening.
Therefore my suggestion is that the singles create a singles group for dating. Hopefully some of us will have some luck. "
There's already a singles group on the forums that post every now and then |
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By *s louWoman
over a year ago
Enniskillen |
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I’m an oldie so I’m obviously a fan of a date/coffee meet before jumping into bed, there’s nothing like the rush when you both realise the other person isn’t as bad as you might have feared "
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over a year ago
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I think the decline in LTRs is probably due to the pressure to get an imperfect reality to match the perfect image they have built in their head of what a good relationship is. So people will bin a person rather than grow and nurture the connection.
I am half-heartedly on a few sites but fab is the best atm for matching sexual needs long-term in a straightforward way.
Can't speak for the masses, but I do find that my trust is very hard won on and off of fab i.e. trust that any guy I find won't be half hearted with alternative matches always available to them and that the online 'one-step-removed' part makes deceit so very much easier for folk.
Or that they'll try to mislead to get a short-term thing even though in reality they're not a good match to my long-term needs.
Time generally reveals all so I do not rush to meet.
As far as fab-addicts go, I also know that a liar will lie and a cheater will cheat no matter the who or the commitment they are in. They are driven by their needs to seek out opportunities to play games or to cheat whereas a guy who isn't wired to cheat could have a naked girlie jump them and just calmly set them off and put them straight so imho cheating just outs the trash really.
So I guess that's what I'm seeking. A guy fit to be my king who can meet me and match me in my filthiest fantasies and treat me as his queen in return. One who sees fab as entertainment not sustenance. Who could draw a line between the two and participate in joint social ways. Who is open and honest always.
Can't force chemistry or nature.
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"OK so I know its a swingers site but for the singletons that are here do you think traditional dating is a thing of the past? "
Traditional dating is brilliant the old fashioned way the excitement of the whole thing
But in saying that we met on fab and being the best thing ever |
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"A few things:
1. Ask a woman on a date here and they don't take it seriously. I've tried.
2. Most dating apps now are paid so it's more difficult.
3. I get there is a new shiny person every 5 mins but its awkward as people stop chatting to you. Can be disheartening.
Therefore my suggestion is that the singles create a singles group for dating. Hopefully some of us will have some luck. "
I really have to disagree with a lot of this from my experience. You have to be looking in the right place (fab is probably not that place) and you have to put in the effort to show your personality and not be boring or same-y.
I think too many people don't have the confidence to put themselves out there to help break through the noise. There's options for everyone and noone wants to sign up to a mundane life (we've all escaped a LTR like that right?), so if we won't accept that then we shouldn't show it.
I love proper dates and building the tension, but it's a matter of having some favourites, enjoying the experience even if I'm not attracted to the person, being honest and communicating intentions including setting up the next date roughly before they leave (either after dinner, or over coffee the morning after).but you also have to read the room that it's probably something they want too. Oh, and go to therapy and owning your shit is definitely hot.
I'd ask if I'm too much of a romantic or optimistic, but it seems to work alright for me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there is room in the world for any type of dating you want. It's up to yourself to decide what suits you and go for it. "
Agreed ,it's all about intent. Most just follow the masses as that's " the way these days" which is a shame |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I think it is. Everything is done online now, gone are the days of going to the pub or club to go on the pull. I find when people go out now it’s to stay, drink and have fun with their friend group. If you want a date, the first interaction is done on a site now and if your lucky then a date is organised 
The thrill of the chase isn’t the same anymore imo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Insta-life
Intsta-relationship
Insta-fuck
Insta-friends
Tik-twat
Only-feet
Fab-fantasy
The reality is most people live a life online now, come home from work or wakeup we all reach for our phone.
Gone is the day of a shift at the disco and a feel of a tit outside of the jumper and go home to tow yourself around the bed... Internet can never take that away from me
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Relationships are a minefield. When you are younger you get all loved up and lose yourself in the storm. Relationships can be very confining, especially if you are married.The trick is to have friends and interests out side of the relationship. If I were married I'd want and expect monogamy. |
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By *egsyWoman
over a year ago
Meath |
"Relationships are a minefield. When you are younger you get all loved up and lose yourself in the storm. Relationships can be very confining, especially if you are married.The trick is to have friends and interests out side of the relationship. If I were married I'd want and expect monogamy. "
But would you be monogamous in return? Seems a lot of fellas expect you to be true and faithful to them, while still wanting to fuck about themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do think its becoming less and less common. People aren't as willing to compromise to make traditional relationships work.
Online has given people the perception of unlimited options. There's always someone new and shiny a few clicks away.
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Unfortunately, there are always the keyboard warriors and picture hunters who are just out there ready to fup about in genuine people.
I suppose it depends on what your looking for |
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By *heMystroMan
over a year ago
playa del ingles |
Traditional dating is great and Fab is great for people to get to the point for people to say what they ultimately want. (Probably same as traditional dating!) It is all just another new method of communication. A lot of the people on Fab want people to be friends who they have good or great sex with. That is ‘friends’ who they like and trust. It’s dating without the commitment or prospect of commitment Just enjoy the sites, the great socials, the friendships and chats. Oh and the amazing sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am so late to this thread but I enjoy a traditional date as much as a fab meet. I'm looking for totally different things from both, there are plenty of women on here I'd be as happy with a date or a meet. The craic from messages and chats is a good indicator |
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Traditional dating is alive and kicking and always will be.
There is nothing better than meeting up with someone, flirting, teasing, eye contact, human contact, that good nervous feeling before hand. This is what really gets the chemicals flowing. |
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I think the traditional date is still alive and well both here and outside the community. The idea of going from texting to bed wouldn't do anything for me. How could great sex be had without eye contact and smiling, lil whispers into ears. |
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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
City Centre |
"I do think its becoming less and less common. People aren't as willing to compromise to make traditional relationships work.
Online has given people the perception of unlimited options. There's always someone new and shiny a few clicks away.
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Totally agree people aren't willing to put effort and work into relationships these days. Fear of commitment, way too much temptation and too many options...in my opinion
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I think there will always be people who are happy to do traditional dating.I also think there are just as many who are happy enough to not do it the traditional way and do it whatever way suits them best.
I know I am happy living in own space and while it's great having someone stay over at times I don't think I'll ever want to live with someone again.
I don't think anyone who decides to do things their own way is broken or looking for the next best thing to come along. But it's more a case of finding someone who is looking for the same thing as you and on the same page and honest about what they want, may not be that easy to find. No matter where you look for it . |
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Traditional dating still exists. I think.
Go out seeing someone in the pub, asking for their nr. Go out on dates. Getting to know eachother. If it works out great. If not move on.
You never know when or how you will meet someone.
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Traditional dating still exists. I think.
Go out seeing someone in the pub, asking for their nr. Go out on dates. Getting to know eachother. If it works out great. If not move on.
You never know when or how you will meet someone.
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It does ,I've met nice ladies from chests in pubs or dating apps etc the challenge for me is the possibility introducing them to this alternative dimension , for most it's not what they are looking for ... |
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
Far far away |
I fear traditional dating is dead but I also miss it. In such a transient society everything is disposable including people. Choice is endless and people exist in a state yearning for the next best thing or dissatisfied with the current status quo.
2023 mantra. Be present, be gracious, be kind.
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
Not sure what traditional dating would be defined as but I don't think it's a thing of the past. Pubs, nightclubs are still busy and people aren't all sitting there on tinder.
I think people's struggle with dating is far more related to their age range rather than any perceived notion that traditional dating does not happen across society. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Relationships are a minefield. When you are younger you get all loved up and lose yourself in the storm. Relationships can be very confining, especially if you are married.The trick is to have friends and interests out side of the relationship. If I were married I'd want and expect monogamy.
But would you be monogamous in return? Seems a lot of fellas expect you to be true and faithful to them, while still wanting to fuck about themselves "
A lot of women do that too , the guy is exclusive to her but she fucks whoever she is sexually attracted to... |
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By * VaWoman
over a year ago
Dublin |
I haven't been on a traditional date in a long time (I haven't done that many solo meets this year), one that isn't designed to see if there's more on the cards sexually.
It's almost like an interview some of the time.
I do like to have the social aspect to a meet. If I can arrange a traditional looking date as a prelude to fun I tend to be a happy bunny.
Even with the window shopping effect of Fab: incorporating a date-type part into a meet is one of my happy places. I love the will they won't they tension |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"So who wants to meet under The Clery's clock
Is that code for something? "
No ....back in the early 80's when most people didn't have a phone in their house you had to make arrangements to meet your date in advance and if ye were meeting in Dublin city centre it was usually under Clery's Clock.
If someone didn't show up then you were left standing there wondering if they were late or not going to turn up .....very sad seeing people on their own under the clock .....the scars run deep |
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Online has given people the perception of unlimited options. There's always someone new and shiny a few clicks away.
Definitely agree with this. It's almost like ordering online for some people.
Traditional dating...do you mean going out for dinner/drinks/movies etc? It's still around but I find the majority of guys I date (not there has been many mind!) think the date is the pre game & they're gonna end up in my knickers. Just my take on it "
The black ones look good on you . Fabulous derrière |
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"OK so I know its a swingers site but for the singletons that are here do you think traditional dating is a thing of the past? "
Nope, it's not a thing of the past. I have talked to several ladies on here who while, yes, the are looking for sex, they are also looking for companionship, romantic walks, movie nights and friendship.
I don't see anything wrong with it at all. We all have reasons to be here and things missing from our lives. |
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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
City Centre |
"So who wants to meet under The Clery's clock
Is that code for something?
No ....back in the early 80's when most people didn't have a phone in their house you had to make arrangements to meet your date in advance and if ye were meeting in Dublin city centre it was usually under Clery's Clock.
If someone didn't show up then you were left standing there wondering if they were late or not going to turn up .....very sad seeing people on their own under the clock .....the scars run deep "
Yes the memories...
UCC - under Clery's clock
UEC - under Eason's clock
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"I think this is more a problem in Ireland. On dating apps when I was in France all guys looking for serious relationship.
I have a feeling that Irish men are sorta broken
(I am not Irish FYI)"
I would think its a case of broken woman too ... I don't know any young ladies early 20s looking for serious relationships... they want attention and insta likes |
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I reckon traditional dating maybe a thing of the past no one wants to put the effort in nowadays but then again most sites are just people looking a quick sh@g with no strings attached...I give up on dating a very long time ago and happier to stay single for a lifetime ... xx |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"I haven't been on a traditional date in a long time (I haven't done that many solo meets this year), one that isn't designed to see if there's more on the cards sexually.
It's almost like an interview some of the time.
I do like to have the social aspect to a meet. If I can arrange a traditional looking date as a prelude to fun I tend to be a happy bunny.
Even with the window shopping effect of Fab: incorporating a date-type part into a meet is one of my happy places. I love the will they won't they tension "
I love a flirty social having a laugh.. and when the lady gives the green light ... |
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Anyone that's dating online do you pay/subscribe? I'm not sure many do. I don't. I am sceptical that all the so called likes and views are just from management to get you to subscribe. Any thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I fear traditional dating is dead but I also miss it. In such a transient society everything is disposable including people. Choice is endless and people exist in a state yearning for the next best thing or dissatisfied with the current status quo.
2023 mantra. Be present, be gracious, be kind.
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A great mantra to have.
It seems to me from observing on here that there is a hint of loneliness in a lot of people. It's difficult to find and balance that need for warmth and affection with the need of freedom and not been caged in. Life can be lonley. But one needs to compromise to give and to take if they wish to find a partner to share life with. With a partner there is always more to discover about yourself and the person your with. Alas too many people these days want a new toaster before the bread turns brown.
I think dating is still a great way to go for lots of people.
Happy New Year to all.
Be Present Be Gracious Be Kind
Life is short
Life is beautiful
And then we are gone |
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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago
North West, Outer Letterkenny area |
"I do think its becoming less and less common. People aren't as willing to compromise to make traditional relationships work.
Online has given people the perception of unlimited options. There's always someone new and shiny a few clicks away.
absolutely and utterly agree with this 100%. Definitely has been my experience over the years. 'dating/relationships' are disposable. "
I should state , I find other people view it as disposable. Or not willing to work at things. People have the illusion every should be perfect immediately and all of the time. If not , on to the next. I find it baffling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As someone relatively young but with 8 years online dating experience, it is essentially all I have known. But what started as a fun way to meet people has slowly became more disillusioned for us all.
The conclusion I’ve drawn is it’s hard to find an all rounder ( I keep matching with and dating completely vanilla people who I don’t fully align to). People in Ireland are generally quite closed minded- a lot of feedback I get is people not understanding my loyalty and trustworthiness given my other interests- I think online platforms push everyone into a box and it’s hard to break back out of that.
So I suppose Fab is the best bet for now and live in the hope someone comes alone to make me want to delete it or even better, start a couples account "
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Maybe I’m unusual on fab but I still like to flirt and “woo” someone. Even if it’s potentially for a play meet, I’ll still be flirting to see if there’s a connection or if they twirl their hair round their finger and smile and swing their leg as they chat.
It still happens in real life too, when we take time to observe it
(Twirls his non existent hair round his finger while battering his eyelids and smiling at everyone)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Traditional online dating sites are just a money racket , people have to pay to be rejected, naww , they can keep it , no problem at all with rejection .none whatsoever..but lm not gonna pay for that privilege.. |
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Many fake profiles on dating sites set up by management and you get continuous likes which you can't see or message unless you subscribe. Not falling for it. I'll keep my money thanks very much and buy a lady a drink in the pub instead |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on what we mean by traditional dating, but I much prefer going out with my mates and catching a gal's eye, chatting her up and having a bit of craic trying to pull her and then going on a proper date. I love the buzz of it all and don't feel the same electricity in online dating. |
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