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I always think about that but enven we put effort to write with someone we like the profile and make an effort with few line about yourself and what are you looking for, many people never answer !
Why people are rude and don’t make an effort to say sorry but not interested ?
Is it very difficult ? |
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over a year ago
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From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? |
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"Goods verifications = less chance of wasters time & fake profiles"
I can understand but to say sorry but not interesting with your profile it’s more nice and polite than no answers…
Or maybe something is wrong on my profile and just say it, please ! |
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By *rHardCMan
over a year ago
Funtown |
I totally get the non reply..
Iv seen some lady's show me there profiles and its 100's of messages daily... yes might be ur profile isnt noticeable from the greek gods photos of guys or couple profiles that are here.. but dont mean anything wrong with ur own... just need to engage with the site or potential of social events etc |
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"From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"
Absolute perfect response.
You can learn alot from this message.
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"From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"
Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate that !
It’s just frustrating when you really like a profile and many interested are similar and always answers very politically and easy going. I am not a pushy people. I also understand, the most of the social event to get verify are not in Cork and it’s shame… anyway I am off next weekend and I will travel to Dublin as I saw many social meet and events |
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"From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate that !
It’s just frustrating when you really like a profile and many interested are similar and always answers very politically and easy going. I am not a pushy people. I also understand, the most of the social event to get verify are not in Cork and it’s shame… anyway I am off next weekend and I will travel to Dublin as I saw many social meet and events "
Yes I'm sure you're very polite but unfortunately not all men here are. I used to tried to reply to every single message and some people will not take a no thanks as a answer. It's the reason why a lot of women end up blocking men from messaging them or won't answer messages. If you read some of the abuse we get by replying no thanks you might understand. But best of luck attending future socials. |
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"From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate that !
It’s just frustrating when you really like a profile and many interested are similar and always answers very politically and easy going. I am not a pushy people. I also understand, the most of the social event to get verify are not in Cork and it’s shame… anyway I am off next weekend and I will travel to Dublin as I saw many social meet and events
Yes I'm sure you're very polite but unfortunately not all men here are. I used to tried to reply to every single message and some people will not take a no thanks as a answer. It's the reason why a lot of women end up blocking men from messaging them or won't answer messages. If you read some of the abuse we get by replying no thanks you might understand. But best of luck attending future socials. "
Yes many men are very pushy and never take a no for a no , so I really understand that point to prefer block people straight away… I really hope to have more luck in Dublin to get my first verification and after it will be more easier to have nice fun in fab in cork or everywhere… many events I would love to try once   |
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"From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate that !
It’s just frustrating when you really like a profile and many interested are similar and always answers very politically and easy going. I am not a pushy people. I also understand, the most of the social event to get verify are not in Cork and it’s shame… anyway I am off next weekend and I will travel to Dublin as I saw many social meet and events
Yes I'm sure you're very polite but unfortunately not all men here are. I used to tried to reply to every single message and some people will not take a no thanks as a answer. It's the reason why a lot of women end up blocking men from messaging them or won't answer messages. If you read some of the abuse we get by replying no thanks you might understand. But best of luck attending future socials. "
Can you tell me if if my pictures is good or not enough attractive for a woman or couple ?
Please, thanks in advance |
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"From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate that !
It’s just frustrating when you really like a profile and many interested are similar and always answers very politically and easy going. I am not a pushy people. I also understand, the most of the social event to get verify are not in Cork and it’s shame… anyway I am off next weekend and I will travel to Dublin as I saw many social meet and events
Yes I'm sure you're very polite but unfortunately not all men here are. I used to tried to reply to every single message and some people will not take a no thanks as a answer. It's the reason why a lot of women end up blocking men from messaging them or won't answer messages. If you read some of the abuse we get by replying no thanks you might understand. But best of luck attending future socials.
Can you tell me if if my pictures is good or not enough attractive for a woman or couple ?
Please, thanks in advance "
I think your pics are ok chief.
Personally I'd change what you've wrote though. Possibly say a little about yourself and a cheeky joke or something.
Alot of guys say oh I'd eat your pussy so good I'd need an umbrella and stuff like that. STAND OUT my man. Hope that helps |
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"From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate that !
It’s just frustrating when you really like a profile and many interested are similar and always answers very politically and easy going. I am not a pushy people. I also understand, the most of the social event to get verify are not in Cork and it’s shame… anyway I am off next weekend and I will travel to Dublin as I saw many social meet and events
Yes I'm sure you're very polite but unfortunately not all men here are. I used to tried to reply to every single message and some people will not take a no thanks as a answer. It's the reason why a lot of women end up blocking men from messaging them or won't answer messages. If you read some of the abuse we get by replying no thanks you might understand. But best of luck attending future socials.
Can you tell me if if my pictures is good or not enough attractive for a woman or couple ?
Please, thanks in advance
I think your pics are ok chief.
Personally I'd change what you've wrote though. Possibly say a little about yourself and a cheeky joke or something.
Alot of guys say oh I'd eat your pussy so good I'd need an umbrella and stuff like that. STAND OUT my man. Hope that helps"
Not that I'm a fab expert or anything. Just trying to help
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over a year ago
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"I always think about that but enven we put effort to write with someone we like the profile and make an effort with few line about yourself and what are you looking for, many people never answer !
Why people are rude and don’t make an effort to say sorry but not interested ?
Is it very difficult ?"
maybe it’s rude to message some people in the first place and there is no obligation on anyone to answer anything |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"I totally get the non reply..
Iv seen some lady's show me there profiles and its 100's of messages daily... yes might be ur profile isnt noticeable from the greek gods photos of guys or couple profiles that are here.. but dont mean anything wrong with ur own... just need to engage with the site or potential of social events etc"
There’s a great bit of advice, and a great opportunity for a phot………. 
Anyone with a bed sheet and a bit of a stick could have a go at recreating the statue of Zeus, in my limited experience, it’s funny pics that often get the best reaction, not the ones where everyone is sucking their gut in like a Dyson turbo……..   |
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By *rHardCMan
over a year ago
Funtown |
"I totally get the non reply..
Iv seen some lady's show me there profiles and its 100's of messages daily... yes might be ur profile isnt noticeable from the greek gods photos of guys or couple profiles that are here.. but dont mean anything wrong with ur own... just need to engage with the site or potential of social events etc
There’s a great bit of advice, and a great opportunity for a phot……….
Anyone with a bed sheet and a bit of a stick could have a go at recreating the statue of Zeus, in my limited experience, it’s funny pics that often get the best reaction, not the ones where everyone is sucking their gut in like a Dyson turbo…….. "
Wow i had the solution all along lol
Off to the hot press.. |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"I totally get the non reply..
Iv seen some lady's show me there profiles and its 100's of messages daily... yes might be ur profile isnt noticeable from the greek gods photos of guys or couple profiles that are here.. but dont mean anything wrong with ur own... just need to engage with the site or potential of social events etc
There’s a great bit of advice, and a great opportunity for a phot……….
Anyone with a bed sheet and a bit of a stick could have a go at recreating the statue of Zeus, in my limited experience, it’s funny pics that often get the best reaction, not the ones where everyone is sucking their gut in like a Dyson turbo……..
Wow i had the solution all along lol
Off to the hot press.."
I’m sorry, you’ll have to hold the press, I have a copyright ©? over it now……. |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
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I’m sorry, you’ll have to hold the press, I have a copyright ©? over it now…….
God dam it always miss the good stuff on technicality  "
I know the feeling………  , but apparently they’re known as preferences……..
Which should always be respected….. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Rudeness and unanswered messages are two distinct behaviours; rudeness is a scenario where one gets an inappropriate reply, but a reply nevertheless whilst the absence of a reply indicates a lack of interest in the original communication. |
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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago
Dundalk |
We get very few messages so we don't have to worry about trawling through them. Probably less than 30 in total since we created this profile.
We did reply to every message even to say thanks but no thanks but some don't seem to get the message and have a second or third attempt at changing our minds.
We just delete those without replying.
Strangely enough the only nasty messages we have received have been from well verified profiles who tell us in their first message that we have an amazing profile with great pics and in their second message that we are up our own holes with a stupid profile and crap pics.
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"From the FAQ Section I suggest you read it
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate that !
It’s just frustrating when you really like a profile and many interested are similar and always answers very politically and easy going. I am not a pushy people. I also understand, the most of the social event to get verify are not in Cork and it’s shame… anyway I am off next weekend and I will travel to Dublin as I saw many social meet and events "
You really like a profile, therefore it’s “rude” if they don’t like you back? You message them because you find them attractive, they’re afforded the same. No reply is a reply in itself - they’re not interested. |
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Well Op you certainly have received enough comments on what it is to message someone here and get no reply back .
My theory is that if you message someone and they read it, wish them the best of luck and block them. That way you know they aren't interested in you and you wont be tempted to message them again!! |
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OP, I'm sure that there are profiles who are hoping you contact them. Keep the chin up.
We are all selective, picking and choosing who we send a message to. Those who receive our mails will equally pick and choose who they would like to reply to. None of us are obliged to mail anybody or reply to a mail from somebody.
You come across as a nice genuine and respectful guy. Be yourself and I am sure you will meet the person you are seeking. |
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"Well Op you certainly have received enough comments on what it is to message someone here and get no reply back .
My theory is that if you message someone and they read it, wish them the best of luck and block them. That way you know they aren't interested in you and you wont be tempted to message them again!!"
Why would you block them , if you know they're not interested then they're obviously not going to message you. On the other hand if later down the line they maybe looked at your profile and decided they'd like to message you ....they wouldn't be able ...cos you blocked them. That's just stupid |
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"Replying to someone means they override filters in future, sometimes this can invite hassle or unwanted messages so ignoring avoids this x"
"Replying to someone" as in they've already been in touch by message or wink?
As far as I'm aware, if they got into your inbox, they will continue to be able to do so (unless you block them) - regardless of whether you respond or not... |
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"Replying to someone means they override filters in future, sometimes this can invite hassle or unwanted messages so ignoring avoids this x
"Replying to someone" as in they've already been in touch by message or wink?
As far as I'm aware, if they got into your inbox, they will continue to be able to do so (unless you block them) - regardless of whether you respond or not..."
I'm pretty sure if you were to delete the message then change your filters, they can't |
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"Replying to someone means they override filters in future, sometimes this can invite hassle or unwanted messages so ignoring avoids this x
"Replying to someone" as in they've already been in touch by message or wink?
As far as I'm aware, if they got into your inbox, they will continue to be able to do so (unless you block them) - regardless of whether you respond or not...
I'm pretty sure if you were to delete the message then change your filters, they can't"
With a block, yes...not when you change filters. I've only just deleted a wink from a single man profile (who messaged a long time ago before filters were on). We have single men filtered/blocked from messaging and hardly any profiles on our block list.
Those who have messaged/winked/friend requested, can only be stopped from contacting you again by blocking. |
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By *woToSeeCouple
over a year ago
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We are the ones who did not reply. We even deleted your message. Here is s why. We do at times get hundreds of messages daily, so we read almost all, except 'heya, howaya, howya and the kinds' and 'fuck now' 'I can accommodate'. But you are pushy, you even escalated everything before it ever began for you. As far as we can remember, photos on your profile were poor. Poor light, poor moment, everything. Take care and do try to analyze yourself instead of blaming everyone else. Officially, you are not our type. That's why we did not respond. We thought it's enough just not to respond. |
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"Replying to someone means they override filters in future, sometimes this can invite hassle or unwanted messages so ignoring avoids this x
"Replying to someone" as in they've already been in touch by message or wink?
As far as I'm aware, if they got into your inbox, they will continue to be able to do so (unless you block them) - regardless of whether you respond or not...
I'm pretty sure if you were to delete the message then change your filters, they can't
With a block, yes...not when you change filters. I've only just deleted a wink from a single man profile (who messaged a long time ago before filters were on). We have single men filtered/blocked from messaging and hardly any profiles on our block list.
Those who have messaged/winked/friend requested, can only be stopped from contacting you again by blocking."
I'm talking about messages though, not winks - lots of other threads talk about this overriding of filters but clearly I'm just losing my marbles  |
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"Replying to someone means they override filters in future, sometimes this can invite hassle or unwanted messages so ignoring avoids this x
"Replying to someone" as in they've already been in touch by message or wink?
As far as I'm aware, if they got into your inbox, they will continue to be able to do so (unless you block them) - regardless of whether you respond or not...
I'm pretty sure if you were to delete the message then change your filters, they can't
With a block, yes...not when you change filters. I've only just deleted a wink from a single man profile (who messaged a long time ago before filters were on). We have single men filtered/blocked from messaging and hardly any profiles on our block list.
Those who have messaged/winked/friend requested, can only be stopped from contacting you again by blocking."
From the message filters page:
"Filters don't apply and people can message if you've mailed someone before (if you message someone you have filtered, they can reply), you have winked at someone, or you are friends." |
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"Replying to someone means they override filters in future, sometimes this can invite hassle or unwanted messages so ignoring avoids this x
"Replying to someone" as in they've already been in touch by message or wink?
As far as I'm aware, if they got into your inbox, they will continue to be able to do so (unless you block them) - regardless of whether you respond or not...
I'm pretty sure if you were to delete the message then change your filters, they can't
With a block, yes...not when you change filters. I've only just deleted a wink from a single man profile (who messaged a long time ago before filters were on). We have single men filtered/blocked from messaging and hardly any profiles on our block list.
Those who have messaged/winked/friend requested, can only be stopped from contacting you again by blocking.
From the message filters page:
"Filters don't apply and people can message if you've mailed someone before (if you message someone you have filtered, they can reply), you have winked at someone, or you are friends.""
Ok, I'll try again...from your first response with regards to, I quote "replying to someone means they override filters in future" - the use of the word replying tells me that they have been in contact already (wink/message/friend request), meaning they are "permitted" according to your filters to contact you in the first place. In other words, they're not filtered out if they could contact you (by message/wink/friend request), so replying to them or not, makes no difference. They can contact you as often as they want unless you block them (you can't filter them out now because they've been in touch).
So if someone has contacted you (by message, wink or friend request), they cannot possibly be filtered out.
UNLESS you have changed your filters over time, in which case someone who is now filtered but has contacted you by wink/message/friend request prior to the filter change, they can still contact you. The filter won't apply to anyone you have had contact with (by wink/message/friend request). The only way to stop contact is by blocking.
I hope that clears it up, otherwise I give up because then there's a misunderstanding somewhere which I'm not quite grasping - since I'm blonde, I'll just put it down to that   |
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"Replying to someone means they override filters in future, sometimes this can invite hassle or unwanted messages so ignoring avoids this x
"Replying to someone" as in they've already been in touch by message or wink?
As far as I'm aware, if they got into your inbox, they will continue to be able to do so (unless you block them) - regardless of whether you respond or not...
I'm pretty sure if you were to delete the message then change your filters, they can't
With a block, yes...not when you change filters. I've only just deleted a wink from a single man profile (who messaged a long time ago before filters were on). We have single men filtered/blocked from messaging and hardly any profiles on our block list.
Those who have messaged/winked/friend requested, can only be stopped from contacting you again by blocking.
From the message filters page:
"Filters don't apply and people can message if you've mailed someone before (if you message someone you have filtered, they can reply), you have winked at someone, or you are friends."
Ok, I'll try again...from your first response with regards to, I quote "replying to someone means they override filters in future" - the use of the word replying tells me that they have been in contact already (wink/message/friend request), meaning they are "permitted" according to your filters to contact you in the first place. In other words, they're not filtered out if they could contact you (by message/wink/friend request), so replying to them or not, makes no difference. They can contact you as often as they want unless you block them (you can't filter them out now because they've been in touch).
So if someone has contacted you (by message, wink or friend request), they cannot possibly be filtered out.
UNLESS you have changed your filters over time, in which case someone who is now filtered but has contacted you by wink/message/friend request prior to the filter change, they can still contact you. The filter won't apply to anyone you have had contact with (by wink/message/friend request). The only way to stop contact is by blocking.
I hope that clears it up, otherwise I give up because then there's a misunderstanding somewhere which I'm not quite grasping - since I'm blonde, I'll just put it down to that "
You'll have to spread word throughout the forums then, because it seems to be something perceived as common knowledge!  |
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"Replying to someone means they override filters in future, sometimes this can invite hassle or unwanted messages so ignoring avoids this x
"Replying to someone" as in they've already been in touch by message or wink?
As far as I'm aware, if they got into your inbox, they will continue to be able to do so (unless you block them) - regardless of whether you respond or not...
I'm pretty sure if you were to delete the message then change your filters, they can't
With a block, yes...not when you change filters. I've only just deleted a wink from a single man profile (who messaged a long time ago before filters were on). We have single men filtered/blocked from messaging and hardly any profiles on our block list.
Those who have messaged/winked/friend requested, can only be stopped from contacting you again by blocking.
From the message filters page:
"Filters don't apply and people can message if you've mailed someone before (if you message someone you have filtered, they can reply), you have winked at someone, or you are friends."
Ok, I'll try again...from your first response with regards to, I quote "replying to someone means they override filters in future" - the use of the word replying tells me that they have been in contact already (wink/message/friend request), meaning they are "permitted" according to your filters to contact you in the first place. In other words, they're not filtered out if they could contact you (by message/wink/friend request), so replying to them or not, makes no difference. They can contact you as often as they want unless you block them (you can't filter them out now because they've been in touch).
So if someone has contacted you (by message, wink or friend request), they cannot possibly be filtered out.
UNLESS you have changed your filters over time, in which case someone who is now filtered but has contacted you by wink/message/friend request prior to the filter change, they can still contact you. The filter won't apply to anyone you have had contact with (by wink/message/friend request). The only way to stop contact is by blocking.
I hope that clears it up, otherwise I give up because then there's a misunderstanding somewhere which I'm not quite grasping - since I'm blonde, I'll just put it down to that "
P.S I've got a healthy chunk of blonde in my hair which I think explains a lot  |
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I hope that clears it up, otherwise I give up because then there's a misunderstanding somewhere which I'm not quite grasping - since I'm blonde, I'll just put it down to that
P.S I've got a healthy chunk of blonde in my hair which I think explains a lot
You don't wanna be dropping down to my level, believe me "
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"I always think about that but enven we put effort to write with someone we like the profile and make an effort with few line about yourself and what are you looking for, many people never answer !
Why people are rude and don’t make an effort to say sorry but not interested ?
Is it very difficult ?"
Don't take it personally and it won't be as difficult. |
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"I always think about that but enven we put effort to write with someone we like the profile and make an effort with few line about yourself and what are you looking for, many people never answer !
Why people are rude and don’t make an effort to say sorry but not interested ?
Is it very difficult ?"
It's fab and any woman does what she wants , some reply, others don't , women here are swamped with messages and they simply do not have time to reply to all, it's just the way it is in this joint. |
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"cost nothing to reply even to say no thanks
It costs time and energy. Even the FAQ says no reply is a "no thanks""
Tbf if replying to messages takes that much out of ya ,, ya might need to see someone |
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I’ve spent time replying to the point I ran out of messages and I’m a gold member so get more . Then some people abuse you for refusing them meets plus it’s just too stressful trying to handle the ridiculous amounts of messages for meets . Really no one owes you anything even an answer it’s just your own expectations of what you would get on here that have you feeling people are rude . |
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"cost nothing to reply even to say no thanks
It costs time and energy. Even the FAQ says no reply is a "no thanks"
Tbf if replying to messages takes that much out of ya ,, ya might need to see someone "
Times that by the amount of chancers on here and it'd be pretty time consuming |
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over a year ago
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This old chestnut
The assumption that someone is rude if they don't reply to one's message.... seriously the ignorance of this attitude with some people on here ....very sad
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"This old chestnut
The assumption that someone is rude if they don't reply to one's message.... seriously the ignorance of this attitude with some people on here ....very sad
We couldn't have summed it up better ourselves
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"This old chestnut
The assumption that someone is rude if they don't reply to one's message.... seriously the ignorance of this attitude with some people on here ....very sad
Ignorance is usually not a choice , rather a lack of information
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Would it be fair to say that for some women it takes too much time (some)
For most its a case of cant be bothered replying to these people they have no interest for various reasons ie rude replies, not taking no for answer, same people messaging again , just can't be arsed, etc etc etc .
Which is anyone's prerogative? |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"You can dress it up all you like but if you’ve time to read a message you’ve time to reply! "
You do reply by not replying
Do you reply to all the junk emails you get or leaflets in your letterbox |
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"You can dress it up all you like but if you’ve time to read a message you’ve time to reply!
You do reply by not replying
Do you reply to all the junk emails you get or leaflets in your letterbox "
I do. Just today I've signed up with eirtricity, financed a set of sauce pans from Harvey Norman and gave a tenner to save the seagulls from flashers on Bull Island |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have tbh I don't read my messages, I prefer to have the banter on the forums if I like his witt and sense of humour i'll reply bk take it from there, I do prefer the help the fabber thread ... NSA, tea chat verif go home |
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"You can dress it up all you like but if you’ve time to read a message you’ve time to reply! "
Dont take it personal. It's a simple rule of thumb, that has been stated on threads many times:
No reply indicates not interested.
As already said here, a reply stating they're not intrested is often met with further messages and in many cases leads to insults and abuse. |
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"You can dress it up all you like but if you’ve time to read a message you’ve time to reply! "
I don't get enough messages to ignore the few I do get so I always reply even when some people don't deserve a polite response. |
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"You can dress it up all you like but if you’ve time to read a message you’ve time to reply! "
It's not the replying is the problem It's the reaction you'll get by saying no thanks. I suggest you open up your filters to get messages from guys and you reply to all the messages will give you a insight |
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We try to respond to most mails but it would be a full time job to answer every single one daily and that's not what we are here for. If someone interests us we will make sure to reply and if not then they aren't a priority |
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By *anandJCouple
over a year ago
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You just publicly went on a rant with those who didn’t respond to your politeness.
Amazing.
I know, you know you are awesome. But not everyone thinks that. Not everyone have time for you. And it’s all good. Until you understand that - it will be really frustrating that people are not responding to you. It’s up to you to get rid of your frustration- and I can speak for us as a couple notions frustrated fab user will ever get anywhere close to us. So buddy- cool-down your jets, chill and wait. Good will come to you |
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By *nribanMan
over a year ago
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I'm only here a short while and quickly learning that PMs to women are broadly a waste of time.
Not because of the women themselves, but logically, they will get 20x, 30x + messages than guys on average.
So to PM you really need to stand out. And from what I can gather, and it's just a hunch I'm picking up on, but dick pics are not flavour of the month 
So to 'stand out' I try to rely on my laser sharp wit and intellect :-
At 50, I'm interested in having craic and good conversation.
If I end up swinging, whoop-la!! But my expectations have reversed from the initial interest in this site.
And tbh, it's a hell of a lot less frustrating that hoping I will hook up through PM's.
Hope that makes sense?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Goods verifications = less chance of wasters time & fake profiles
I can understand but to say sorry but not interesting with your profile it’s more nice and polite than no answers…
Or maybe something is wrong on my profile and just say it, please ! "
Cause sometimes by been polite by replying to a guy and saying no thanks just opens up the chance of abuse and honesty it's not worth the grief.
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over a year ago
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Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums |
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over a year ago
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"You can dress it up all you like but if you’ve time to read a message you’ve time to reply! "
I recently received a message calling me all sorts of names, not nice ones, never interacted with the guy before, I read the message was I supposed to reply |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums"
Putting other people down just to make yourself look good is not an attractive trait and yeah ill be as shallow as i want. |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums"
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies."
nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them |
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over a year ago
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Putting other people down just to make yourself look good is not an attractive trait and yeah ill be as shallow as i want.
just read your profile and you are the definition of shallow and I wouldn't want to go near u at all tbh
I thought you meant me  "
 not u ur okay |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them"
But what makes them shallow they have preferences which we are all allowed.
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums"
You started a post the other day about having body confidence issues. Knocking other people down isn't a way to boost your own confidence. |
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over a year ago
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"Well Op you certainly have received enough comments on what it is to message someone here and get no reply back .
My theory is that if you message someone and they read it, wish them the best of luck and block them. That way you know they aren't interested in you and you wont be tempted to message them again!!"
Everyone should message you and ask for advice |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them
But what makes them shallow they have preferences which we are all allowed.
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because there preferences is a fake take on what a male body should be such as muscled and must have a certain size penis to even get so much as a hello from some women on here.tbh half those dudes end up treating women like shit yet if a bloke like me even so much as looks at a women I'm a stalker or a creep. |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
You started a post the other day about having body confidence issues. Knocking other people down isn't a way to boost your own confidence. "
Okay I choose my words wrong and am man Enough to admit it but it's the truth and a lot of women don't want to hear it |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them
But what makes them shallow they have preferences which we are all allowed.
because there preferences is a fake take on what a male body should be such as muscled and must have a certain size penis to even get so much as a hello from some women on here.tbh half those dudes end up treating women like shit yet if a bloke like me even so much as looks at a women I'm a stalker or a creep."
But that's their preference its allowed, I have mine, you have yours just because they don't match yours it doesn't mean they are shallow. |
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"I'm only here a short while and quickly learning that PMs to women are broadly a waste of time.
Not because of the women themselves, but logically, they will get 20x, 30x + messages than guys on average.
So to PM you really need to stand out. And from what I can gather, and it's just a hunch I'm picking up on, but dick pics are not flavour of the month
So to 'stand out' I try to rely on my laser sharp wit and intellect :-
At 50, I'm interested in having craic and good conversation.
If I end up swinging, whoop-la!! But my expectations have reversed from the initial interest in this site.
And tbh, it's a hell of a lot less frustrating that hoping I will hook up through PM's.
Hope that makes sense?
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You'll do well here sir
Try to attend socials, show off that laser sharp wit and intellect and you'll be fine |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them"
Tbh your profile name suggests that you yourself are shallow. Is that what you see us ladies as, mere body parts? |
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By *nribanMan
over a year ago
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You'll do well here sir
Try to attend socials, show off that laser sharp wit and intellect and you'll be fine "
I think the advice is to anyone frustrated with contacts is to relax.
Like you say, socials, meeting people directly will open up doors, eventually.
I hope!
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over a year ago
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them
Tbh your profile name suggests that you yourself are shallow. Is that what you see us ladies as, mere body parts? "
There are a lot of men on here with names similar to mine why don't you give them shit about it. |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them
But what makes them shallow they have preferences which we are all allowed.
because there preferences is a fake take on what a male body should be such as muscled and must have a certain size penis to even get so much as a hello from some women on here.tbh half those dudes end up treating women like shit yet if a bloke like me even so much as looks at a women I'm a stalker or a creep."
This topic comes up regularly in the forums and for the most part the guy that starts the thread completely ignores good advice and carries on the same and getting more frustrated.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions and preferences. I'm no gym bunny and I've done pretty well both on and off fab.
I sell myself on fab with my personality. Some like it, some don't. I message women that I fancy and most of I time I don't get a reply. I don't take it heart. Because if they're not interested in me then that's fine. Because I have a type that I prefer too.
You have to approach fab with a positivity. Take every no reply with the idea that you're one no reply closer to an amazing meet.
Fab is all about patience.
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them
But what makes them shallow they have preferences which we are all allowed.
because there preferences is a fake take on what a male body should be such as muscled and must have a certain size penis to even get so much as a hello from some women on here.tbh half those dudes end up treating women like shit yet if a bloke like me even so much as looks at a women I'm a stalker or a creep.
This topic comes up regularly in the forums and for the most part the guy that starts the thread completely ignores good advice and carries on the same and getting more frustrated.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions and preferences. I'm no gym bunny and I've done pretty well both on and off fab.
I sell myself on fab with my personality. Some like it, some don't. I message women that I fancy and most of I time I don't get a reply. I don't take it heart. Because if they're not interested in me then that's fine. Because I have a type that I prefer too.
You have to approach fab with a positivity. Take every no reply with the idea that you're one no reply closer to an amazing meet.
Fab is all about patience.
Mate if that's the case then I should be swimming in meets at this point. The amount of no replys that I get on here is astounding.and I'm not the only bloke on here who has that issue
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
You started a post the other day about having body confidence issues. Knocking other people down isn't a way to boost your own confidence.
Okay I choose my words wrong and am man Enough to admit it but it's the truth and a lot of women don't want to hear it "
I'm sensing frustration on your part. I think if you make a effort and attend a social you'll soon see it's not full of big dicked Adonis men. You'll see normal guys attending and they make the effort to attend to mingle and meet ladies and couples. A lot of the party hosts will look for the following qualities when looking for guys sane sound and a bit of craic. Maybe have a look at attending a social Dv8 run for unverified. But if you're getting frustrated by being here with no success either review your profile to see where you can improve it or delete if it's making you that unhappy. Putting other people down to make yourself feel better doesn't work. |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them
But what makes them shallow they have preferences which we are all allowed.
because there preferences is a fake take on what a male body should be such as muscled and must have a certain size penis to even get so much as a hello from some women on here.tbh half those dudes end up treating women like shit yet if a bloke like me even so much as looks at a women I'm a stalker or a creep.
This topic comes up regularly in the forums and for the most part the guy that starts the thread completely ignores good advice and carries on the same and getting more frustrated.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions and preferences. I'm no gym bunny and I've done pretty well both on and off fab.
I sell myself on fab with my personality. Some like it, some don't. I message women that I fancy and most of I time I don't get a reply. I don't take it heart. Because if they're not interested in me then that's fine. Because I have a type that I prefer too.
You have to approach fab with a positivity. Take every no reply with the idea that you're one no reply closer to an amazing meet.
Fab is all about patience.
Mate if that's the case then I should be swimming in meets at this point. The amount of no replys that I get on here is astounding.and I'm not the only bloke on here who has that issue
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No your not. Even I get rejected. Yes me. Hard to believe I know. Lol.
You just need to not let it get to you. |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
You started a post the other day about having body confidence issues. Knocking other people down isn't a way to boost your own confidence.
Okay I choose my words wrong and am man Enough to admit it but it's the truth and a lot of women don't want to hear it
I'm sensing frustration on your part. I think if you make a effort and attend a social you'll soon see it's not full of big dicked Adonis men. You'll see normal guys attending and they make the effort to attend to mingle and meet ladies and couples. A lot of the party hosts will look for the following qualities when looking for guys sane sound and a bit of craic. Maybe have a look at attending a social Dv8 run for unverified. But if you're getting frustrated by being here with no success either review your profile to see where you can improve it or delete if it's making you that unhappy. Putting other people down to make yourself feel better doesn't work. "
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
You started a post the other day about having body confidence issues. Knocking other people down isn't a way to boost your own confidence.
Okay I choose my words wrong and am man Enough to admit it but it's the truth and a lot of women don't want to hear it
I'm sensing frustration on your part. I think if you make a effort and attend a social you'll soon see it's not full of big dicked Adonis men. You'll see normal guys attending and they make the effort to attend to mingle and meet ladies and couples. A lot of the party hosts will look for the following qualities when looking for guys sane sound and a bit of craic. Maybe have a look at attending a social Dv8 run for unverified. But if you're getting frustrated by being here with no success either review your profile to see where you can improve it or delete if it's making you that unhappy. Putting other people down to make yourself feel better doesn't work.
What do you mean by 'sane' just cause I have a different opinion to others on here does that make me insane?"
See, there's something you need to look at. You read like it was a go at you while all it means is that same is one of the qualities that the look for at the meet and greet events.
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
You started a post the other day about having body confidence issues. Knocking other people down isn't a way to boost your own confidence.
Okay I choose my words wrong and am man Enough to admit it but it's the truth and a lot of women don't want to hear it
I'm sensing frustration on your part. I think if you make a effort and attend a social you'll soon see it's not full of big dicked Adonis men. You'll see normal guys attending and they make the effort to attend to mingle and meet ladies and couples. A lot of the party hosts will look for the following qualities when looking for guys sane sound and a bit of craic. Maybe have a look at attending a social Dv8 run for unverified. But if you're getting frustrated by being here with no success either review your profile to see where you can improve it or delete if it's making you that unhappy. Putting other people down to make yourself feel better doesn't work.
What do you mean by 'sane' just cause I have a different opinion to others on here does that make me insane?"
No I'm not referring to you personally I'm referring to the traits party hosts look for potential guests (all genders ) You're perfectly entitled to have your own opinion |
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over a year ago
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I think if you make a effort and attend a social you'll soon see it's not full of big dicked Adonis men. You'll see normal guys attending and they make the effort to attend to mingle and meet ladies and couples. A lot of the party hosts will look for the following qualities when looking for guys sane sound and a bit of craic."
Phew! Thank God for that!!
I can rest my cup of hot chocolate on my pot belly without developing a complex.
I was at a social once, had a nice time. Then things got complicated at home. Looking forward to making my way in this world again. |
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
You started a post the other day about having body confidence issues. Knocking other people down isn't a way to boost your own confidence.
Okay I choose my words wrong and am man Enough to admit it but it's the truth and a lot of women don't want to hear it
I'm sensing frustration on your part. I think if you make a effort and attend a social you'll soon see it's not full of big dicked Adonis men. You'll see normal guys attending and they make the effort to attend to mingle and meet ladies and couples. A lot of the party hosts will look for the following qualities when looking for guys sane sound and a bit of craic. Maybe have a look at attending a social Dv8 run for unverified. But if you're getting frustrated by being here with no success either review your profile to see where you can improve it or delete if it's making you that unhappy. Putting other people down to make yourself feel better doesn't work.
What do you mean by 'sane' just cause I have a different opinion to others on here does that make me insane?"
You need to come off the defensive, get involved on the forums and relax, get to a social. Nothing wrong with having an opinion but when that opinion literally tars every woman as shallow because they dont want to meet you, I could say the same when it comes to guys plenty on here I'd like to meet but they not interested and I've learnt to be okay with that. I've removed myself from meeting altogether so no expectations from here.
You have been given plenty of advice previously too use it and make the changes.
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I think if you make a effort and attend a social you'll soon see it's not full of big dicked Adonis men. You'll see normal guys attending and they make the effort to attend to mingle and meet ladies and couples. A lot of the party hosts will look for the following qualities when looking for guys sane sound and a bit of craic.
Phew! Thank God for that!!
I can rest my cup of hot chocolate on my pot belly without developing a complex.
I was at a social once, had a nice time. Then things got complicated at home. Looking forward to making my way in this world again. "
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
You started a post the other day about having body confidence issues. Knocking other people down isn't a way to boost your own confidence.
Okay I choose my words wrong and am man Enough to admit it but it's the truth and a lot of women don't want to hear it
I'm sensing frustration on your part. I think if you make a effort and attend a social you'll soon see it's not full of big dicked Adonis men. You'll see normal guys attending and they make the effort to attend to mingle and meet ladies and couples. A lot of the party hosts will look for the following qualities when looking for guys sane sound and a bit of craic. Maybe have a look at attending a social Dv8 run for unverified. But if you're getting frustrated by being here with no success either review your profile to see where you can improve it or delete if it's making you that unhappy. Putting other people down to make yourself feel better doesn't work.
What do you mean by 'sane' just cause I have a different opinion to others on here does that make me insane?
You need to come off the defensive, get involved on the forums and relax, get to a social. Nothing wrong with having an opinion but when that opinion literally tars every woman as shallow because they dont want to meet you, I could say the same when it comes to guys plenty on here I'd like to meet but they not interested and I've learnt to be okay with that. I've removed myself from meeting altogether so no expectations from here.
You have been given plenty of advice previously too use it and make the changes.
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"Op I feel for you bro.tbh I'm waiting for my first verification and would like to get to meet a woman on here for that and there is some very nice ladies on here but there are a ton of shallow ones who only go for muscle and a massive cock but the personality of a goldfish.regular dudes on here don't stand a chance which is a shame.i just gave up messaging women on here and just comment in forums
Not the first you have put people down especially the ladies. nope just the shallow ones there are a few women on here who gave me some advice recently for a personal problem and I appreciate them
But what makes them shallow they have preferences which we are all allowed.
because there preferences is a fake take on what a male body should be such as muscled and must have a certain size penis to even get so much as a hello from some women on here.tbh half those dudes end up treating women like shit yet if a bloke like me even so much as looks at a women I'm a stalker or a creep."
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"I always think about that but enven we put effort to write with someone we like the profile and make an effort with few line about yourself and what are you looking for, many people never answer !
Why people are rude and don’t make an effort to say sorry but not interested ?
Is it very difficult ?"
I think it’s rude to expect people to owe you a response? We’re all here for the same thing, you’re not owed anyone’s effort and time and if they’re not attracted to you surely they’re better off then not wasting your time. Do you write to people you don’t find attractive? |
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"I always think about that but enven we put effort to write with someone we like the profile and make an effort with few line about yourself and what are you looking for, many people never answer !
Why people are rude and don’t make an effort to say sorry but not interested ?
Is it very difficult ?
I think it’s rude to expect people to owe you a response? We’re all here for the same thing, you’re not owed anyone’s effort and time and if they’re not attracted to you surely they’re better off then not wasting your time. Do you write to people you don’t find attractive? "
Exactly this!
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To summarise the thread:
- Nobody owes you a reply, to think otherwise is kind of arrogant, tbh
-Take no reply as a kind, non-verbal: Not interested!
- Different people are attracted to different people, as is their right.
- Everybody gets knocked back. Don't take it personally, move on.
- It's a swinging site, most people are not in a rush, it's not dial-a-ride for your pleasure.
- MOST IMPORTANT PART: If you're finding it hard to make contact, get to socials...Make it your business to do so!!
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"To summarise the thread:
- Nobody owes you a reply, to think otherwise is kind of arrogant, tbh
-Take no reply as a kind, non-verbal: Not interested!
- Different people are attracted to different people, as is their right.
- Everybody gets knocked back. Don't take it personally, move on.
- It's a swinging site, most people are not in a rush, it's not dial-a-ride for your pleasure.
- MOST IMPORTANT PART: If you're finding it hard to make contact, get to socials...Make it your business to do so!!
Mr."
That's pretty much it
Just to add that your profile content (including your profile name and profile pic) have a large bearing on whether your message is even read.
Body shape actually has little impact on your success as a swinger. Personality is far more important and that's the truth!!
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We have a short profile which doesn't take long to read. There is a simple instruction within. 95% of guys that message don't read the profile. We always answer the ones who do.
We also don't answer obvious copy and paste messages. |
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"Goods verifications = less chance of wasters time & fake profiles
I can understand but to say sorry but not interesting with your profile it’s more nice and polite than no answers…
Or maybe something is wrong on my profile and just say it, please ! "
People do not have time to send hundreds of replies a week to people they are not interested in. Accept this and move on. The minute you reply to someone they will send another message and expect a reply. |
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"Anyone worried about a potential incel terrorist attack by disenfranchised fabbers?"
Nah there will be even more white knights throwing themselves in front of AK fire |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"We have a short profile which doesn't take long to read. There is a simple instruction within. 95% of guys that message don't read the profile. We always answer the ones who do.
We also don't answer obvious copy and paste messages."
What are you into? |
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I was with a girl from here one morning and this subject came up. she opened fab and had 180 unread messages. once she was seen online a constant steady stream of 'how's you' wanna fuck' I've a big cock' please reply' type messages came through. one every 10 seconds or so. realistically she would need a small dedicated admin team to manage the volume of interest. If you could call it that.
there is some excellent advise on this thread op
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"Anyone worried about a potential incel terrorist attack by disenfranchised fabbers?
Ib be more worried about the balloons "
I've just passed a guy waving a banner and shouting 'non replyers out' |
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People seem to forget that a TON of people are simply not currently meeting new people.
They already have their regulars.
A lot of people I might come back to when I am looking for new play partners.
I agree that I don't owe strangers anymore time and energy than reading their message.
There is nothing to be gained for either of us.
The only use case OP offered up is opportunity for others to analyse their profile and give feedback on exactly what they don't like.
That IS a lot more energy that "no thanks".
I'm not offering free profile critiques. This is site I spend minimal time on, I can't open it in public, work, Coffee shop, or on the bus so people tend to be pretty hurried.
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"Goods verifications = less chance of wasters time & fake profiles
I can understand but to say sorry but not interesting with your profile it’s more nice and polite than no answers…
Or maybe something is wrong on my profile and just say it, please !
People do not have time to send hundreds of replies a week to people they are not interested in. Accept this and move on. The minute you reply to someone they will send another message and expect a reply."
This should be in the site rules! |
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"People seem to forget that a TON of people are simply not currently meeting new people.
They already have their regulars.
A lot of people I might come back to when I am looking for new play partners.
I agree that I don't owe strangers anymore time and energy than reading their message.
There is nothing to be gained for either of us.
The only use case OP offered up is opportunity for others to analyse their profile and give feedback on exactly what they don't like.
That IS a lot more energy that "no thanks".
I'm not offering free profile critiques. This is site I spend minimal time on, I can't open it in public, work, Coffee shop, or on the bus so people tend to be pretty hurried.
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Haha actually I was at a pub last weekend and a man was sitting at the bar and he was on Fab just scrolling through the site no bother on him |
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