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Everyone must have seen the papers by now, so we're just sharing a quick summary of what actually happened.
We take great care to ensure all people on our guest lists are trustworthy individuals.
One of the staff snapped a sneaky photo off the room. Photo is blurry, dark and few people that are in it aren't recognisable.
They do not have any more photos and if they did - they wouldn't be allowed to post them as it is covered by revenge porn act.
We were never approached by staff on the night nor any days after with any concerns whatsoever.
The way we found out about any of this was through a hand delivered note in our letterbox from the journalist.
We had two options:
1. Deny everything, not comment, hide, hope for the best and wake up to a scandalous story saying how we organised perverted orgies on BCC grounds or whatever else we were being accused of.
2. Come forward and tell our side of the story and what actually happened and what kind of event it was - a social black tie masquerade with no other hidden agendas.
As far as we're concerned- nothing happened at the event that wouldn't happen in any other vanilla venue on a regular Saturday night.
We have contacted every single person who attended privately ahead of the news coming out and let them know exactly what was happening.
We have come forward to protect our own and other people's reputation.
It is really upsetting that grown up adults can't have a night out without some scandal being attached to it.
So far from what we have observed on social media - this story is unpopular and not newsworthy.
We will not be making any more comments on this matter on this or any other threads. |
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I wasn’t at the function but my thoughts are with you and your guests, who have done nothing wrong but are the subject of such a hoary old staple of cliched journalism. I don’t envy you the decisions you had to make when contacted by the press and I think you’ve handled yourselves with dignity and class. I hope it all blows over for you soon |
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over a year ago
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"I wasn’t at the function but my thoughts are with you and your guests, who have done nothing wrong but are the subject of such a hoary old staple of cliched journalism. I don’t envy you the decisions you had to make when contacted by the press and I think you’ve handled yourselves with dignity and class. I hope it all blows over for you soon"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone must have seen the papers by now, so we're just sharing a quick summary of what actually happened.
We take great care to ensure all people on our guest lists are trustworthy individuals.
One of the staff snapped a sneaky photo off the room. Photo is blurry, dark and few people that are in it aren't recognisable.
They do not have any more photos and if they did - they wouldn't be allowed to post them as it is covered by revenge porn act.
We were never approached by staff on the night nor any days after with any concerns whatsoever.
The way we found out about any of this was through a hand delivered note in our letterbox from the journalist.
We had two options:
1. Deny everything, not comment, hide, hope for the best and wake up to a scandalous story saying how we organised perverted orgies on BCC grounds or whatever else we were being accused of.
2. Come forward and tell our side of the story and what actually happened and what kind of event it was - a social black tie masquerade with no other hidden agendas.
As far as we're concerned- nothing happened at the event that wouldn't happen in any other vanilla venue on a regular Saturday night.
We have contacted every single person who attended privately ahead of the news coming out and let them know exactly what was happening.
We have come forward to protect our own and other people's reputation.
It is really upsetting that grown up adults can't have a night out without some scandal being attached to it.
So far from what we have observed on social media - this story is unpopular and not newsworthy.
We will not be making any more comments on this matter on this or any other threads. "
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By *MabzeroMan
over a year ago
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(Wasn't there)
I think you handled it well, and bravely too. Hopefully it'll blow over. Nobody below about sixty gives a toss any more anyway. Do they?
I'm sure there are local journalists all over this site too. Sadly, some of them will think what they're doing is "right".
Keep on trucking. |
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Sorry to hear about this. It isn't the first and won't be the last swingers event to be targeted by these cunts. Sounds like you handled it well though. Don't let it put you off, the community needs people like you. |
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"Thank you both for the dignified and honest way you handled the situation...and congratulations again on what was a classy, well run event. "
Couldnt have said it better myself. 100% agree. Now bring on the 26th xxx
Love Angel xxx |
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"I wasn’t at the function but my thoughts are with you and your guests, who have done nothing wrong but are the subject of such a hoary old staple of cliched journalism. I don’t envy you the decisions you had to make when contacted by the press and I think you’ve handled yourselves with dignity and class. I hope it all blows over for you soon"
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By *olouWoman
over a year ago
Swords |
Wouldn't put me off attending anything. People need to enjoy themselves how they see fit.These sort of stories are from lazy journalists, I heard it was an amazing night and I wish you every success in the next one. Xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So was it someone that you guys blocked without you ever even chatted too
A lot of profiles on here block people without even getting too know what they are like
Any I suppose it doesn’t matter really well done for the way it was handled it
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"Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex. "
This country is backward with absolutely everything, not just sexuality. If our circumstances allowed, we'd be gone back to the country our kids were born. We are both Irish btw,but this country is fucked with red tape and Sinn Fèin |
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"Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex.
This country is backward with absolutely everything, not just sexuality. If our circumstances allowed, we'd be gone back to the country our kids were born. We are both Irish btw,but this country is fucked with red tape and Sinn Fèin"
This
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Night all leaving on a jet plane,soon but not for long unfortunately |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex.
This country is backward with absolutely everything, not just sexuality. If our circumstances allowed, we'd be gone back to the country our kids were born. We are both Irish btw,but this country is fucked with red tape and Sinn Fèin"
Hu? What has Sinn Fèin got to do with this? The mind boggles?
Anyhow didn't read the rags but by the sound of it, you did the right thing op. |
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"Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex.
This country is backward with absolutely everything, not just sexuality. If our circumstances allowed, we'd be gone back to the country our kids were born. We are both Irish btw,but this country is fucked with red tape and Sinn Fèin
Hu? What has Sinn Fèin got to do with this? The mind boggles?
Anyhow didn't read the rags but by the sound of it, you did the right thing op. "
Imo, and just MY opinion. They are rapidly becoming Irelands most popular political party. They are promising far away fields to the 20 somethings and will not be able to deliver.
This has all to do with the OP, and the context the OP felt they had to clear themseleves.
In most other countries, this wouldn't be a story because swinging is a thing, and a personal thing. No one else's business. In Ireland they all want to know and then will wonder what corrupted you  |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Both organisationally and personally, there are many lessons to be learned from this transient debacle; no need to spell them out.
Frankly, swinging and my specific interests are aspects of my life that I like to be kept private, which us why I am cautious and consistently reluctant to attend a public venue.
London is a more tolerant area than Ireland, quite frankly, but even there events are kept as secret as possible, and any venue is very carefully vetted. |
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"journalism" in this country is pathetic and hypocritical. This was an easy target and cheap story. I'm sure we all know of individuals (even some labelled "journalists" themselves and working in the media) and stories that should be told but these so called journalists aren't big enough to do so.
Basically mirrors politics in the North -ie a complete f#*King farce, it's pathetic. |
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"Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex.
This country is backward with absolutely everything, not just sexuality. If our circumstances allowed, we'd be gone back to the country our kids were born. We are both Irish btw,but this country is fucked with red tape and Sinn Fèin"
I get where Your coming from.
Its worse for Me, I live in Cabra not far from Mary Lou.
We are afraid to try anything other than missionary incase She sends her goons around.
Sinn Fein in the membrane
Sinn Fein in the brain |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex.
This country is backward with absolutely everything, not just sexuality. If our circumstances allowed, we'd be gone back to the country our kids were born. We are both Irish btw,but this country is fucked with red tape and Sinn Fèin
Hu? What has Sinn Fèin got to do with this? The mind boggles?
Anyhow didn't read the rags but by the sound of it, you did the right thing op.
Imo, and just MY opinion. They are rapidly becoming Irelands most popular political party. They are promising far away fields to the 20 somethings and will not be able to deliver.
This has all to do with the OP, and the context the OP felt they had to clear themseleves.
In most other countries, this wouldn't be a story because swinging is a thing, and a personal thing. No one else's business. In Ireland they all want to know and then will wonder what corrupted you "
Have you ever wondered what got us here? 100 years of FF and FG in close cooperation with the church.
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"Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex.
This country is backward with absolutely everything, not just sexuality. If our circumstances allowed, we'd be gone back to the country our kids were born. We are both Irish btw,but this country is fucked with red tape and Sinn Fèin
Hu? What has Sinn Fèin got to do with this? The mind boggles?
Anyhow didn't read the rags but by the sound of it, you did the right thing op.
Imo, and just MY opinion. They are rapidly becoming Irelands most popular political party. They are promising far away fields to the 20 somethings and will not be able to deliver.
This has all to do with the OP, and the context the OP felt they had to clear themseleves.
In most other countries, this wouldn't be a story because swinging is a thing, and a personal thing. No one else's business. In Ireland they all want to know and then will wonder what corrupted you
Have you ever wondered what got us here? 100 years of FF and FG in close cooperation with the church.
;-)"
They are all much of a muchness really, aren't they  |
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By *reland8Man
over a year ago
sandyford |
Do these stories in papers happen in other countries where the lifestyle isn’t so underground? Like uk, Germany etc
Also the journalists is probably among us now watching the reaction for his “follow up piece”for next week 
I presume he was on here if he got an invite? |
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By *avy8931Man
over a year ago
ballymena |
Saw the paper. Waste of paper and ink. I wasn't at this event but member of staff was probably jealous of not being at the social and thought they could make a few pounds from the paper. Member of staff should be dismissed as private event. Just my thoughts |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"Sorry to hear this happened the rags have nothing better to be doing then trying to find some salacious story for click bait. This country is so fucking backwards when it comes to sex.
This country is backward with absolutely everything, not just sexuality. If our circumstances allowed, we'd be gone back to the country our kids were born. We are both Irish btw,but this country is fucked with red tape and Sinn Fèin
Hu? What has Sinn Fèin got to do with this? The mind boggles?
Anyhow didn't read the rags but by the sound of it, you did the right thing op.
Imo, and just MY opinion. They are rapidly becoming Irelands most popular political party. They are promising far away fields to the 20 somethings and will not be able to deliver.
This has all to do with the OP, and the context the OP felt they had to clear themseleves.
In most other countries, this wouldn't be a story because swinging is a thing, and a personal thing. No one else's business. In Ireland they all want to know and then will wonder what corrupted you
Have you ever wondered what got us here? 100 years of FF and FG in close cooperation with the church.
;-)
They are all much of a muchness really, aren't they "
In regards to the church yes, on other topics only time will tell.
Anyhow back to the rags, tabloids love those kinda stories regardless which country you're in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What newspaper was it?
Obviously nothing reputable, only a gutter journalism rag would post a sensationalist non story like this, a group of people met at an event and they had sex wow amazing, sounds like some Sunday world tripe.. |
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I was at the event and had a great night. I have been at lots of black tie events through sport, work and charity events. If a stranger had walked in off the street, they wouldn't have had a clue that it was a swingers social. Everyone was well behaved and enjoying themselves. Well done OP on an excellent night and the way you have dealt with the aftermath. Looking forward to going to more of your socials in the new year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't read or get the Sunday papers but paper will never refuse ink ,maybe the green eyed monster ( jealousy ) over came whoever took the photos...people are here for whatever reasons they are here and it should be their own private business. |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"We are all taking about the paper who published this article. But what about the staff member who actually took the picture I hope she got fired for breaking guest confidentiality. "
"She" ? How do you know it was a female? |
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"(Wasn't there)
I think you handled it well, and bravely too. Hopefully it'll blow over. Nobody below about sixty gives a toss any more anyway. Do they?
I'm sure there are local journalists all over this site too. Sadly, some of them will think what they're doing is "right".
Keep on trucking. "
Wasn't there but a lot of folk about or over sixty don't give a toss either age hasn't got a thing to do with narrow minded Sunday paper editors
In a world where things are mad .What harm were these people doing wrong ?? In my over sixty mind nothing at all
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
As I was down in Dublin on Sunday, at the rejuvenated Marathon, observing and enjoying, not an entrant, I did not read Ciaran Barnes's Sunday Life item about the Malone House event.
The principal Sunday rags in Ireland are Sunday Life and Sunday World, both very low quality papers that focus on hyperbolic and sensationalist stories
For the future, it is well known that when these rags publish a story they tend to pursue it for several years, updating readers with new details whilst reprinting the original story.
The organisers of future events will need to be extremely circumspect about the location of future events.
Newspaper employees will also infiltrate the site in order to gather more information; this is their modi operandi.
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"As I was down in Dublin on Sunday, at the rejuvenated Marathon, observing and enjoying, not an entrant, I did not read Ciaran Barnes's Sunday Life item about the Malone House event.
The principal Sunday rags in Ireland are Sunday Life and Sunday World, both very low quality papers that focus on hyperbolic and sensationalist stories
For the future, it is well known that when these rags publish a story they tend to pursue it for several years, updating readers with new details whilst reprinting the original story.
The organisers of future events will need to be extremely circumspect about the location of future events.
Newspaper employees will also infiltrate the site in order to gather more information; this is their modi operandi.
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A bunch of adults played hen party dare cards (you can pick up a pack in any pound shop for reference), were having a few drinks and danced together.
There is no story. There is nothing to infiltrate or "expose", no gossip, no drama, nothing to scare anyone with.
Nobody even read the thing online as it was hidden behind a pay wall.
Just a scary headline which was mostly ridiculed by public for not having anything more important to post.
Please stop. |
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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago
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"As I was down in Dublin on Sunday, at the rejuvenated Marathon, observing and enjoying, not an entrant, I did not read Ciaran Barnes's Sunday Life item about the Malone House event.
The principal Sunday rags in Ireland are Sunday Life and Sunday World, both very low quality papers that focus on hyperbolic and sensationalist stories
For the future, it is well known that when these rags publish a story they tend to pursue it for several years, updating readers with new details whilst reprinting the original story.
The organisers of future events will need to be extremely circumspect about the location of future events.
Newspaper employees will also infiltrate the site in order to gather more information; this is their modi operandi.
A bunch of adults played hen party dare cards (you can pick up a pack in any pound shop for reference), were having a few drinks and danced together.
There is no story. There is nothing to infiltrate or "expose", no gossip, no drama, nothing to scare anyone with.
Nobody even read the thing online as it was hidden behind a pay wall.
Just a scary headline which was mostly ridiculed by public for not having anything more important to post.
Please stop. "
Jubal1 is correct in what he is saying though..the paper will delight in updating the readership regardless. Even though this should not be a story in 21st century, we all know this sort of story will still be reported and read because ppl lime titillation and a whiff of scandal in their local papers |
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"As I was down in Dublin on Sunday, at the rejuvenated Marathon, observing and enjoying, not an entrant, I did not read Ciaran Barnes's Sunday Life item about the Malone House event.
The principal Sunday rags in Ireland are Sunday Life and Sunday World, both very low quality papers that focus on hyperbolic and sensationalist stories
For the future, it is well known that when these rags publish a story they tend to pursue it for several years, updating readers with new details whilst reprinting the original story.
The organisers of future events will need to be extremely circumspect about the location of future events.
Newspaper employees will also infiltrate the site in order to gather more information; this is their modi operandi.
A bunch of adults played hen party dare cards (you can pick up a pack in any pound shop for reference), were having a few drinks and danced together.
There is no story. There is nothing to infiltrate or "expose", no gossip, no drama, nothing to scare anyone with.
Nobody even read the thing online as it was hidden behind a pay wall.
Just a scary headline which was mostly ridiculed by public for not having anything more important to post.
Please stop.
Jubal1 is correct in what he is saying though..the paper will delight in updating the readership regardless. Even though this should not be a story in 21st century, we all know this sort of story will still be reported and read because ppl lime titillation and a whiff of scandal in their local papers"
Update about what? That adults decided to go to a different bar to have a few drinks and a dance? |
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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago
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"As I was down in Dublin on Sunday, at the rejuvenated Marathon, observing and enjoying, not an entrant, I did not read Ciaran Barnes's Sunday Life item about the Malone House event.
The principal Sunday rags in Ireland are Sunday Life and Sunday World, both very low quality papers that focus on hyperbolic and sensationalist stories
For the future, it is well known that when these rags publish a story they tend to pursue it for several years, updating readers with new details whilst reprinting the original story.
The organisers of future events will need to be extremely circumspect about the location of future events.
Newspaper employees will also infiltrate the site in order to gather more information; this is their modi operandi.
A bunch of adults played hen party dare cards (you can pick up a pack in any pound shop for reference), were having a few drinks and danced together.
There is no story. There is nothing to infiltrate or "expose", no gossip, no drama, nothing to scare anyone with.
Nobody even read the thing online as it was hidden behind a pay wall.
Just a scary headline which was mostly ridiculed by public for not having anything more important to post.
Please stop.
Jubal1 is correct in what he is saying though..the paper will delight in updating the readership regardless. Even though this should not be a story in 21st century, we all know this sort of story will still be reported and read because ppl lime titillation and a whiff of scandal in their local papers
Update about what? That adults decided to go to a different bar to have a few drinks and a dance? "
Not an update on what they did on the night of the event, but on any other swinging events in the future |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
The Sunday Life and the Sunday World are garbage newspapers that I occasionally buy; usually about once a month to see what they are reporting; their Chief Reporter, Ciaran Barnes, whom I have spoken to on a couple of occasions in Laganside Court rehashes his stories endlessly, with minor incremental additions in the last paragraph.
Northern Ireland is an exceptionally conservative place, and swinging, which is acceptable in the USA and on the continent gets unwarranted attention here even as a social event.
It is the contemporary equivalent of swings in play parks being chained up on Sundays. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone must have seen the papers by now, so we're just sharing a quick summary of what actually happened.
We take great care to ensure all people on our guest lists are trustworthy individuals.
One of the staff snapped a sneaky photo off the room. Photo is blurry, dark and few people that are in it aren't recognisable.
They do not have any more photos and if they did - they wouldn't be allowed to post them as it is covered by revenge porn act.
We were never approached by staff on the night nor any days after with any concerns whatsoever.
The way we found out about any of this was through a hand delivered note in our letterbox from the journalist.
We had two options:
1. Deny everything, not comment, hide, hope for the best and wake up to a scandalous story saying how we organised perverted orgies on BCC grounds or whatever else we were being accused of.
2. Come forward and tell our side of the story and what actually happened and what kind of event it was - a social black tie masquerade with no other hidden agendas.
As far as we're concerned- nothing happened at the event that wouldn't happen in any other vanilla venue on a regular Saturday night.
We have contacted every single person who attended privately ahead of the news coming out and let them know exactly what was happening.
We have come forward to protect our own and other people's reputation.
It is really upsetting that grown up adults can't have a night out without some scandal being attached to it.
So far from what we have observed on social media - this story is unpopular and not newsworthy.
We will not be making any more comments on this matter on this or any other threads. "
Well done & big hugs if you want them xxx |
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By *ertwoCouple
over a year ago
omagh |
Pity the media wont give us the same rights as gay or bisexuals ie its private and none of thier business. There should be a law aginst this type of media action. Id say go even further and ban use of anyones pictures unless they have given writen permition to use them. |
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