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Awakening to being submissive
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, recently I met a woman who decided I was to be her plaything for a few hours. I loved every minute of it, usually with guys I am bottom but now I'm realising that maybe I am just a submissive.
This is new to me so if anybody has any tips, advice or anything like that I would greatly appreciate it.
I want to move slowly into this as I'm worried if it goes too fast I might go beyond my boundary or the boundary I'm currently at to be more precise and end up in an uncomfortable situation for my sexual partner and I.
It would be remiss of me if I also didn't put it out there that I am very willing to be taught face to face lol! |
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By *itty369Woman
over a year ago
Munster somewhere sometime |
I know this might sound silly but actually practice saying no to what would be partners before any physical play. As in not even a conversation about boundaries but just the words no no no over and over face to face it will make it easier to say in the throws of things if you find yourself out of your comfort zone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Main advice I would give is make sure you establish trust between you both and communication is key!
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Sage advice that I will take onboard thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know this might sound silly but actually practice saying no to what would be partners before any physical play. As in not even a conversation about boundaries but just the words no no no over and over face to face it will make it easier to say in the throws of things if you find yourself out of your comfort zone "
Wow!! That really makes sense and is something I would not have thought about. Thank you for that, in fact that is something that should be practised in all aspects if life x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You are not submissive only you are SWITCH like me
Mr Owner  "
Hmmmmm, definetly something to consider. To be honest though I got so turned on, like I never had before, as well as the sexuality of it I felt like part of myself was let free. You know? |
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By *itty369Woman
over a year ago
Munster somewhere sometime |
"I know this might sound silly but actually practice saying no to what would be partners before any physical play. As in not even a conversation about boundaries but just the words no no no over and over face to face it will make it easier to say in the throws of things if you find yourself out of your comfort zone
Wow!! That really makes sense and is something I would not have thought about. Thank you for that, in fact that is something that should be practised in all aspects if life x"
It is something that fab is helping me get good at. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know this might sound silly but actually practice saying no to what would be partners before any physical play. As in not even a conversation about boundaries but just the words no no no over and over face to face it will make it easier to say in the throws of things if you find yourself out of your comfort zone
Wow!! That really makes sense and is something I would not have thought about. Thank you for that, in fact that is something that should be practised in all aspects if life x
It is something that fab is helping me get good at. Xxx "
I can see how it would be such a good aspect in life, I used to be terrible for saying yes to things and then thinking "why did I agree to that" now I just use "let me get back to you on that" in life that is, I don't think let me get back to you really works when you're lying there butt assed naked with nowhere to go |
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By *itty369Woman
over a year ago
Munster somewhere sometime |
"I know this might sound silly but actually practice saying no to what would be partners before any physical play. As in not even a conversation about boundaries but just the words no no no over and over face to face it will make it easier to say in the throws of things if you find yourself out of your comfort zone
Wow!! That really makes sense and is something I would not have thought about. Thank you for that, in fact that is something that should be practised in all aspects if life x
It is something that fab is helping me get good at. Xxx
I can see how it would be such a good aspect in life, I used to be terrible for saying yes to things and then thinking "why did I agree to that" now I just use "let me get back to you on that" in life that is, I don't think let me get back to you really works when you're lying there butt assed naked with nowhere to go "
I was reading that boundaries are like gates to be opened and maybe closed or not,they are not fences, fencing us in... sometimes having boundaries pushed in a safe and trusting environment can be a good thing. Absolutely different from hard no's which should definitely be set out. X now let me get back to you is definitely not one for fab lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You are not submissive only you are SWITCH like me
Mr Owner
Hmmmmm, definetly something to consider. To be honest though I got so turned on, like I never had before, as well as the sexuality of it I felt like part of myself was let free. You know?"
I discovered that part of me because I was bored to dominates and one time I tried be a submissive and it clicked as same with cuckold or vixen and stag scenario, I started let TT play first 1on1 with single lads because usually we have been doing straight away mfm. Afterwards I realized I enjoy to watch and TT realized she enjoy to watch me playing myself while she was shagging by other man and we both had pleasure from that.
It is just a matter of experimentation and you can be really suprised the end of them  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know this might sound silly but actually practice saying no to what would be partners before any physical play. As in not even a conversation about boundaries but just the words no no no over and over face to face it will make it easier to say in the throws of things if you find yourself out of your comfort zone
Wow!! That really makes sense and is something I would not have thought about. Thank you for that, in fact that is something that should be practised in all aspects if life x
It is something that fab is helping me get good at. Xxx
I can see how it would be such a good aspect in life, I used to be terrible for saying yes to things and then thinking "why did I agree to that" now I just use "let me get back to you on that" in life that is, I don't think let me get back to you really works when you're lying there butt assed naked with nowhere to go
I was reading that boundaries are like gates to be opened and maybe closed or not,they are not fences, fencing us in... sometimes having boundaries pushed in a safe and trusting environment can be a good thing. Absolutely different from hard no's which should definitely be set out. X now let me get back to you is definitely not one for fab lol"
I believe in pushing boundaries too very much I have read that we are pretty elastic and when we stretch ourselves there is a tendency to restrict back after, I have experience of that personally. I'm more introverted and when I push myself socially I have to withdraw after because I've pushed myself too far. Now I know when the time to leave is and I feel a way better after as the social interaction hasn't wasted all my energy.
Do you have experience in dom sub meetings? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You are not submissive only you are SWITCH like me
Mr Owner
Hmmmmm, definetly something to consider. To be honest though I got so turned on, like I never had before, as well as the sexuality of it I felt like part of myself was let free. You know?
I discovered that part of me because I was bored to dominates and one time I tried be a submissive and it clicked as same with cuckold or vixen and stag scenario, I started let TT play first 1on1 with single lads because usually we have been doing straight away mfm. Afterwards I realized I enjoy to watch and TT realized she enjoy to watch me playing myself while she was shagging by other man and we both had pleasure from that.
It is just a matter of experimentation and you can be really suprised the end of them "
Yup to experimentation 100%
What is a stag vixen scenario? I'm intrigued |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You are not submissive only you are SWITCH like me
Mr Owner
Hmmmmm, definetly something to consider. To be honest though I got so turned on, like I never had before, as well as the sexuality of it I felt like part of myself was let free. You know?
I discovered that part of me because I was bored to dominates and one time I tried be a submissive and it clicked as same with cuckold or vixen and stag scenario, I started let TT play first 1on1 with single lads because usually we have been doing straight away mfm. Afterwards I realized I enjoy to watch and TT realized she enjoy to watch me playing myself while she was shagging by other man and we both had pleasure from that.
It is just a matter of experimentation and you can be really suprised the end of them
Yup to experimentation 100%
What is a stag vixen scenario? I'm intrigued"
Vixen and Stag scenario: hotwife meeting a other man alone without hubby. In cuckold scenario hubby watching. That's what we do but other people doing that in different way. |
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By *ebbie69Couple
over a year ago
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"So, recently I met a woman who decided I was to be her plaything for a few hours. I loved every minute of it, usually with guys I am bottom but now I'm realising that maybe I am just a submissive.
This is new to me so if anybody has any tips, advice or anything like that I would greatly appreciate it.
I want to move slowly into this as I'm worried if it goes too fast I might go beyond my boundary or the boundary I'm currently at to be more precise and end up in an uncomfortable situation for my sexual partner and I.
It would be remiss of me if I also didn't put it out there that I am very willing to be taught face to face lol!"
Building trust is very important I think. To be with someone and hand over control about what you do and with who you do it takes a Dec we level of trust. I agree boundaries should be explored and if possible pushed though I still give my hard limits and expect them to be observed totally. Step by step hun and enjoy |
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