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Good morning FABulous people
I'm new to this community and I was just wondering if there is etiquette that needs to be followed when meeting people, is it different when meeting single people is it different when meeting couples or is it all individual?
I would like to create a list of do's and don'ts if possible ...
Thanks for reading
And hope to hear your thoughts on that one.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good morning FABulous people
I'm new to this community and I was just wondering if there is etiquette that needs to be followed when meeting people, is it different when meeting single people is it different when meeting couples or is it all individual?
I would like to create a list of do's and don'ts if possible ...
Thanks for reading
And hope to hear your thoughts on that one.
Happy Fabbing "
Talk and agree they type of meet and expectations with the person you are meetings.
You nailed it in your post it is all individual |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most people are too intelligent for ‘want me to bang you’. Start talking about normal stuff. Be honest and respectful. It’s not easy meeting up so be patient. Good luck |
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over a year ago
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People have different wants for a first meet, some just want nsa sex and not interested in meeting socially beforehand. Some prefer to meet socially first see I'd there's an attraction.
Personally I prefer a social meet first, to see if there's an attraction, if there's banter, if we going to be having a few hours of fun I want to know can have a laugh with the guy |
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Smell good, look good, make an effort in both those departments.
Be safe, public places and cosy nooks (Google it) are great.
Let the lady or couple lead the sexual parts of conversation in most cases, you will know if they want you to be more assertive, from chatting before the meet, most the people I met, wanted to flirt enough to be comfortable before talking openly about sex when face to face. Some quicker than others.
Make as much spare time as you can. You never know where a coffee may lead. Might be home in an hour, might not be seen for days.
Oh and always make sure you shout as loud as you can to anyone there that your swingers....
Ps last one is a joke.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Everyone looks for different things on here with meets. There is no one way to do things bar talk to those you are meeting and see what it is you are both looking for.For example is it a social first and if you are told they want just a social and a chat then don't expect more or push for more on the day . Apart from that meets are just the same as when you meet anyone new in real life .
Don't be a pushy sod,be clean a hygienic (that should be a given but it seems some people don't think so ) and either person or persons can say no and walk away at any point without the other party getting stroppy. |
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"Smell good, look good, make an effort in both those departments.
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Please please please tell me that everyone does that ... I refuse to think that you would meet someone and not be at your best...
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"Smell good, look good, make an effort in both those departments.
Please please please tell me that everyone does that ... I refuse to think that you would meet someone and not be at your best...
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Meh....depends
I've met people after the gym or work where I haven't been at my best. The key like all things is communication. |
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So far we have
1. Smell good,look good(I can't believe this is not obvious)
2. Let other party lead the conversation
3. If you're going to meet someone allocate extra time just in case.
4. Don't be pushy or a dick if they're not interested.
Ok people I need some more points but list is looking good so far ... |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"So far we have
1. Smell good,look good(I can't believe this is not obvious)
2. Let other party lead the conversation
3. If you're going to meet someone allocate extra time just in case.
4. Don't be pushy or a dick if they're not interested.
Ok people I need some more points but list is looking good so far ..."
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I wouldn't agree with letting the other person lead the conversation. It should be a two way thing not up to one person to decide what happens. |
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"So far we have
1. Smell good,look good(I can't believe this is not obvious)
2. Let other party lead the conversation
3. If you're going to meet someone allocate extra time just in case.
4. Don't be pushy or a dick if they're not interested.
Ok people I need some more points but list is looking good so far ....
I wouldn't agree with letting the other person lead the conversation. It should be a two way thing not up to one person to decide what happens. "
Yep, agree with this, you don't want to come across as a pushover. Confidence and assertiveness are very attractive. But there is a fine line between being assertive and being pushy which nobody likes.
Another point about couples is not to ignore the hubby, he is as important as the wife. Respect for the couples relationship at all times. Good luck  |
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I wouldn't agree with letting the other person lead the conversation. It should be a two way thing not up to one person to decide what happens. "
Agree, but should conversation be started by other party? |
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"Another point about couples is not to ignore the hubby, he is as important as the wife. Respect for the couples relationship at all times. Good luck "
That's a great point... At the end of the day he is as important as a lady... |
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"OP you seem to be hugely over complicating this. Just turn up and be yourself ans behave in a manner that you think most accurately portrays who you are. "
That's obvious, but there are small things that I'm curious about ... Like the one on the list and that people said |
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"OP you seem to be hugely over complicating this. Just turn up and be yourself ans behave in a manner that you think most accurately portrays who you are.
That's obvious, but there are small things that I'm curious about ... Like the one on the list and that people said "
You're right to ask, don't mind him 
Sometimes it only takes one small thing to get blocked by a couple because perception is everything on a site like this. |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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"OP you seem to be hugely over complicating this. Just turn up and be yourself ans behave in a manner that you think most accurately portrays who you are.
That's obvious, but there are small things that I'm curious about ... Like the one on the list and that people said "
But the problem is you'll end up getting conflicting advice.
Like letting them led the conversation you had on the list. Some people will prefer that, some won't. Do you naturally prefer to led the conversation or not? The answer to that question should define whether you lead the conversation or not.
The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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"OP you seem to be hugely over complicating this. Just turn up and be yourself ans behave in a manner that you think most accurately portrays who you are.
That's obvious, but there are small things that I'm curious about ... Like the one on the list and that people said
You're right to ask, don't mind him
Sometimes it only takes one small thing to get blocked by a couple because perception is everything on a site like this."
If a couple are the sort to block someone over something very small I'd strongly argue that you are far better off being blocked by them.
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"OP you seem to be hugely over complicating this. Just turn up and be yourself ans behave in a manner that you think most accurately portrays who you are.
That's obvious, but there are small things that I'm curious about ... Like the one on the list and that people said
But the problem is you'll end up getting conflicting advice.
Like letting them led the conversation you had on the list. Some people will prefer that, some won't. Do you naturally prefer to led the conversation or not? The answer to that question should define whether you lead the conversation or not.
The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
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Ummm of I'm not here to tell other people how to behave then what exactly is the point in all of this |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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"OP you seem to be hugely over complicating this. Just turn up and be yourself ans behave in a manner that you think most accurately portrays who you are.
That's obvious, but there are small things that I'm curious about ... Like the one on the list and that people said
But the problem is you'll end up getting conflicting advice.
Like letting them led the conversation you had on the list. Some people will prefer that, some won't. Do you naturally prefer to led the conversation or not? The answer to that question should define whether you lead the conversation or not.
The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
Ummm of I'm not here to tell other people how to behave then what exactly is the point in all of this"
Tits and ass photos.  |
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"OP you seem to be hugely over complicating this. Just turn up and be yourself ans behave in a manner that you think most accurately portrays who you are.
That's obvious, but there are small things that I'm curious about ... Like the one on the list and that people said
But the problem is you'll end up getting conflicting advice.
Like letting them led the conversation you had on the list. Some people will prefer that, some won't. Do you naturally prefer to led the conversation or not? The answer to that question should define whether you lead the conversation or not.
The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
Ummm of I'm not here to tell other people how to behave then what exactly is the point in all of this
Tits and ass photos. "
Oh shit ya.... I forgot about the tits |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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"OP you seem to be hugely over complicating this. Just turn up and be yourself ans behave in a manner that you think most accurately portrays who you are.
That's obvious, but there are small things that I'm curious about ... Like the one on the list and that people said
But the problem is you'll end up getting conflicting advice.
Like letting them led the conversation you had on the list. Some people will prefer that, some won't. Do you naturally prefer to led the conversation or not? The answer to that question should define whether you lead the conversation or not.
The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
Ummm of I'm not here to tell other people how to behave then what exactly is the point in all of this
Tits and ass photos.
Oh shit ya.... I forgot about the tits"
How could you forget about tits? I mean, why else would you talk to a woman?  |
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"The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way."
Being yourself is obvious.
However I'm more interested about things that people experienced that should be obvious that aren't ...
For example show up clean
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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"The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
Being yourself is obvious.
However I'm more interested about things that people experienced that should be obvious that aren't ...
For example show up clean
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Is it obvious though?
I went to a meet once and purposely didn't wash for about a week and wore tattered clothes. I texted her after asking what time and date suited for the subsequent hotel booking. She wrote back saying I was the dirtiest person she had ever met and blocked me. I was sitting there thinking to myself "but she said in her profile she liked it dirty ".
You'll learn something from every met and from that one I learned that women are simpmy indecisive creatures so trying to guess what they want is impossible because most of the time they don't even know themselves. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't agree with letting the other person lead the conversation. It should be a two way thing not up to one person to decide what happens.
Agree, but should conversation be started by other party?"
You are severely overthinking this just talk to them as you would talk to anyone. |
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I wouldn't agree with letting the other person lead the conversation. It should be a two way thing not up to one person to decide what happens.
Agree, but should conversation be started by other party?
You are severely overthinking this just talk to them as you would talk to anyone. "
What if we both say the same thing at exactly the same time and they jinx me.... and they dont release me........I can never speak again...what then? Huh? What then? |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't agree with letting the other person lead the conversation. It should be a two way thing not up to one person to decide what happens.
Agree, but should conversation be started by other party?
You are severely overthinking this just talk to them as you would talk to anyone.
What if we both say the same thing at exactly the same time and they jinx me.... and they dont release me........I can never speak again...what then? Huh? What then?"
Sorry about that I promise I won't do it again ....well maybe I might  |
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"The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
Being yourself is obvious.
However I'm more interested about things that people experienced that should be obvious that aren't ...
For example show up clean
Is it obvious though?
I went to a meet once and purposely didn't wash for about a week and wore tattered clothes. I texted her after asking what time and date suited for the subsequent hotel booking. She wrote back saying I was the dirtiest person she had ever met and blocked me. I was sitting there thinking to myself "but she said in her profile she liked it dirty ".
You'll learn something from every met and from that one I learned that women are simpmy indecisive creatures so trying to guess what they want is impossible because most of the time they don't even know themselves. "
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You've already said that so much of this advice is obvious and should be a given so who are you trying to school?
If it's obvious to you then go with it and forget about lists.
Just as its pointless giving profile advice there's no point in having a conversation ticklist because it all comes across as false and forced.
If you are naturally uncomfortable or out of your depth in holding a conversation no amount of lists will have any difference.
The only etiquette required is that all parties speak as equals. If they don't they have zero interest in you as a person and you become a box to tick on a list. |
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Is it obvious though?
I went to a meet once and purposely didn't wash for about a week and wore tattered clothes. I texted her after asking what time and date suited for the subsequent hotel booking. She wrote back saying I was the dirtiest person she had ever met and blocked me. I was sitting there thinking to myself "but she said in her profile she liked it dirty ".
You'll learn something from every met and from that one I learned that women are simpmy indecisive creatures so trying to guess what they want is impossible because most of the time they don't even know themselves. "
this made me laugh more then it should
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nice post OP.
My advice as a newbie to Fab is to be yourself and embrace a coffee meet and chat as an opportunity for two people to get to know each other and establish if there is any sort of a connection between you of any kind. Forget altogether that Fab was how you connected in the first place.
Respect whoever it is you meet. Behind every profile on here is a person who deserves to be treated with respect. Sex may be the backbone of this site but we are all people first.
Be prepared to have somebody tell you that you may not be for them. Put any ego to the side and be fully understanding. It would be unwise to question why they may not feel a connection if that is the case.
Just be yourself and be respectful.
The very best of luck to you and enjoy your Fab experience. |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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"The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
Being yourself is obvious.
However I'm more interested about things that people experienced that should be obvious that aren't ...
For example show up clean
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If someone has to be reminded to show up clean, they’re a lost cause anyway.
The only advice needed is don’t be a dick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
Being yourself is obvious.
However I'm more interested about things that people experienced that should be obvious that aren't ...
For example show up clean
If someone has to be reminded to show up clean, they’re a lost cause anyway.
The only advice needed is don’t be a dick. "
I disagree, anyone who is a dick should make this clear immediately to avoid disappointment later |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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"The goal should be to find someone who is attracted to who you are, not someone who is attracted to who you are trying to be because the people on the fab forums told you to behave this way.
Being yourself is obvious.
However I'm more interested about things that people experienced that should be obvious that aren't ...
For example show up clean
If someone has to be reminded to show up clean, they’re a lost cause anyway.
The only advice needed is don’t be a dick.
I disagree, anyone who is a dick should make this clear immediately to avoid disappointment later"
Fair. Maybe I should change it to don’t show up if you’re a dick |
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