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By *ealmc1973 OP Man
over a year ago
Limerick, Clare, Tipperary |
...something more serious?
More less following on the recent 'who wants FB/FWB' thread on this forum:
So we all are here for, pretty much, the same reason, that might differ slightly, but it's to have a bit of fun and skin on skin with other human being/s - I hope, that dog lovers will forgive this generalization
Some are looking for Prince Charming or Goldilocks, some want to rake up numbers, but, my thoughts are, when do you think, that NSA turns into something more serious?
Sleepovers?
Dinner dates?
Holidays together?
Introduction to children, Family?
Shared bank account?
Shared life stories?
When one partner starts checking out messages/verifications of the other half?
...and if it turns into relationship of sort, how far would one go with this not-so-NSA pact? |
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over a year ago
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I had a fwb for a year when I joined here, we did dinner dates, the gym together, cinema dates abd lunch dates, not all involved sex and it was great now if I could only find that again |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I had a fwb for a year when I joined here, we did dinner dates, the gym together, cinema dates abd lunch dates, not all involved sex and it was great now if I could only find that again "
Apart from The Gym all good as long as everyone on the same page  |
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"I had a fwb for a year when I joined here, we did dinner dates, the gym together, cinema dates abd lunch dates, not all involved sex and it was great now if I could only find that again "
keep looking lot of good guys here..
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"All if what you mentioned in opening message doesn't sound at all like NSA but maybe i am missing something here?! "
I think he means how relationships change.
NSA is a still a relationship. Albeit a less involved one. And they can, and do, change over time. I think you have to be very dedicated to KEEP a relationship NSA as most will develop. And I don’t mean into strong “romantic” feelings but some sort of meaningful relationship.
One of my closest friends is someone I’ve shagged a few times off here. I really value his opinion and he’s been a shoulder and a reliable bouncing board a few times. Just cos we have shagged doesnt exclude the possibility of friendship?
Obviously  that rule of NSA doesn’t apply to every relationship. Feelings can come and bite the ass off you and turn your world upsidedown and make you reevaluate everything… and that’s not so awful either. Sometimes it can be pretty fucking awesome!! |
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"All if what you mentioned in opening message doesn't sound at all like NSA but maybe i am missing something here?!
I think he means how relationships change.
NSA is a still a relationship. Albeit a less involved one. And they can, and do, change over time. I think you have to be very dedicated to KEEP a relationship NSA as most will develop. And I don’t mean into strong “romantic” feelings but some sort of meaningful relationship.
One of my closest friends is someone I’ve shagged a few times off here. I really value his opinion and he’s been a shoulder and a reliable bouncing board a few times. Just cos we have shagged doesnt exclude the possibility of friendship?
Obviously that rule of NSA doesn’t apply to every relationship. Feelings can come and bite the ass off you and turn your world upsidedown and make you reevaluate everything… and that’s not so awful either. Sometimes it can be pretty fucking awesome!!"
I totally agree with the NSA being still a relationship in some form. Once a solid arrangement is set out at the start and it is obeyed then any hurt can be prevented. Often the case is one party falls for the other (most times unintended) that in itself becomes an issue and things become very messy sadly. The key is to separate the physical from the emotional. |
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"All if what you mentioned in opening message doesn't sound at all like NSA but maybe i am missing something here?!
I think he means how relationships change.
NSA is a still a relationship. Albeit a less involved one. And they can, and do, change over time. I think you have to be very dedicated to KEEP a relationship NSA as most will develop. And I don’t mean into strong “romantic” feelings but some sort of meaningful relationship.
One of my closest friends is someone I’ve shagged a few times off here. I really value his opinion and he’s been a shoulder and a reliable bouncing board a few times. Just cos we have shagged doesnt exclude the possibility of friendship?
Obviously that rule of NSA doesn’t apply to every relationship. Feelings can come and bite the ass off you and turn your world upsidedown and make you reevaluate everything… and that’s not so awful either. Sometimes it can be pretty fucking awesome!!
I totally agree the NSA being still a relationship in some form. Once a solid arrangement is set out at the start and it is obeyed then any hurt can be prevented. Often the case is one party falls for the other (most times unintended) that in itself becomes an issue and things become very messy sadly. The key is to separate the physical from the emotional."
Agree with messy NSA it should be only taken at it is I had a FWB and we are both married he said the L word that was it I had to end it .. when feelings emotions jealousy gets involved .. its not going to end well . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All if what you mentioned in opening message doesn't sound at all like NSA but maybe i am missing something here?!
I think he means how relationships change.
NSA is a still a relationship. Albeit a less involved one. And they can, and do, change over time. I think you have to be very dedicated to KEEP a relationship NSA as most will develop. And I don’t mean into strong “romantic” feelings but some sort of meaningful relationship.
One of my closest friends is someone I’ve shagged a few times off here. I really value his opinion and he’s been a shoulder and a reliable bouncing board a few times. Just cos we have shagged doesnt exclude the possibility of friendship?
Obviously that rule of NSA doesn’t apply to every relationship. Feelings can come and bite the ass off you and turn your world upsidedown and make you reevaluate everything… and that’s not so awful either. Sometimes it can be pretty fucking awesome!!
I totally agree the NSA being still a relationship in some form. Once a solid arrangement is set out at the start and it is obeyed then any hurt can be prevented. Often the case is one party falls for the other (most times unintended) that in itself becomes an issue and things become very messy sadly. The key is to separate the physical from the emotional.
Agree with messy NSA it should be only taken at it is I had a FWB and we are both married he said the L word that was it I had to end it .. when feelings emotions jealousy gets involved .. its not going to end well ."
The same happened to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All if what you mentioned in opening message doesn't sound at all like NSA but maybe i am missing something here?!
I think he means how relationships change.
NSA is a still a relationship. Albeit a less involved one. And they can, and do, change over time. I think you have to be very dedicated to KEEP a relationship NSA as most will develop. And I don’t mean into strong “romantic” feelings but some sort of meaningful relationship.
One of my closest friends is someone I’ve shagged a few times off here. I really value his opinion and he’s been a shoulder and a reliable bouncing board a few times. Just cos we have shagged doesnt exclude the possibility of friendship?
Obviously that rule of NSA doesn’t apply to every relationship. Feelings can come and bite the ass off you and turn your world upsidedown and make you reevaluate everything… and that’s not so awful either. Sometimes it can be pretty fucking awesome!!
I totally agree the NSA being still a relationship in some form. Once a solid arrangement is set out at the start and it is obeyed then any hurt can be prevented. Often the case is one party falls for the other (most times unintended) that in itself becomes an issue and things become very messy sadly. The key is to separate the physical from the emotional.
Agree with messy NSA it should be only taken at it is I had a FWB and we are both married he said the L word that was it I had to end it .. when feelings emotions jealousy gets involved .. its not going to end well .
The same happened to me "
Sorry to hear Phonenix x |
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"All if what you mentioned in opening message doesn't sound at all like NSA but maybe i am missing something here?!
I think he means how relationships change.
NSA is a still a relationship. Albeit a less involved one. And they can, and do, change over time. I think you have to be very dedicated to KEEP a relationship NSA as most will develop. And I don’t mean into strong “romantic” feelings but some sort of meaningful relationship.
One of my closest friends is someone I’ve shagged a few times off here. I really value his opinion and he’s been a shoulder and a reliable bouncing board a few times. Just cos we have shagged doesnt exclude the possibility of friendship?
Obviously that rule of NSA doesn’t apply to every relationship. Feelings can come and bite the ass off you and turn your world upsidedown and make you reevaluate everything… and that’s not so awful either. Sometimes it can be pretty fucking awesome!!
I totally agree the NSA being still a relationship in some form. Once a solid arrangement is set out at the start and it is obeyed then any hurt can be prevented. Often the case is one party falls for the other (most times unintended) that in itself becomes an issue and things become very messy sadly. The key is to separate the physical from the emotional.
Agree with messy NSA it should be only taken at it is I had a FWB and we are both married he said the L word that was it I had to end it .. when feelings emotions jealousy gets involved .. its not going to end well ."
Yep. MESSY!!!
I totally agree.
But if feelings develop at a similar rate, at the same level and intensity of emotion?
Be that a fucking good friendship, a rollicking good fuck buddy, or the love of your life… once no-one is out of the loop, it’s all good.
I’ve had all 3.
They’re all magic. |
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Whats wrong with feelings? I have feelings for everyone i meet, in that moment. And love..? The best feeling in the world.
But, you dont have to act on those feelings.
Of all the examples OP gave, i think i just shared mutually interesting life stories. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All if what you mentioned in opening message doesn't sound at all like NSA but maybe i am missing something here?!
I think he means how relationships change.
NSA is a still a relationship. Albeit a less involved one. And they can, and do, change over time. I think you have to be very dedicated to KEEP a relationship NSA as most will develop. And I don’t mean into strong “romantic” feelings but some sort of meaningful relationship.
One of my closest friends is someone I’ve shagged a few times off here. I really value his opinion and he’s been a shoulder and a reliable bouncing board a few times. Just cos we have shagged doesnt exclude the possibility of friendship?
Obviously that rule of NSA doesn’t apply to every relationship. Feelings can come and bite the ass off you and turn your world upsidedown and make you reevaluate everything… and that’s not so awful either. Sometimes it can be pretty fucking awesome!!
I totally agree with the NSA being still a relationship in some form. Once a solid arrangement is set out at the start and it is obeyed then any hurt can be prevented. Often the case is one party falls for the other (most times unintended) that in itself becomes an issue and things become very messy sadly. The key is to separate the physical from the emotional."
I can't even do the NSA very well(except meets at parties)I tend to stay away from profiles who mention it as I like chemistry and intimacy to much. But I understand why people don't want it of course being hurt but since i try work on this area of my being it has helped me awful lot since joining swing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All if what you mentioned in opening message doesn't sound at all like NSA but maybe i am missing something here?!
I think he means how relationships change.
NSA is a still a relationship. Albeit a less involved one. And they can, and do, change over time. I think you have to be very dedicated to KEEP a relationship NSA as most will develop. And I don’t mean into strong “romantic” feelings but some sort of meaningful relationship.
One of my closest friends is someone I’ve shagged a few times off here. I really value his opinion and he’s been a shoulder and a reliable bouncing board a few times. Just cos we have shagged doesnt exclude the possibility of friendship?
Obviously that rule of NSA doesn’t apply to every relationship. Feelings can come and bite the ass off you and turn your world upsidedown and make you reevaluate everything… and that’s not so awful either. Sometimes it can be pretty fucking awesome!!
I totally agree the NSA being still a relationship in some form. Once a solid arrangement is set out at the start and it is obeyed then any hurt can be prevented. Often the case is one party falls for the other (most times unintended) that in itself becomes an issue and things become very messy sadly. The key is to separate the physical from the emotional.
Agree with messy NSA it should be only taken at it is I had a FWB and we are both married he said the L word that was it I had to end it .. when feelings emotions jealousy gets involved .. its not going to end well .
The same happened to me
Sorry to hear Phonenix x "
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Yeah NSA means exactly that meet for fun and chill alittle then off you pop...anything after that is friends with benefits I suppose...but introducing a fwbs to family and all that other stuff is definitely a relationship so that's not gonna be NSA...if spending more time and feelings evolve....no strings attached goes out the window... |
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NSA can get away with drinks maybe.
FWB needs a clear separation between the friends and the benefits parts. Friends can do a lot more because there is more care and communication. Being housemates, meeting friends/family, dinner, movies, weekend holidays away together, etc. All friendly until a couple of glasses of wine or both feeling the need for relief and the benefits side takes over. Then back into friendship mode the following morning. |
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By *ealmc1973 OP Man
over a year ago
Limerick, Clare, Tipperary |
"I can't even do the NSA very well(except meets at parties)I tend to stay away from profiles who mention it as I like chemistry and intimacy to much. But I understand why people don't want it of course being hurt but since i try work on this area of my being it has helped me awful lot since joining swing. "
there is a fine line between chemistry/spark/love and trying to be one's boy/girlfriend.
Chemistry, as I, personally, understand it, is something, which has nothing to do with look or love, it's something, which is hidden within overall package, so to speak. Something, which makes me go hard every time I even think about said person.
Nothing to do with looks, age, race...hell, one doesn't even have to talk the same language as one's object of desire
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By *ealmc1973 OP Man
over a year ago
Limerick, Clare, Tipperary |
Thanks for the replies, all...
The reason behind starting this topic, was the impression, that many people on here, might be looking for something slightly different than NSA relationship - yes, I believe that NSA is relationship too - and I was curious where is the line of 'no return' between casual no strings liaison and something, which is rather like 'normal' dating.
If that makes sense? |
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"I can't even do the NSA very well(except meets at parties)I tend to stay away from profiles who mention it as I like chemistry and intimacy to much. But I understand why people don't want it of course being hurt but since i try work on this area of my being it has helped me awful lot since joining swing.
there is a fine line between chemistry/spark/love and trying to be one's boy/girlfriend.
Chemistry, as I, personally, understand it, is something, which has nothing to do with look or love, it's something, which is hidden within overall package, so to speak. Something, which makes me go hard every time I even think about said person.
Nothing to do with looks, age, race...hell, one doesn't even have to talk the same language as one's object of desire
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Chemistry is also very difficult to find.
And when you find it, it doesn’t always work out. But the time even short one, can be pretty amazing.
So now to find someone to have same chemistry. Is it possible ?? Yes I think so.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't even do the NSA very well(except meets at parties)I tend to stay away from profiles who mention it as I like chemistry and intimacy to much. But I understand why people don't want it of course being hurt but since i try work on this area of my being it has helped me awful lot since joining swing.
there is a fine line between chemistry/spark/love and trying to be one's boy/girlfriend.
Chemistry, as I, personally, understand it, is something, which has nothing to do with look or love, it's something, which is hidden within overall package, so to speak. Something, which makes me go hard every time I even think about said person.
Nothing to do with looks, age, race...hell, one doesn't even have to talk the same language as one's object of desire
Chemistry is also very difficult to find.
And when you find it, it doesn’t always work out. But the time even short one, can be pretty amazing.
So now to find someone to have same chemistry. Is it possible ?? Yes I think so.
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I couldn't have said it any better?!!
Let the hunt begin!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a fwb for a year when I joined here, we did dinner dates, the gym together, cinema dates abd lunch dates, not all involved sex and it was great now if I could only find that again "
 that sounds awesome |
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