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Where do I start?!
I have the grace of an elephant in a China shop, I'm a sh*t kisser, I worry about having bad breath, possibly even BO with all the nerves at me, I'm awkward with hand jobs, don't even get me started on blowjobs  ...what grimaces and expressions are off-putting during the dirty deed, did my mascara run, my lipstick smudge, is my back fat bulging out over my bra, never mind the rolls around the midriff, have my stockings got torn etc, etc...
Actually, scrap that - I'm quite content and confident having sex with my partner... and I generally choose others to have sex with whom I know I would feel comfortable around too because well, we're all just human, none of us are perfect (I don't expect anyone to be) and if you expect me to be, then you'll be sadly disappointed...so when I do get into a sexual scenario, any doubts or negative thoughts are generally fleeting, might entail some of the above but are usually quickly forgotten with the energy in the atmosphere  |
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"Where do I start?!
I have the grace of an elephant in a China shop, I'm a sh*t kisser, I worry about having bad breath, possibly even BO with all the nerves at me, I'm awkward with hand jobs, don't even get me started on blowjobs ...what grimaces and expressions are off-putting during the dirty deed, did my mascara run, my lipstick smudge, is my back fat bulging out over my bra, never mind the rolls around the midriff, have my stockings got torn etc, etc...
Actually, scrap that - I'm quite content and confident having sex with my partner... and I generally choose others to have sex with whom I know I would feel comfortable around too because well, we're all just human, none of us are perfect (I don't expect anyone to be) and if you expect me to be, then you'll be sadly disappointed...so when I do get into a sexual scenario, any doubts or negative thoughts are generally fleeting, might entail some of the above but are usually quickly forgotten with the energy in the atmosphere "
Totally agree with this. But ladies just to be clear. Those wobbly bits. Are exactly what makes you the sexy woman that you. |
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When I was younger it use to be a lot of things. Especially my hairy chest. But now I couldn't give a flyin' feck. If you are comfortable with your body that's all that matters, if someone else isn't comfortable with your body, it says more about them than it does about you. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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"My wobbly bits especially my stomach.
I feel like this describes the majority of us  "
There are loads of men who like a fuller figure; the images portrayed in the media of stick insects with large breasts is the result of photographic manipulation that simply perpetuates a myth that naive young women aspire to emulate.
Older and more experienced men live in the real world and enjoy reality! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My weight,my wobbly bits, am I good enough, am I sexy enough, why would a guy want me shy would anyone find me funny, do I talk to much do I not talk enough, over the last few years have had people ask how come I'm single for so long and I honestly dont know , that makes me question myself even more, I'm lonely but so afraid to open up as been hurt and rejected on here and vanilla life. I question why I'm on here as see other people meeting loads of people and I'm not.
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I have a lot of scars on my back from a house fire I was in.
Yes I have quite a few scars from surgeries and stuff too...but sure it's the scars that made us!"
To both of you...maybe I'm naive but I'd imagine if you're in a position to be naked with someone then they'd have the tact not to say anything until you do ...or has anyone ever said anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My weight,my wobbly bits, am I good enough, am I sexy enough, why would a guy want me shy would anyone find me funny, do I talk to much do I not talk enough, over the last few years have had people ask how come I'm single for so long and I honestly dont know , that makes me question myself even more, I'm lonely but so afraid to open up as been hurt and rejected on here and vanilla life. I question why I'm on here as see other people meeting loads of people and I'm not.
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You, my dear, are beautiful in every way. I understand though because I could have written this myself xx |
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"My weight,my wobbly bits, am I good enough, am I sexy enough, why would a guy want me shy would anyone find me funny, do I talk to much do I not talk enough, over the last few years have had people ask how come I'm single for so long and I honestly dont know , that makes me question myself even more, I'm lonely but so afraid to open up as been hurt and rejected on here and vanilla life. I question why I'm on here as see other people meeting loads of people and I'm not.
You, my dear, are beautiful in every way. I understand though because I could have writwten this myself xx"
Totally agree divine u are beautiful inside and out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same as most my size. Doesnt help that I've just been messaged by someone for the first time telling me I'm fat. So I've put my photos back over to friends only. Why do people do that. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Same as most my size. Doesnt help that I've just been messaged by someone for the first time telling me I'm fat. So I've put my photos back over to friends only. Why do people do that. "
Because they're gobshites who get off on it ....keyboard warriors living in their mothers basement
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"I have a lot of scars on my back from a house fire I was in.
Yes I have quite a few scars from surgeries and stuff too...but sure it's the scars that made us!
To both of you...maybe I'm naive but I'd imagine if you're in a position to be naked with someone then they'd have the tact not to say anything until you do ...or has anyone ever said anything "
Oh no I have had people say stuff before, once whenni was quite young which knocked my confidence for a few years...I tend to just be upfront about it now.
I know I'm a kinky sexy bitch so take me or leave me lol |
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"Past acne scarring and current breakouts "
Something that can make anyone very self conscious!
I was recently told by my GP that acne is a disease for which there are successful treatments available during a consultation with my teen which actually had nothing to do with her acne...I was delighted that the GP picked up on this as I would never have thought of asking, believing it's a hormonal, teen kind of phase, which just needs the right skincare, a balanced diet and a healthy lifestyle...
I then remembered that an adult family member took a 6 month course of antibiotics which cleared his acne completely...
My teen was prescribed an ointment, not oral antibiotics and it hasn't cleared it completely but it has improved substantially...
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On bad days… My belly, my ass, my cellulite and sometimes I can’t even stomach my face…
Like DD, big doubts darken my thoughts and I even avoid mirrors…
On good days… I don’t give a flying f* if people don’t like what they see! I accept the way I look and feel sexy and confident.
But whatever mood I’m in, if a man doesn’t like my wobbly bits he can just f* off. No one asked him to look or interact with me.
That said, some men are very good at making you feel sexy ! 
When there is a connection, and I see the lust in a man’s eyes then I get out of my head, and just feel.
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"My weight,my wobbly bits, am I good enough, am I sexy enough, why would a guy want me shy would anyone find me funny, do I talk to much do I not talk enough, over the last few years have had people ask how come I'm single for so long and I honestly dont know , that makes me question myself even more, I'm lonely but so afraid to open up as been hurt and rejected on here and vanilla life. I question why I'm on here as see other people meeting loads of people and I'm not.
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DD you are a fun sexy woman xxx |
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"Past acne scarring and current breakouts
Something that can make anyone very self conscious!
I was recently told by my GP that acne is a disease for which there are successful treatments available during a consultation with my teen which actually had nothing to do with her acne...I was delighted that the GP picked up on this as I would never have thought of asking, believing it's a hormonal, teen kind of phase, which just needs the right skincare, a balanced diet and a healthy lifestyle...
I then remembered that an adult family member took a 6 month course of antibiotics which cleared his acne completely...
My teen was prescribed an ointment, not oral antibiotics and it hasn't cleared it completely but it has improved substantially...
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I’ve been through all the creams and prescribed ointments etc and all had minimal effect. I don’t have it that bad so I’m sceptical of going on hardcore antibiotics or the other acne medication that has some dire side effects.
And also, it doesn’t bother me until an intimate situation arises and then I get so paranoid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My legs... my build in general I'm quite happy with but my pins... going around like your bhoyo from the minions!
And I don't workout so haven't missed leg day
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My body is ok but its a very long time since I've felt someone's fingers through my hair. Whatever hair I've left its cut at No 1.
My hair started receding at 15 and was a hang up for a long time but i eventually got over it....thankfully |
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Grateful to be at a place where I'm happy out with all of me, have all the lumps and bumps and happily sitting here with a large drink and a larger bowl of crisps, happy to be able to enjoy this deviant carry on. Lol |
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Now that this topic has ran its course. Maybe we can all take something useful from it.
Seeing as no body is perfect. Maybe we should be a little more, willing to give people a second look. And think they just might be worth a reply.
Just saying
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women are not made feel more comfortable and beautiful in how they look and that’s sad because how would a woman enjoy the whole experience if she is self conscious?she should be reminded and told how you see her and not how she sees herself!!as a man I am self conscious but make the lady feel extremely attractive and comfortable |
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I have little medical devices I wear 24/7.
I also have droopy boobs and a lot of excess skin after a huge weight loss.
But I think mostly it’s that I don’t look good when I’m riding or sucking or that I make a funny face or noise??
The *ick* factor . |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I have little medical devices I wear 24/7.
I also have droopy boobs and a lot of excess skin after a huge weight loss.
But I think mostly it’s that I don’t look good when I’m riding or sucking or that I make a funny face or noise??
The *ick* factor . "
And I bet the fella your riding and sucking doesn't give a shite about any of them |
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"I have little medical devices I wear 24/7.
I also have droopy boobs and a lot of excess skin after a huge weight loss.
But I think mostly it’s that I don’t look good when I’m riding or sucking or that I make a funny face or noise??
The *ick* factor .
And I bet the fella your riding and sucking doesn't give a shite about any of them "
Of course he doesn’t!! I’m the only one that worries!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spent my whole life been self councious about my body but in last year or two ive accepted myself, it is was it is people, if we were all "perfect" life would be pretty boring, so lets get out there & show the world what we got |
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