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over a year ago
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If you knew a friend whos wife of many years and mother to his kids was cheating with guys from a swing site .Would you tell or not say anything...Would you be a real friend if you didnt tell or would you leave well alone and say nothing.. |
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"If you knew a friend whos wife of many years and mother to his kids was cheating with guys from a swing site .Would you tell or not say anything...Would you be a real friend if you didnt tell or would you leave well alone and say nothing.. "
I wouldn't say, think these things always come out in the end anyway & I wouldn't wanna be messenger. |
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It's a tough situation to be in for sure but most of us " single" ppl on here are attached I'd imagine all be it in failing or dead relationships. Personally speaking I'm in a relationship where things in the norm are "ok" however there's absolutely no intimacy so what do I do leave and break up a fairly happy family or do what I'm doing enjoy some intimate encounters with willing "friends"..
I'm glad your choice isn't mine to make but at the end of the day who's getting hurt she's having her fun perhaps relieving some of the stresses in her life and returning home to be a nice wife and mother. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you knew a friend whos wife of many years and mother to his kids was cheating with guys from a swing site .Would you tell or not say anything...Would you be a real friend if you didnt tell or would you leave well alone and say nothing.. "
what goes on in other peoples lives is their own business, no one can truly say they know what's going on friend or not..
maybe her playing away from home is what keeps her with her husband and kids ??
maybe he suspects but doesn't want to know??
Swinging is completly seperate from our "real" lives...
I think you'd be best of not getting involved, and if it comes out, be there for him, but don't ever tell him you knew..
just my opinion, as I have been in this situation, and that's the route I took..
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By (user no longer on site)
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damed if you do damned if you don,t ! but i know if i was in that situation i,d want to know but its your friend and your call u,ll know urself if its the right thing to do when the time comes |
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When anyone makes contact with another profile/person on a site like this we expect everyone to be discreet, no one knows what goes on in other people's lives. If you swing with your partner then your very lucky that the Also enjoy swining, not everyone has a partner that wants or likes that life style. I would be sure that you would not like that woman to tell everyone the reason she got caught was because you were on a swinger site and chatted to her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a tough situation to be in for sure but most of us " single" ppl on here are attached I'd imagine all be it in failing or dead relationships. Personally speaking I'm in a relationship where things in the norm are "ok" however there's absolutely no intimacy so what do I do leave and break up a fairly happy family or do what I'm doing enjoy some intimate encounters with willing "friends"..
I'm glad your choice isn't mine to make but at the end of the day who's getting hurt she's having her fun perhaps relieving some of the stresses in her life and returning home to be a nice wife and mother. "
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a tough one alright BUT ... it's really none of your business. What happens betwen them is for them alone. People are here for many different reasons and each to their own .. no one knows exactly what happens behind closed doors. Leave well enough alone I say |
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I was in a situation similar one time, except she wasnt swinging. I told my mate cause i thought it was best thing to do. They got back together a month later and i was the worst in the world. Say fook all i certainly wouldnt stick my nose in again. Lost a friend over it. |
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"a tough one alright BUT ... it's really none of your business. What happens betwen them is for them alone. People are here for many different reasons and each to their own .. no one knows exactly what happens behind closed doors. Leave well enough alone I say"
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"a tough one alright BUT ... it's really none of your business. What happens betwen them is for them alone. People are here for many different reasons and each to their own .. no one knows exactly what happens behind closed doors. Leave well enough alone I say"
Well said greenie |
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Id say leave well alone and let them get on with it as its really no ones business ...if on the other hand you feel the need to say something then why not speak to the mrs tell her you know and leave the desision up to her what to do about it she may then decide to give it up and the poor hubby doesnt get hurt if he knows nothing about it . |
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"Id say leave well alone and let them get on with it as its really no ones business ...if on the other hand you feel the need to say something then why not speak to the mrs tell her you know and leave the desision up to her what to do about it she may then decide to give it up and the poor hubby doesnt get hurt if he knows nothing about it ."
If you choose to approach anyone it should be her. If she decides to apply herself to her marriage then him knowing would cause hurt and distress and you would end up carrying the blame.
Also, no matter how good a friend he is only two people truly know what happens behind closed doors - next door neighbours are always telling the papers "he was so pleasant and quiet "... |
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seriously silly question for someone to ask on a swingers site!!!! remember where you are,either with your partner or not,if anyone is on a swingers site they are cheating someone,and that includes couples,who are they cheating you ask,what about their children,other family,parents etc,who think they are whiter than white lol,so please end this now lol  |
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Maybe she's doing this with his knowledge? So before you approach him, I would approach her and let her know you were aware of what she was doing and get her side of it. It could be that their intimacy has gone, and they are together out of friendship and the children. Then you will at least have an idea of how to approach your friend. It's a shit situation to be in, balancing your loyalty to your friend versus the fall out from disclosing this kind of info. Plus you have to consider what will happen if he finds out that you knew in advance and didn't tell him. Is your friendship going to survive that kind of revelation? Tough call, but ultimately he's your friend and your loyalty is to him.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"seriously silly question for someone to ask on a swingers site!!!! remember where you are,either with your partner or not,if anyone is on a swingers site they are cheating someone,and that includes couples,who are they cheating you ask,what about their children,other family,parents etc,who think they are whiter than white lol,so please end this now lol "
hold on a minuite here im on with my husband explain to me how the hell we r cheatn, no1 is getting hurt, no1 splitting up we play with fems and couple whom may i add r together not fk buddies n 1 single man so how on earth am i cheatn on my kids family n parents well if you can say we r cheatn care to explain that 1 last i nu children and families etc didnt come into ppls sex lives |
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I think its best left alone as greenie said. You never know they might be in a cuckolding relationship and he gets off on her gong off out and playing and coming home to tell him.
I'm sure they'd not like you to out them no matter what..
said as a "cheating wife" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There could be number of reasons cucking or its there sex fantasy or arrangement they have in that case leave well alone if it is the cheating one then be there for him as friend when shit hits fan it always does. |
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