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What is something you learnt about yourself while being on Fab
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That my first marriage wasn't nearly as strong as I thought it was.
That my sex drive is unusual and that a lot of my decisions are almost subconsciously driven by it.
That people will be surprisingly understanding if you stop worrying about how to hide what you get up to here, and be more sexually open. If they have a problem with this the that's their problem not my problem. |
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over a year ago
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How being a Dom in play is a privalage I deeply respect and enjoy.
Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void.
Handling Rejection maturely is a skill that's lacking in a lot of swingers
Never take one for the team
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How being a Dom in play is a privalage I deeply respect and enjoy.
Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void.
Handling Rejection maturely is a skill that's lacking in a lot of swingers
Never take one for the team
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Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void. 100% agree with this, it’s a strange feeling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How being a Dom in play is a privalage I deeply respect and enjoy.
Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void.
Handling Rejection maturely is a skill that's lacking in a lot of swingers
Never take one for the team
Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void. 100% agree with this, it’s a strange feeling "
Hard lesson to learn and part of growth too. Trusting ones gut instincts and learning to be comfortable saying thanks but no thanks has helped hugely and strengthens self esteem
Some mainly females in my experience don't like being told no not for me I'm not interested
It's a power thing I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How being a Dom in play is a privalage I deeply respect and enjoy.
Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void.
Handling Rejection maturely is a skill that's lacking in a lot of swingers
Never take one for the team
Play with out a connection is a waist of time, no matter what people look like or promise, a waist of my time and energy and has left me feeling empty and void. 100% agree with this, it’s a strange feeling
Hard lesson to learn and part of growth too. Trusting ones gut instincts and learning to be comfortable saying thanks but no thanks has helped hugely and strengthens self esteem
Some mainly females in my experience don't like being told no not for me I'm not interested
It's a power thing I think "
Very true, not saying no when I was younger led me to being in some silly situations when I was younger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I learnt no one wants to sleep with me  lol
That people can be cruel and not think about what they say.
People are so jugdemental and think better than others
And lot of fakes out there |
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After a marriage breakdown I was left feeling very undesirable to women but fab has given me the confidence that maybe I ain't so bad after all and you just got to dust yourself off and keep moving forward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I learnt POLARIZE jealous, sexual humiliation for sexual arousal what turned me into SWITCH (I used to thought I can be only DOM).
Titanium Tushy learnt to enjoy watching your husband get excited to see her and another man, so enjoy twice.
We both learnt the swingers judge a book by its cover, they are very intolerant.
We learnt both walk only your own path without looking back.
We both learnt Self-sufficient.
We never assume that someone will come to the meeting. That's hard lesson on here.
Both learnt to not being fake. Better to being not accepted on first the meeting and find your second half later, spend more time on it. |
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I've learnt and changed a bit since joining. At least some of these are true:
I'm much more like others than I thought.
After the initial adaptation to the site, I've actually increased in confidence.. (not quite the same as rejection confidence, but close. )
I am a poor photographer.
Although my jokes are often missed (or mistaken), I'm not the worst.
I have a new found respect for wasps. |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Ive hight standards and low tolerance for fuckwits and cockwombles plus im extremely judgemental on who people have met or intend to meet i just cut ties with them gradually on here...... |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
Kerry and Dublin |
I've also learned that I have preconceptions about how I'm supposed to interact with women on here which causes me to adopt a certain mindset when I message.
I used to have a similar pattern of behaviour on the swiping apps, which I have gotten beyond, but it seems I've lapsed back into it here. |
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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
City Centre |
That it's good to be open minded
Never take yourself seriously
That I am more experimental than I thought
That humans really aren't made for monogamy
That unfortunately people can be so judgemental and fake (a minority here)
How sad keyboard warriors are..really just a reflection of themselves
That coconut oil rocks
 
B xx |
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Too many things to list but first and foremost...that (most of) my boundaries are not set in stone. They evolve and are entirely dependent on whom I'm interacting with - and to trust my gut instinct...whereas I've done things that may well have been dangerous, my instincts to trust have been right... and when I've gone against my gut, the experience in question has left me with negative feelings to work through. |
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By *azirlMan
over a year ago
Marbella |
" Some mainly females in my experience don't like being told no not for me I'm not interested
It's a power thing I think "
Exactly people generally like to talk about how badly men take rejection(even though most are so used to it that it’s practically water of a ducks back) while ignoring how badly some women take it and just how nasty some become. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That I'm much more open minded than I ever even taught I would be.
My tolerance for demanding people has dwindled the longer I am on this.
I still have not got the balls to even tell my closest circle I'm am or into swinging
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive hight standards and low tolerance for fuckwits and cockwombles plus im extremely judgemental on who people have met or intend to meet i just cut ties with them gradually on here......"
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Confidence and that it is ok to have a voice and use it and that you don't need a man or a woman to feel happy true happiness comes from within yourself oh and never trust man they all let you don't in the end lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That I much more confident and comfortable naked than clothed, especially Infront of people I don't know. Also I'm willing to experiment much more than I thought I would |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really don't understand text speak. Also my humour dosent always translate or land the way I think it will when texting in a conversation rather than in person. |
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