FabSwingers.com > Forums > Ireland > What's Your "Fab Meet Ick"...!!!!
What's Your "Fab Meet Ick"...!!!!
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?"
Once upon a time I called over to a lady's house for our "second Fab date", I brought wine and pizza... as we sat chatting I did indeed notice her replying to messages on Fab... not once or twice either.
I just apologised for distracting her with my presence and left. Petty? Yeah, maybe. But I feel the LEAST I deserve is someone's attention if I'm sat in front of em.
The lady in question wasn't best pleased...
So I sympathise OP! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Not hard at all.
I’ve had socials like that also. Didn’t see them again. If you can’t pay attention to me while socialising how is it going to be in the bedroom.
I give the person my full attention. Socially or otherwise  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Not that hard to give someone our attention at a social. While we keep an eye on our phones for family or personal calls and texts we wouldn't be on fab or the like. Would we be put off by someone being on fab while we're meeting them? Yes we would especially considering we don't meet often and our time to is very rare. It's one of the reasons we don't give second chances to people who mess us around. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Ive also had a guy do this,he spent most of our social meet chatting to someone on fab. After 30 mins i said thanks for your time but you're not for me and i left. Dodged a bullet  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
Why are so many on here so against Snapchat? Much harder to catfish on Snapchat is my theory… "
Because I'm not 12.
When I send a dick pic I want that shit to be for life.
  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
When i meet someone for a coffee, my phone is never in my hand, definitely not on fab replying to a message!! The only time ill touch my phone is if I receive a private call,
Soory Op, but that was a rude guy |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
If I'm going into a business meeting I don't even take my phone in with me unless there is something on it related to the meeting.
If I'm meeting through fab my phone will always be on silent and I don't respond to texts or calls until afterwards. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I once had a meet I met him a few times for coffee so we decided to book a hotel near by , he new I didn't drive it was pissing raining out he never offered to give me a lift home  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Ive no hassle anyone having there phone on the table or wherever because things happen and you need to answer or have to leave, it's the one's scrolling through fab or the other chat app especially because their in groups chats and afraid their going to miss something ive the issue with..... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I once had a meet I met him a few times for coffee so we decided to book a hotel near by , he new I didn't drive it was pissing raining out he never offered to give me a lift home "
So you got wet twice in the one day |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
My fab meet ick is people turning up not to a social meet with the expectation they deserve sex on the day because they showed up and had a coffee with me for a few minutes.Or asking questions about others I might know from here like they are digging for information on them.
If someone was using their phone like they were with you Lolly I think I would cut the meet short and leave. It's not hard to pay attention to the person you are with. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Ive no hassle anyone having there phone on the table or wherever because things happen and you need to answer or have to leave, it's the one's scrolling through fab or the other chat app especially because their in groups chats and afraid their going to miss something ive the issue with....."
Absolutely people can have their phones in case they need to answer a call or message from someone, which is fine.
But anybody, holding, looking or scrolling through social media on their phone etc. Then you're entitled to walk out! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?"
No doubt Indeed I can say you give 10000% attention and time when you meet people I can vouch on that…
It’s jst some people who born with those skills(of being dick lol)
It’s easy and one must pay attention on whoever they meeting…. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?"
Lolly I would just walk out. No one should disrespect anyone like that.
If they can't give me their attention over a coffee then they in my eyes aren't worth me giving anymore of my time.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My personal meet ick is getting messages from people I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at upcoming socials.
Turn up on the night and those same people completely blank me and don't respond when I say hello but feel it's ok to message the next day to say they didn't see me.
I must have read a different rulebook. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?
No doubt Indeed I can say you give 10000% attention and time when you meet people I can vouch on that…
It’s jst some people who born with those skills(of being dick lol)
It’s easy and one must pay attention on whoever they meeting…."
Awwww thanks coffee again soon |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?"
Oh no, surely when you arrange a meet, you should be 100% present and getting to know them.
All I can say is if I was to meet with you I’d definitely be giving you my full attention |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?
Once upon a time I called over to a lady's house for our "second Fab date", I brought wine and pizza... as we sat chatting I did indeed notice her replying to messages on Fab... not once or twice either.
I just apologised for distracting her with my presence and left. Petty? Yeah, maybe. But I feel the LEAST I deserve is someone's attention if I'm sat in front of em.
The lady in question wasn't best pleased...
So I sympathise OP! "
Now that is just sooooo fecking rude and wrong...  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I feel this is a thing you might experience more with younger people (18 to 25) as they grew up with technology at their disposal all the time, I enjoy using my phone and you can say probably use it more than needed but in the company of others I would rarely do, I say rarely because sometimes with people I'm very familiar with I would do it (family mainly) anyways their lost Op |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?
No doubt Indeed I can say you give 10000% attention and time when you meet people I can vouch on that…
It’s jst some people who born with those skills(of being dick lol)
It’s easy and one must pay attention on whoever they meeting….
Awwww thanks coffee again soon "
Yeah sure coffee coffee again |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"I feel this is a thing you might experience more with younger people (18 to 25) as they grew up with technology at their disposal all the time, I enjoy using my phone and you can say probably use it more than needed but in the company of others I would rarely do, I say rarely because sometimes with people I'm very familiar with I would do it (family mainly) anyways their lost Op "
No it was people older than that age bracket in my case. Not sure if id nothing to offer to keep them engaged in conversation but i think regardless a few minutes of someone's time is not hard to ask for..... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I once had a meet I met him a few times for coffee so we decided to book a hotel near by , he new I didn't drive it was pissing raining out he never offered to give me a lift home "
Whereas an offer may have been thoughtful, some women (and men, I reckon) would be very cautious about a fellow Fabber knowing where you live, even if you had met on a number of occasions prior!
With respect to the original post, in order for me to walk out without being polite - because I would try not to stoop to other people's level (I'm just better than that ), I'd have to smell danger...otherwise a half hour/hour of my time is perfectly acceptable to get a "feel" for someone in person - that way I know exactly that I'm making the right choice not to meet them again and I've lived up to my own expectations |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I feel this is a thing you might experience more with younger people (18 to 25) as they grew up with technology at their disposal all the time, I enjoy using my phone and you can say probably use it more than needed but in the company of others I would rarely do, I say rarely because sometimes with people I'm very familiar with I would do it (family mainly) anyways their lost Op
No it was people older than that age bracket in my case. Not sure if id nothing to offer to keep them engaged in conversation but i think regardless a few minutes of someone's time is not hard to ask for....."
Maybe you were Boring them and hoping you’d get up and go
They didn’t want to be the one to get up and leave …. It would be very unprofessional
The jury is out |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How about the guy who checks his swing texts and replies to them..whilst shagging ..I was obviously a very boring ride  "
He was probably checking the form for the next ride
Was his profile username
Jockey Johnny by any chance |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How about the guy who checks his swing texts and replies to them..whilst shagging ..I was obviously a very boring ride
If a woman did that, she’d be praised for multitasking…."
Hey - if a man has done it , then us ladies would have to up the ante |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
Why are so many on here so against Snapchat? Much harder to catfish on Snapchat is my theory…
Because I'm not 12.
When I send a dick pic I want that shit to be for life.
"
Still waiting on your dick pic ha ha ha |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I once had a meet I met him a few times for coffee so we decided to book a hotel near by , he new I didn't drive it was pissing raining out he never offered to give me a lift home
Whereas an offer may have been thoughtful, some women (and men, I reckon) would be very cautious about a fellow Fabber knowing where you live, even if you had met on a number of occasions prior!
With respect to the original post, in order for me to walk out without being polite - because I would try not to stoop to other people's level (I'm just better than that ), I'd have to smell danger...otherwise a half hour/hour of my time is perfectly acceptable to get a "feel" for someone in person - that way I know exactly that I'm making the right choice not to meet them again and I've lived up to my own expectations "
I wasn't expecting him to drop me to my front door I should have left after he said I wouldn't be here if I was getting it at home what a thing to say to me I felt like crying .. anyway lesson learned, |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
The men who turn up extremely late with no explanation. I've drink finished, paid and am half way out door by time they arrive & they demand I stay as they made effort to meet & are only 30/45 min late
Happened more than once |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago
tipperary |
"Biggest ick is kik. The pedophiles app of choice.
Why are so many on here so against Snapchat? Much harder to catfish on Snapchat is my theory… "
I hate Kik and I can’t believe how many people from here use it it’s pure jailbait |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Biggest ick is kik. The pedophiles app of choice.
Why are so many on here so against Snapchat? Much harder to catfish on Snapchat is my theory…
I hate Kik and I can’t believe how many people from here use it it’s pure jailbait "
It’s generally easier to use than Snapchat and was one of the first “anonymous” chat apps with a group function. I’m pretty sure Snapchat doesn’t have a group function?
Either way, iPhone/Android - PC/Mac/Linux - Barry’s/Lyon’s, everyone has their preference.
Personally though, I agree - KIK is a horrid app even for the likes of normal and group chats, but the majority use it. I wouldn’t be arsed to use Snapchat either though, having to take a photo to send someone a message is over and above for effort every single time and I’m a proponent for LEAN processes where possible.
I digress from the OP’s topic though so - have to agree, if someone is on their phone the whole time at a social meet, do they even want to be there with you? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
If I would have to use my phone, e.g. if my S.O. is contacting me for somewhat urgent reasons (she'd knew I was on a date so it would have to be urgent if she'd contact me) I'd actually ask for "permission" to the other party. Something along the lines of "hey, is it okay if I text back here real quick?". That's just basic manners. But maybe the younger generation feels differently about that, unsure.
On the topic of "ick": it's not all that bad but when I send someone a well written, thought out message with a facepic (which is what I usually open with), I think it would be somewhat reasonable to expect at least a short reply along the lines of "sorry not interested". It's somewhat disheartening to just have the message ignored. I mean I guess some women and coulles probably get dozens of messages each day, so I understand on some level, but when you put the effort in, I think it would encourage people to keep doing that if there was at least some sort of reply.
One of my favourite messages on here was a woman telling me that she wasn't interested but in such a sweet way that it actually made my day and I was actually feeling positive afterwards. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Looking nothing like their filtered pics and being completely disrespectful of relationship status even when it's not hidden.
Had someone ask me of the mister "convinced" me to join just so he could shag around and not feel guilty.
Shorty
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Biggest ick is kik. The pedophiles app of choice.
Why are so many on here so against Snapchat? Much harder to catfish on Snapchat is my theory…
I hate Kik and I can’t believe how many people from here use it it’s pure jailbait "
But you use it as its handy I presume |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I once had a meet I met him a few times for coffee so we decided to book a hotel near by , he new I didn't drive it was pissing raining out he never offered to give me a lift home "
Bad manners that-always see a lady home if she is not driving |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago
everywhere kildare longford |
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?"
Or someone just barge in and bomb your coffee date lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?
Or someone just barge in and bomb your coffee date lol "
Nothing worse alright |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I once had a meet I met him a few times for coffee so we decided to book a hotel near by , he new I didn't drive it was pissing raining out he never offered to give me a lift home
Bad manners that-always see a lady home if she is not driving"
I once asked a lady if I could see her home.
.
She showed me a picture of her house  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Biggest ick is kik. The pedophiles app of choice.
Why are so many on here so against Snapchat? Much harder to catfish on Snapchat is my theory… "
THIS THIS THIS.
I hate kik. It’s a known grooming app. You can say the same about any social media but kik is by far the worst. Not to mention that it’s terrible app in general. Surely it’s much easier to verify somebodies genuine by using the instant video and picture feature ? It’s also equally as anonymous.
Blows my mind people on here use that app and look at you weird when you say Snapchat.
I also get confused when people say they’re too old for Snapchat when kik is older than it only by a couple of years. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago
everywhere kildare longford |
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?
Or someone just barge in and bomb your coffee date lol
Nothing worse alright "
But at least it ended up in a threesome at mc Donald’s lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"When i meet someone let it be for an hour,couple of hours or overnight they will have my 110% attention..
Ive had in the past someone verfie another lady in my company he'd meet earlier that day,ive had someone repeatedly message other ladies while over coffee the list goes on...My question is how hard is it to give someone your attention for just a while?
Or someone just barge in and bomb your coffee date lol
Nothing worse alright
But at least it ended up in a threesome at mc Donald’s lol "
Best fun ever |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"My personal meet ick is getting messages from people I've never spoken to before saying how much they are looking forward to meeting me at upcoming socials.
Turn up on the night and those same people completely blank me and don't respond when I say hello but feel it's ok to message the next day to say they didn't see me.
I must have read a different rulebook. "
Great post
I've experienced similar to this aswell more than once...
Brave out on here, kik etc in person they're mice...I allow for people being a bit shy ,social awkwardness etc ...but ignoring and massaging you to say I didn't get to speak to you properly.
Ya live and learn. Their loss |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Biggest ick is kik. The pedophiles app of choice.
Why are so many on here so against Snapchat? Much harder to catfish on Snapchat is my theory…
THIS THIS THIS.
I hate kik. It’s a known grooming app. You can say the same about any social media but kik is by far the worst. Not to mention that it’s terrible app in general. Surely it’s much easier to verify somebodies genuine by using the instant video and picture feature ? It’s also equally as anonymous.
Blows my mind people on here use that app and look at you weird when you say Snapchat.
I also get confused when people say they’re too old for Snapchat when kik is older than it only by a couple of years."
Thank God I’m not the only one!
Kik is soooo shite, I only have it to marginally increase my chances on here… not that it’s helped any lol. Snapchat is ten times easier to use and ten times harder to catfish on yet every bit as anonymous… why don’t more people use it? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How about the guy who checks his swing texts and replies to them..whilst shagging ..I was obviously a very boring ride "
I mean..
Ya I'd definitely start a through review of my technique if that happened to me.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How about the guy who checks his swing texts and replies to them..whilst shagging ..I was obviously a very boring ride
I mean..
Ya I'd definitely start a through review of my technique if that happened to me.
"
Absolutely did, thank you..(btw it's thorough)  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How about the guy who checks his swing texts and replies to them..whilst shagging ..I was obviously a very boring ride
I mean..
Ya I'd definitely start a through review of my technique if that happened to me.
Absolutely did, thank you..(btw it's thorough) "
So it is thanks.... spell checks are so hot.....drifts off thinking of other fabbers |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oc1998Man
over a year ago
Dundalk |
Whenever I meet with people, I always give my undivided attention. If I dont like you, I would just be honest and say, sorry I dont think this will work. We are all adults here. How some people cant put the phone down to enjoy other people is beyond me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I am totally present most of the time unless I have to just check my phone in case if an important message or something especially if in company for a long period. It would drive me nuts if a person was constantly on the phone alright but checking it or answering important calls I wouldn't mind. I mean after all people have lives friends and family etc, i wouldn't be like hitler about it unless it was excessive in this case I wouldn't want to be in their company lol. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I am totally present most of the time unless I have to just check my phone in case if an important message or something especially if in company for a long period. It would drive me nuts if a person was constantly on the phone alright but checking it or answering important calls I wouldn't mind. I mean after all people have lives friends and family etc, i wouldn't be like hitler about it unless it was excessive in this case I wouldn't want to be in their company lol."
100% agree |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I am totally present most of the time unless I have to just check my phone in case if an important message or something especially if in company for a long period. It would drive me nuts if a person was constantly on the phone alright but checking it or answering important calls I wouldn't mind. I mean after all people have lives friends and family etc, i wouldn't be like hitler about it unless it was excessive in this case I wouldn't want to be in their company lol.
100% agree"
I’m fortunate that I haven’t experienced anything like this. It would drive me up the wall.
I did have a similar experience when meeting somebody where we were both clearly into each other and they feigned aloofness (if that makes sense ? It’s my word of the day) or acted disinterested in person.
It kind of turned me off because we were both into eachother and that’s hot ! Why are you trying to act too cool for me in person haha it kinda turned me off and made me want to make an early exit. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We met a guy who's profile said he didn't smoke, but in the hour we were with him for a drink he went to the smoking area twice. "
Maybe he was just nervous ! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
