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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone
I just want to share my story with ye lovely people.
3 years ago i lost my wife who i loved. Yes a very sad situation. Since then I’ve had my ups and downs.
Me as a person I’m doing good with the kids etc and i do my work to the best of my ability.
One of my main problems is I seem to be very quiet in myself which is not like me. I’m normally the person with the loudest laugh etc but now I’m just quiet like I’ve no news or nothing to talk about.
I do still go to the pub which i enjoy but i don’t interact like before and it’s bothering me big time.
My kids are grown up more or less and my house seems so empty at times
Anyway
Just taught I’d share it with ye |
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I've no real comparison in my life so I haven't got much I can say or do to help. I'd just say that it sounds like you are a great dad and husband.
It sounds a bit like you're struggling talking to people. Have you got someone you can open up to? If not then consider counselling. You can do it on zoom really easily and having someone impartial and expert to talk to can be really beneficial.
Sorry for your loss. |
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By *oandFroCouple
over a year ago
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Think it's lovely that you have opened up here and sorry for your loss. It sounds like you are keeping everything a float but you may need someone just for yourself as in the counsellor as suggested. Or maybe it will come back naturally. I found after you loose someone so close others find it difficult to chat to you and in a pub have the crack if there are one or two you know well at the pub just quietly say hey im still me we can still chat away and that you miss the crack. Either way i hope you meet nice people from here x |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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Not being flippant but time heals all is a very true saying some of us carry a torch for a lot longer than others but time eventually heals the wounds. While the scars remain it helps to change the assiocations like the places ye went together not a straight cut off but a partial change, a different crowd, a different prespective, the laugh will return as will the chat and craic but the torch will still burn.
In your post i feel your grief and by posting showing the strenght to face the future as a stranger on an internet site can only wish u well in the future and may it bring u the happiness u deserve without removing the happiness u shared
Good luck bud
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Sorry to hear of your loss,people grief differently and carry a heavy burden during that process.It may be a good idea to speak to a professional to help you move forward and to cope or understand things better. Never be afraid to speak to someone,it's what they do and they do help people. Best of luck with your journey,I'm sure she's looking down and willing you on your family on that journey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’ve taken right step in talking about this. Even here can be great to unload your troubles. Not at all similar but I suffered terribly from an awful pang of discontentment. Talk to someone buddy, you’re probably a little depressed.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Morning all
Thanks so much for taking the time to read my thread and thanks for all the advice. I feel some people understand but it’s very hard to understand it unless you’ve been there.
Anyway i think today I’ll take a spin to Killarney as i love the bike fest and the people there and the style.
Thanks again |
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"Not sure where you read that I’ve no sister inlaw "
"I fucked my sister in law a few times
Was great, just what i needed at the time.
Then when she got caught out being an alcoholic she rated on me.
Some craic then i tell ya" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure where you read that I’ve no sister inlaw
"I fucked my sister in law a few times
Was great, just what i needed at the time.
Then when she got caught out being an alcoholic she rated on me.
Some craic then i tell ya""
BUSTED  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now i see the confusion
She was my brother in laws partner
So she was your sister so  "
Wife's brothers partner...
I've a family tree drawn up don't worry |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Now i see the confusion
She was my brother in laws partner
So she was your sister so
Wife's brothers partner...
I've a family tree drawn up don't worry"
I am not worried at all.I just couldn't be bothered looking into it too much |
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By *oandFroCouple
over a year ago
Limerick |
I think worst case scenario we gave a few seconds of our time and empathy to a guy who from what I can read might have needed if it's attention seeking then he has worse problems I do t know if anyone could go so far to dream up being a widow if so the world is a far sicker place then I'd like to think. Mrs c |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think worst case scenario we gave a few seconds of our time and empathy to a guy who from what I can read might have needed if it's attention seeking then he has worse problems I do t know if anyone could go so far to dream up being a widow if so the world is a far sicker place then I'd like to think. Mrs c"
Oh people can and do go that far and further |
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"I think worst case scenario we gave a few seconds of our time and empathy to a guy who from what I can read might have needed if it's attention seeking then he has worse problems I do t know if anyone could go so far to dream up being a widow if so the world is a far sicker place then I'd like to think. Mrs c"
People have build entire profiles and forum reputations on here in the past based on being a widower. The word was even part of their profile name. The wife who was alive and well at the time wasn't impressed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think worst case scenario we gave a few seconds of our time and empathy to a guy who from what I can read might have needed if it's attention seeking then he has worse problems I do t know if anyone could go so far to dream up being a widow if so the world is a far sicker place then I'd like to think. Mrs c"
First of all I’m not seeking attention and secondly I’m not dreaming up a story.
I just wanted to share my story and I’ve gotten some good advice too. |
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"Not sure where you read that I’ve no sister inlaw
"I fucked my sister in law a few times
Was great, just what i needed at the time.
Then when she got caught out being an alcoholic she rated on me.
Some craic then i tell ya"
BUSTED "
Absolutely busted.
Makes sense why he incorrectly referred to himself as a widow and not a widower. I would suspect that someone who has legitimately and sadly lost a partner would know the distinction between the two.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure where you read that I’ve no sister inlaw
"I fucked my sister in law a few times
Was great, just what i needed at the time.
Then when she got caught out being an alcoholic she rated on me.
Some craic then i tell ya"
Well my apologies there yes I’m a widower and I’m definitely not making it up but thanks for pointing that out to me. It’s 3 years on now and I’m ready to meet others and play
BUSTED
Absolutely busted.
Makes sense why he incorrectly referred to himself as a widow and not a widower. I would suspect that someone who has legitimately and sadly lost a partner would know the distinction between the two. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well my apologies there yes I’m a widower and I’m definitely not making it up but thanks for pointing that out to me. It’s 3 years on now and I’m ready to meet others and play
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Wait so does that mean you fucked the wife's brothers wife's before you became a widower...
Can we get a complete timeliness here.... |
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Well my apologies there yes I’m a widower and I’m definitely not making it up but thanks for pointing that out to me. It’s 3 years on now and I’m ready to meet others and play
Wait so does that mean you fucked the wife's brothers wife's before you became a widower...
Can we get a complete timeliness here...."
A timeline would be helpful. She passed three years ago yet he nominated himself as a hot husband only a fortnight ago in a different thread. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Well my apologies there yes I’m a widower and I’m definitely not making it up but thanks for pointing that out to me. It’s 3 years on now and I’m ready to meet others and play
Wait so does that mean you fucked the wife's brothers wife's before you became a widower...
Can we get a complete timeliness here....
A timeline would be helpful. She passed three years ago yet he nominated himself as a hot husband only a fortnight ago in a different thread. "
That green arrow is a handy wee thing at times |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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"Well my apologies there yes I’m a widower and I’m definitely not making it up but thanks for pointing that out to me. It’s 3 years on now and I’m ready to meet others and play"
I doubt many others will be ready to meet and play after reading this.
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By *oandFroCouple
over a year ago
Limerick |
"I think worst case scenario we gave a few seconds of our time and empathy to a guy who from what I can read might have needed if it's attention seeking then he has worse problems I do t know if anyone could go so far to dream up being a widow if so the world is a far sicker place then I'd like to think. Mrs c
People have build entire profiles and forum reputations on here in the past based on being a widower. The word was even part of their profile name. The wife who was alive and well at the time wasn't impressed. "
Jesus my eyes have been opened, I still don't know about o.p but what ye have experienced before actually makes me feel sick, how and why would.... how could anyone keep that charrade up and why would anyone want that to be your reality bad enough for those who have suffered close losses... the mind boggles thanks for the heads up Mrs. C |
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