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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you mean at the start of your Fab journey or at the start of chatting to someone in particular?"
I have been in fab before so its not my first rodeo. Im finding some guys are super keen then the chat gets super boring.
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"Is it just me or is it normal for messages to be fun and sexy at the start then become pretty boring?"
There are at least 2 people in a conversation. Both need to contribute and keep it fun and interesting. If you always have this issue then maybe the other person isn't the problem. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is it normal for messages to be fun and sexy at the start then become pretty boring?
There are at least 2 people in a conversation. Both need to contribute and keep it fun and interesting. If you always have this issue then maybe the other person isn't the problem."
As I stated earlier its not my first time on the site and know that a conversation takes 2 people to keep it going and interesting. I also know that not every chat is going to lead to a meet.
Im finding this time round that it is worse than ever it was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People can be very different online and in person and sometimes things dry out online without that in person element as there is only so much to go off. A quick social can help either establish something more or end things.
Assuming you aren't talking about just a few messages back and forth and more interactions over days or weeks eventually becoming stale! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just me or is it normal for messages to be fun and sexy at the start then become pretty boring?
There are at least 2 people in a conversation. Both need to contribute and keep it fun and interesting. If you always have this issue then maybe the other person isn't the problem.
As I stated earlier its not my first time on the site and know that a conversation takes 2 people to keep it going and interesting. I also know that not every chat is going to lead to a meet.
Im finding this time round that it is worse than ever it was."
Lots of people are unable to make any kind of conversation, particularly written. It's probably the biggest reason I can't be arsed meeting anyone now, there's just nothing about them that makes me think I'd love to meet them. |
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"People can be very different online and in person and sometimes things dry out online without that in person element as there is only so much to go off. A quick social can help either establish something more or end things.
Thank you. It seems we get a good chat going, flirting lots, add as friends then as I cannot meet immediately the chat dies.
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Ah, well there's only so long they can pretend to have any interest in you as a human if you're not putting out, sad truth around here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People can be very different online and in person and sometimes things dry out online without that in person element as there is only so much to go off. A quick social can help either establish something more or end things.
Thank you. It seems we get a good chat going, flirting lots, add as friends then as I cannot meet immediately the chat dies.
Ah, well there's only so long they can pretend to have any interest in you as a human if you're not putting out, sad truth around here. "
Sad to say thats very true.  |
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"People can be very different online and in person and sometimes things dry out online without that in person element as there is only so much to go off. A quick social can help either establish something more or end things.
Thank you. It seems we get a good chat going, flirting lots, add as friends then as I cannot meet immediately the chat dies.
Ah, well there's only so long they can pretend to have any interest in you as a human if you're not putting out, sad truth around here. "
Yip. Once I caught wind of that - I turned around and don't do any kind of flirting with anyone unless I feel like they have a matching personality to mine and we click on a human level first.
Flakes flake off quicker, less time wasted and I don't feel like a piece of meat with holes.
Haven't met as many people since, but those who I/we met have been exactly what we're looking for.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I tend to do it the opposite way and won't engage in sex talk with anyone especially at the start as I realised a long time ago a lot who do are just looking wank material.Plus someone is incapable of holding normal conversation and everything has to be about sex I get bored.
Chats fizzle out on here that's normal but usually I find the ones who are interested in you for more than just wank material will chat and meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People can be very different online and in person and sometimes things dry out online without that in person element as there is only so much to go off. A quick social can help either establish something more or end things.
Thank you. It seems we get a good chat going, flirting lots, add as friends then as I cannot meet immediately the chat dies.
Ah, well there's only so long they can pretend to have any interest in you as a human if you're not putting out, sad truth around here.
Yip. Once I caught wind of that - I turned around and don't do any kind of flirting with anyone unless I feel like they have a matching personality to mine and we click on a human level first.
Flakes flake off quicker, less time wasted and I don't feel like a piece of meat with holes.
Haven't met as many people since, but those who I/we met have been exactly what we're looking for.
Missus "
It is the feeling like a piece of me that pisses me off. As you say less messages but hopefully nicer people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I tend to do it the opposite way and won't engage in sex talk with anyone especially at the start as I realised a long time ago a lot who do are just looking wank material.Plus someone is incapable of holding normal conversation and everything has to be about sex I get bored.
Chats fizzle out on here that's normal but usually I find the ones who are interested in you for more than just wank material will chat and meet. "
I dont engage in sexy chat, flirty yes but when it turns to details of what they want I switch off.
Probably why the chat fizzles out tbh lol
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By *oandFroCouple
over a year ago
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I think I heard it put to be once let's not let the spark run out over text, if you chat too long without meeting even just for a coffee inevitably it will go one of two ways you'll end up making a great friend or it will fade. Just in my opinion. Xx Mrs c |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So far I've messages from men looking to meet, Jesus do these guys not read profiles, eugh
I had one this morning from a guy who wanted to sniff my farts, among other things  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I heard it put to be once let's not let the spark run out over text, if you chat too long without meeting even just for a coffee inevitably it will go one of two ways you'll end up making a great friend or it will fade. Just in my opinion. Xx Mrs c"
Yeah i think you are right! |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is it normal for messages to be fun and sexy at the start then become pretty boring?"
Either a conversation is going to come to an end or it is going to escalate. If no one takes action to escalate (in this case arrange a social meet) then it is going to die out. |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
Based in Kerry, work in Cork. |
"I think I heard it put to be once let's not let the spark run out over text, if you chat too long without meeting even just for a coffee inevitably it will go one of two ways you'll end up making a great friend or it will fade. Just in my opinion. Xx Mrs c"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm chatting a while can spot the pic collector's and ones looking for wank material. Dint do sexy texts or swapping pics or videos so the chat fizzles out quick enough thankfully
I've also learnt to be careful sharing too much in texting, if can't arrange a social soon enough I call it a day.
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