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Verifications - overrated nonsense?
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"So, still new to the site and, especially, this forum. Nonetheless, what I have noticed are the ever-lasting discussions about verifications and, almost, outright dismissal of those who, for whatever reason, don’t have, at least, one of those prodly displayed on their profiles. I have seen some profiles, where the poster is saying that one man is enough, yet proudly displaying verifications from many blokes, containing graphic details of their encounters and blokes, which are way out of the age bracket on the profile…just one example, but there are many contradicting cases, similar to this one. Me, personally, had two no-shows from people with ‘credentials’… That makes me wonder, is it some sort of ‘verification snobbery’ going on here? As if, there is a bit of a line between the ‘cool’ guys with verification on and the ‘plebs’ without. And are verifications way too overrated, in your opinion? …and is presence of verification or lack of thereof deal-breaker for you? " Yes and no. Personally we have had most nasty, entitled, forward, rude messages and most definitely most no shows (only two people ever showed up) all from unverified profiles. Obviously there's decent newbies out there and tarring everyone with a same brush wouldn't be fair, but let's face it, a lot of people join this site because their mates told them about these mysterious orgies and everyone is putting out at a click of a button, so their expectations don't really meet the reality. Verification to us only means that a person is more likely (not guaranteed) to show up to arranged meet, what kind of meets are they into and who they've met in the past. Nothing less, nothing more. About your mentioned contradictions - there are always exeptions to all rules and people have a right to sometimes find individuals who don't exactly fit their "looking for" brackets attractive for any reason. And just because someone is looking for that special one - it doesn't mean that they won't come across 5, 10, 20 or more people who they will not see as "the one". Do you think people on tinder just meet one person and stick to them? Or people who go on a pull every Saturday night have less sex just because it's not written on their forehead? You'd be kidding yourself if you do  | |||
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"What I can say is it is very frustrating if your not veri and on here it is hard to get veri but it’s in everyone’s best interest to keep them safe we are just photo veri and would be willing to meet anyone for a drink and do a meet veri if that interests anyone Lisa " Lisa there's a help a fabber out thread and I definitely think there are a few verified folks down Cork direction willing to help out | |||
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"We are only starting our fab adventure and I know we’ll have disappointments but we will give a new fab a chance to veri themselves if we are asked " This is the best way, have no expectations and enjoy the ride. If I was closer I'd offer to meet for a coffee | |||
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"If you had no shows you can report them for that. " ...that's below my standards to be honest 
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"We are only starting our fab adventure and I know we’ll have disappointments but we will give a new fab a chance to veri themselves if we are asked " You would need to get verified yourself first though | |||
 ....Like he may aswell close his account! | |||
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"Well cork lad any suggestions???" Both names on your profile are female but it's an mf couple(unless steph is short for stephen), I'd change that and put up some public pics, cause to be honest it comes off as a little iffy in first reading. | |||
"I think veris are a good way to see if people are genuine and serious about meeting. It also shows those who make a genuine effort to get out and meet others. Some cases here last week where a lady in Kildare offered a bloke a social meet to give him a veri. It was too difficult for him as he lived in Meath ....Like he may aswell close his account!"I've seen that, but, he never mentioned why he couldn't make it. Someone said that he's Argentinian and so, personally, I would presume that he might not be allowed to drive/have no car/insurance waaaaay out of reach. as for the verifications, there's another aspect I am noticing: 'we will meet only those who traveled for a ride'. As if, someone, who will travel, say up to Port Laoise from Limerick to get a coffee verification is less willing to travel, than someone, who's meeting in the same town - Dublin for example, taking into account benefits of public transport and population. | |||
"I think veris are a good way to see if people are genuine and serious about meeting. It also shows those who make a genuine effort to get out and meet others. Some cases here last week where a lady in Kildare offered a bloke a social meet to give him a veri. It was too difficult for him as he lived in Meath ....Like he may aswell close his account!
I've seen that, but, he never mentioned why he couldn't make it. Someone said that he's Argentinian and so, personally, I would presume that he might not be allowed to drive/have no car/insurance waaaaay out of reach.
as for the verifications, there's another aspect I am noticing: 'we will meet only those who traveled for a ride'. As if, someone, who will travel, say up to Port Laoise from Limerick to get a coffee verification is less willing to travel, than someone, who's meeting in the same town - Dublin for example, taking into account benefits of public transport and population."And maybe he just didn't want to meet that person, it's his decision better than making plans to meet and than not turning up. I had a guy look to meet for coffee on the Friday evening at 5pm of the bank holiday, had agreed would travel 30 mins, not a word on the day, I messaged around lunchtime to ask were we still OK for meeting. No answer, If it had been a normal Friday I probably would have gone anyway and had a coffee and cake but this time I didn't, texted after 9pm wondering was it too late. | |||
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"I think veris are a good way to see if people are genuine and serious about meeting. It also shows those who make a genuine effort to get out and meet others. Some cases here last week where a lady in Kildare offered a bloke a social meet to give him a veri. It was too difficult for him as he lived in Meath ....Like he may aswell close his account!"In fairness to that person, he realised his error and got in touch and I'm meeting him soon for coffee to give him a verification | |||
"I think veris are a good way to see if people are genuine and serious about meeting. It also shows those who make a genuine effort to get out and meet others. Some cases here last week where a lady in Kildare offered a bloke a social meet to give him a veri. It was too difficult for him as he lived in Meath ....Like he may aswell close his account!
In fairness to that person, he realised his error and got in touch and I'm meeting him soon for coffee to give him a verification
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"We have been photo verified as mf couple an as for public pics we as in Stephen and I have chosen not to but if you would like to meet us for a drink you are more than welcome Corklad123 " Fair enough. You asked for suggestions. And no I'm good thanks | |||
"We have been photo verified as mf couple an as for public pics we as in Stephen and I have chosen not to but if you would like to meet us for a drink you are more than welcome Corklad123 " Single men are always told on here that women and couples are reluctant to meet any guy that isn't fussy who he meets and says he will be happy to meet anyone who will verify him. That rule probably applies to women and couples also. | |||
"We have been photo verified as mf couple an as for public pics we as in Stephen and I have chosen not to but if you would like to meet us for a drink you are more than welcome Corklad123 Single men are always told on here that women and couples are reluctant to meet any guy that isn't fussy who he meets and says he will be happy to meet anyone who will verify him. That rule probably applies to women and couples also. " I'm a fucking catch RB...... | |||
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" In fairness to that person, he realised his error and got in touch and I'm meeting him soon for coffee to give him a verification " OK, good stuff. Fair play to you! Just often see people on here looking to meet for a veri, but unwilling to make much effort! | |||
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"So, still new to the site and, especially, this forum. Nonetheless, what I have noticed are the ever-lasting discussions about verifications and, almost, outright dismissal of those who, for whatever reason, don’t have, at least, one of those prodly displayed on their profiles. I have seen some profiles, where the poster is saying that one man is enough, yet proudly displaying verifications from many blokes, containing graphic details of their encounters and blokes, which are way out of the age bracket on the profile…just one example, but there are many contradicting cases, similar to this one. Me, personally, had two no-shows from people with ‘credentials’… That makes me wonder, is it some sort of ‘verification snobbery’ going on here? As if, there is a bit of a line between the ‘cool’ guys with verification on and the ‘plebs’ without. And are verifications way too overrated, in your opinion? …and is presence of verification or lack of thereof deal-breaker for you? " There is, let’s say… if you can remember from your secondary school days a “Click” here who tend to blow smoke up each other’s ….. absolutely some verifications are overrated you just have to read between the lines and make up your own mind, if it would be comparable in the real world…. M to F Ratios here skew peoples thoughts. | |||
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"I've reached out to plenty of unverified male female profiles and couples and I've been first verify for plenty of people here. They all had interesting profiles with effort put into pictures etc. They had spent time and effort on their profiles. A verify isn't going to have you knee deep in fanny though. Well verified people still struggle to meet as well. So my advice to people is don't stress if you haven't got a verify put some effort into your profile instead and stand out. It's ridiculous people coming onto forums after two weeks with one fuzzy photo sitting on the toilet with their cock out and a will fill in later one line bio moaning they can't get verify! " And read the profile before messaging a person and respect what they have put on their profile When I got verified, she said that I was the only one in the area who looked at her profile and didn't messaged her(she had on her profile that she's not lookin to meet) and she messaged me , due to the fact that I respected what said on her profile, we started talkin, we had a meet in public, there was a kiss and some tease, and the next meet was in my place...so I suppose it depends a lot of how you are approaching things | |||
"In fairness from my opinion I think you should wait and you will get a verification OP, no point in giving out about it....." If that is aimed at me...I think you have misunderstood the topic theme
I am cool with how tings are, personally. Do I chase verifications?
Am I giving out about anything - apart from ruSSians waging war on Europe? Not at all  | |||
"In fairness from my opinion I think you should wait and you will get a verification OP, no point in giving out about it..... If that is aimed at me...I think you have misunderstood the topic theme
I am cool with how tings are, personally. Do I chase verifications?
Am I giving out about anything - apart from ruSSians waging war on Europe? Not at all "Yes it was aimed at you, and if I misunderstood, my bad, but it felt like a rant, that's how I've seen it, especially after you said that the people that are verified are the cool kids and who's not are plebs haha. Anyway my bad  | |||
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"Some veris we definitely don't put much weight into. Coffee veris being one. As one person said it's very easy to sit and appear nice and normal for a short time. Another we don't put any weight in are from "business" profiles for want of a better word. Don't know why but screams like someone is buying a verification form the profile. Just our two cents. " Whats a business profile? | |||
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"What I can say is it is very frustrating if your not veri and on here it is hard to get veri but it’s in everyone’s best interest to keep them safe we are just photo veri and would be willing to meet anyone for a drink and do a meet veri if that interests anyone Lisa " Hi, I'm in Cork and would like to help you the same way you could help me too. PM me if you'd like to meet for a coffee | |||
"What I can say is it is very frustrating if your not veri and on here it is hard to get veri but it’s in everyone’s best interest to keep them safe we are just photo veri and would be willing to meet anyone for a drink and do a meet veri if that interests anyone Lisa Hi, I'm in Cork and would like to help you the same way you could help me too. PM me if you'd like to meet for a coffee "You won't be able to verify each other if you aren't already verified. | |||
"We have been photo verified as mf couple an as for public pics we as in Stephen and I have chosen not to but if you would like to meet us for a drink you are more than welcome Corklad123 " Hi guys, I’m in Cork and will help you out for a verification if needed, I can’t message you as you have filters on but I’m willing to do my bit for fellow Cork people | |||
"We prefer people with none or very little verts simply cos they haven't been sucked into the were so awesome shite that certain fabbers believe they are " But how can you tell they haven't not everyone shows their veris or even gets any once they have one or two | |||
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"We have been photo verified as mf couple an as for public pics we as in Stephen and I have chosen not to but if you would like to meet us for a drink you are more than welcome Corklad123 " If you're ever up my way I'll meet you both for a brew no problem
You're not gna get Corky to meet you, he's on another level | |||
"We prefer people with none or very little verts simply cos they haven't been sucked into the were so awesome shite that certain fabbers believe they are " Some come on site with that attitude already established though. What can you do sure | |||
"I've reached out to plenty of unverified male female profiles and couples and I've been first verify for plenty of people here. They all had interesting profiles with effort put into pictures etc. They had spent time and effort on their profiles. A verify isn't going to have you knee deep in fanny though. Well verified people still struggle to meet as well. So my advice to people is don't stress if you haven't got a verify put some effort into your profile instead and stand out. It's ridiculous people coming onto forums after two weeks with one fuzzy photo sitting on the toilet with their cock out and a will fill in later one line bio moaning they can't get verify! " Yep. Make an effort with your profile and message and pics and I’ve reached out plenty of times. My main man was a newbie with no veris. If I’d been that fastidious about unverified, I’d never have met him. So go figure. | |||
"We have been photo verified as mf couple an as for public pics we as in Stephen and I have chosen not to but if you would like to meet us for a drink you are more than welcome Corklad123 Single men are always told on here that women and couples are reluctant to meet any guy that isn't fussy who he meets and says he will be happy to meet anyone who will verify him. That rule probably applies to women and couples also. I'm a fucking catch RB......" Had a peek at your profile corklad and just want to compliment you on your very tasteful pics.... | |||
"Well cork lad any suggestions???" I’d be happy to meet for a coffee and chat... I’m verified so can verify you (I think that’s how it works). Feel free to send me a message | |||
"I haven't seen a single verification yet that would encourage me to meet someone because I make my own mind up rather than rely on the skewed opinion of others. I've seen plenty that would definitely put me off though partly due to the content but mostly due to the authors. " Absolutely agree, I find a lot of veris put me off, but I guess it say more about the person who wrote the veri rather than the individual them self. | |||
"Fairly pointless really. Even I can manage to sit through a coffee meet and appear perfectly normal and pleasant. However that doesn't mean I'll be willing and/or able to do the same during a private meet. The reality is people who ignore boundaries and consent don't do that for every single person they meet so it's never should be an indication that you will be safe or treated properly with that person. A verification from my point of view simply tells me that she is a woman and within roughly 15 years of her stated age. " This ^^^^^ so true Except not all ladies lie about their age  | |||
"What I can say is it is very frustrating if your not veri and on here it is hard to get veri but it’s in everyone’s best interest to keep them safe we are just photo veri and would be willing to meet anyone for a drink and do a meet veri if that interests anyone Lisa Hi, I'm in Cork and would like to help you the same way you could help me too. PM me if you'd like to meet for a coffee
You won't be able to verify each other if you aren't already verified. "Realitybites your 5th public photo has me in absolute hysterics, I’m aware that probably isnt the desired reaction, all I could think was karate kid vibes | |||
" This ^^^^^ so true Except not all ladies lie about their age " | |||
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"I would not meet unverified people. While I understand some verifications can be over the top, they do show someone is genuine. There's to many time wasters on here that don't actually meet. Fie someone like myself where my time is precious, I like to make good use of it. " Getting verified is impossible for single male even if you been chatting with someone for a wile agree to meet they eather don't show up or they just stop replying to you there are some genuine male s out there for the genuine people on here and yes there so many time waster on here for sure | |||
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"...and there is me thinking that 'age' and 'woman' should never be mentioned in one sentence "Ha ha I think you just get to a certain age where it just doesn’t matter anymore... I’m 44, there’s not much I can do about it, so why not just embrace it | |||
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"...and there is me thinking that 'age' and 'woman' should never be mentioned in one sentence "Age, in my opinion, should never be an issue....  And I reckon if you’re comfortable in your own skin then you’ve no reason to lie about your age or anything else for that matter | |||
"...and there is me thinking that 'age' and 'woman' should never be mentioned in one sentence
Ha ha I think you just get to a certain age where it just doesn’t matter anymore... I’m 44, there’s not much I can do about it, so why not just embrace it "I don't want to know...I am sure you loooooook amazing either way Even though you are only 25 | |||
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"...and there is me thinking that 'age' and 'woman' should never be mentioned in one sentence
Ha ha I think you just get to a certain age where it just doesn’t matter anymore... I’m 44, there’s not much I can do about it, so why not just embrace it
I don't want to know...I am sure you loooooook amazing either way Even though you are only 25 "Ha ha ha I wish!! If I was (for whatever reason) going to lie about my age, I’d go higher not lower, cos at least then it might be a pleasant surprise, not shock ha ha ha | |||
"You have an option, which will allow you to hide your friends list - as well, you can have verification overview, but not the verifications themselves published. In my opinion - and I could read it the wrong way - some blokes do use verifications instead of measuring their 3rd legs in a roundabout way. A sort of score marker and ego chasing in some cases. Hence the question about certain verification snobbery in the topic." Definitely agree with the ego chasing... but what’s with “fake” veris, there’s one lady in particular that writes the exact same veri for everyone... what is the point. And it’s not just a general “nice guy blah blah blah” it’s very detailed and somewhat over the top graphic... I don’t get it | |||
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"So, still new to the site and, especially, this forum. Nonetheless, what I have noticed are the ever-lasting discussions about verifications and, almost, outright dismissal of those who, for whatever reason, don’t have, at least, one of those prodly displayed on their profiles. I have seen some profiles, where the poster is saying that one man is enough, yet proudly displaying verifications from many blokes, containing graphic details of their encounters and blokes, which are way out of the age bracket on the profile…just one example, but there are many contradicting cases, similar to this one. Me, personally, had two no-shows from people with ‘credentials’… That makes me wonder, is it some sort of ‘verification snobbery’ going on here? As if, there is a bit of a line between the ‘cool’ guys with verification on and the ‘plebs’ without. And are verifications way too overrated, in your opinion? …and is presence of verification or lack of thereof deal-breaker for you? " Imagine if they all actually had to be true ie "era she was grand but the fanny looked like an oul head of cabbage" or "I'd say he hadn't washed the lad in 6 months, you could grate the cheese off it" instead of "don't pass her up if you get the chance to meet she's amazing" That would be alot more craic to read | |||
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"I have met straight/bi guy's on here and asked if they want to verify and they say no. One guy informed me just in case he met a lady on here and didn't want it public he had received oral from a man. Other's I have met don't want verification but are happy enough to receive them from and give them to TV/CD. It's a bit hypocritical that a straight guy will verify a man in a wig and a dress but not a normal gay guy who has just sucked his cock!!! " I doubt that type of guy is straight, I'd say they are bi, but don't want anyone to know | |||
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Whatever is yours will come to you and if it is not, then no need to be upset about it.
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"I’m here only a month and haven’t got any meetings. I totally understand that verified people don’t meet any unverified ones, but not even willing to talk back to them an dismiss them it’s kinda hard. Now in fairness Ive encountered some really nice people here willing to talk that for multiple reasons can’t meet. To all of them my love. " Fab is only a tool. It's not going to open the doors to a hedonistic life, but it can help. The real way to get ahead on here is to go to socials and events. Show your face, be yourself, be chatty, without being creepy and make friends. The friends part is important. If it seems like a lot of work, it isn't. Verifications are just a way to see if this person or that is real. They serve a purpose but its limited too. | |||
"This is Ireland, one month on sites like this is still 'only joined now'. Furthermore, everyone knows everyone in this village and are afraid that someone might know you, or that you might know someone, so be patient, my friend Whatever is yours will come to you and if it is not, then no need to be upset about it.
But, I do get your point."Thanks for replying mate | |||
"I’m here only a month and haven’t got any meetings. I totally understand that verified people don’t meet any unverified ones, but not even willing to talk back to them an dismiss them it’s kinda hard. Now in fairness Ive encountered some really nice people here willing to talk that for multiple reasons can’t meet. To all of them my love. Fab is only a tool. It's not going to open the doors to a hedonistic life, but it can help. The real way to get ahead on here is to go to socials and events. Show your face, be yourself, be chatty, without being creepy and make friends. The friends part is important. If it seems like a lot of work, it isn't. Verifications are just a way to see if this person or that is real. They serve a purpose but its limited too. " Thanks for the advice mate | |||
"I’m here only a month and haven’t got any meetings. I totally understand that verified people don’t meet any unverified ones, but not even willing to talk back to them an dismiss them it’s kinda hard. Now in fairness Ive encountered some really nice people here willing to talk that for multiple reasons can’t meet. To all of them my love. " A lot of people don't chat because even when they have told the person they aren't interested in meeting and then agree to chat the other person takes that as they will meet anyho,and gets pushy and stroppy when you won't. I don't bother chatting anymore for this exact reason especially after the last guy I chatted to for a small bit on here asked then to meet for coffee I pointed out that I already said I wasn't interested in meeting so got asked sure would I not meet for more . Wtf if I won't meet for coffee I certainly won't meet to fuck them. This happens quite regularly when you decide to just chat and they you get grief so I can't be bothered anymore . It's nothing to do with ignoring those who are new or unveried but all to do with making my fab journey easier and less hassle from those who act nice but are far from it when they don't get what they want. In the past I've met several people who have been unveried so I've nothing against those who aren't. I make up my own mind I never have nor ever will rely on veris on here. | |||
"I’m here only a month and haven’t got any meetings. I totally understand that verified people don’t meet any unverified ones, but not even willing to talk back to them an dismiss them it’s kinda hard. Now in fairness Ive encountered some really nice people here willing to talk that for multiple reasons can’t meet. To all of them my love. A lot of people don't chat because even when they have told the person they aren't interested in meeting and then agree to chat the other person takes that as they will meet anyho,and gets pushy and stroppy when you won't. I don't bother chatting anymore for this exact reason especially after the last guy I chatted to for a small bit on here asked then to meet for coffee I pointed out that I already said I wasn't interested in meeting so got asked sure would I not meet for more . Wtf if I won't meet for coffee I certainly won't meet to fuck them. This happens quite regularly when you decide to just chat and they you get grief so I can't be bothered anymore . It's nothing to do with ignoring those who are new or unveried but all to do with making my fab journey easier and less hassle from those who act nice but are far from it when they don't get what they want. In the past I've met several people who have been unveried so I've nothing against those who aren't. I make up my own mind I never have nor ever will rely on veris on here. " Thanks. And I know that for woman is totally different because they got tons of guys messaging every day so it’s hard even to answer. What I do when someone writes me and I don’t have interest I just relied with a no thank. But yeah that’s just me and I don’t get many messages. Thanks anyway | |||
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" Thanks. And I know that for woman is totally different because they got tons of guys messaging every day so it’s hard even to answer. What I do when someone writes me and I don’t have interest I just relied with a no thank. But yeah that’s just me and I don’t get many messages. Thanks anyway "Neither do I,because I keep very tight filters I don't want a load of messages on here. But everyone does fab their own way. | |||
"I've reached out to plenty of unverified male female profiles and couples and I've been first verify for plenty of people here. They all had interesting profiles with effort put into pictures etc. They had spent time and effort on their profiles. A verify isn't going to have you knee deep in fanny though. Well verified people still struggle to meet as well. So my advice to people is don't stress if you haven't got a verify put some effort into your profile instead and stand out. It's ridiculous people coming onto forums after two weeks with one fuzzy photo sitting on the toilet with their cock out and a will fill in later one line bio moaning they can't get verify! " well would you meet me for a cuppa and chat | |||
" Thanks. And I know that for woman is totally different because they got tons of guys messaging every day so it’s hard even to answer. What I do when someone writes me and I don’t have interest I just relied with a no thank. But yeah that’s just me and I don’t get many messages. Thanks anyway
Neither do I,because I keep very tight filters I don't want a load of messages on here.
But everyone does fab their own way. "well said | |||
