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By *yche_xWoman
over a year ago
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Kinks absolutely 
But I tend not to explore this with people on fab. Purely because the build up of trust that would be needed, has to be established before hand.
Most people I have spoken to here, don't want to chat to build up the connection for it. |
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"Yeah lots into both but key is they will have proof on profile if not there chancers."
What kind of "proof"???
Yep, I'm more of a kinkster than a swinger myself! Have been on the other site for much longer than here, do most of my socialising on that scene too. |
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"Yeah lots into both but key is they will have proof on profile if not there chancers.
What kind of "proof"???
Yep, I'm more of a kinkster than a swinger myself! Have been on the other site for much longer than here, do most of my socialising on that scene too. "
Also on other one since it started .Proof as in some sort of pic or bio on ur profile that you are actually a kinkster not a chancer is what I mean.Too many on here claim there into bdsm etc and haven't a clue about 101 etc you know what I mean as safety is priority. |
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over a year ago
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"Yeah lots into both but key is they will have proof on profile if not there chancers.
What kind of "proof"???
Yep, I'm more of a kinkster than a swinger myself! Have been on the other site for much longer than here, do most of my socialising on that scene too. Also on other one since it started .Proof as in some sort of pic or bio on ur profile that you are actually a kinkster not a chancer is what I mean.Too many on here claim there into bdsm etc and haven't a clue about 101 etc you know what I mean as safety is priority."
One issue that I've seen that it's talked a lot is that some dickheads don't know when no means no, and they don't know the difference between being a Dom and being abusive, nor respecting the play partner's limits/boundaries  if you go on Reddit, this problem is so prevalent |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah lots into both but key is they will have proof on profile if not there chancers.
What kind of "proof"???
Yep, I'm more of a kinkster than a swinger myself! Have been on the other site for much longer than here, do most of my socialising on that scene too. Also on other one since it started .Proof as in some sort of pic or bio on ur profile that you are actually a kinkster not a chancer is what I mean.Too many on here claim there into bdsm etc and haven't a clue about 101 etc you know what I mean as safety is priority."
One issue that I've seen that it's talked a lot is that some dickheads don't know when no means no, and they don't know the difference between being a Dom and being abusive, nor respecting the play partner's limits/boundaries if you go on Reddit, this problem is so prevalent |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"Yeah lots into both but key is they will have proof on profile if not there chancers.
What kind of "proof"???
Yep, I'm more of a kinkster than a swinger myself! Have been on the other site for much longer than here, do most of my socialising on that scene too. Also on other one since it started .Proof as in some sort of pic or bio on ur profile that you are actually a kinkster not a chancer is what I mean.Too many on here claim there into bdsm etc and haven't a clue about 101 etc you know what I mean as safety is priority.
One issue that I've seen that it's talked a lot is that some dickheads don't know when no means no, and they don't know the difference between being a Dom and being abusive, nor respecting the play partner's limits/boundaries if you go on Reddit, this problem is so prevalent "
Yes especially with tall ladies why not |
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"Yeah lots into both but key is they will have proof on profile if not there chancers.
What kind of "proof"???
Yep, I'm more of a kinkster than a swinger myself! Have been on the other site for much longer than here, do most of my socialising on that scene too. Also on other one since it started .Proof as in some sort of pic or bio on ur profile that you are actually a kinkster not a chancer is what I mean.Too many on here claim there into bdsm etc and haven't a clue about 101 etc you know what I mean as safety is priority.
One issue that I've seen that it's talked a lot is that some dickheads don't know when no means no, and they don't know the difference between being a Dom and being abusive, nor respecting the play partner's limits/boundaries if you go on Reddit, this problem is so prevalent "
Totally agree some men think that being dominant is equal to being abusive or roughing a woman up or putting her down
They have absolutely no clue
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah lots into both but key is they will have proof on profile if not there chancers.
What kind of "proof"???
Yep, I'm more of a kinkster than a swinger myself! Have been on the other site for much longer than here, do most of my socialising on that scene too. Also on other one since it started .Proof as in some sort of pic or bio on ur profile that you are actually a kinkster not a chancer is what I mean.Too many on here claim there into bdsm etc and haven't a clue about 101 etc you know what I mean as safety is priority.
One issue that I've seen that it's talked a lot is that some dickheads don't know when no means no, and they don't know the difference between being a Dom and being abusive, nor respecting the play partner's limits/boundaries if you go on Reddit, this problem is so prevalent
Totally agree some men think that being dominant is equal to being abusive or roughing a woman up or putting her down
They have absolutely no clue
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All those things are discussed before hand, see what each one is into see what the limits of the submissive are and so on, and you never can go full on from the first meet, or maybe it depends from person to person,but in my opinion all that has to be discussed beforehand, at the end of the day both wanna have fun and pleasure, no matter if you are the dominat or the submissive, the sub is still a person. I know that some people live that lifestyle 24/7 but that connection won't be met from the first play session, a lot of trust has to go into it. Now I might be completely wrong, but that's my opinion |
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over a year ago
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Totally agree some men think that being dominant is equal to being abusive or roughing a woman up or putting her down
They have absolutely no clue
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I would be extremely uncomfortable in a play situation where that is occurring.
The way I look at it, rightly or wrongly, is that it's a temporary passing of control within set limits. Some things I like aren't for everybody, and that's fine. I'd never dream of forcing it on anyone.
Aside from the issue of people not understanding dominance or mistaking it for abuse, the biggest issue I find is trust- or lack of it. |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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Totally agree some men think that being dominant is equal to being abusive or roughing a woman up or putting her down
They have absolutely no clue
I would be extremely uncomfortable in a play situation where that is occurring.
The way I look at it, rightly or wrongly, is that it's a temporary passing of control within set limits. Some things I like aren't for everybody, and that's fine. I'd never dream of forcing it on anyone.
Aside from the issue of people not understanding dominance or mistaking it for abuse, the biggest issue I find is trust- or lack of it."
It’s a equal partnership as far as I think you can’t have the submissive without the master or the other way round respecting her wish’s and making sure you look after her |
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over a year ago
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Totally agree some men think that being dominant is equal to being abusive or roughing a woman up or putting her down
They have absolutely no clue
I would be extremely uncomfortable in a play situation where that is occurring.
The way I look at it, rightly or wrongly, is that it's a temporary passing of control within set limits. Some things I like aren't for everybody, and that's fine. I'd never dream of forcing it on anyone.
Aside from the issue of people not understanding dominance or mistaking it for abuse, the biggest issue I find is trust- or lack of it.It’s a equal partnership as far as I think you can’t have the submissive without the master or the other way round respecting her wish’s and making sure you look after her "
Definitely. Aftercare is very important. And safety in all things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally agree some men think that being dominant is equal to being abusive or roughing a woman up or putting her down
They have absolutely no clue
I would be extremely uncomfortable in a play situation where that is occurring.
The way I look at it, rightly or wrongly, is that it's a temporary passing of control within set limits. Some things I like aren't for everybody, and that's fine. I'd never dream of forcing it on anyone.
Aside from the issue of people not understanding dominance or mistaking it for abuse, the biggest issue I find is trust- or lack of it.It’s a equal partnership as far as I think you can’t have the submissive without the master or the other way round respecting her wish’s and making sure you look after her
Definitely. Aftercare is very important. And safety in all things. "
See, a lot of "Doms" have no clue what aftercare is, or even paying attention to their sub during play, and so many of them see the sub as an object and not as an equal, I know it sounds contradictory but they are still eqqual, no matter the dynamic between parners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my limited experience. The sub holds the power as it is he/she who draws the boundaries"
It depends on the longevity of the dynamic, because once there's full trust, the sub will give herself/himself to the dominant one, but that comes with loads of play time, trust and care |
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"Yeah lots into both but key is they will have proof on profile if not there chancers.
What kind of "proof"???
Yep, I'm more of a kinkster than a swinger myself! Have been on the other site for much longer than here, do most of my socialising on that scene too. Also on other one since it started .Proof as in some sort of pic or bio on ur profile that you are actually a kinkster not a chancer is what I mean.Too many on here claim there into bdsm etc and haven't a clue about 101 etc you know what I mean as safety is priority."
A pic or a sentence doesn't prove anything though. You can't know if someone has a clue until you really chat to them about what kink means to them. |
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"In my limited experience. The sub holds the power as it is he/she who draws the boundaries
It depends on the longevity of the dynamic, because once there's full trust, the sub will give herself/himself to the dominant one, but that comes with loads of play time, trust and care"
I find this difficult myself the trust to give myself i wish i wasn't like this but unfortunately i am. I know the reasoning behind it aswell, time getting to know someone is a really good thing. |
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"In my limited experience. The sub holds the power as it is he/she who draws the boundaries
It depends on the longevity of the dynamic, because once there's full trust, the sub will give herself/himself to the dominant one, but that comes with loads of play time, trust and care
I find this difficult myself the trust to give myself i wish i wasn't like this but unfortunately i am. I know the reasoning behind it aswell, time getting to know someone is a really good thing. "
Horses for courses. Giving yourself fully may not be what you truly want, and there's nothing wrong about it if that's the case. There are all sorts of shades of grey. |
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"In my limited experience. The sub holds the power as it is he/she who draws the boundaries
It depends on the longevity of the dynamic, because once there's full trust, the sub will give herself/himself to the dominant one, but that comes with loads of play time, trust and care
I find this difficult myself the trust to give myself i wish i wasn't like this but unfortunately i am. I know the reasoning behind it aswell, time getting to know someone is a really good thing.
Horses for courses. Giving yourself fully may not be what you truly want, and there's nothing wrong about it if that's the case. There are all sorts of shades of grey."
Maybe, can i private message you to talk about it ? |
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"In my limited experience. The sub holds the power as it is he/she who draws the boundaries
It depends on the longevity of the dynamic, because once there's full trust, the sub will give herself/himself to the dominant one, but that comes with loads of play time, trust and care
I find this difficult myself the trust to give myself i wish i wasn't like this but unfortunately i am. I know the reasoning behind it aswell, time getting to know someone is a really good thing.
Horses for courses. Giving yourself fully may not be what you truly want, and there's nothing wrong about it if that's the case. There are all sorts of shades of grey.
Maybe, can i private message you to talk about it ?"
anytime. |
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