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What lessons did you learn the hard way?
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over a year ago
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"We need to decide if people change or they don’t
I am definetly not the man i was 25 years ago shy, reserved monagonus yes I have changed
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I have changed in the ladt few years and still working on change all the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who have only interest in themselves will only talk about themselves all the time, the me me and me syndrome. They may struggle to listen and even if you get a word i edgeways, thr conversations will go back to being about them again as you said nothing lol. Poor communication or acknowledge of others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don't change the way you expect or would like them to - which may not be compatible with how you yourself change as time goes by
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People shouldn't have expectations of others to change because no one can change a person because people must really want change themselves. |
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"People don't change the way you expect or would like them to - which may not be compatible with how you yourself change as time goes by
People shouldn't have expectations of others to change because no one can change a person because people must really want change themselves. "
The words should have, could have and would have - should be struck from the dictionary
(hence why I said "expect or would like to" - I learned that having expectations let's you down time and time again - so I try my utmost not to have expectations - of people, of events, of life in general - I take it as it comes, while I hope for the best). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The people you try to be friends with as a teenager are not important to the rest of your life
Some people peak in high school "
Crikey, I’m actually thinking about folk that fit into this comment and it’s true! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who have only interest in themselves will only talk about themselves all the time, the me me and me syndrome. They may struggle to listen and even if you get a word i edgeways, thr conversations will go back to being about them again as you said nothing lol. Poor communication or acknowledge of others. "
And they're the people we need to distance ourselves from so that the me, me, me people just have themselves or similar to talk to  |
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"People who have only interest in themselves will only talk about themselves all the time, the me me and me syndrome. They may struggle to listen and even if you get a word i edgeways, thr conversations will go back to being about them again as you said nothing lol. Poor communication or acknowledge of others.
And they're the people we need to distance ourselves from so that the me, me, me people just have themselves or similar to talk to "
THAT'S why nobody talks to me, me, me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who have only interest in themselves will only talk about themselves all the time, the me me and me syndrome. They may struggle to listen and even if you get a word i edgeways, thr conversations will go back to being about them again as you said nothing lol. Poor communication or acknowledge of others.
And they're the people we need to distance ourselves from so that the me, me, me people just have themselves or similar to talk to
THAT'S why nobody talks to me, me, me... "
Or it could be that you've 90% of fab blocked from messaging ya  |
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
kildare |
"We need to decide if people change or they don’t
I am definetly not the man i was 25 years ago shy, reserved monagonus yes I have changed
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You aged and naturally changed to suit yourself.
Could you change to suit someone else,even if you knew it was for the better?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don't change the way you expect or would like them to - which may not be compatible with how you yourself change as time goes by
People shouldn't have expectations of others to change because no one can change a person because people must really want change themselves.
The words should have, could have and would have - should be struck from the dictionary
(hence why I said "expect or would like to" - I learned that having expectations let's you down time and time again - so I try my utmost not to have expectations - of people, of events, of life in general - I take it as it comes, while I hope for the best). "
I definitely agree with part of that but unfortunately i suppose they are in thr dictionary. I know how you feel in as far as wanting someone to change, i have to step back big time from those who don't especially if it effects my life negatively. Aswell just working on patience and tolerance helps but not in all cases. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just because theyre blood related doesnt mean you have to put up with their shit and continue having them in your life"
It's an accident of birth, nothing more |
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"People who have only interest in themselves will only talk about themselves all the time, the me me and me syndrome. They may struggle to listen and even if you get a word i edgeways, thr conversations will go back to being about them again as you said nothing lol. Poor communication or acknowledge of others.
And they're the people we need to distance ourselves from so that the me, me, me people just have themselves or similar to talk to
THAT'S why nobody talks to me, me, me...
Or it could be that you've 90% of fab blocked from messaging ya "
I enjoy a bit of solitude - nothing like a bit of quiet, and just thoughts of...me, me, me |
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"People don't change the way you expect or would like them to - which may not be compatible with how you yourself change as time goes by
People shouldn't have expectations of others to change because no one can change a person because people must really want change themselves.
The words should have, could have and would have - should be struck from the dictionary
(hence why I said "expect or would like to" - I learned that having expectations let's you down time and time again - so I try my utmost not to have expectations - of people, of events, of life in general - I take it as it comes, while I hope for the best).
I definitely agree with part of that but unfortunately i suppose they are in thr dictionary. I know how you feel in as far as wanting someone to change, i have to step back big time from those who don't especially if it effects my life negatively. Aswell just working on patience and tolerance helps but not in all cases. "
I don't want anyone to change for me. I prefer authenticity - it just took the occasional lesson to realise that  . So just be yourself, that way I can decide if I want you to be a part of my life or not |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
A genuine honest caring person who works for the greater good; tries to solve problems that affect society and is selfless in his interactions, is going to be very disappointed by the behaviour of people and should prepare for this letdown; plausibility is at one of a continuum and genuine selflessness is at the other extreme.
Crucially, when you expose selfishness and what is really narcissism prepare yourself for a violent backlash, instantaneously.
These people do not like to be stripped of their carefully crafted veneer of respectability and fraudulence. |
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"When you fall out of a tree try and hit a branch on the way down otherwise it’s gonna hurt really bad when you hit the ground. Well it’s going to hurt either way
Did you try both ways? "
Not voluntarily. |
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"People don't change the way you expect or would like them to - which may not be compatible with how you yourself change as time goes by
People shouldn't have expectations of others to change because no one can change a person because people must really want change themselves.
The words should have, could have and would have - should be struck from the dictionary
(hence why I said "expect or would like to" - I learned that having expectations let's you down time and time again - so I try my utmost not to have expectations - of people, of events, of life in general - I take it as it comes, while I hope for the best).
I definitely agree with part of that but unfortunately i suppose they are in thr dictionary. I know how you feel in as far as wanting someone to change, i have to step back big time from those who don't especially if it effects my life negatively. Aswell just working on patience and tolerance helps but not in all cases.
I don't want anyone to change for me. I prefer authenticity - it just took the occasional lesson to realise that . So just be yourself, that way I can decide if I want you to be a part of my life or not "
 couldn't have put it better |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
limerick |
"We need to decide if people change or they don’t
I am definetly not the man i was 25 years ago shy, reserved monagonus yes I have changed
You aged and naturally changed to suit yourself.
Could you change to suit someone else,even if you knew it was for the better?
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Yes part of that change has being to suit others maybe not to the extent of their expectations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who have only interest in themselves will only talk about themselves all the time, the me me and me syndrome. They may struggle to listen and even if you get a word i edgeways, thr conversations will go back to being about them again as you said nothing lol. Poor communication or acknowledge of others.
And they're the people we need to distance ourselves from so that the me, me, me people just have themselves or similar to talk to
THAT'S why nobody talks to me, me, me...
Or it could be that you've 90% of fab blocked from messaging ya
I enjoy a bit of solitude - nothing like a bit of quiet, and just thoughts of...me, me, me "
I'm sure plenty others enjoy quiet time & thoughts of you, you, you too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How to deal with fab "
Yes huge one there i think the break works well for me definitely. But everyone is different how they deal with it, i suppose its like the real world it can be difficult, people, places, things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Choose your battles wisely
For some reason I read that as “choose your batteries wisely”…… "
Lol love the humour, speaking of batteries mine are charging as we speak. |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
north and south |
"Choose your battles wisely
For some reason I read that as “choose your batteries wisely”……
Lol love the humour, speaking of batteries mine are charging as we speak. "
Change will come as respect for compromise between two adults and batteries can help |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
"We need to decide if people change or they don’t "
Regrettably, personality disorders are essentially untreatable; you can tinker a little at the edges using a variety of therapies, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, but fundamental change is impossible.
Organic mental illnesses can be treatable with psychotropic medication, which takes several weeks to kick in, but if the person stops taking meds then the illness surfaces.
From experience, long and very hard won experience over many decades, walk away if you spot ANY red flags. If you decide to stay be prepared for a very rough time.
Some people would like to change and may articulate a desire to change but my view is that they won't because they cannot change
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"Choose your battles wisely
For some reason I read that as “choose your batteries wisely”……
Lol love the humour, speaking of batteries mine are charging as we speak. "
Please consider environmental impacts and fully research other alternatives….. |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"You cant have a proper relationship with a "fab" man
What about something improper?…. 
Haha thats why im here "
I could hear the collective “excellent” as this was read….. |
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"People say they're going to change but never do"
I think you are who you are and your core beliefs don’t change or are certainly very resistant to change . You can gradually modify how you respond to things over time and that might be enough . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's very popular on Fab and I'm talking about "face pic with first message". There are easy way to eliminate learning curve hard way. Find out few basic information about each other before exchanging your face pic (obviously if you not blocked by then) Just to make sure it's not your neighbours,or coworkers or friends of family etc... |
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"Never walk around a golf course in stilettos and if you do, don't look back at the mess you left behind 
Hopefully you stayed off the greens "
Actually it was a pitch n putt course so there were only greens |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Never walk around a golf course in stilettos and if you do, don't look back at the mess you left behind
Disgraceful behaviour
Gimme a break, I was only 12 "
I actually think thats a good idea for a photo ....JP wouldn't mind you wrecking Adare Manor once he sees the photo |
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"Choose your battles wisely
For some reason I read that as “choose your batteries wisely”…… "
That's what a plugin chargeable device is for. But best to be on the safe side with both, plenty of backup batteries when there's a power outage - yes, A la Carte sucked too much energy out of the national grid (I'm sure I have a li'l help from friends) |
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"People who have only interest in themselves will only talk about themselves all the time, the me me and me syndrome. They may struggle to listen and even if you get a word i edgeways, thr conversations will go back to being about them again as you said nothing lol. Poor communication or acknowledge of others.
And they're the people we need to distance ourselves from so that the me, me, me people just have themselves or similar to talk to
THAT'S why nobody talks to me, me, me...
Or it could be that you've 90% of fab blocked from messaging ya
I enjoy a bit of solitude - nothing like a bit of quiet, and just thoughts of...me, me, me
I'm sure plenty others enjoy quiet time & thoughts of you, you, you too "
Such a charmer |
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"Never walk around a golf course in stilettos and if you do, don't look back at the mess you left behind
Disgraceful behaviour
Gimme a break, I was only 12
I actually think thats a good idea for a photo ....JP wouldn't mind you wrecking Adare Manor once he sees the photo "
Ah no, Fitirishcpl have the contract for the golfing pics and deservedly so |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Never walk around a golf course in stilettos and if you do, don't look back at the mess you left behind
Disgraceful behaviour
Gimme a break, I was only 12
I actually think thats a good idea for a photo ....JP wouldn't mind you wrecking Adare Manor once he sees the photo
Ah no, Fitirishcpl have the contract for the golfing pics and deservedly so "
So you don't play around  |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
"Scurrilous gossip is alive and well in most work environments and elsewhere. "
That's a massive red flag that you're working in a toxic environment; usually there is one principal twat who is infecting the place like a virus; the key safeguard is to set very clear boundaries and mark their card at the earliest opportunity! |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
"Everyone is winging it. No one has life mastered "
And the pace of change is increasing exponentially; you need to be running nowadays, just to stand still! Which is why I devote so much time to keeping up to date! |
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