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How we conduct ourselves on a meet
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We find some people may find it intimidating to approach a couple who fucks on the first meet, especially when it's their first group.
Wonder if it would help comfort people to see on our profile how a typical meet goes for us so they know what to expect before engaging with us. 
Feedback welcome
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By *ergalMan
over a year ago
east cork |
"We find some people may find it intimidating to approach a couple who fucks on the first meet, especially when it's their first group.
Wonder if it would help comfort people to see on our profile how a typical meet goes for us so they know what to expect before engaging with us.
Feedback welcome
Please keep the, "nobody reads profiles" comments to yourself lol"
Suppose it can't do any harm to have it on your profile.
Outside of an RVC gathering, I've not met a couple, so I presume it would help the person(s)know what your expectations are and what ye expect in return, making things a little easier all round ?
I presume the expectation would be there,that ye fuck on the first night, unless otherwise stated.
Personally, if I was meeting a couple if might help ease the nerves a little to know what might happen, but not everything, have to keep the odd surprise in store but then this could be shared during the initial mails in advance of meeting up....
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I was interested in messaging you guys myself before.
Your profile is pretty clear for the most part, I think just from recent experience, it's difficult to differentiate the talkers and the doers. |
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"We find some people may find it intimidating to approach a couple who fucks on the first meet, especially when it's their first group.
Wonder if it would help comfort people to see on our profile how a typical meet goes for us so they know what to expect before engaging with us.
Feedback welcome
Please keep the, "nobody reads profiles" comments to yourself lol"
Not into mmf myself but you have a great profile. Nice to see a couple on a profile that is out and about and being normal. It makes you more relatable I think. You come across as being a pair of very nice people. |
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"Your profile clearly states what you want . Anybody messaging you just repeat that it’s sex you want minutes after meeting and are they ok with that    "
Oh no I didn't mean our intent. I meant offering the logistics of how we conduct a meet.. a peek into a typical evening with us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always find it useful if there's a bit of information about meets with couples where will you be meeting, is it full or soft swap, is kissing allowed etc. Will the person be staying overnight or will they need to leave. I find some couples so vague and just chat like they are ordering you off the Just Eat menu with no regard to the single person. So it's good you are taking them into consideration. |
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"Honestly I think you’re trying to micro manage any potential meet "
To clarify: this isn't a control thing. We don't require a meet to be a specific way, just offering a glimpse into how it typically goes for us. We don't micromanage meets at all - I'm clearly not communicating very well here *facepalm* |
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I think there’s nothing wrong with telling the (3rd or 4th wheel) some details of what to expect or how you normally meet, it would definitely help with settling any nerves if there is any, I’m sure a lot of single dudes who have not met a couple before can talk the talk but would definitely be questioning themselves prior to meeting on how to act, do we buy rounds if we’re at a bar, who initiates the fun etc, I creep on your profile often  so if I saw an extra bit in the bio, it would put me at ease for sure. |
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By *oandFroCouple
over a year ago
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"Honestly I think you’re trying to micro manage any potential meet
To clarify: this isn't a control thing. We don't require a meet to be a specific way, just offering a glimpse into how it typically goes for us. We don't micromanage meets at all - I'm clearly not communicating very well here *facepalm*"
I think its very clear and open and informative, I have a inclination to read when someone is trying to be controlling and I didn't get that feeling from your message at all, the opposite really just stating what you are looking for and who might be the the right fir, and considering if there feelings letting them know what may lie ahead. X very thoughtfull if anything. Good luck with it Mrs k x
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"Yeah it's good to be clear about what you're looking for, including the bit where looking for men, but blocking them
Lots of couples and ladies do this. They go looking for the guys and message them rather than wading through heah hun nice tits wanna meet messages. "
Seriously though, do fellas really send messages like that? Like I 100% believe that they would but considering how many ladies/couples profiles say ( nice and respectful messages only etc ) I cannot fathom why a guy would send a message saying nice tits and expect a meet!! |
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"We find some people may find it intimidating to approach a couple who fucks on the first meet, especially when it's their first group.
Wonder if it would help comfort people to see on our profile how a typical meet goes for us so they know what to expect before engaging with us.
Feedback welcome
Please keep the, "nobody reads profiles" comments to yourself lol"
When we met our 1st couple we assumed sex was on the agenda |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great profile with the menu in black & white
Take it or leave it if it’s not your couple of choice
Pity more people weren’t so upfront instead of wasting others time
Best of luck folks |
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"When we met our 1st couple we assumed sex was on the agenda
You'd think.. but so many seem to rather want coffee  "
Guys, you do you and all that, but really there's no call to roll your eyes at people who choose to build the attraction and chemistry in ways they feel comfortable.
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You're absolutely right and apologies.. it was meant sarcastically.. as in, in our experience, there are a lot of single lads who say they want coffee but it turns out that's not what they really want. They just say what they think we want to hear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its the 'norm' on Fab to have a social meet first, and plan the sexy meet if the social goes well, that would be the default assumption for many id say.
Best to be clear about that if its not necessary in your case.
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"You're absolutely right and apologies.. it was meant sarcastically.. as in, in our experience, there are a lot of single lads who say they want coffee but it turns out that's not what they really want. They just say what they think we want to hear. "
Haha don't worry they don't turn up for coffee socials either  xx |
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"Its the 'norm' on Fab to have a social meet first, and plan the sexy meet if the social goes well, that would be the default assumption for many id say.
Best to be clear about that if its not necessary in your case.
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Good point, ta xx |
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By *on11Man
over a year ago
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Your profile is clear around your expectations but then it's possible that individuals might ignore the detail that you have & make assumptions when they message you.
Until an email conversation starts it can be a challenge to understand if people are on the same chapter not to mind the same page!
Good luck! |
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