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We all see thread after thread on here from guys complaining about how difficult it is to get a response to a message. The usual response is that the women here are just so spoilt for choice and like to stick to who they know, etc. I thought that there had to be more to it than than though and I think I've found it.
I've done searches with very specific parameters just to see who might pop up in the results and every time, women appear in the search results who clearly shouldn't based on reading their profiles.
For example, I have searched for women who are looking to meet single men but time and again, the search also returns women who's profiles state that they are looking for other women or couples and some specifically state, not looking for men.
I can only really speculate as to why these profiles appear in search results they shouldn't. Reasons might be that the search engine itself is faulty or the profile owners haven't set their profile parameters properly and merely typed who they are interested in.
I'm not in any way having a pop at anyone. I just thought that some of those who feel ignored or whatever might find it interesting and it might save them from having negative thoughts about someone they messaged and never heard back from. |
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I think a lot of profiles set the parameters for what they are looking for when they create a profile, and veneer revisit them. They might change the profile text, but keep the "looking for" section as always.
Also some have deliberately misrepresented what they are looking for I order to appear on the maximal number of search results because they enjoy being looked at or the attention it brings.
This all means that people genuinely searching get inaccurate results. You don't really think all those profiles actually want 18-99 year olds do you? |
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Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men. |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men. "
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total. |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total."
It'll be 35 this week as I've just sent you five separate cock pics from my five separate profiles to make sure you're not lonely 
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total."
Depends how strictly you set your filters !!!
30 messages in a week is a quite a lot you just accept it as the norm. Would 30 guys chat you up in a week in the real world? |
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Are those the same logarithms that cause women and couples to appear in the mens hotpics?
Or the same parameters that allow you to show up in searches by simply changing your fab location?
There is no science involved because regardless of how you break it down if you don't have what the other person is looking for there's no point messaging and if you do have what they are looking and decide to get in touch there could be any number of reasons they decide not to respond.
Tall, dark and handsome with a nice cock could be ideal but ruled out by location, lazy profile, age, previous verifications etc etc. |
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"Are those the same logarithms that cause women and couples to appear in the mens hotpics?
Or the same parameters that allow you to show up in searches by simply changing your fab location?
There is no science involved because regardless of how you break it down if you don't have what the other person is looking for there's no point messaging and if you do have what they are looking and decide to get in touch there could be any number of reasons they decide not to respond.
Tall, dark and handsome with a nice cock could be ideal but ruled out by location, lazy profile, age, previous verifications etc etc. "
I'm the eternal optimist. I can never see reasons why anyone could possibly say no to me |
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"Are those the same logarithms that cause women and couples to appear in the mens hotpics?
Or the same parameters that allow you to show up in searches by simply changing your fab location?
There is no science involved because regardless of how you break it down if you don't have what the other person is looking for there's no point messaging and if you do have what they are looking and decide to get in touch there could be any number of reasons they decide not to respond.
Tall, dark and handsome with a nice cock could be ideal but ruled out by location, lazy profile, age, previous verifications etc etc.
I'm the eternal optimist. I can never see reasons why anyone could possibly say no to me "
At least you aren't at the hell no stage just yet  |
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"Are those the same logarithms that cause women and couples to appear in the mens hotpics?
Or the same parameters that allow you to show up in searches by simply changing your fab location?
There is no science involved because regardless of how you break it down if you don't have what the other person is looking for there's no point messaging and if you do have what they are looking and decide to get in touch there could be any number of reasons they decide not to respond.
Tall, dark and handsome with a nice cock could be ideal but ruled out by location, lazy profile, age, previous verifications etc etc.
I'm the eternal optimist. I can never see reasons why anyone could possibly say no to me
At least you aren't at the hell no stage just yet "
I look at myself and think "hell yes!"  
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total.
It'll be 35 this week as I've just sent you five separate cock pics from my five separate profiles to make sure you're not lonely
You're welcome "
Different angles I hope |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total.
It'll be 35 this week as I've just sent you five separate cock pics from my five separate profiles to make sure you're not lonely
You're welcome
Different angles I hope"
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total.
Depends how strictly you set your filters !!!
30 messages in a week is a quite a lot you just accept it as the norm. Would 30 guys chat you up in a week in the real world?"
If I was out 7 days a week then yes I'm an extremely chatty person. How ever in " the real world" I work,run home raise kids so I don't have time to go out and be "chatted up" as you put it. |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total.
It'll be 35 this week as I've just sent you five separate cock pics from my five separate profiles to make sure you're not lonely
You're welcome
Different angles I hope
Oops... Incoming "
Now Michael you know the importance of angles tut tut |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men. "
Ah I'm a solid four on a dark night with all the lights off. |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
Ah I'm a solid four on a dark night with all the lights off. "
I've been here so long I'm a 10,I just wear a paper bag over my head in the real world |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total.
It'll be 35 this week as I've just sent you five separate cock pics from my five separate profiles to make sure you're not lonely
You're welcome
Different angles I hope
Oops... Incoming
Now Michael you know the importance of angles tut tut "
Especially after he mentioned Pythagoras Theorem last week |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But surely if the men doing the searches actually read the profile before messaging they'd know what the woman is or isn't looking for regardless of what parameters were set?
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"But surely if the men doing the searches actually read the profile before messaging they'd know what the woman is or isn't looking for regardless of what parameters were set?
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Yes, it almost always reads no single men or fellas my age range.  |
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"But surely if the men doing the searches actually read the profile before messaging they'd know what the woman is or isn't looking for regardless of what parameters were set?
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Now you're just being silly!! |
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"But surely if the men doing the searches actually read the profile before messaging they'd know what the woman is or isn't looking for regardless of what parameters were set?
Now you're just being silly!! "
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men. "
totally agree with this, some are not even a 3! But fab is abit like war where every hole is a trench ! |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
totally agree with this, some are not even a 3! But fab is abit like war where every hole is a trench ! "
Is that why some guys are experts at digging holes? |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
totally agree with this, some are not even a 3! But fab is abit like war where every hole is a trench !
Is that why some guys are experts at digging holes? "
It's bit like running through a minefield, not all will make it. |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
totally agree with this, some are not even a 3! But fab is abit like war where every hole is a trench !
Is that why some guys are experts at digging holes?
It's bit like running through a minefield, not all will make it. "
Better rate of success against the fab snipers. Their aim isn't the best. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I think you are overthinking the whole thing op .
Someone will answer a message if they want to if the message or profile appeal they will then answer.
I have very tight filters I don't get a lot of messages quite often I don't get any for a few days I personally prefer it that way. But just because I have that it's men I'm looking for does not mean I will answer every message I get.If I don't like the profile or if they are too far away,if the message is crap,or even if I'm just too bloody tired or numerous other reasons I won't answer cos I can't be bothered wasting my time anymore.I answered most until recently when someone didn't understand the words' sorry I don't want to meet you ' he seemed to think it meant I wouldn't meet him for coffee and a chat but I would for sex because I had been polite and answered a few mails from them. Now nah I can't be bothered answering some of the messages especially when I know there is no hope of us meeting .
It's the same if I message I never expect a reply if I get one then great .When I message someone I'd like to chat to I will read the profile and if I'm the complete opposite of what they are looking for I won't message. It's pointless and a waste of my time and theirs.
Yes it must be very dissappointing for men when they constantly get messages deleted but to expect a reply from everyone they message is a bit entitled as well.Best thing anyone can do is after sending a message is to delete it and forget about it and if you get a reply later on then great. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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Algorithms, which purport tobe theoretically complex formulae, now govern many routine transactions in the modern commercial and business world that are taken for granted;
but success on a site like this is significantly more complex: a simple tickbox approach, on joining, is insufficient as one gains experience, and modifies one's preferences.
Humans change incessantly; algorithms are inflexible. |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
totally agree with this, some are not even a 3! But fab is abit like war where every hole is a trench ! "
I agree with you. I think fab is treated differently by different people. For some guys it is any hole is a goal as 'you don't need to look at the mantlepiece when poking the fire.' I was told by a fab friend that there would be very few ladies on fab (if any) that a guy would want to date in real life in a non swinging capacity but are ok to shag on fab!
Women maybe think the same about guys.
Don't know if a fab member could stop it all if they met a non fabber for a faithful relationship but suppose it has happened.
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"Are those the same logarithms that cause women and couples to appear in the mens hotpics?
Or the same parameters that allow you to show up in searches by simply changing your fab location?
There is no science involved because regardless of how you break it down if you don't have what the other person is looking for there's no point messaging and if you do have what they are looking and decide to get in touch there could be any number of reasons they decide not to respond.
Tall, dark and handsome with a nice cock could be ideal but ruled out by location, lazy profile, age, previous verifications etc etc.
I'm the eternal optimist. I can never see reasons why anyone could possibly say no to me "
No? |
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"Algorithms, which purport tobe theoretically complex formulae, now govern many routine transactions in the modern commercial and business world that are taken for granted;
but success on a site like this is significantly more complex: a simple tickbox approach, on joining, is insufficient as one gains experience, and modifies one's preferences.
Humans change incessantly; algorithms are inflexible."
Fab doesn't use smart complex algorithms. It's just shows all the updates from those whose preferences match and also match by location, or who are friends/hotlisted. It's pretty dumb really. Google search it ain't. |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total."
l might make that 31 msgs this week |
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Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life. |
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"Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life. "
..and it would be a good idea to make sure your preferences are correct and up to date, so you aren't showing up in other people's searches for stuff you aren't looking for. |
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"Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life. "
So so true I'm very clear what I'm looking for here. But then the problem is "some" men will literally not take no for a answer. Last week a married guy persistently messages to try to change my mind with the "I'm not like the other guys" routine. Someone else asked to go dogging at 1pm and I'm a stuck up bitch for not wanting to go meet randomer off the Internet even though I clearly say not interested on profile. So the problem is being polite and replying to the people who obviously didn't read your profile leads to why not and I'll change your mind messages. If they can't take no for a answer in a message what are they like in person! |
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"Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life.
..and it would be a good idea to make sure your preferences are correct and up to date, so you aren't showing up in other people's searches for stuff you aren't looking for. "
Mine is set to the best of the sites ability. Unfortunately there is no box to tick for tall and muscular and manly men so ubfortunately opinionated up their own arses, non muscular get into my mail box because they didnt bother reading the profile hence why i stated things would be a lot easier all round if people read profiles. |
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"Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life.
So so true I'm very clear what I'm looking for here. But then the problem is "some" men will literally not take no for a answer. Last week a married guy persistently messages to try to change my mind with the "I'm not like the other guys" routine. Someone else asked to go dogging at 1pm and I'm a stuck up bitch for not wanting to go meet randomer off the Internet even though I clearly say not interested on profile. So the problem is being polite and replying to the people who obviously didn't read your profile leads to why not and I'll change your mind messages. If they can't take no for a answer in a message what are they like in person! "
Exactly this and i will also add some couples are just as bad if not in some cases worse than some men. Its not hard to read a profile. Im assuming everyone is an adult on here although some behaviour would leave me questioning that assumption |
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"Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life.
So so true I'm very clear what I'm looking for here. But then the problem is "some" men will literally not take no for a answer. Last week a married guy persistently messages to try to change my mind with the "I'm not like the other guys" routine. Someone else asked to go dogging at 1pm and I'm a stuck up bitch for not wanting to go meet randomer off the Internet even though I clearly say not interested on profile. So the problem is being polite and replying to the people who obviously didn't read your profile leads to why not and I'll change your mind messages. If they can't take no for a answer in a message what are they like in person!
Exactly this and i will also add some couples are just as bad if not in some cases worse than some men. Its not hard to read a profile. Im assuming everyone is an adult on here although some behaviour would leave me questioning that assumption"
And the ladies are flawless, perfect, even exemplary |
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"Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life.
So so true I'm very clear what I'm looking for here. But then the problem is "some" men will literally not take no for a answer. Last week a married guy persistently messages to try to change my mind with the "I'm not like the other guys" routine. Someone else asked to go dogging at 1pm and I'm a stuck up bitch for not wanting to go meet randomer off the Internet even though I clearly say not interested on profile. So the problem is being polite and replying to the people who obviously didn't read your profile leads to why not and I'll change your mind messages. If they can't take no for a answer in a message what are they like in person!
Exactly this and i will also add some couples are just as bad if not in some cases worse than some men. Its not hard to read a profile. Im assuming everyone is an adult on here although some behaviour would leave me questioning that assumption
And the ladies are flawless, perfect, even exemplary "
I never said that either. I dont get mail from women so im not going to speak in that regard when i have no experience of it. Im just stating from my point of view with messages IVE received. Im sure plenty of others can share experiences with regard to female messages |
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"Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life.
..and it would be a good idea to make sure your preferences are correct and up to date, so you aren't showing up in other people's searches for stuff you aren't looking for.
Mine is set to the best of the sites ability. Unfortunately there is no box to tick for tall and muscular and manly men so ubfortunately opinionated up their own arses, non muscular get into my mail box because they didnt bother reading the profile hence why i stated things would be a lot easier all round if people read profiles. "
Just read your profile it's so good and you're very clear and precise what you are looking for on Fab. You couldn't be any clearer! You literally spell it out! |
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"Regardless of the search results it would be just a lot easier all round if people read profiles. If you dont fit what they are looking for, move on. Its not difficult yet some people seem to have an aversion to it. Youre not being asked to solve the mystery of life.
..and it would be a good idea to make sure your preferences are correct and up to date, so you aren't showing up in other people's searches for stuff you aren't looking for.
Mine is set to the best of the sites ability. Unfortunately there is no box to tick for tall and muscular and manly men so ubfortunately opinionated up their own arses, non muscular get into my mail box because they didnt bother reading the profile hence why i stated things would be a lot easier all round if people read profiles.
Just read your profile it's so good and you're very clear and precise what you are looking for on Fab. You couldn't be any clearer! You literally spell it out! "
So is yours! The bit about 69ined in the back of truck is brilliant lol |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men. "
Any woman who is nice enough to reply is a 10 in my book! |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total.
It'll be 35 this week as I've just sent you five separate cock pics from my five separate profiles to make sure you're not lonely
You're welcome
Different angles I hope
Oops... Incoming
Now Michael you know the importance of angles tut tut "
The angle of the dangle is equal to the throb of the knob, which is constant |
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"Women on here are in the minority and in return they are inundated with tons of messages which inflates their egos. A 3 in the real world becomes a 8 maybe 9 on fab purely because of the ratio of women to men.
That's not strictly true. I'm not inundated with messages I've my filters set tight. On a good week I mighty get 30 messages in total.
It'll be 35 this week as I've just sent you five separate cock pics from my five separate profiles to make sure you're not lonely
You're welcome
Different angles I hope
Oops... Incoming
Now Michael you know the importance of angles tut tut
The angle of the dangle is equal to the throb of the knob, which is constant "
Surely the quantum of the bosom effects the throb of the knob though. You might want to revise your equation a little just to allow for the bosom variable. |
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