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What is swinging to you?
Do you think it's something that was inside you all along and it improved your life once you discovered it?
Or do you think it is purely a lifestyle choice like what clothes you like to wear which has nothing to do with your sexuality and you can just take it or leave it for good?
(Obviously question is for people, who consider themselves as swingers as I am aware that many people are more than happy to be here as singles, but would only want a monogamous relationship).
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"Little Sunday afternoon discussion
What is swinging to you?
Do you think it's something that was inside you all along and it improved your life once you discovered it?
Missus "Oh Missus, welcome back to the Irish forum and God bless your soul. I wish you all the strength in the world, as bad things happen but they are never permanent ...just a painful "moment" that seems to last forever and whom marks us deeply. What is swinging you ask? Swinging is a bitter sweet "poison"! Once you taste it, it transforms you, not for better and not for worst ... You are still you, but your eyes see the world in a different light, the things start tasting differently. First, you are looking to try as many things and meet as many people as you can, then you start looking for the "the one"! You learn very soon what deception is, if you didn't experience it before. Swinging makes you more confident, but also takes you down sometimes. You become very body conscious and soon you realize how random the whole process can be. If you are in a relationship, once you've opened the Pandora's box and tried swinging .... God help you! You will never be able to close that box, you will never be able to control what happens after that. Is swinging inside us, maybe it is in some of us, not not in all of us. Does swinging makes you life better? Maybe, it depends what better means for some of us. For some, is just an opportunity to have sex with people that otherwise would not even acknowledge us in real life, for some is just trying things we fantasise about and for some is their escape ..their entire social life revolves around it. Then you have the ones who might try to make some money from all the aspects of the swinging scene , organising paid/unpaid sex parties, meets/socials, photo sessions for better profile pics, renting play rooms by the hour or entire venues for a night, or even offering makeup and dressing services for men who like to transform themselves for a day. And finally you have the lurkers, who like to get involved in some aspects of the online interaction around swinging, but who at max have a good wank, but some are good forum contributors sometimes. At least, this is how I've seen and experience it in the last few years, in both the vanilla and kink world on this tiny island of Ireland. | |||
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"Little Sunday afternoon discussion
What is swinging to you?
Do you think it's something that was inside you all along and it improved your life once you discovered it?
Missus
Oh Missus, welcome back to the Irish forum and God bless your soul. I wish you all the strength in the world, as bad things happen but they are never permanent ...just a painful "moment" that seems to last forever and whom marks us deeply.
What is swinging you ask?
Swinging is a bitter sweet "poison"!
Once you taste it, it transforms you, not for better and not for worst ... You are still you, but your eyes see the world in a different light, the things start tasting differently.
First, you are looking to try as many things and meet as many people as you can, then you start looking for the "the one"!
You learn very soon what deception is, if you didn't experience it before.
Swinging makes you more confident, but also takes you down sometimes.
You become very body conscious and soon you realize how random the whole process can be.
If you are in a relationship, once you've opened the Pandora's box and tried swinging .... God help you! You will never be able to close that box, you will never be able to control what happens after that.
Is swinging inside us, maybe it is in some of us, not not in all of us.
Does swinging makes you life better? Maybe, it depends what better means for some of us.
For some, is just an opportunity to have sex with people that otherwise would not even acknowledge us in real life, for some is just trying things we fantasise about and for some is their escape ..their entire social life revolves around it.
Then you have the ones who might try to make some money from all the aspects of the swinging scene , organising paid/unpaid sex parties, meets/socials, photo sessions for better profile pics, renting play rooms by the hour or entire venues for a night, or even offering makeup and dressing services for men who like to transform themselves for a day.
And finally you have the lurkers, who like to get involved in some aspects of the online interaction around swinging, but who at max have a good wank, but some are good forum contributors sometimes.
At least, this is how I've seen and experience it in the last few years, in both the vanilla and kink world on this tiny island of Ireland.
"Great answer As for me I just enjoy meeting new people and have made some wonderful friends as for swinging and sex not a clue lol | |||
" What is swinging to you? Missus " (Part Deux) Swinging is your little dirty secret, the one no one from your family and friends needs to know, not to mention work colleagues or neighbors. It is the little dirty secret, that gives you a fright, when you think you've spotted someone you know from your circle of family/friends/colleagues/neighbors. But swinging is also that warm feeling, when someone wants to meet you and they seem interested in talking to you over a coffee or during a walk and trying to arrange a play meet with you afterwards. It is that feeling of someone literally shaking of pleasure under your own body, their skin becoming warm, moist and pink. The adrenaline rush you feel when you see them smiling with pleasure. The thrill you get from doing sexual things few would venture to even try/experiment or even considering talking about. The excitement of seeing someone bringing good quality sex toys to your first meet when your expectations are quite low. But also the embarrassment and sinking feeling you feel, when someone hasn't made the effort to come prepared and look the best they possibly can, freshly showered and shaved. The moment when she/he expect you to go down on them for oral or a rim job and your stomach can't stand the smell of their body, nevermind their private parts. Swinging is also the disappointment, when the nice looking body in front of you doesn't reflect into someones personality. The excitement and pleasure you feel when the brilliant personality and absolutely "filthy" and confident sexual attitude of someone, make it for the less perfect body shape. And last, the night away in a spacious lovely and clean hotel room, with a massive double bed and spotless bathroom, where you refresh in between all that "dirty" sex play. It feels like a mini break away that gives you flashbacks for the whole week afterwards. | |||
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"It's a lifestyle choice and has everything to do with my sexuality where else will I find like minded. Can't find what's on offer here just anywhere, am trying to understand what you mean, are you saying that singles are not or can't be swingers?" No, not at all what I was saying. What I meant is that some people who are here as singles would never see themselves in a non monogamous relationship and could never form a relationship with anyone they met on here (those people do exist and are very open about it). It would be extremely hypocritical of me to call anyone who's single "not a real swinger" as I was one of those people myself. The initial question I had and maybe I should have worded it differently, was weather people believed that swinging is purely a choice or is it one of those things that you're just born with. Same way as people who have different kinks like d/s, watersports, feet etc. Something you can't choose to be your turn on, it just is. Missus | |||
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"It's a lifestyle choice and has everything to do with my sexuality where else will I find like minded. Can't find what's on offer here just anywhere, am trying to understand what you mean, are you saying that singles are not or can't be swingers? No, not at all what I was saying. What I meant is that some people who are here as singles would never see themselves in a non monogamous relationship and could never form a relationship with anyone they met on here (those people do exist and are very open about it). It would be extremely hypocritical of me to call anyone who's single "not a real swinger" as I was one of those people myself. The initial question I had and maybe I should have worded it differently, was weather people believed that swinging is purely a choice or is it one of those things that you're just born with. Same way as people who have different kinks like d/s, watersports, feet etc. Something you can't choose to be your turn on, it just is. Missus" I think it’s a choice but a difficult one to turn your back on once you’ve been on the scene for a while. | |||
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