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By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Bit of a difference to this one..Ive recently hid mine as over the last few weeks ive been getting messages from people ive very briefly spoke to but mostly never spoke with regarding people ive met..
Looking for information about this person,how i met them, what there like intimately as they hope to meet this person further down the line..
I find this creepy and weird and im just the only one who thinks this?  |
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"Bit of a difference to this one..Ive recently hid mine as over the last few weeks ive been getting messages from people ive very briefly spoke to but mostly never spoke with regarding people ive met..
Looking for information about this person,how i met them, what there like intimately as they hope to meet this person further down the line..
I find this creepy and weird and im just the only one who thinks this? "
Sorry about that. I'm just nosy  |
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over a year ago
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It has happened to me before. Guys wanting to know about the ladies I've met!! And if they would be interested in having a 3 some? Just prefer to keep it private!! |
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By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"I wouldn't be giving out any detail... but I'd be happy to confirm my thoughts from a safety perspective only."
Safety was mentioned more than once on a few of the messages.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had messages from women I know asking about guys I've verified. As for what went on with the guy wouldn't be telling them that it's noones business.
Funny I dont think I've ever asked anyone about their veris? |
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This is always creepy and I don't agree about checking in regard to safety because no-one is going to contradict a verification they are displaying.
If someone has a verification showing that already answers that question so it's a lame excuse to find out more about someone. |
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over a year ago
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"This is always creepy and I don't agree about checking in regard to safety because no-one is going to contradict a verification they are displaying.
If someone has a verification showing that already answers that question so it's a lame excuse to find out more about someone. "
Our take on it also, we wouldn't be verifying someone we considered to be dangerous, neither would we rate the opinions of a total stranger about another stranger. The mind boggles.
This is one of the reasons we hide our veris, we or the people we have verified bring asked about each other by strangers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!"
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place  |
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"This is always creepy and I don't agree about checking in regard to safety because no-one is going to contradict a verification they are displaying.
If someone has a verification showing that already answers that question so it's a lame excuse to find out more about someone.
Our take on it also, we wouldn't be verifying someone we considered to be dangerous, neither would we rate the opinions of a total stranger about another stranger. The mind boggles.
This is one of the reasons we hide our veris, we or the people we have verified bring asked about each other by strangers. "
Anyone who knowingly displays a verification from someone they are happy to tell others is unsafe is either playing games or lamppost pissing. The only red flag being raised there is on the person displaying the veri and anyone unable to see that deserves the ensuing drama. |
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over a year ago
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place "
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first. |
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over a year ago
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first."
If my own instincts were raising flags, I'd be listening to them.... |
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In an ideal world everyone would always be upfront and honest in all verifications, but sometimes someone might hint by omission, or raise suspicion in some way. I don't think there is anything wrong with politely asking for safety information only. I've never done it personally, but I wouldn't see anything wrong in being asked. I wouldn't be getting upset about it anyway.
Anyone looking to get their rocks off asking for material to wank to woild be blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah, just my opinion, but gossip is a currency valued by many, and with the members here, it's no different.
We would win awards for it in this country.
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over a year ago
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place "
100% this, I had verified a guy and a woman messaged asking about him was he safe etc . My reply was you know me well enough now do you really think I would verify someone I didn't think was "safe"
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Bit of a difference to this one..Ive recently hid mine as over the last few weeks ive been getting messages from people ive very briefly spoke to but mostly never spoke with regarding people ive met..
Looking for information about this person,how i met them, what there like intimately as they hope to meet this person further down the line..
I find this creepy and weird and im just the only one who thinks this? "
I agree completely it is creepy.And like others said it's not from a safety perspective that people ask 99 per cent of the time but more wanting info on the person.
I don't think anyone is going to show a Veri from someone they don't consider to be safe nor would I Veri someone who I got a bad vibe off or made me feel uncomfortable.
Asking what someone is like in bed is pointless as well as different things work for different people.Plus I won't give out any info about it as it's between me and the person I have been with. And I expect the same respect back from people I have met. |
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first."
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
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over a year ago
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
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If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile. |
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place "
This happened to me good few years ago.
Met someone, who I wasn't too happy about, so didn't want to leave a veri. They only started displaying their proper red flags after they dropped me home (yes, I know it's a stupid thing to do, but I was a little tipsy and it was 2am on a Saturday st Patrick's weekend - getting a taxi just wasn't an option).
Next day they started pestering me for a veri, they kept going on and on about it. Every hour I was receiving a message asking wheres that veri. I didn't want to fall out with them as they knew my address and if they already behaved like this - I didn't want to chance what they would do if I would tell them to go away or block them.
So I did leave a very vague, weird veri on purpose.
Good job that person was stupid enough to display it. There was a few women, who privately messaged me asking what my veri meant, so I did let them know why my veri was the way it was.
That person kept pestering me for over a year.
I did block them the day I moved house though.
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile. "
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready 
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over a year ago
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
We've never had to use it"
Are you telling me we're not on your block list  ?!?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
We've never had to use it
Are you telling me we're not on your block list ?!?!? "
Don't worry, there's still time!! |
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
We've never had to use it
Are you telling me we're not on your block list ?!?!?
Don't worry, there's still time!! "
I might just get there first (envisaging a duel now, wild West style) |
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
We've never had to use it
Are you telling me we're not on your block list ?!?!?
Don't worry, there's still time!!
I might just get there first (envisaging a duel now, wild West style) "
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
We've never had to use it
Are you telling me we're not on your block list ?!?!?
Don't worry, there's still time!!
I might just get there first (envisaging a duel now, wild West style)
Get a room will ye "
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"checking for safety/red flags is one thing, i think thats understandable. anything further is personal and inappropriate
Totally agree!
But why on earth would you give a verification to someone you considered "unsafe" in the first place
It may have something to do with "extremes" - is he/she really into x,y or z? No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel unsafe in a meet. But the simple thing to do would be to have a social meet first.
I have to admit I hadn't thought of that but that is my own naiveté in thinking that boundaries will be respected so just because someone is into certain practices which may be more on the extreme side, doesn't mean that they'll automatically be explored with everyone.
I was thinking more along the lines of, a verification was left after a social gathering/night out or party, you meet again and something happens or doesn't feel quite right that time round - and it's too late, because the veri is there.
That's why all these veris from socials mean absolutely squat - bar, they turned up, possibly seemed safe and friendly and chatty but are they really when you meet them alone?
If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
We've never had to use it
Are you telling me we're not on your block list ?!?!?
Don't worry, there's still time!!
I might just get there first (envisaging a duel now, wild West style)
Get a room will ye
You just want to watch, don't you? "
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If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
We've never had to use it
Are you telling me we're not on your block list ?!?!?
Don't worry, there's still time!!
I might just get there first (envisaging a duel now, wild West style)
Get a room will ye
You just want to watch, don't you?
Too right, who wouldn’t want to watch "
You can watch whatever you want if you're wearing hard hat and snickers - I'd prefer you to seal some leaky pipes though rather than standing about uselessly |
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If you block someone, a verification previously given can no longer be displayed on their profile.
Ooooh, I'll remember that for my first "oh shit" experience - block button at the ready
We've never had to use it
Are you telling me we're not on your block list ?!?!?
Don't worry, there's still time!!
I might just get there first (envisaging a duel now, wild West style)
Get a room will ye
You just want to watch, don't you?
Too right, who wouldn’t want to watch
You can watch whatever you want if you're wearing hard hat and snickers - I'd prefer you to seal some leaky pipes though rather than standing about uselessly "
Standing around uselessly in snickers is my bread and butter |
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By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Does someone not normally cut in and complain about ye 2 taking over a thread about now 
It hasn’t happened in a while so they must have forgotten  "
Ive a real problem here take your sexy pants and big tool and move along |
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"Does someone not normally cut in and complain about ye 2 taking over a thread about now
It hasn’t happened in a while so they must have forgotten
Ive a real problem here take your sexy pants and big tool and move along "
Any particular direction I need to move in |
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By *s Lolly OP Woman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Does someone not normally cut in and complain about ye 2 taking over a thread about now
It hasn’t happened in a while so they must have forgotten
Ive a real problem here take your sexy pants and big tool and move along
Any particular direction I need to move in"
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"Does someone not normally cut in and complain about ye 2 taking over a thread about now
It hasn’t happened in a while so they must have forgotten
Ive a real problem here take your sexy pants and big tool and move along
Any particular direction I need to move in
Carlow "
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"Does someone not normally cut in and complain about ye 2 taking over a thread about now
It hasn’t happened in a while so they must have forgotten
Ive a real problem here take your sexy pants and big tool and move along
Any particular direction I need to move in
Carlow
That’ll be some walk"
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"I wouldn't be giving out any detail... but I'd be happy to confirm my thoughts from a safety perspective only."
Yes I have messaged to get that specific detail only. As was single at the time and was travelling as well.
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I have verified people in the past who have subsequently turned into assholes. I block them so they can’t show my verification anymore.
One guy threatened to go to my family if I didn’t put him in contact with someone we both knew. I have blocked him so people won’t know unverified him. However I’ve since seen that he’s seeing a friend and I’m conflicted.
For that reason, and a few other dodgy experiences, I am happy for someone I KNOW to get in touch with me about a veri.
With regards to people being generally nosey, there is a fabber who messaged my friends wanting to know details about a meet I had. It’s vile disgusting behaviour and I’m really glad my friends told him to piss off. |
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"Bit of a difference to this one..Ive recently hid mine as over the last few weeks ive been getting messages from people ive very briefly spoke to but mostly never spoke with regarding people ive met..
Looking for information about this person,how i met them, what there like intimately as they hope to meet this person further down the line..
I find this creepy and weird and im just the only one who thinks this? "
I know very Bad Ms lolly...you must ignore such people |
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It happens
I just refer to verrification
But I try when verrifying others rnever to mention any sex act
Will say people have stamina or are passionate, their character.
With verrification I receive if a sexul act is mentioned I invariably dont publish
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