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Not “my type”.

By *ed just Red OP Woman over a year ago

Dublin City

So, if a guy messages and makes an effort with the message I try my best to chat for a bit to see if there is a click. I’m fairly honest if they aren’t my type and say as much.

And if my first ever meet off fab had gotten pissy about it, we wouldn’t have met and we wouldn’t be still FBs 2yrs later.

But why do so many men take such offence at this?? Surely it’s accepted that we all have body types we find appealing and some we don’t.

Or can woman just not win?! No matter what.

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By *oo32Man over a year ago

tipperary

"So, if a guy messages and makes an effort with the message I try my best to chat for a bit to see if there is a click. I’m fairly honest if they aren’t my type and say as much.

And if my first ever meet off fab had gotten pissy about it, we wouldn’t have met and we wouldn’t be still FBs 2yrs later.

But why do so many men take such offence at this?? Surely it’s accepted that we all have body types we find appealing and some we don’t.

Or can woman just not win?! No matter what. "

You can't please everyone....

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By *issme39Woman over a year ago

kildare

we can't win..

I do the polite ' no thanks enjoy the site' and I'm called a shallow whore, I ignore and get called a ' dirty whore '

I will add not all men are like this thankfully.

im not for everyone but id rather chew my own arm off than behave like that...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, if a guy messages and makes an effort with the message I try my best to chat for a bit to see if there is a click. I’m fairly honest if they aren’t my type and say as much.

And if my first ever meet off fab had gotten pissy about it, we wouldn’t have met and we wouldn’t be still FBs 2yrs later.

But why do so many men take such offence at this?? Surely it’s accepted that we all have body types we find appealing and some we don’t.

Or can woman just not win?! No matter what. "

I know for me if there's no attraction its not going any further and I prefer to be honest and if I'm not a guys type thats okay too we all have preferences I just think some abd I do mean some guys ( in my experience) don't like been rejected and as its a sex site think we should just drop our knickers for them.

Funnily enough had a first message recently that just said " not my type thanks"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, if a guy messages and makes an effort with the message I try my best to chat for a bit to see if there is a click. I’m fairly honest if they aren’t my type and say as much.

And if my first ever meet off fab had gotten pissy about it, we wouldn’t have met and we wouldn’t be still FBs 2yrs later.

But why do so many men take such offence at this?? Surely it’s accepted that we all have body types we find appealing and some we don’t.

Or can woman just not win?! No matter what. "

It's written in my profile " If I'm not you're type and you're not mine no problem at all " .. Everybody here has a type no matter what if both connect ,great , if not , so what ...but the bottom line is type ...some fit others don't .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we can't win..

I do the polite ' no thanks enjoy the site' and I'm called a shallow whore, I ignore and get called a ' dirty whore '

I will add not all men are like this thankfully.

im not for everyone but id rather chew my own arm off than behave like that..."

Don't chew your arm off its perfect where it is

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By *OCONO5Couple over a year ago

Sensual Center

When people are told ..sorry your not for us or your are not what we are looking for...they can become very aggressive and abusive..that's goes for men ...women and couples...in our experience ....each to their own...

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By *s LollyWoman over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it.....

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By *s LollyWoman over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it....."

**seen**

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When people are told ..sorry your not for us or your are not what we are looking for...they can become very aggressive and abusive..that's goes for men ...women and couples...in our experience ....each to their own..."

Its the aggressiveness and the abuse that astounds me, I do wonder do they act that way in real life if things don't go their way, I doubt it so why do it here?

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it....."

exactly there's plenty on here who don't take rejection well. It's not just men.

It's the way fab has always been it doesn't bother me if someone gets thick if I say I'm not interested in them it just proves I made the right decision in the first place.

And to be fair most who I have told that I don't want to meet them are actually nice about it.

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

Can you imagine if you met someone in a bar ....and they had a meltdown because you spoke for a while and then said you weren't interested....like your 2 year old on the floor in Tesco screaming while you pretend they're not yours...

Keyboard warriors I think is the expression

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, if a guy messages and makes an effort with the message I try my best to chat for a bit to see if there is a click. I’m fairly honest if they aren’t my type and say as much.

And if my first ever meet off fab had gotten pissy about it, we wouldn’t have met and we wouldn’t be still FBs 2yrs later.

But why do so many men take such offence at this?? Surely it’s accepted that we all have body types we find appealing and some we don’t.

Or can woman just not win?! No matter what. "
when I get turned down, and it happens quite a lot, I just be polite back and wish the lady in question the best of luck with fab and with the future.. no time in this world nowadays for hate

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

Maybe he was not actually pissed in any way, maybe he was just chatting and his comment was taken up the wring way seen as "text" has no tone of voice. Its quite possible he was being genuine in his reply in saying what he said in his reply. Its also guite possible his reply might have been taken wrong or out of context. Just saying ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone being aggressive or abusive on here isn’t worth anyones time.

Where does it get you? Nowhere.

Being a decent person is far more attractive than having model looks. Though having both is best

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By *ligolad321Man over a year ago

Donegal

Wait a minute, so your telling me there's people on here that get rejected?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it.....

exactly there's plenty on here who don't take rejection well. It's not just men.

It's the way fab has always been it doesn't bother me if someone gets thick if I say I'm not interested in them it just proves I made the right decision in the first place.

And to be fair most who I have told that I don't want to meet them are actually nice about it. "

How we see it too. We have no control over the behaviour of others, only over our own reaction to it

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman over a year ago

My town

To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging "

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman over a year ago

My town

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it? "
to be fair when your getting abused you certainly didn't pick it up wrong...

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By *exesrangerMan over a year ago

city

It's unfortunate but you just have to take the good with the bad. Some guys have notions about themselves, thinking they are too good for the likes of these kind of sites but then find once they get stuck in but get at best a reply, but a reply in the way of a rejection I feel this is when they feel the need to lash out thinking how dare you.... "do you know who I am"?

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it? "

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

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By *ed just Red OP Woman over a year ago

Dublin City

I’m not talking about abusive messages. They just get blocked. I just wonder if there anyway point in being polite and saying “you’re not my type” instead of just being direct and saying “sorry I don’t find you physically attractive”.

GAH

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”"

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

1st of all you personally have no clue of the contect of the message in question, but what you are doing now is trying to gain favour as being a knight in shining armour to the ladies. And thats ok by me personally, but by you adding that he probably calling her a slut because she said "he is not her type" you are just as part of the problem of people getting a bad rep here by putting out stuff there that is either not true or out of context..

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By *oo32Man over a year ago

tipperary

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore..."

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Some people seem to be persistent and consistent rejecters and others are persistent and consistent rejectees.

It's all in the wrist movement.

In 5 years I've been told once that I wasn't sometimes type which doesn't really say a lot apart from the fact that I don't have a lot of conversations that require rejection.

Many conversations fizzle out naturally.

I've only been on the other side of the equation twice that I can remember and only one of those turned nasty as a result so I'm not exactly an expert on the subject.

I will say though from reading many threads like this that very often the reason for rejection has more to do with the person's negative profile/status/forum comments than their actual messages and it's very easy to read a person before you actually take the time to tell them they aren't your type.

My "type" doesn't wash their laundry in public or need constant validation so there are some very short lived conversations.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, if a guy messages and makes an effort with the message I try my best to chat for a bit to see if there is a click. I’m fairly honest if they aren’t my type and say as much.

And if my first ever meet off fab had gotten pissy about it, we wouldn’t have met and we wouldn’t be still FBs 2yrs later.

But why do so many men take such offence at this?? Surely it’s accepted that we all have body types we find appealing and some we don’t.

Or can woman just not win?! No matter what. "

Because they see women on fab and free escorts. And the thought of being told no is such a weird concept for them

Miss_tattoo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it....."

Yes. I got a message from a woman first and I explained I like a really specific type of woman and wow the abuse was worse then from a man.

Miss_tattoo

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

"I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it....."

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

Ask any man and he will have a story,even a fab story

If you are not too busy bashing them that is

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By *rmrs1234Couple over a year ago

Waterford

Luckily havent had to deal with much abuse. Any ones that do try it are just blocked. Everyones all brave behind screen and feel they can say anything without repercussions. The ever intertwined good and bad side of the internet. I consider it a bullet dodged and on we go

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Jeez I’ve been rumbled, you’ve got me in one,

I’m the White Knight

Now time to hop on my faithful steed,wander the land far and wide, helping any fair maidens and damsels in distress

Tally ho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it.....

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

Ask any man and he will have a story,even a fab story

If you are not too busy bashing them that is"

Yep, the angry women of fab, one male friend of ours calls them

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By *oo32Man over a year ago

tipperary

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that?? "

Good man,have a wonderfull day

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day"

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore?? "

You don't have to scroll very far down from the top of the thread.

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By *oo32Man over a year ago

tipperary

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore?? "

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day

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By *oo32Man over a year ago

tipperary

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore?? "

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day "

Not a single person here was called a whore, not in the thread not in the messages that is being discussed in this thread. Again as i said.. you personally now are part of the problem of the chinese whispers that cirxualtes fabbed.. enjoy yourself

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

"I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it.....

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

Ask any man and he will have a story,even a fab story

If you are not too busy bashing them that is

Yep, the angry women of fab, one male friend of ours calls them"

Angry women of the world I call them but fab too.

Often guys might meet someone here more than once/regularly and then try move on......

He better lock up his rabbits

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day "

Thats someone else and not the person who made the thread, this thread is about the creator of the thread and not what someone else got called..

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

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By *oo32Man over a year ago

tipperary

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day

Thats someone else and not the person who made the thread, this thread is about the creator of the thread and not what someone else got called.. "

Have a lovely day

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"I think it swings both ways on here,but some women don't handle rejection very well either when told they not someone's type ive seem status updates and forum threads started because of it.....

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

Ask any man and he will have a story,even a fab story

If you are not too busy bashing them that is

Yep, the angry women of fab, one male friend of ours calls them

Angry women of the world I call them but fab too.

Often guys might meet someone here more than once/regularly and then try move on......

He better lock up his rabbits "

Give them an inch and they take a mile.

Give them six inches and they start boiling the water.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day

Thats someone else and not the person who made the thread, this thread is about the creator of the thread and not what someone else got called.. "

Is that how you approach every thread?

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day

Thats someone else and not the person who made the thread, this thread is about the creator of the thread and not what someone else got called..

Is that how you approach every thread?"

Nope, but i do know the context of this thread, and i do know there was no abuse, name calling, agression or anything that remotely resembles anything like that. I also know that because its a woman who said about abuse that was not there it does not matter, everyone will automatically assume the was WAS infact abusive and get a bed name in the site, all becauze a NON abusive text was taken out of context while it was infact just answering a question that was actually asked. Please assume i might know a little more to this thread than might 1st appear.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day

Thats someone else and not the person who made the thread, this thread is about the creator of the thread and not what someone else got called..

Is that how you approach every thread?

Why would anyone assume that? I don't even know who you are. I agree with you that very often threads are started to trigger people or evoke a particular response but I rarely if ever give the expected response regardless of the op's gender.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day

Thats someone else and not the person who made the thread, this thread is about the creator of the thread and not what someone else got called..

Is that how you approach every thread?

I think you may have done more damage to your reputation protesting on this thread than if you’d have kept your head down and said nothing

Sincerely

Knight in Shining Armour

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By *rad25irlMan over a year ago

Carrigaline

"we can't win..

I do the polite ' no thanks enjoy the site' and I'm called a shallow whore, I ignore and get called a ' dirty whore '

I will add not all men are like this thankfully.

im not for everyone but id rather chew my own arm off than behave like that..."

Thanks for acknowledging we’re not all like that

for sure both/all have to connect otherwise there’s not much point… but no need for any rudeness or “bad loser” syndrome … just move on and let all enjoy the site and meets that may happen

Have fun fabbers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of the forms here seem to turn into Drama reading lately

yawnnnnnnnnnnn

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By *indenMan over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

I think the OP was looking for opinions on the subject and others have said when they tried the polite approach they were called whores” so I’m not sure how that could be taken up wrong…

I don’t think the OP was referring to a specific message either, but there are a number of threads on the forum at the moment discussing types, rejection etc., I think there may be some crossover with regards to posts, content and abuse in messages.

Regardless, abuse happens and saying things may be taken out of context, misunderstood or doesn’t happen is bullshit, that’s part of the problem…

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

"Some people seem to be persistent and consistent rejecters and others are persistent and consistent rejectees.

It's all in the wrist movement.

In 5 years I've been told once that I wasn't sometimes type which doesn't really say a lot apart from the fact that I don't have a lot of conversations that require rejection.

Many conversations fizzle out naturally.

I've only been on the other side of the equation twice that I can remember and only one of those turned nasty as a result so I'm not exactly an expert on the subject.

My "type" doesn't wash their laundry in public or need constant validation so there are some very short lived conversations. "

Nice pics and profile.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve been called a few things when I’ve turned people down. You go from being someone they found attractive and wanted to have fun with to being insulted for being fat, ugly, a slag, etc.

I don’t like everything on a menu either. People need to respect the decisions made by the people they message.

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"To abuse someone if your not there type speaks volumes about that person. To get abusive to a stranger on the Internet is mind bogging

But maybe the person was not abusive, insulting, aggressive etc... maybe the person was just taken up wrong?? Or does that not come into it?

I think your clutching at straws here

If someone says no or if they’re not keen, you don’t think “I know what will be hilarious, I’ll call them a slut”

I think you are the one way off the mark here actually, so now its gone from "being agressive etc to name calling and calling the woman a slut"..

Read the thread,a lady got called a whore...

This lady? And thats what we are discussing now?? Are you 100% sure on that??

Good man,have a wonderfull day

Well you said someone was called a whore... who was called a whore??

Like I said,read the thread

Have a lovely day

Thats someone else and not the person who made the thread, this thread is about the creator of the thread and not what someone else got called..

Is that how you approach every thread?

I think you may have done more damage to your reputation protesting on this thread than if you’d have kept your head down and said nothing

Sincerely

Knight in Shining Armour"

Saying that only 1 side is being seen here, and maybe a text was taken out of context does not make is "abuse" because the "abuse" card if used on fabbed at the drop of a hat and people get slated for it when it actually never happens.. thats not "protesting".

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By *indenMan over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Saying that only 1 side is being seen here, and maybe a text was taken out of context does not make is "abuse" because the "abuse" card if used on fabbed at the drop of a hat and people get slated for it when it actually never happens.. thats not "protesting"."

Who’s getting slated for it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve been called a few things when I’ve turned people down. You go from being someone they found attractive and wanted to have fun with to being insulted for being fat, ugly, a slag, etc.

I don’t like everything on a menu either. People need to respect the decisions made by the people they message. "

Just don't take it to heart , you're never gonna meet them so don't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, if a guy messages and makes an effort with the message I try my best to chat for a bit to see if there is a click. I’m fairly honest if they aren’t my type and say as much.

And if my first ever meet off fab had gotten pissy about it, we wouldn’t have met and we wouldn’t be still FBs 2yrs later.

But why do so many men take such offence at this?? Surely it’s accepted that we all have body types we find appealing and some we don’t.

Or can woman just not win?! No matter what. "

Who knows why!

Same for men or women really. I had a woman get pissy earlier that I cancelled a date today as I’m not in the form to be dating

She said I was “obviously rude” while having no idea of how shit a week I’ve had

Then I replied to her saying I didn’t intend to be rude and can’t predict everything. Tjen she says I shouldn’t organise dates if I’m not in the mood for dating

She unmatched before even bothering to get a response that a lot can happen in about 6 days - which was how long ago the date was first organised

And yet I’m “obviously rude”. Some people are just either looking to be annoyed/stupid/inconsiderate

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