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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So my profile and pics are hidden this morning.
I do wonder sometimes how people get on in real life. Woke this morning to find my "actual name" in a status with a reference to my username.
Never interacted with this person so no idea who the guy is but what did he think? I was going to message him all sweetness and light. Now I have nothing to I'm single, I'm a consenting adult hut id prefer that all and sundry don't know my business.
This guy had " Discreet and professional " on his profile too.
Please guys and gals think before you post something at end of day majority of us are here for fun, life is crap enough without the drama |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some people will try and get attention in any way possible. They think they're cool and clever with their shite moves but really they're just exposing themselves as total arseholes. In most cases I'd say let them work away because we get to see how they really operate but actually naming someone like that is all kinds of wrong. I hope you find out who it is and get a chance to tell them face to face that they're a massive cunt  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
He was just a cock for doing that .What did he actually expect to achieve or what does anyone expect to achieve by doing shit like that .It just proves they are untrustworthy and complete and utter arseholes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's probably at the stage now that there are a number of things you don't tell anyone here. Not just for privacy but for personal security too. Unfortunately, I would say that this is more important for women, but it works both ways.
1. Your surname
2. Your mobile number
3. Your address
4. Where you work etc
5. The names of people you know.
The problem is that the people you think you can trust are the same people who may talk to those who will use that information for their own benefit to your detriment.
It's unfortunate and not nice for you DD to have this happen to you. Hopefully, this individual will understand the seriousness of this issue and cease with this behaviour.
Lee
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"It's probably at the stage now that there are a number of things you don't tell anyone here. Not just for privacy but for personal security too. Unfortunately, I would say that this is more important for women, but it works both ways.
1. Your surname
2. Your mobile number
3. Your address
4. Where you work etc
5. The names of people you know.
The problem is that the people you think you can trust are the same people who may talk to those who will use that information for their own benefit to your detriment.
It's unfortunate and not nice for you DD to have this happen to you. Hopefully, this individual will understand the seriousness of this issue and cease with this behaviour.
Lee
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Sadly this is very true  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's probably at the stage now that there are a number of things you don't tell anyone here. Not just for privacy but for personal security too. Unfortunately, I would say that this is more important for women, but it works both ways.
1. Your surname
2. Your mobile number
3. Your address
4. Where you work etc
5. The names of people you know.
The problem is that the people you think you can trust are the same people who may talk to those who will use that information for their own benefit to your detriment.
It's unfortunate and not nice for you DD to have this happen to you. Hopefully, this individual will understand the seriousness of this issue and cease with this behaviour.
Lee
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The funny thing is I have never sooner to this person, no idea who he is, I don't give my number out to anyone, very rarely share my address or surname. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a guy message me regarding having a 3 some with another lady here. He told me her real name, basically her eircode, her daughters names, way too much information for a guy that hadn't even a verification from her.
That's too stalkerish for me!!!
I had to block him. |
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"It's probably at the stage now that there are a number of things you don't tell anyone here. Not just for privacy but for personal security too. Unfortunately, I would say that this is more important for women, but it works both ways.
1. Your surname
2. Your mobile number
3. Your address
4. Where you work etc
5. The names of people you know.
The problem is that the people you think you can trust are the same people who may talk to those who will use that information for their own benefit to your detriment.
It's unfortunate and not nice for you DD to have this happen to you. Hopefully, this individual will understand the seriousness of this issue and cease with this behaviour.
Lee
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This is basically what I was getting at in a thread yesterday.
You don't have to have spoken to people because "lovely genuine" people are very comfortable telling other people's stories and using their real names at social events the people they are discussing aren't attending.
I've been given unsolicited info about fabbers in private messages from people I've never spoken to before on the back of something I posted on here, either because they hope to impress me or to gauge my reaction.
Some of those storytellers are lauded on the forums so I have to assume they have an audience and people are happy to hear the gossip without considering that they may be the subject of that gossip elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's probably at the stage now that there are a number of things you don't tell anyone here. Not just for privacy but for personal security too. Unfortunately, I would say that this is more important for women, but it works both ways.
1. Your surname
2. Your mobile number
3. Your address
4. Where you work etc
5. The names of people you know.
The problem is that the people you think you can trust are the same people who may talk to those who will use that information for their own benefit to your detriment.
It's unfortunate and not nice for you DD to have this happen to you. Hopefully, this individual will understand the seriousness of this issue and cease with this behaviour.
Lee
This is basically what I was getting at in a thread yesterday.
You don't have to have spoken to people because "lovely genuine" people are very comfortable telling other people's stories and using their real names at social events the people they are discussing aren't attending.
I've been given unsolicited info about fabbers in private messages from people I've never spoken to before on the back of something I posted on here, either because they hope to impress me or to gauge my reaction.
Some of those storytellers are lauded on the forums so I have to assume they have an audience and people are happy to hear the gossip without considering that they may be the subject of that gossip elsewhere. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Report. I'm aware of something similar happening to another member and it was quite nasty. It's your business what you tell, and to whom, not anyone else's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That’s shocking DD,
Report him to the powers that be,
Hopefully he will be removed off the site completely! "
Even if they do remove him , to rejoin all he has to do is set up another email account and a different username, these guys know every trick in the book . |
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"So my profile and pics are hidden this morning.
I do wonder sometimes how people get on in real life. Woke this morning to find my "actual name" in a status with a reference to my username.
Never interacted with this person so no idea who the guy is but what did he think? I was going to message him all sweetness and light. Now I have nothing to I'm single, I'm a consenting adult hut id prefer that all and sundry don't know my business.
This guy had " Discreet and professional " on his profile too.
Please guys and gals think before you post something at end of day majority of us are here for fun, life is crap enough without the drama"
If you never interacted with him, how does he know your name?
Could he be someone you had contact with before, who is under a new username maybe?
How long has he been a member? Does that time coincide with the end of contact with anyone?
Very bad form regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So my profile and pics are hidden this morning.
I do wonder sometimes how people get on in real life. Woke this morning to find my "actual name" in a status with a reference to my username.
Never interacted with this person so no idea who the guy is but what did he think? I was going to message him all sweetness and light. Now I have nothing to I'm single, I'm a consenting adult hut id prefer that all and sundry don't know my business.
This guy had " Discreet and professional " on his profile too.
Please guys and gals think before you post something at end of day majority of us are here for fun, life is crap enough without the drama
If you never interacted with him, how does he know your name?
Could he be someone you had contact with before, who is under a new username maybe?
How long has he been a member? Does that time coincide with the end of contact with anyone?
Very bad form regardless."
Honestly no idea |
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That is shite for ya.. I don't know why people feel the need to report to "others" on here, on what people they may know in real life do.. I've had some of that shite happen... & guess what.. I don't care what or who other people do or where they go & If I want others to know who or where I'm playing then that is my story to tell.. My god, what sort of small minded mentality do some of the people in here have..but thanks for posting becaise we all need to be reminded to watch our backs... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What a wanker! This is exactly why when guys ask me what i work at/where i work/live etc i tell them they dont need to know any of that stuff, its irrelevant to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What a wanker! This is exactly why when guys ask me what i work at/where i work/live etc i tell them they dont need to know any of that stuff, its irrelevant to them. "
This
So sorry to hear that DD. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would mail them ask them why . Than report them . "
Waste of time reporting anyone on here, if he get banned from the site most likely he’ll just set up a new profile anyway. |
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"I would mail them ask them why . Than report them . "
Definitely report them. What a shitty thing for someone to do. Makes my blood boil. I’m so sorry to hear that this happened to you. Definitely see if you can have them kicked off here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that. A new law has rightly been passed .Its an offence to so share someones private pictures without their consent. basically naming someone to pics displayed without their agreement should fall under the same category and in my view is therefore an offence too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I’ve made the mistake of letting someone know my name in the past. So she googled me and found a couple of my old Facebook accounts before deciding to meet me in person. Never seen her since and not sure if she’s still on the site or not. She explained that she did it for her own safety at the time, I didn’t think much of it at the time. Needless to say I’ve not done it since. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone for the support, it just shows you can't be too careful on here, the worry is I have no idea who the guy is, we have never spoken on here so no clue how he got my name. His profile is gone and thank to fab admin for sorting it. |
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"Thanks everyone for the support, it just shows you can't be too careful on here, the worry is I have no idea who the guy is, we have never spoken on here so no clue how he got my name. His profile is gone and thank to fab admin for sorting it. "
That makes it even scarier. Perhaps check with Fab admin if exif metadata is stripped from photos before posting here. If not then the probably should be. exif metadata can contain gps coordinates from where a photo was taken. A lot of phones these days add this by default. Best to remove it before posting to be on the safe side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear that DD, a sad individual indeed.
We've stopped giving out both our first names and our location as you can be found easily on social media with these two bits of info."
That’s how I was found on Facebook. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
"Thanks everyone for the support, it just shows you can't be too careful on here, the worry is I have no idea who the guy is, we have never spoken on here so no clue how he got my name. His profile is gone and thank to fab admin for sorting it. "
This site, unlike others I have been on is well run.
Your experience is a warning to us all about a concept called jigsaw identification: using bits of info to build up a complete profile, usually with an ulterior motive.
Take care. |
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"Thanks everyone for the support, it just shows you can't be too careful on here, the worry is I have no idea who the guy is, we have never spoken on here so no clue how he got my name. His profile is gone and thank to fab admin for sorting it.
This site, unlike others I have been on is well run.
Your experience is a warning to us all about a concept called jigsaw identification: using bits of info to build up a complete profile, usually with an ulterior motive.
Take care."
"This site is well run" Really? You do not even need a valid email address to register an account here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So my profile and pics are hidden this morning.
I do wonder sometimes how people get on in real life. Woke this morning to find my "actual name" in a status with a reference to my username.
Never interacted with this person so no idea who the guy is but what did he think? I was going to message him all sweetness and light. Now I have nothing to I'm single, I'm a consenting adult hut id prefer that all and sundry don't know my business.
This guy had " Discreet and professional " on his profile too.
Please guys and gals think before you post something at end of day majority of us are here for fun, life is crap enough without the drama"
I am learning every day that common sense isn't actually that common, but more a rare treasure |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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Your actual name! Along with a reference to your username! That's absolutely despicable behaviour. Unfortunately, as he's not sharing images you specially shared with him, I don't think the new law applies. However, I do think that reporting it to cops is a good idea. Best that they have a record of it as an initial intrusion of privacy so that, hopefully not but, if he does anything similar again, it might then be classified as harassment or the like and he could be prosecuted/cautioned as a result.
Sorry to hear that this happened to you DD. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your actual name! Along with a reference to your username! That's absolutely despicable behaviour. Unfortunately, as he's not sharing images you specially shared with him, I don't think the new law applies. However, I do think that reporting it to cops is a good idea. Best that they have a record of it as an initial intrusion of privacy so that, hopefully not but, if he does anything similar again, it might then be classified as harassment or the like and he could be prosecuted/cautioned as a result.
Sorry to hear that this happened to you DD."
Have no idea who he is jd, never spoken to him or interacted with him. Almost deleted the lot the other day was so annoyed, but I'm single I've nothing to hide and I'm not exactly swinger of the year, I'm the least swinging person on here. So off with him, |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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"Your actual name! Along with a reference to your username! That's absolutely despicable behaviour. Unfortunately, as he's not sharing images you specially shared with him, I don't think the new law applies. However, I do think that reporting it to cops is a good idea. Best that they have a record of it as an initial intrusion of privacy so that, hopefully not but, if he does anything similar again, it might then be classified as harassment or the like and he could be prosecuted/cautioned as a result.
Sorry to hear that this happened to you DD.
Have no idea who he is jd, never spoken to him or interacted with him. Almost deleted the lot the other day was so annoyed, but I'm single I've nothing to hide and I'm not exactly swinger of the year, I'm the least swinging person on here. So off with him, "
Never let them grind you down
I'd still log it with the Gardai though |
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"So my profile and pics are hidden this morning.
I do wonder sometimes how people get on in real life. Woke this morning to find my "actual name" in a status with a reference to my username.
Never interacted with this person so no idea who the guy is but what did he think? I was going to message him all sweetness and light. Now I have nothing to I'm single, I'm a consenting adult hut id prefer that all and sundry don't know my business.
This guy had " Discreet and professional " on his profile too.
Please guys and gals think before you post something at end of day majority of us are here for fun, life is crap enough without the drama"
Did you ever do anything about this or report it to admin ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So my profile and pics are hidden this morning.
I do wonder sometimes how people get on in real life. Woke this morning to find my "actual name" in a status with a reference to my username.
Never interacted with this person so no idea who the guy is but what did he think? I was going to message him all sweetness and light. Now I have nothing to I'm single, I'm a consenting adult hut id prefer that all and sundry don't know my business.
This guy had " Discreet and professional " on his profile too.
Please guys and gals think before you post something at end of day majority of us are here for fun, life is crap enough without the drama
Did you ever do anything about this or report it to admin ? "
Yes I reported it on here to admin. |
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By *ancy38Woman
over a year ago
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"So my profile and pics are hidden this morning.
I do wonder sometimes how people get on in real life. Woke this morning to find my "actual name" in a status with a reference to my username.
Never interacted with this person so no idea who the guy is but what did he think? I was going to message him all sweetness and light. Now I have nothing to I'm single, I'm a consenting adult hut id prefer that all and sundry don't know my business.
This guy had " Discreet and professional " on his profile too.
Please guys and gals think before you post something at end of day majority of us are here for fun, life is crap enough without the drama"
My eyes are wide opened now after a bad experience I had recently. My naivety with being new here, I thought everyone thought like me to keep all others business on here a secret and non of my business! Not going into the details but some men are real assholes when it comes to fab and secrecy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your actual name! Along with a reference to your username! That's absolutely despicable behaviour. Unfortunately, as he's not sharing images you specially shared with him, I don't think the new law applies. However, I do think that reporting it to cops is a good idea. Best that they have a record of it as an initial intrusion of privacy so that, hopefully not but, if he does anything similar again, it might then be classified as harassment or the like and he could be prosecuted/cautioned as a result.
Sorry to hear that this happened to you DD.
Have no idea who he is jd, never spoken to him or interacted with him. Almost deleted the lot the other day was so annoyed, but I'm single I've nothing to hide and I'm not exactly swinger of the year, I'm the least swinging person on here. So off with him,
Never let them grind you down
I'd still log it with the Gardai though "
Already logged with the Fab Gardai
Still under investigation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So my profile and pics are hidden this morning.
I do wonder sometimes how people get on in real life. Woke this morning to find my "actual name" in a status with a reference to my username.
Never interacted with this person so no idea who the guy is but what did he think? I was going to message him all sweetness and light. Now I have nothing to I'm single, I'm a consenting adult hut id prefer that all and sundry don't know my business.
This guy had " Discreet and professional " on his profile too.
Please guys and gals think before you post something at end of day majority of us are here for fun, life is crap enough without the drama"
They know you in the real world Devine and are just trying to be assholes and freak you out !
Fuck them |
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