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"I think it can be, yes. Sometimes you meet a woman who doesn't realise how attractive she is and I find it way sexier than someone who loves the bones off themselves." I think there's a difference between someone being unaware of their appeal and being actively lacking in self - confidence. The latter can be very draining and even toxic if they are constantly needing external validation | |||
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"I don't think shyness or confidence is something that would turn me on or off. Its more about the person as a whole. People are a sum of their experiences and great people can be beaten down into shyness because of bad experiences, when deep down they have a lot to offer."  | |||
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Just recognize what your strengths and weaknesses are. Try to find ways to improve on those weaknesses, or accept that there are things you can't change and realise that it is what makes you unique... | |||
"I don't think shyness or confidence is something that would turn me on or off. Its more about the person as a whole. People are a sum of their experiences and great people can be beaten down into shyness because of bad experiences, when deep down they have a lot to offer. "100% | |||
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"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above" Do you find low self confidence attractive? | |||
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"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive?" Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse, | |||
"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse," Well then surely if you act more confident then you become more attractive | |||
"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse," People can find us unattractive for lots of different reasons, confidence has to come from within, not as a result of how we may be perceived by others. | |||
"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse, People can find us unattractive for lots of different reasons, confidence has to come from within, not as a result of how we may be perceived by others. " Yes it comes from within but unfortunately external factors dies effect it at times. | |||
"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse," But not being attracted to that one trait which was the question asked in the thread doesn't mean that person can't have other attractive qualities. I didnt ask if you found it unattractive btw I asked if you found it attractive? There is a big difference | |||
"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse, But not being attracted to that one trait which was the question asked in the thread doesn't mean that person can't have other attractive qualities. I didnt ask if you found it unattractive btw I asked if you found it attractive? There is a big difference " Its not something I would be attracted to or not attracted to there are far more qualities I would look at before I would consider self confidence important. Than again I do find people with huge egos unattractive | |||
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"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse, But not being attracted to that one trait which was the question asked in the thread doesn't mean that person can't have other attractive qualities. I didnt ask if you found it unattractive btw I asked if you found it attractive? There is a big difference Its not something I would be attracted to or not attracted to there are far more qualities I would look at before I would consider self confidence important. Than again I do find people with huge egos unattractive " Let me explain a bit more x I have quite low confidence and self-esteem myself, and I don't like it in myself, but I try not to let it get to me - I would try very hard not to put myself down in front of others. There's low self-confidence and then there are people who are constantly putting themselves down, and over time that can be very wearing, especially if you're in a relationship with them. So I suppose I go on a date with someone and all they do is talk negatively about themselves I won't meet them again. Its nearly as bad as the ones who don't stop bragging! | |||
"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse, But not being attracted to that one trait which was the question asked in the thread doesn't mean that person can't have other attractive qualities. I didnt ask if you found it unattractive btw I asked if you found it attractive? There is a big difference Its not something I would be attracted to or not attracted to there are far more qualities I would look at before I would consider self confidence important. Than again I do find people with huge egos unattractive Let me explain a bit more x I have quite low confidence and self-esteem myself, and I don't like it in myself, but I try not to let it get to me - I would try very hard not to put myself down in front of others. There's low self-confidence and then there are people who are constantly putting themselves down, and over time that can be very wearing, especially if you're in a relationship with them. So I suppose I go on a date with someone and all they do is talk negatively about themselves I won't meet them again. Its nearly as bad as the ones who don't stop bragging! " Have to day I've only encountered the ones who talk about themselves | |||
"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse, But not being attracted to that one trait which was the question asked in the thread doesn't mean that person can't have other attractive qualities. I didnt ask if you found it unattractive btw I asked if you found it attractive? There is a big difference Its not something I would be attracted to or not attracted to there are far more qualities I would look at before I would consider self confidence important. Than again I do find people with huge egos unattractive Let me explain a bit more x I have quite low confidence and self-esteem myself, and I don't like it in myself, but I try not to let it get to me - I would try very hard not to put myself down in front of others. There's low self-confidence and then there are people who are constantly putting themselves down, and over time that can be very wearing, especially if you're in a relationship with them. So I suppose I go on a date with someone and all they do is talk negatively about themselves I won't meet them again. Its nearly as bad as the ones who don't stop bragging! " You’ve got a really, really, really fantastic figure, I don’t understand the low confidence and self-esteem from you. Very surprising.  I’m missing something aren’t I. | |||
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"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse, But not being attracted to that one trait which was the question asked in the thread doesn't mean that person can't have other attractive qualities. I didnt ask if you found it unattractive btw I asked if you found it attractive? There is a big difference Its not something I would be attracted to or not attracted to there are far more qualities I would look at before I would consider self confidence important. Than again I do find people with huge egos unattractive Let me explain a bit more x I have quite low confidence and self-esteem myself, and I don't like it in myself, but I try not to let it get to me - I would try very hard not to put myself down in front of others. There's low self-confidence and then there are people who are constantly putting themselves down, and over time that can be very wearing, especially if you're in a relationship with them. So I suppose I go on a date with someone and all they do is talk negatively about themselves I won't meet them again. Its nearly as bad as the ones who don't stop bragging! Have to day I've only encountered the ones who talk about themselves " Would it make a difference if someone you met for the first time at a social sat down and said I want to hear about you. Talk about yourself for 5 minutes. Would you find it unnerving? | |||
"I have some self confidence but I struggle with it too and it's kind of sad to see the comments above Do you find low self confidence attractive? Anyone I chat to that says they have low confidence I usually tell them they shouldn't feel that way etc so no I don't find it unattractive we all have insecurities that's part of what makes us who we are. To think someone would find me unattractive because I have low self confidence would make me feel worse, But not being attracted to that one trait which was the question asked in the thread doesn't mean that person can't have other attractive qualities. I didnt ask if you found it unattractive btw I asked if you found it attractive? There is a big difference Its not something I would be attracted to or not attracted to there are far more qualities I would look at before I would consider self confidence important. Than again I do find people with huge egos unattractive Let me explain a bit more x I have quite low confidence and self-esteem myself, and I don't like it in myself, but I try not to let it get to me - I would try very hard not to put myself down in front of others. There's low self-confidence and then there are people who are constantly putting themselves down, and over time that can be very wearing, especially if you're in a relationship with them. So I suppose I go on a date with someone and all they do is talk negatively about themselves I won't meet them again. Its nearly as bad as the ones who don't stop bragging! You’ve got a really, really, really fantastic figure, I don’t understand the low confidence and self-esteem from you. Very surprising. I’m missing something aren’t I. "Why is it that there are many, who equate having low self confidence or self esteem with physical appearance? I'm sure that the media has a lot to answer for where physical "beauty" is concerned (which is a very subjective in itself). Many, many women, and men, suffer as a result, thinking they have to look like whatever celebrities are making the front page at the moment, be super skinny, athletic or whatever is "in" at the moment! Self confidence comes from within, from being content with who you are, as a person. I'm sure that we all have something that we're not happy with in our appearance. And at the end of the day, if the only reason someone is meeting you, dating you, fucking you, or whatever, is for your external appearance, rather than because of many other factors which make up chemistry and attraction, then those people are sad and shallow individuals. I agree with Isserley and DD. Of course, external factors can knock us in our confidence, and should too - that's where character growth happens. It's about finding that happy medium of not being too needy in constant external validation but not being an overconfident bitch or prick who thinks they're better than everyone else or puts others down. | |||
"You’ve got a really, really, really fantastic figure, I don’t understand the low confidence and self-esteem from you. Very surprising. I’m missing something aren’t I. "Self confidence and self esteem have fuckall to do with how attractive other people think someone might look. It's not even necessarily to do with how attractive an individual feels themselves. It comes from the mind not the body. | |||
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"You’ve got a really, really, really fantastic figure, I don’t understand the low confidence and self-esteem from you. Very surprising. I’m missing something aren’t I.
Self confidence and self esteem have fuckall to do with how attractive other people think someone might look. It's not even necessarily to do with how attractive an individual feels themselves. It comes from the mind not the body."Totally agree. | |||
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"Shyness is fine. Low self esteem is baggage that needs unloading and is best sorted through by yourself." With professional assistance if necessary | |||
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