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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yea absolutely. We have met some amazing friends on fab that are now part of our “normal life”
You meet friends and connect with people through all stages of your life. We just so happened to have met them on this site. However, if I met them at an art class or gym etc I know I would have become friends with them too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes 100% I have made some very good friends on fab. Been on holidays with one.
Why not? Can make friends anywhere , heck I met a friend in Berlin Airport on a stop over, completely random we got talking in the bathroom ( as us women do) and she's one of my best friends now.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Questions: Do you think being actual friends on Fab is possible? And if so how or why?"
Yes it is. I have a couple of really good friends from fab, one or two I haven't played with, but have become friends with nonetheless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely.....a few will sneer and say no ....its a sex site but its whatever you make of it.
Devine is my best friend on fab and is a friend in real life "
Ah right back at ya xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a woman from Fab, she happened to be local so I was quite hesitant, but I would consider her to be a life long close friend now, so it does happen OP  |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
I'd find it strange if anyone said it's not possible for people to be friends. There will be people who won't have an interest, but that's different.
I do think it would be good if on profiles there was a "looking for/open to" option that listed friendships, relationship, casual etc.
Now, you'd still get people lying just to get the ride but you'll never stop that either. |
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By *t777 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'd find it strange if anyone said it's not possible for people to be friends. There will be people who won't have an interest, but that's different.
I do think it would be good if on profiles there was a "looking for/open to" option that listed friendships, relationship, casual etc.
Now, you'd still get people lying just to get the ride but you'll never stop that either. "
What a great idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've made some amazing friends for life from Fab. I don't necessarily fuck them all but I've still made great connections and friendships. I love my little Fab family!
I joined this as a hook up site never entered my head that I would develop such close female friends. |
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It's more than possible once you sort the wheat from the chaff.
I've made great friends through here some of who have left the site for various reasons but we are still very much in touch.
There will always be some people though who are very good at playing the part but it's only a matter of time before their true intentions shine through.
Some are very obvious while others play the numbers game and the perceived popularity game to great effect.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anywhere people meet its possible for friendships to form.
The type of friendship might vary, as some have said they could be superficial, or focus on a shared interest, or be people you like to have a laugh with at socials but dont see much of otherwise.
"When we understand the old adage, 3 types of friendships –reason, season, and lifetime – it explains why we meet friends, how we keep friends but also why we lose friends through change."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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100% think you can be friends on here. Not talking about friends with benefits either. I have some people I just chat to on here or elsewhere from the site. |
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By *t777 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's more than possible once you sort the wheat from the chaff.
I've made great friends through here some of who have left the site for various reasons but we are still very much in touch.
There will always be some people though who are very good at playing the part but it's only a matter of time before their true intentions shine through.
Some are very obvious while others play the numbers game and the perceived popularity game to great effect.
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This is so true |
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By *t777 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Anywhere people meet its possible for friendships to form.
The type of friendship might vary, as some have said they could be superficial, or focus on a shared interest, or be people you like to have a laugh with at socials but dont see much of otherwise.
"When we understand the old adage, 3 types of friendships –reason, season, and lifetime – it explains why we meet friends, how we keep friends but also why we lose friends through change."
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Reason, season, and lifetime..... this describes friends perfectly |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
I've made some great friends over my 10 years here so far. Some have come and gone for varying reasons and some I truly believe to be lifelong friends that we have already helped eachother through tough times. I feel once you are honest and open with people true friendship is always possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had coffee with a old Fab fuck buddy last night. There's no longer a spark there but we catch up regularly for coffee and always have the best craic reminiscing about our Fab frolics. |
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Oh absolutely. I have made friends here. Just because it’s a swingers site does not mean you can’t become friends. Just like the golf club or tennis club etc we have something in common straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes indeed you can. Some more social friends some personal. Like anywhere else you can loose them too, some move on, some remain as friends outside of fab. |
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Yes ofcourse I've made lots of friends on fab we don't have to talk allday everyday but I certainly know they are there if I need them!
I've met lots off the back of groups or forums...surely it's nice to fit in and make friends and meet for lunch or coffee on the odd occasion for nights out!
Making fabfriends for me is more important than meeting for fun...fun is a bonus along the way! If it happens it happens! No biggy if it doesn't! X cj x |
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By *unnerbenMan
over a year ago
Dublin / Cork |
100 per cent it’s possible to be friends on fab . I have friends on fab that I knew before we were on fab and it’s always hot seeing their new hot pics and playing together occasionally . Also I have made friends from fab and some of these ppl I have been friends with for years and I am in regular contact with and would consider them as much friends as as those from outside fab . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes for sure, the same as in any part of your life. It's been great to have new friendships arise from here. It's something I never expected when we started out but it's very much valued
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it is, but just as in real life, lots of superficial interaction, true friends are few and far between.
Deep!"
As an introvert, I don't have much use for superficial relationships |
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By *t777 OP Woman
over a year ago
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I've found that it's hard to find very good friends that you can trust on here. Yes we all make friends of a certain kind but one's you can rely on seem to be very few, obviously just in my opinion and experience that is. I'm hoping the longer I am on here the more this opinion will change. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
I am writing this, not having read other posts other than the OP's.
I am firmly convinced that once one has proved one's worth, in terms of discretion,reliability and confidentiality that true friendships are possible on this site; principally because one is interacting with like-minded people whose values accord with my own.
Many short-termers come here with the erroneous impression that sex is available at the snap of their fingers; but the realise that respect has to be earned, and that in-depth sharing of attitudes and experiences is the norm, rather than an expectation of instant sexual gratification.
I am away all day, every day and my first port of call every evening is Fab.  |
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By *heilsWoman
over a year ago
Midlands |
I met the best friend I've ever had thru fab....if a day goes by that we don't message, I feel like something is missing. Also made a few other very good friends, men and women who I feel extremely lucky to know and call friends. Meeting like-minded people that you can be open and honest with is refreshing. |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
Gods Own Country |
"Questions: Do you think being actual friends on Fab is possible? And if so how or why?"
Absolutely, I have several and we keep in weekly contact through WhatsApp or social media. It's a mutual respect and understanding, being there for a simple hello or to discuss troubles etc and be a listening ear for each other.
Sometimes Fab can be a little more than just a play ground  |
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"I've found that it's hard to find very good friends that you can trust on here. Yes we all make friends of a certain kind but one's you can rely on seem to be very few, obviously just in my opinion and experience that is. I'm hoping the longer I am on here the more this opinion will change."
Trust is very important in a proper friendship even if you don't live in each others pockets.
On a site like this where optics are important many friendships are flaky because often others use them as the next step on the ladder before moving on to their next bestie.
I keep my circle small and chat to less than a handful. Last year was good for cutting loose the spongers and hangers-on.
I don't believe in the fab community mantra because if people contact me through something I've said on the forums with unsolicited private information about other fabbers I often wonder how those "friends" they are telling me about would feel if they knew their info was being passed around?
Why someone I've never spoken to before would think that telling me who's stalking who and who's been shagging others in their home without their knowledge would encourage me to trust them or be their friend I'll never know but that's the wonderful world of fab friendship.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've found that it's hard to find very good friends that you can trust on here. Yes we all make friends of a certain kind but one's you can rely on seem to be very few, obviously just in my opinion and experience that is. I'm hoping the longer I am on here the more this opinion will change.
Trust is very important in a proper friendship even if you don't live in each others pockets.
On a site like this where optics are important many friendships are flaky because often others use them as the next step on the ladder before moving on to their next bestie.
I keep my circle small and chat to less than a handful. Last year was good for cutting loose the spongers and hangers-on.
I don't believe in the fab community mantra because if people contact me through something I've said on the forums with unsolicited private information about other fabbers I often wonder how those "friends" they are telling me about would feel if they knew their info was being passed around?
Why someone I've never spoken to before would think that telling me who's stalking who and who's been shagging others in their home without their knowledge would encourage me to trust them or be their friend I'll never know but that's the wonderful world of fab friendship.
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Hear hear, idle gossip is the same on or off fab, currency offered by people with nothing of interest to say otherwise  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've found that it's hard to find very good friends that you can trust on here. Yes we all make friends of a certain kind but one's you can rely on seem to be very few, obviously just in my opinion and experience that is. I'm hoping the longer I am on here the more this opinion will change.
Trust is very important in a proper friendship even if you don't live in each others pockets.
On a site like this where optics are important many friendships are flaky because often others use them as the next step on the ladder before moving on to their next bestie.
I keep my circle small and chat to less than a handful. Last year was good for cutting loose the spongers and hangers-on.
I don't believe in the fab community mantra because if people contact me through something I've said on the forums with unsolicited private information about other fabbers I often wonder how those "friends" they are telling me about would feel if they knew their info was being passed around?
Why someone I've never spoken to before would think that telling me who's stalking who and who's been shagging others in their home without their knowledge would encourage me to trust them or be their friend I'll never know but that's the wonderful world of fab friendship.
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This is one of the reasons we keep ourselves to ourselves. |
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"Trust is very important in a proper friendship even if you don't live in each others pockets.
On a site like this where optics are important many friendships are flaky because often others use them as the next step on the ladder before moving on to their next bestie.
I keep my circle small and chat to less than a handful. Last year was good for cutting loose the spongers and hangers-on.
I don't believe in the fab community mantra because if people contact me through something I've said on the forums with unsolicited private information about other fabbers I often wonder how those "friends" they are telling me about would feel if they knew their info was being passed around?
Why someone I've never spoken to before would think that telling me who's stalking who and who's been shagging others in their home without their knowledge would encourage me to trust them or be their friend I'll never know but that's the wonderful world of fab friendship.
This is one of the reasons we keep ourselves to ourselves. "
We all live and learn, and I for one am thankful for learning |
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By *t777 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've found that it's hard to find very good friends that you can trust on here. Yes we all make friends of a certain kind but one's you can rely on seem to be very few, obviously just in my opinion and experience that is. I'm hoping the longer I am on here the more this opinion will change.
Trust is very important in a proper friendship even if you don't live in each others pockets.
On a site like this where optics are important many friendships are flaky because often others use them as the next step on the ladder before moving on to their next bestie.
I keep my circle small and chat to less than a handful. Last year was good for cutting loose the spongers and hangers-on.
I don't believe in the fab community mantra because if people contact me through something I've said on the forums with unsolicited private information about other fabbers I often wonder how those "friends" they are telling me about would feel if they knew their info was being passed around?
Why someone I've never spoken to before would think that telling me who's stalking who and who's been shagging others in their home without their knowledge would encourage me to trust them or be their friend I'll never know but that's the wonderful world of fab friendship.
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So true and thank you x |
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By *t777 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've met and made great friends here and a few are part of my every day life whom I love dearly. I'm actually off to spend a very vanilla weekend with 2 of the closest girls I've met here. Id of left fab yrs ago if it wasn't for my partner in crime she leads me astray  "
Absolutely but so much fun x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Over the years I have made many friend in the lifestyle...not all lifestyle friends have to be play friends...no strangers on Fab, just friends you have not met. |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
"I've found that it's hard to find very good friends that you can trust on here. Yes we all make friends of a certain kind but one's you can rely on seem to be very few, obviously just in my opinion and experience that is. I'm hoping the longer I am on here the more this opinion will change.
Trust is very important in a proper friendship even if you don't live in each others pockets.
On a site like this where optics are important many friendships are flaky because often others use them as the next step on the ladder before moving on to their next bestie.
I keep my circle small and chat to less than a handful. Last year was good for cutting loose the spongers and hangers-on.
I don't believe in the fab community mantra because if people contact me through something I've said on the forums with unsolicited private information about other fabbers I often wonder how those "friends" they are telling me about would feel if they knew their info was being passed around?
Why someone I've never spoken to before would think that telling me who's stalking who and who's been shagging others in their home without their knowledge would encourage me to trust them or be their friend I'll never know but that's the wonderful world of fab friendship.
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This happens in all walks of life unfortunately. Not just fab. We all learn who our true friends are and who to keep at an arms length. |
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"..no strangers on Fab, just friends you have not met."
I disagree with this to some extent. I don't claim to be infallible and I've chatted to and met people who I classed as friends only to have something we had discussed in private repeated to me in a forum comment by another fabber.
Obviously an attempt by that person to show they are in the know but in doing so have shown me that the person I called my friend was actually a complete stranger.
Fab is full of storytellers and for some it's their USP which is fine when it's their own story they are telling.
When you sit in a group social and listen to some holding court and not only telling all within earshot the real names of other fabbers who aren't even there but non fab related tales involving those friends of theirs, it reminds you why you keep your circle small.
Some might be ok with that definition of a shallow tenuous friendship but I'd rather talk to people I can trust.
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"Yes 100% I have made some very good friends on fab. Been on holidays with one.
Why not? Can make friends anywhere , heck I met a friend in Berlin Airport on a stop over, completely random we got talking in the bathroom ( as us women do) and she's one of my best friends now.
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This is so nice!
We can find great people everywhere!
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
OP as I said earlier I do think you can make friends on fab but I also think it's one of the worst places to go if you're goal is to make friends. I can think of far better alternatives and more productive uses of your time if someone is looking to grow their social circle.
I've always said a mutual interest in sex isnt a great foundation for a friendship as it is a mutual interest shared by nearly everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had lunch with 6 fab friends today and was such a laugh and I now have more ducks to my collection. Than this evening I spent time in company of a few more fabbers at a family thing and it has been an absolute lovely day and I'm glad to say I have some amazing friends xx |
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Yes its possible to make friends here. I have. Those people i call friends have my number, speak on whats app or on my fb. Know my personal business. However as happens in all walks of life not just fab when my personal business gets back to me from people i havent told it to then it makes me question where the trust is and who i need to cut out of my life! Also some friends ive made crept up on me unexpectedly and i hope theyll stay in our lives on or off fab and they know who they are xx |
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I met 6 fab friends today too.
No, I don't talk to them on daily basis, not even weekly, but that's what friends are - people who don't get upset over long times of silence and who can pick up things from where you left them with no grudges or bad vibes.
People who love you and support you and care for you.
People, who you would never dream of harming and you know damn well will never harm you.
Oh, who can also share a laugh and vent
I had a very good day 
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
where the wild roses grow |
"Jayus no, billy no mates here  cant even get a ride on here ffs "
Have you still got that bag CJ? If so DH might give you a pity shag,
If not you could always give Fooey or MmC a shout  |
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"I met 6 fab friends today too.
No, I don't talk to them on daily basis, not even weekly, but that's what friends are - people who don't get upset over long times of silence and who can pick up things from where you left them with no grudges or bad vibes.
People who love you and support you and care for you.
People, who you would never dream of harming and you know damn well will never harm you.
Oh, who can also share a laugh and vent
I had a very good day
Missus "
Thats the best type of friends Missus. |
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"I had lunch with 6 fab friends today and was such a laugh and I now have more ducks to my collection. Than this evening I spent time in company of a few more fabbers at a family thing and it has been an absolute lovely day and I'm glad to say I have some amazing friends xx"
Glad you had a good day DD. I had a good day too. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Jayus no, billy no mates here cant even get a ride on here ffs
Have you still got that bag CJ? If so DH might give you a pity shag,
If not you could always give Fooey or MmC a shout "
I have two of them just incase one falls off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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is this a shallow remark...? many tell many they are great cause they have a second agenda. some people are genuine most are blind and gullible cause it makes them feel they belong or wanted which is only human and understandable. I say keep your eyes open and ask yourself will they really help you if you need help(in a non sexual way ) |
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"is this a shallow remark...? many tell many they are great cause they have a second agenda. some people are genuine most are blind and gullible cause it makes them feel they belong or wanted which is only human and understandable. I say keep your eyes open and ask yourself will they really help you if you need help(in a non sexual way )"
Knowing that we never even planned to have sex with most of people we call friends and they never planned to have sex with us, knowing that they've been there for us in good and bad times - yes, it's safe to say there is no second agenda.
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
Dunboyne |
"I met 6 fab friends today too.
No, I don't talk to them on daily basis, not even weekly, but that's what friends are - people who don't get upset over long times of silence and who can pick up things from where you left them with no grudges or bad vibes.
People who love you and support you and care for you.
People, who you would never dream of harming and you know damn well will never harm you.
Oh, who can also share a laugh and vent
I had a very good day
Missus "
This
These are the only people I consider true friends. Some I haven't seen in almost 2yrs but know that it'll be like we saw each other yesterday, when we do meet up in the coming months. We just know each others personalities and the catch up fills in the details of what's happened in each others lives since we last spoke.
No hangups, no "why didn't you call me" bs, no one upmanship. Just genuine delight at being able to reconnect.
Haven't found that on Fab myself yet, though there's one or two I could see it getting to that point, all going well.
It can happen anywhere and just be open and honest with people and you increase the chances of it happening |
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Absolutely you can make friends here. Some are too busy with other things in their lives that they can’t give Fab all their attention all of the time or be messaging all the time and others use it a lot. But isn’t that what happens with friends ? We all have busy lives and we know our true friends will be glad to see us when we are able to see them and understand. I’ve been lucky to make a few good friends here. Life is short make the best of it |
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"Questions: Do you think being actual friends on Fab is possible? And if so how or why?"
It's 100% possible. Including you, there are at least three people on this thread who I would consider to be friends and I know if I got to meet any one of you in person, for any reason, I would enjoy just being in yours or their company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"is this a shallow remark...? many tell many they are great cause they have a second agenda. some people are genuine most are blind and gullible cause it makes them feel they belong or wanted which is only human and understandable. I say keep your eyes open and ask yourself will they really help you if you need help(in a non sexual way )
Knowing that we never even planned to have sex with most of people we call friends and they never planned to have sex with us, knowing that they've been there for us in good and bad times - yes, it's safe to say there is no second agenda.
thats great
Missus "
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By *asual777Man
over a year ago
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It’s absolutely possible to feel affection and care towards other fabbers .
Sure you can say there are parts of you you only reveal to non fabbers , but there parts of you as a person it’s much easier to reveal to people on here as the wider society might not accept them very easily |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a lifestyle so why wouldn't u make friends?
I have some very good friends from swinging as they don't judge as much as vanilla friends.
I have a few friends even post on this
Roxy x |
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By *ancy38Woman
over a year ago
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I'm in the process of it. Was very nervous at first but ive now met a few on here that I am comfortable with and hope to be good friends. I can't see why one can not make friends on here. It's a place where you meet people with same interests as you and share there time together. |
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By *t777 OP Woman
over a year ago
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This is such an uplifting thread, I'm so glad for everyone who find lifetime friends, they are all definitely worth it. I've found some myself whom I can trust with my life and know that they would be there for me if I should so need them and visa versa. They so make life worth living. Well done everyone xx |
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"Questions: Do you think being actual friends on Fab is possible? And if so how or why?"
Yes defo its the same as any other group or interest community. If you click and get on with others theres the possibility of friendship be in normal or fun fun friendship. I’ve met people before trough fab and am still good friends with them some still here some not still here.
I think theres a stigma or opinion that you can’t make friends on here. |
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