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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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While an important part of arranging a meet, or getting verified, meeting for just a cuppa itself, with no intent to lead on to something else I feel is underrated. So putting it out there for anyone who just fancies a time out and a bit of a natter - why not just meet up with each other for a bit of chat? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definitely feel they are underrated, love a good coffee some cake and good chats and giggles , it's good for the soul"
Yep, doesn't necessarily need to have an "end product". Though cake is probably the missing link lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always presume that the first meet will be a social chat, bonus if there is cake as I do love me some cake.
If things don't click then there should be no pressure to do anything else, just leave it there and move on. Sure you could end up friends even (without benefits) which is nice as well. |
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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago
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Why would someone join a swingers site,just to meet someone for a coffee?
Surely meeting someone through fab for a coffee,is to get a feeling for that person,to see if both wish to take things further?
If you don't wish to meet for the possibility of being intimate,then surely you would have a much better response on some non swinger/sex related meet up site?
That's my thoughts on the matter anyway
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"Why would someone join a swingers site,just to meet someone for a coffee?
Surely meeting someone through fab for a coffee,is to get a feeling for that person,to see if both wish to take things further?
If you don't wish to meet for the possibility of being intimate,then surely you would have a much better response on some non swinger/sex related meet up site?
That's my thoughts on the matter anyway
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It's about levels of expectation. How often had it been said that just because someone agrees to meet doesn't mean they are agreeing to shag and men are told to approach as if they are in a pub or coffee shop.
I've met people when we both knew beforehand that geography and time restrictions meant it would never lead to anything more than a coffee and some of my best friends through fab were through no pressure coffee meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would someone join a swingers site,just to meet someone for a coffee?
Surely meeting someone through fab for a coffee,is to get a feeling for that person,to see if both wish to take things further?
If you don't wish to meet for the possibility of being intimate,then surely you would have a much better response on some non swinger/sex related meet up site?
That's my thoughts on the matter anyway
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I have met a few with the initial thought of maybe taking it further but no attraction etc and one of two of the guys have turned into very good friends so why not.
Everyone is here for different reasons and it's their fab journey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's wonderful Op you see it as just coffee and a chat. I've had few occasions where men thought coffee equals a car meet for a blowjob. One guy complained he'd come all this week (20 mins) would I not get into the car to blow him as this was Fab after all and there didn't need to be a attraction for me. So I'm very cautious now about who I get coffee with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee. "
I drove to kildare before xmas for lunch with 3 fabbers and back home after but I'm nice like that |
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We didnt join fab *just* for coffee meets but having met a couple we get along with, we've met them for lunch and a chat with no play and none expected. It's an opportunity to chat about the lifestyle with others cos it's not exactly something you're gonna bring up with your mates down the pub
Coffee meets have their advantages for those who want to chat with others and create a network of friends. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee.
I drove to kildare before xmas for lunch with 3 fabbers and back home after but I'm nice like that "
At least 2 of those fabbers are amazing sexy people ....  |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee. "
So if a woman over an hour away said that she'd like to meet you for a social coffee to see if you clicked to have a play meet the next time....you'd say no
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee.
So if a woman over an hour away said that she'd like to meet you for a social coffee to see if you clicked to have a play meet the next time....you'd say no
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yea, unless I was in that area for something else for eg, in Dublin on a message and arranged to meet a woman for a tea coffee while up there. I have a way to busy life outside of work to be travelling over an hour for a cup of tea/coffee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee.
So if a woman over an hour away said that she'd like to meet you for a social coffee to see if you clicked to have a play meet the next time....you'd say no
yea, unless I was in that area for something else for eg, in Dublin on a message and arranged to meet a woman for a tea coffee while up there. I have a way to busy life outside of work to be travelling over an hour for a cup of tea/coffee. "
That says it all doesn't it, if I was interested enough in a guy and thought we would get on I'd travel for a cuppa and a chat to make sure there was am attraction in person. What happens you agree to meet someone for fun without ever meeting and get to the hotel and there's attraction you going to treat her like any hole  |
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee.
So if a woman over an hour away said that she'd like to meet you for a social coffee to see if you clicked to have a play meet the next time....you'd say no
yea, unless I was in that area for something else for eg, in Dublin on a message and arranged to meet a woman for a tea coffee while up there. I have a way to busy life outside of work to be travelling over an hour for a cup of tea/coffee.
That says it all doesn't it, if I was interested enough in a guy and thought we would get on I'd travel for a cuppa and a chat to make sure there was am attraction in person. What happens you agree to meet someone for fun without ever meeting and get to the hotel and there's attraction you going to treat her like any hole "
no, you just meet people at shorter distances. also everybody doesn't need a tea coffee. I spoke to 2 women on here before covid who don't do tea coffee meets at all. they video chat on kik etc. |
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee.
So if a woman over an hour away said that she'd like to meet you for a social coffee to see if you clicked to have a play meet the next time....you'd say no
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I would say no. I insist on a social so any coffee meet will always be arranged with no expectations.
I definitely wouldn't travel for more than an hour. If someone is interested in meeting me then I expect them to make the same effort.
With distance comes greater expectation. I've driven up to 3 hours each way for a coffee but that gave the woman the impression I would be happy to have sex with her and make my trip worthwhile and on other occasions there was a "you've done it once so why won't you do it again?" attitude.
I'm more than happy to meet just for a coffee but only for those with no expectations beyond that. |
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for eg if I was meeting a woman from dublin on here and she'd meet me half way, it would be under an hour. alot of women on here expect you to drive to them. it's a 2 way street with equal effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee.
So if a woman over an hour away said that she'd like to meet you for a social coffee to see if you clicked to have a play meet the next time....you'd say no
yea, unless I was in that area for something else for eg, in Dublin on a message and arranged to meet a woman for a tea coffee while up there. I have a way to busy life outside of work to be travelling over an hour for a cup of tea/coffee.
That says it all doesn't it, if I was interested enough in a guy and thought we would get on I'd travel for a cuppa and a chat to make sure there was am attraction in person. What happens you agree to meet someone for fun without ever meeting and get to the hotel and there's attraction you going to treat her like any hole no, you just meet people at shorter distances. also everybody doesn't need a tea coffee. I spoke to 2 women on here before covid who don't do tea coffee meets at all. they video chat on kik etc."
Fair play to them after a few nasty rejections on here I would not meet someone for sex without having met them before. |
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"coffee/ tea meets are grand but no way would I drive over an hour for just a coffee.
So if a woman over an hour away said that she'd like to meet you for a social coffee to see if you clicked to have a play meet the next time....you'd say no
yea, unless I was in that area for something else for eg, in Dublin on a message and arranged to meet a woman for a tea coffee while up there. I have a way to busy life outside of work to be travelling over an hour for a cup of tea/coffee.
That says it all doesn't it, if I was interested enough in a guy and thought we would get on I'd travel for a cuppa and a chat to make sure there was am attraction in person. What happens you agree to meet someone for fun without ever meeting and get to the hotel and there's attraction you going to treat her like any hole no, you just meet people at shorter distances. also everybody doesn't need a tea coffee. I spoke to 2 women on here before covid who don't do tea coffee meets at all. they video chat on kik etc.
Fair play to them after a few nasty rejections on here I would not meet someone for sex without having met them before. "
meeting off the Internet is a risk for any woman. it shouldn't be but is in the world we live in with lunatics around. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"for eg if I was meeting a woman from dublin on here and she'd meet me half way, it would be under an hour. alot of women on here expect you to drive to them. it's a 2 way street with equal effort. "
Fair point....I'm lucky in that I can be anywhere in the country for work so can organise a coffee meet if one is possible when I'm in an area |
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"for eg if I was meeting a woman from dublin on here and she'd meet me half way, it would be under an hour. alot of women on here expect you to drive to them. it's a 2 way street with equal effort.
Fair point....I'm lucky in that I can be anywhere in the country for work so can organise a coffee meet if one is possible when I'm in an area "
exactly. that's what I mean. works out handy in that regard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Miss loves a coffee meet probably had 20 fab coffee meets last year and not played with any of them , I don’t think Iv had one in 3 years but I did enjoy the buzz before hand |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always like to have a coffee meet first. You can have a laugh and a chat without any pressure on either party. Like BM , my work takes me all over the 32 counties. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why would someone join a swingers site,just to meet someone for a coffee?
Surely meeting someone through fab for a coffee,is to get a feeling for that person,to see if both wish to take things further?
If you don't wish to meet for the possibility of being intimate,then surely you would have a much better response on some non swinger/sex related meet up site?
That's my thoughts on the matter anyway
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Think you missed the point. |
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There isn't one guy on here, or girl who goes to that first 1:1 coffee meet with platonic intentions. It's stupid and disrespectful for a guy to think that the lady is going to suck his dick in the car there and then, but both sides go there with at least the curiosity to see if there is an attraction in person and a hope that it might lead to something else at another time.
A second or subsequent coffee meet can of course be just that, completely platonic but that first coffee ..........is a two way interview of sorts. |
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"There isn't one guy on here, or girl who goes to that first 1:1 coffee meet with platonic intentions. It's stupid and disrespectful for a guy to think that the lady is going to suck his dick in the car there and then, but both sides go there with at least the curiosity to see if there is an attraction in person and a hope that it might lead to something else at another time.
A second or subsequent coffee meet can of course be just that, completely platonic but that first coffee ..........is a two way interview of sorts."
I'm delighted you think you can put words in my mouth but I'll refer you to my previous comment rather than tell you how stupid this is. |
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Usually when I fancy a fab tea its when I'm already in Belfast and would be really short notice.
Next time I'm in I'll put up a meet request and see if anyone is free.
Though I'd probably overthink it and just go to boojum instead though  |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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I find it hard enough to find time to meet up with my long term friends, have a coffee with a randomers on fab just for the sake of it has no interest for me.
I do social meets but with the purpose being that they will realise how amazing I am they'll want to touch my penis. Also I'd need to be drawn in by their profile/photos. |
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"There isn't one guy on here, or girl who goes to that first 1:1 coffee meet with platonic intentions. It's stupid and disrespectful for a guy to think that the lady is going to suck his dick in the car there and then, but both sides go there with at least the curiosity to see if there is an attraction in person and a hope that it might lead to something else at another time.
A second or subsequent coffee meet can of course be just that, completely platonic but that first coffee ..........is a two way interview of sorts."
Incorrect. I've met several ladies from here for coffee with purely platonic intentions (i'm a straight woman). Swinging is about community, not just shagging  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There isn't one guy on here, or girl who goes to that first 1:1 coffee meet with platonic intentions. It's stupid and disrespectful for a guy to think that the lady is going to suck his dick in the car there and then, but both sides go there with at least the curiosity to see if there is an attraction in person and a hope that it might lead to something else at another time.
A second or subsequent coffee meet can of course be just that, completely platonic but that first coffee ..........is a two way interview of sorts.
Incorrect. I've met several ladies from here for coffee with purely platonic intentions (i'm a straight woman). Swinging is about community, not just shagging "
I must have sat at every table in Junction 14 by now drinking tea with people off Fab. I have lots of platonic friends from the community. I don't need to be fucking them all. Meeting these people have given me a great insight into Fab |
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"There isn't one guy on here, or girl who goes to that first 1:1 coffee meet with platonic intentions. It's stupid and disrespectful for a guy to think that the lady is going to suck his dick in the car there and then, but both sides go there with at least the curiosity to see if there is an attraction in person and a hope that it might lead to something else at another time.
A second or subsequent coffee meet can of course be just that, completely platonic but that first coffee ..........is a two way interview of sorts."
I’m one and I’ll thank you not to paint me with the same brush |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"There isn't one guy on here, or girl who goes to that first 1:1 coffee meet with platonic intentions. It's stupid and disrespectful for a guy to think that the lady is going to suck his dick in the car there and then, but both sides go there with at least the curiosity to see if there is an attraction in person and a hope that it might lead to something else at another time.
A second or subsequent coffee meet can of course be just that, completely platonic but that first coffee ..........is a two way interview of sorts."
I've met several people off here for coffee both knowing before we met that it was never going to be anything but platonic. So you are wrong in your presumption that it's always based around wanting sex. |
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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago
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Social coffees are great.
Yeah, sometimes it translates into future fun.
Other times it doesn't for whatever reason but you remain chatty and friendly on Fab.
I've been lucky and met some really nice people from here over a cuppa  |
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I have a very flexible job time in a very handy location so I am happy to take coffee meets. No problem travelling either.
Whatever would be the attraction everybody deserve a smile and respect so, I do enjoy this kind of meetings.
If a coffee meet become on a xoffee … because chemistry works… as most of the times happens… then coffee meet ups are perfect, wonderful and exciting.
I never skip the chance and I love the Costa Coffee tourist tour.
Open for new guides !!! |
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