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over a year ago
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For a small intimate party at someone's home I like to bring a small gift like flowers for the host or a scented candle. Things that are useful to cover up the smell of sex next day! |
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"Number 1 rule is don't touch without asking and/or being invited. "
and a no is a no , don’t take it to harsh but not everyone l is anyones choice
respect each other’s boundaries
avoid to much alcohol , it makes you willing but hampers your ability  |
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By *onnrodMan
over a year ago
moira |
- Contact only when permitted
- Always rubber up
- Keep your phones away, sneaky pics and videos are a good way to get beaten up by a naked man with a hard on and no-one wants that.
- Don't barge in on closed doors, but if you're closing the door, don't take all night
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Regardless of your gender, don't be afraid to go for what or who you want. I know that guys need to be so careful about consent, but some of you are TOO careful and stand way back, waiting to be 'chosen'. Personally I find this off-putting, I want to know who wants me (if anyone). (Must start new thread about this )
So ladies, you are expected to be forward at parties so go for it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Regardless of your gender, don't be afraid to go for what or who you want. I know that guys need to be so careful about consent, but some of you are TOO careful and stand way back, waiting to be 'chosen'. Personally I find this off-putting, I want to know who wants me (if anyone). (Must start new thread about this )
So ladies, you are expected to be forward at parties so go for it "
I'll probably hide in the kitchen or corner  |
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Don't just assume everyone wants to play with you...
If you've asked and been told no thanks then listen...
Don't be pushy everyone wants it to be pleasurable not just because your horny...or hard
Best to keep alcohol to a minimum or none at all!
Relax and enjoy and men always insist on wearing condoms...no women should have to ask several times before you produce them!
Ask the women what she likes and dislikes before touching her x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Regardless of your gender, don't be afraid to go for what or who you want. I know that guys need to be so careful about consent, but some of you are TOO careful and stand way back, waiting to be 'chosen'. Personally I find this off-putting, I want to know who wants me (if anyone). (Must start new thread about this )
So ladies, you are expected to be forward at parties so go for it "
Parties can be like school discos your hiding in the corner waiting to be asked out to dance. But it's 2022 the ladies can make the first move! |
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"Regardless of your gender, don't be afraid to go for what or who you want. I know that guys need to be so careful about consent, but some of you are TOO careful and stand way back, waiting to be 'chosen'. Personally I find this off-putting, I want to know who wants me (if anyone). (Must start new thread about this )
So ladies, you are expected to be forward at parties so go for it
I'll probably hide in the kitchen or corner "
I'd be on my way home lol I couldn't be going mon here to me and for them to go fuck off Jo |
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By *onnieBMan
over a year ago
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If your asked to join ask about boundaries. Don't assume cause you've been asked to join in its whatever YOU desire.
On the flip side if you invite somebody to play with you and they don't ask don't be afraid to tell them. |
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I agree with all of the above.
Consent is everything. That applies to men and women.
Always use protection and if you are moving from one person to another make sure to change the condom for a new one. It turns my stomach that some people don't do this.
If you're using toys on someone and a condom can't be put on it then make sure to clean them before using them on someone else.
Always put your condoms in a bin and don't leave them for the host to clean up.
A closed door is a closed door for a reason, leave it be.
If you squirt then put a towel down before playing.
Don't get d*unk.
Don't expect anything from anyone.
Go to the party with the intention of having a good social night and if more happens then it's a bonus.
Be polite and respectful to everyone not just the people you want to play with.
Most of all, have fun.  |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Show gratitude for having been invited and behave with sobriety, humility and enthusiasm.
Everyone knows what they are there for, and what the basic groundrules are!
Don't be a bystander or a party pooper; if invited, partake politely.
Oh, and get verified, so further invitations will be forthcoming.
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"Show gratitude for having been invited and behave with sobriety, humility and enthusiasm.
Everyone knows what they are there for, and what the basic groundrules are!
Don't be a bystander or a party pooper; if invited, partake politely.
Oh, and get verified, so further invitations will be forthcoming.
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I’m inclined to disagree slightly . I don’t go to a party expecting to play and I also shouldn’t have to if I don’t feel like I want to . It’s fine to go , socialise have chats and a laugh with people and never play if you don’t feel like it . |
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"Show gratitude for having been invited and behave with sobriety, humility and enthusiasm.
Everyone knows what they are there for, and what the basic groundrules are!
Don't be a bystander or a party pooper; if invited, partake politely.
Oh, and get verified, so further invitations will be forthcoming.
I’m inclined to disagree slightly . I don’t go to a party expecting to play and I also shouldn’t have to if I don’t feel like I want to . It’s fine to go , socialise have chats and a laugh with people and never play if you don’t feel like it . "
Speaking for myself the expectation to play and being classed as a party popper for not playing would really put me off attending a party , having not attended a party yet I'd really like too in the future but it's hard to say if you'd like play r not till you in that situation |
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I’ve been to a few parties and you definitely don’t have to play if you don’t want to. Some don’t even get undressed. Of course all parties are different and we attend as a couple. Might be different as a single. But still if you felt pressured to play I would say you’re with the wrong crowd and you’re better off not seeing them again.
You can have fun just chatting and chilling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with all of the above.
Consent is everything. That applies to men and women.
Always use protection and if you are moving from one person to another make sure to change the condom for a new one. It turns my stomach that some people don't do this.
If you're using toys on someone and a condom can't be put on it then make sure to clean them before using them on someone else.
Always put your condoms in a bin and don't leave them for the host to clean up.
A closed door is a closed door for a reason, leave it be.
If you squirt then put a towel down before playing.
Don't get d*unk.
Don't expect anything from anyone.
Go to the party with the intention of having a good social night and if more happens then it's a bonus.
Be polite and respectful to everyone not just the people you want to play with.
Most of all, have fun. "
fully agree , seen a lot of unsafe fun that could turn out to be not so funny |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve been to a few parties and you definitely don’t have to play if you don’t want to. Some don’t even get undressed. Of course all parties are different and we attend as a couple. Might be different as a single. But still if you felt pressured to play I would say you’re with the wrong crowd and you’re better off not seeing them again.
You can have fun just chatting and chilling."
This
You do what you are comfortable with and that's it. If it's stand and enjoy the visuals or actively get involved, either should be perfectly fine. If hosts have an issue with that, they should let you know politely and you can leave |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Regardless of your gender, don't be afraid to go for what or who you want. I know that guys need to be so careful about consent, but some of you are TOO careful and stand way back, waiting to be 'chosen'. Personally I find this off-putting, I want to know who wants me (if anyone). (Must start new thread about this )
So ladies, you are expected to be forward at parties so go for it "
Women also need to know to seek consent from men. Ive seen, on occasion, unacceptable behaviour from women towards men that is tolerated and excused, that would from a man get him blacklisted. And the men accepting it out of politeness, awkwardness etc  |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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"Regardless of your gender, don't be afraid to go for what or who you want. I know that guys need to be so careful about consent, but some of you are TOO careful and stand way back, waiting to be 'chosen'. Personally I find this off-putting, I want to know who wants me (if anyone). (Must start new thread about this )
So ladies, you are expected to be forward at parties so go for it
Women also need to know to seek consent from men. Ive seen, on occasion, unacceptable behaviour from women towards men that is tolerated and excused, that would from a man get him blacklisted. And the men accepting it out of politeness, awkwardness etc "
Well said
It does happen and shouldn't be tolerated, regardless of gender |
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"Regardless of your gender, don't be afraid to go for what or who you want. I know that guys need to be so careful about consent, but some of you are TOO careful and stand way back, waiting to be 'chosen'. Personally I find this off-putting, I want to know who wants me (if anyone). (Must start new thread about this )
So ladies, you are expected to be forward at parties so go for it
Women also need to know to seek consent from men. Ive seen, on occasion, unacceptable behaviour from women towards men that is tolerated and excused, that would from a man get him blacklisted. And the men accepting it out of politeness, awkwardness etc
Well said
It does happen and shouldn't be tolerated, regardless of gender "
Oh totally, it's all a balance |
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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago
Enfield & Dublin |
"Show gratitude for having been invited and behave with sobriety, humility and enthusiasm.
Everyone knows what they are there for, and what the basic groundrules are!
Don't be a bystander or a party pooper; if invited, partake politely.
Oh, and get verified, so further invitations will be forthcoming.
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In essence are you saying “take one for the team and be grateful”?
I think your view is slightly skewed if that is the case. Verification is definitely not worth a complete abandonment of your principles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Show gratitude for having been invited and behave with sobriety, humility and enthusiasm.
Everyone knows what they are there for, and what the basic groundrules are!
Don't be a bystander or a party pooper; if invited, partake politely.
Oh, and get verified, so further invitations will be forthcoming.
In essence are you saying “take one for the team and be grateful”?
I think your view is slightly skewed if that is the case. Verification is definitely not worth a complete abandonment of your principles. "
I'm not going to politely suck a dick just because it's the nice thing to do! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Show gratitude for having been invited and behave with sobriety, humility and enthusiasm.
Everyone knows what they are there for, and what the basic groundrules are!
Don't be a bystander or a party pooper; if invited, partake politely.
Oh, and get verified, so further invitations will be forthcoming.
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Seriously? If I thought having to partake was a prerequisite, regardless of whether I wanted to or not, then I never want an invite. |
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"Show gratitude for having been invited and behave with sobriety, humility and enthusiasm.
Everyone knows what they are there for, and what the basic groundrules are!
Don't be a bystander or a party pooper; if invited, partake politely.
Oh, and get verified, so further invitations will be forthcoming.
Seriously? If I thought having to partake was a prerequisite, regardless of whether I wanted to or not, then I never want an invite."
Only been to one party. Didn't know anyone there other than the person who invited me. Had never chatted to any of them and had no idea who they were on here.
The only thing I was obliged to do was eat the dairy free food they had made specially when they knew I was going.
Apart from that there was no pressure to partake in anything and it was a very relaxed and enjoyable night.
I've never spoken to any of them since because we didn't even exchange profile names never mind verifications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Show gratitude for having been invited and behave with sobriety, humility and enthusiasm.
Everyone knows what they are there for, and what the basic groundrules are!
Don't be a bystander or a party pooper; if invited, partake politely.
Oh, and get verified, so further invitations will be forthcoming.
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Gratitude........nah, the hosts should be great full to have ME!!  |
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By *ezoMan
over a year ago
The Kingdom |
"I agree with all of the above.
Consent is everything. That applies to men and women.
Always use protection and if you are moving from one person to another make sure to change the condom for a new one. It turns my stomach that some people don't do this.
If you're using toys on someone and a condom can't be put on it then make sure to clean them before using them on someone else.
Always put your condoms in a bin and don't leave them for the host to clean up.
A closed door is a closed door for a reason, leave it be.
If you squirt then put a towel down before playing.
Don't get d*unk.
Don't expect anything from anyone.
Go to the party with the intention of having a good social night and if more happens then it's a bonus.
Be polite and respectful to everyone not just the people you want to play with.
Most of all, have fun. "
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
"I agree with all of the above.
Consent is everything. That applies to men and women.
Always use protection and if you are moving from one person to another make sure to change the condom for a new one. It turns my stomach that some people don't do this.
If you're using toys on someone and a condom can't be put on it then make sure to clean them before using them on someone else.
Always put your condoms in a bin and don't leave them for the host to clean up.
A closed door is a closed door for a reason, leave it be.
If you squirt then put a towel down before playing.
Don't get d*unk.
Don't expect anything from anyone.
Go to the party with the intention of having a good social night and if more happens then it's a bonus.
Be polite and respectful to everyone not just the people you want to play with.
Most of all, have fun. "
This sums it up perfectly. |
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Guys, make friends with the husbands. Youll find it easier for a start, hes going to vet you anyway, and if you pass the test youll get introduced to missus.
If you can, dont drink alcohol, it causes endless problems.
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