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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.
Thoughts on this?
Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts?? |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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Its neither....they haven't outed you publicly...not that you're doing anything wrong in the first place
The best thing to do is block and move on
Would you rather they named themselves to you also |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.
Thoughts on this?
Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts?? "
Did they name you on the forums or in a message? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Block and delete and forget message
Chances are would prefer they don't want anyone knowing they are on fab "
Yea that's what i thought aswell. Thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I still don't think there is any need to name me. I know i haven't done anything wrong. But i still think its rude personally. "
Just block and move on, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah i don't see why I would block them either. Nothing to be ashamed of here. Done nothing wrong. Just think it is odd personally to have to spell out my name. I know my name and don't need reminding |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah i don't see why I would block them either. Nothing to be ashamed of here. Done nothing wrong. Just think it is odd personally to have to spell out my name. I know my name and don't need reminding "
I had a guy message constantly saying he seen me in my local supermarket, was creepy. I've had messages from guys local to me and I just no thanks and move on. I be more concerned if there was threats etc made the person possibly meant no harm. Forget it and move on. |
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By *aggie MaeWoman
over a year ago
Just out and about |
"Why block them...
Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again
I can resist the temptation "
Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why block them...
Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again
I can resist the temptation
Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name "
I did message them back. Trust me when i say drama is not the intention here. Not me anyway. But would wonder about the dramatic spelling out of my name lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why block them...
Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again
I can resist the temptation
Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name "
??????,or thay have something to hide your not the problem... |
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By *aggie MaeWoman
over a year ago
Just out and about |
"Why block them...
Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again
I can resist the temptation
Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name
I did message them back. Trust me when i say drama is not the intention here. Not me anyway. But would wonder about the dramatic spelling out of my name lol "
Have you ever climbed an iceburg |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why block them...
Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again
I can resist the temptation
Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name ??????,or thay have something to hide your not the problem..."
Interesting perspective |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why block them...
Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again
I can resist the temptation
Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name
I did message them back. Trust me when i say drama is not the intention here. Not me anyway. But would wonder about the dramatic spelling out of my name lol
Have you ever climbed an iceburg "
Yes so I know what is at the Tip. Not as interesting as you might expect I'll have you know |
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By *aggie MaeWoman
over a year ago
Just out and about |
"Why block them...
Block anyone with no interest in you or you in them...saves bothering anyone again
I can resist the temptation
Fer fuck sake then just message the profile back then your not really that bothered they know your name
I did message them back. Trust me when i say drama is not the intention here. Not me anyway. But would wonder about the dramatic spelling out of my name lol
Have you ever climbed an iceburg
Yes so I know what is at the Tip. Not as interesting as you might expect I'll have you know"
What apart from ice is at the tip of an iceburg |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way they phrased it to you sounded a bit odd/threatening but it's fine for someone to say they know you and if they'd be uncomfortable meeting because of that. They're on here for the exact same reasons as you after all  |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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They put ur name in the message to simply enforce that they knew u in vanilla and dont want to engage here
If they had just said sorry we know u it could have went a number of ways with u replying how do they know u or simply replying oh no u dont
They know u they simply repeated ur name to u id say let it slide dont think about it and block them so as not to cause each other discomfort |
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It doesn't sound like they had poor intentions. Take it at face value - they know you bc you're too close to home and therefore don't want to meet you.
There was no threat to expose you.
Take the lesson and check distances before you send a pic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t do anything
Don’t block them don’t do Nothing just move on, chances are they just fulla shite if they wana ride you they will and obviously they don’t. So yeah move on |
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Interesting to see how the responses here stack up against those in other threads where a woman has received exactly the same type of message.
The fact they not only said they knew you but made a point of naming you to confirm it is a veiled threat in itself.
If the op was a woman they would be arseholes for doing that. The fact that he's not a woman shouldn't matter and their reaction shouldn't be taken lightly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From experience with people recognising it's best to just block and ignore. Have been recognised by quite a few here, even had my parents old address and my full name given in chat room unfortunately all can do is block and leave it at that. Hopefully the person it was is discreet and will leave it be |
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"Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.
Thoughts on this?
Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts?? "
I can respect that whoever you were already chatting to got cold feet and didn't want you knowing they're on here.
There has been a few people I already know in real life that found me here and just assumed that because I'm on fab - I'll be glad to have sex with them (yes, some men have that logic, go figure), so if I can avoid chatting to someone I know from real life - I do.
What I find extremely childish is random profiles messaging me my name or even someone else's name (thinking I'm someone else) and not telling me who they are.
Like just don't message at all if you're not prepared to tell me who you are. (Obviously I don't know you op and i don't mean specifically you) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.
Thoughts on this?
Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts??
I can respect that whoever you were already chatting to got cold feet and didn't want you knowing they're on here.
There has been a few people I already know in real life that found me here and just assumed that because I'm on fab - I'll be glad to have sex with them (yes, some men have that logic, go figure), so if I can avoid chatting to someone I know from real life - I do.
What I find extremely childish is random profiles messaging me my name or even someone else's name (thinking I'm someone else) and not telling me who they are.
Like just don't message at all if you're not prepared to tell me who you are. (Obviously I don't know you op and i don't mean specifically you)"
This.
Been told I am someone specific that clearly I am not.
Or being recognised by someone that doesn't have the balls to tell me who they are. Also for them to recognise me from 10+ years ago wow. I feel flattered.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting to see how the responses here stack up against those in other threads where a woman has received exactly the same type of message.
The fact they not only said they knew you but made a point of naming you to confirm it is a veiled threat in itself.
If the op was a woman they would be arseholes for doing that. The fact that he's not a woman shouldn't matter and their reaction shouldn't be taken lightly. "
Exactly. |
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Not sure what was going through their head. That's not a nice situation regardless. We've had a similar situation with a guy we recognised and we just said it's a bit close to home for us.
Maybe it's possible they gave you your name so you would 100% know too that you are chatting with someone who knows you. |
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"Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.
Thoughts on this?
Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts?? "
Think it's a shitty thing to do to someone. Either they should have said nothing and replied no thanks not for us or said oh I know you here is my picture |
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I was at a wedding once and got recognised, he mailed me telling me what I was wearing and even said he laughed when my friends husband took my shoe off and hide it behind the bar, was going to approach me but thought I was with my husband it was my dad.
Also got followed round tesco another time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a slightly different note, if someone asks for a face pic, they should be prepared to send theirs first. That's the rule we apply anyway."
We simply dont exchange face pics, too many nutjobs/people with agendas/utter lack of discretion. It's clearly stated on our profile. |
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"Had a lad that knew Sam from a place she used to work. Anyway long, story short, we're going ahead with the meet "
Yeah I guess everyone is in the same boat. Would hardly go telling people I met someone I know on a swingers site. |
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"Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.
Thoughts on this?
Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts?? "
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Have had the exact same thing happen to me by my ex Boss (and his wife) 
It was very much "I know all about you but you don't know me". I didn't sleep well that night but then tweeked it the next day with...
"Yes, indeed S, thanks for giving me discretion as discretion is a two way street. Do enjoy your 9.30am Sunday run!"
...was the first time ever he didn't have the last word! Op it can be horrible when it happens but as long as you're not attached, you've nothing to be ashamed of here as let's face it, they're most likely here for the very same thing  So chin up and chest out Mr Sultan of Swing!
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"Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.
I had this and than they block you
Thoughts on this?
Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts?? "
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"On a slightly different note, if someone asks for a face pic, they should be prepared to send theirs first. That's the rule we apply anyway.
We simply dont exchange face pics, too many nutjobs/people with agendas/utter lack of discretion. It's clearly stated on our profile. "
Well yes of course, they would need to be well verified and/or verified by people we already know |
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By *ercc63Man
over a year ago
Hillsborough |
Has happend me twuce
Once had arranged (with wife) to meet couple - then hubby saw my pic and said he knew me - so I was then blocked !
Second time was arranging meet with a lady - when she saw pic she recognised me - apologised but didnt want me to know who she was and again blocked me
Was curious with both as to who they were !! |
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I was trying to help a young lady find a plumber but it was late Friday afternoon ..I told to try a few place but cos I was from the same area as her she obviously got afraid cos she disappeared .I was devastated I was only trying to help her but unfortunatly she must have got a fright must have been way to close to her . |
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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago
Dublin |
I've recognised a couple of lads here that I actually flirted with in real life and never got round to playing with. Was only delighted they were on here!
They didn't recognise me at all though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens, over the years both me and my partner have ran in to people we have know and some we have played with some we have not but never has it once been awkard after the initial recognition |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work with a guy that's on fab and we have a great laugh at the messages we get and the drama that goes on here. I'm not embarrassed to be on here. Nor do I hide the fact that I'm here.
But the person who knows you most likely has something to hide or dosnt want it known that they're on fab. I wouldn't go blocking them as it might cause offence but I would just take their message as they're not interested and I'd move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting to see how the responses here stack up against those in other threads where a woman has received exactly the same type of message.
The fact they not only said they knew you but made a point of naming you to confirm it is a veiled threat in itself.
If the op was a woman they would be arseholes for doing that. The fact that he's not a woman shouldn't matter and their reaction shouldn't be taken lightly. "
Funny little world is Fab
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By *13_hercMan
over a year ago
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I don't really see what the issue is. They spelt your name - to prove they know you - and let you down gently by saying you lived too close. I would think that they do not want anyone who knows them knowing their little secret - that they are on Fab.
Can't understand why you would need to know them, unless you don't want them stalking you, and your veri's |
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"I don't really see what the issue is. They spelt your name - to prove they know you - and let you down gently by saying you lived too close. I would think that they do not want anyone who knows them knowing their little secret - that they are on Fab.
Can't understand why you would need to know them, unless you don't want them stalking you, and your veri's "
The point is they really have no need to put his real name into a message. Some people would be scared and intimidated by that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all. I just recently sent someone a message. Chatting away. All going fine. They are local to me and ask for a face pic to which i naively (maybe) decide to send one. They than write back to me with my full name and say i know you and no you're too close to home.
Thoughts on this?
Should someone name you like that if they recognise you on fab? It seems as if they are the one with the issue of being on the site when they went to the trouble of spelling out my name? Is this funny? Is it rude? Is it neither? Thoughts?? "
If someone asks for a face photo they should at least send one first out of courtesy. Unfortunately you've learned the hard way here. Lots like I don't send face pics anymore as something like this can be abused and can be a little too risky. Their response revealing your name made you uncomfortable and thats not a nice feeling so maybe then you should block them, So none of your content or fab activities are known to them. |
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