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Dealing with sycophantic approaches
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
From the lounge
When On the forum or a kick group (without the c) .
Do the ladies Sometimes get the feeling that someone's just blowing smoke up their ass (as it were) to try and get a shag , without any specific interest in them at all ? The any hole is a goal approach ? That it could easily be any other lady receiving that compliment ? The equivalent of a copy and paste Pm to many people .
How do you deal with it ?
Interact and see if genuine and something happens ? Maybe steer the conversation away from sex ?
Or see as a massive red flag and avoid at all costs ?
Does it depend on who’s doing it ?
Would be interesting to hear the female perspective but also the male one too if it’s something they have observed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ironic that a thread about sychophantic approaches is in itself a sychophantic approach by suggesting it's a male preserve.
Ooh you're so clever  "
No , you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ironic that a thread about sychophantic approaches is in itself a sychophantic approach by suggesting it's a male preserve.
Ooh you're so clever
No , you are "
Aww thanks, beautiful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im blind to it, as long as its not rude, disrespectful or arrogant i dont care. "
Roses are Red
Remember that time at the lake when we saw a duck
Oh you looked so stunning that day
So do ya fancy a  |
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I fully expect that what is said to me in forums could be said to anyone, unless there are specifics e.g 'pottery'.
I only say what I mean but I expect 90% of what is said to me is fluff.
The play/pass games are very telling mind. Note the passes for when they return as play a later time if they're having a slow day
It takes me a while to approach someone I like from the forums bc of this, I watch and learn for weeks before I give someone backstage access |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im blind to it, as long as its not rude, disrespectful or arrogant i dont care.
Roses are Red
Remember that time at the lake when we saw a duck
Oh you looked so stunning that day
So do ya fancy a "
PMSL (oops was swooning the intended effect??!!)
But i do love a good giggle of a morning xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I fully expect that what is said to me in forums could be said to anyone, unless there are specifics e.g 'pottery'.
I only say what I mean but I expect 90% of what is said to me is fluff.
The play/pass games are very telling mind. Note the passes for when they return as play a later time if they're having a slow day
It takes me a while to approach someone I like from the forums bc of this, I watch and learn for weeks before I give someone backstage access "
Do you have a spreadsheet? |
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"I fully expect that what is said to me in forums could be said to anyone, unless there are specifics e.g 'pottery'.
I only say what I mean but I expect 90% of what is said to me is fluff.
The play/pass games are very telling mind. Note the passes for when they return as play a later time if they're having a slow day
It takes me a while to approach someone I like from the forums bc of this, I watch and learn for weeks before I give someone backstage access
Do you have a spreadsheet? "
Haha it would help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I fully expect that what is said to me in forums could be said to anyone, unless there are specifics e.g 'pottery'.
I only say what I mean but I expect 90% of what is said to me is fluff.
The play/pass games are very telling mind. Note the passes for when they return as play a later time if they're having a slow day
It takes me a while to approach someone I like from the forums bc of this, I watch and learn for weeks before I give someone backstage access "
Very sensible approach  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im blind to it, as long as its not rude, disrespectful or arrogant i dont care.
Roses are Red
Remember that time at the lake when we saw a duck
Oh you looked so stunning that day
So do ya fancy a
PMSL (oops was swooning the intended effect??!!)
But i do love a good giggle of a morning xx "
Was a bit too much , should I have toned it down a little |
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Ironic that a thread about sychophantic approaches is in itself a sychophantic approach by suggesting it's a male preserve. "
It’s a ratio thing
I assume if someone is flirting with me on fab , then there is something more than a general horn I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only just about every single one yes
It's gotta work a bit better than "fuck, you're ugly, but sure I'm horny"
What about fuck I'm ugly...I suppose a ride is out of the question "
We do get the toned down version "I know you'd never meet me but...."
What girl could turn down the prospect of someone who sees themselves as a pity fuck... |
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"Ironic that a thread about sychophantic approaches is in itself a sychophantic approach by suggesting it's a male preserve.
It’s a ratio thing
I assume if someone is flirting with me on fab , then there is something more than a general horn I suppose "
The problem is when pretty much every single mail is (at the very least) an attempt at flirting. You get numb to it |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Only just about every single one yes
It's gotta work a bit better than "fuck, you're ugly, but sure I'm horny"
What about fuck I'm ugly...I suppose a ride is out of the question
We do get the toned down version "I know you'd never meet me but...."
What girl could turn down the prospect of someone who sees themselves as a pity fuck... "
Throws his script out the window  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These days my first message are all very similar.
I introduce myself, depending on how revealing the person's profile is will determine whether I try reference any part of it as to show I've actually read the profile.
I will then give a short but honest few sentences as to why I'm on Fab and what I'm hoping to get out of my time on Fab.
I will attach a pic or two and wish them a happy day or something along those lines.
I ask nothing I just hope that by being respectful, sending pics and asking no stupid questions that I get the person to at least look at my profile and Maybe get a reply. The flirting etc can be done once chatting begins and if there is any chemistry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only just about every single one yes
It's gotta work a bit better than "fuck, you're ugly, but sure I'm horny"
What about fuck I'm ugly...I suppose a ride is out of the question "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My standard response to flattery is
"Cheers  " I'm a dry shite and even if was sincere I have no game.
If I had a pound for every time I'd been told I was stunning, well I wouldn't be rich, but I could maybe buy myself some new trainers. It's nonsense.
K
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I fully expect that what is said to me in forums could be said to anyone, unless there are specifics e.g 'pottery'.
I only say what I mean but I expect 90% of what is said to me is fluff.
The play/pass games are very telling mind. Note the passes for when they return as play a later time if they're having a slow day
It takes me a while to approach someone I like from the forums bc of this, I watch and learn for weeks before I give someone backstage access "
Hhmm. Just for clarity. Backstage access means???? |
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I fully expect that what is said to me in forums could be said to anyone, unless there are specifics e.g 'pottery'.
I only say what I mean but I expect 90% of what is said to me is fluff.
The play/pass games are very telling mind. Note the passes for when they return as play a later time if they're having a slow day
It takes me a while to approach someone I like from the forums bc of this, I watch and learn for weeks before I give someone backstage access "
Ooh err missus |
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"Ironic that a thread about sychophantic approaches is in itself a sychophantic approach by suggesting it's a male preserve.
It’s a ratio thing
I assume if someone is flirting with me on fab , then there is something more than a general horn I suppose
The problem is when pretty much every single mail is (at the very least) an attempt at flirting. You get numb to it "
But presumably people that have made the effort to read the profile and find compatibility get a more pleasant response to the flirting than a scatter gun approach |
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"Ironic that a thread about sychophantic approaches is in itself a sychophantic approach by suggesting it's a male preserve.
It’s a ratio thing
I assume if someone is flirting with me on fab , then there is something more than a general horn I suppose
The problem is when pretty much every single mail is (at the very least) an attempt at flirting. You get numb to it
But presumably people that have made the effort to read the profile and find compatibility get a more pleasant response to the flirting than a scatter gun approach "
Sure, the pleasant ones are the only ones that have any kind of hope for a response |
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"I fully expect that what is said to me in forums could be said to anyone, unless there are specifics e.g 'pottery'.
I only say what I mean but I expect 90% of what is said to me is fluff.
The play/pass games are very telling mind. Note the passes for when they return as play a later time if they're having a slow day
It takes me a while to approach someone I like from the forums bc of this, I watch and learn for weeks before I give someone backstage access
Hhmm. Just for clarity. Backstage access means???? "
Haha only a wink |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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It's easy enough to avoid the arse licking threads, some posts are truly cringeworthy.
But just for the balance, women dish out compliments quite generously too on here (and might regret it later when the direct messages are hitting the inbox)
Anyhow we all love a compliment and it's part of the waltz to get the leg over. It's just some are more skilled at dancing than others. Given the nature of the site of course most is simple flattery. |
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The problem is when pretty much every single mail is (at the very least) an attempt at flirting. You get numb to it
Any suggestions as to the alternative?
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Try the intellectual conversation approach - sure, what woman here really wants to be wooed or flirted with for sex on an adult website
"Good afternoon, could I interest you in a discussion on the different aspects between Jung and Freud's theory?" gets me every time!
Or
"Have you ever thought about the vastness of the universe, the alignment of stars, their constellations and how they impact planet Earth?" |
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"Have you ever thought about the vastness of the universe, the alignment of stars, their constellations and how they impact planet Earth?"
I’ve regularly thought about Uranus "
The sun shines out of it too |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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The problem is when pretty much every single mail is (at the very least) an attempt at flirting. You get numb to it
Any suggestions as to the alternative?
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Silly jokes are the quickest way into my pants
Or a question about something on my profile or on the forum etc |
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"Have you ever thought about the vastness of the universe, the alignment of stars, their constellations and how they impact planet Earth?"
I’ve regularly thought about Uranus
The sun shines out of it too "
It’s certainly large enough to fit a sun in there... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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so out of curiosity, if women on here are so numb to messages from men making the first move, do the women on here make the first move in contacting someone/men they are interested in or just wait until a message that interests them comes along? |
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"so out of curiosity, if women on here are so numb to messages from men making the first move, do the women on here make the first move in contacting someone/men they are interested in or just wait until a message that interests them comes along? "
I'm with himself after having made first contact, and yes, I have no qualms initiating contact with a profile of interest. |
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"so out of curiosity, if women on here are so numb to messages from men making the first move, do the women on here make the first move in contacting someone/men they are interested in or just wait until a message that interests them comes along? "
I have all the message filters on so I have to initiate contact myself. I prefer it that way. |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
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"Try the intellectual conversation approach - sure, what woman here really wants to be wooed or flirted with for sex on an adult website
"Good afternoon, could I interest you in a discussion on the different aspects between Jung and Freud's theory?" gets me every time!
Or
"Have you ever thought about the vastness of the universe, the alignment of stars, their constellations and how they impact planet Earth?" "
Stop! You're getting me going now  |
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
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The problem is when pretty much every single mail is (at the very least) an attempt at flirting. You get numb to it
Any suggestions as to the alternative?
Try the intellectual conversation approach - sure, what woman here really wants to be wooed or flirted with for sex on an adult website
"Good afternoon, could I interest you in a discussion on the different aspects between Jung and Freud's theory?" gets me every time!
Or
"Have you ever thought about the vastness of the universe, the alignment of stars, their constellations and how they impact planet Earth?" "
Do you realize
We're floating in space?
Do you realize
That happiness makes you cry?
Do you realize
That everyone you know someday will die?
And instead of saying all of your goodbyes
Let them know you realize that life goes fast
It's hard to make the good things last
You realize the sun doesn't go down
It's just an illusion caused by the world spinning round
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