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"Well that that think I just think it's to make her life easier for her as she said like me to move back in just seem like she like to use me really I still love her so much that's the had thing been trying to move on and every time I think I'm getting somewhere and my head sorted out she seem to pull me back the fuck me away again so what to say she not goin to do the same i ask her dose she love me still and said no but I was to be with her I can't stop how I feel so it hard to be with someone u love and they don't ur give ur all and there just there to have fun and nothing more I'm truly at a my end " Why waste your life on someone who doesn't make you feel loved or valued? My advise would be to cut contact and stop allowing her to mess with your head. | |||
"Well that that think I just think it's to make her life easier for her as she said like me to move back in just seem like she like to use me really I still love her so much that's the had thing been trying to move on and every time I think I'm getting somewhere and my head sorted out she seem to pull me back the fuck me away again so what to say she not goin to do the same i ask her dose she love me still and said no but I was to be with her I can't stop how I feel so it hard to be with someone u love and they don't ur give ur all and there just there to have fun and nothing more I'm truly at a my end Why waste your life on someone who doesn't make you feel loved or valued? My advise would be to cut contact and stop allowing her to mess with your head. "  | |||
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"Well that that think I just think it's to make her life easier for her as she said like me to move back in just seem like she like to use me really I still love her so much that's the had thing been trying to move on and every time I think I'm getting somewhere and my head sorted out she seem to pull me back the fuck me away again so what to say she not goin to do the same i ask her dose she love me still and said no but I was to be with her I can't stop how I feel so it hard to be with someone u love and they don't ur give ur all and there just there to have fun and nothing more I'm truly at a my end Why waste your life on someone who doesn't make you feel loved or valued? My advise would be to cut contact and stop allowing her to mess with your head. " 100% agree cut contact don’t get manipulated into something your not happy about | |||
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"Well the more to it then just her we have 3 kids and I miss them so much and not been able to been with them as much as I was I only see them two day in the week and then have them every 2nd weekend so I would love to be around them more and that's the thing I know she knows that and I'd do anything for her that's the really fucked up thing like this weekend she call me to pick her up and take her home as she had no money for a taxi so I said ya then when I got her home to her house that when she told me I picked her up for one of the lads she been sleeping with just can believe she did that to me my head is telling me yo run my heart is saying stay she might change " From my personal experience, sort it out legally to see kids, if she is just pulling your strings it’ll ruin your mental health and possibly in the future cause you issues with your relationship with your children. That said do what you feel is best for YOU | |||
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"Well that that think I just think it's to make her life easier for her as she said like me to move back in just seem like she like to use me really I still love her so much that's the had thing been trying to move on and every time I think I'm getting somewhere and my head sorted out she seem to pull me back the fuck me away again so what to say she not goin to do the same i ask her dose she love me still and said no but I was to be with her I can't stop how I feel so it hard to be with someone u love and they don't ur give ur all and there just there to have fun and nothing more I'm truly at a my end " After reading that, you should politely tell her to fuck off! The red flags are massive here, man! | |||
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"Well the more to it then just her we have 3 kids and I miss them so much and not been able to been with them as much as I was I only see them two day in the week and then have them every 2nd weekend so I would love to be around them more and that's the thing I know she knows that and I'd do anything for her that's the really fucked up thing like this weekend she call me to pick her up and take her home as she had no money for a taxi so I said ya then when I got her home to her house that when she told me I picked her up for one of the lads she been sleeping with just can believe she did that to me my head is telling me yo run my heart is saying stay she might change " this is a relationship not going to work. Truth be told you know it. Get access sorted for kids legally. And stay away from your ex and her mind gaming ways. Concentrate on your kids and you. | |||
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"Ya she know I'm on here as she is to was told by a friend she was on this so I said fuck it and have to say it's been good talk to a few people that know where I'm coming from and that I came on this to try and find something that may make me feel like I was wanted and that as I said she didn't want me and then after it all end now she dose put just for sex nothing more and have no feeling where she know I still love her that the things I have try my best to distances myself but I keep getting pulled in she was my world and she is useing that no me but I would do anything for her if it ment I would be close to her " she's wanting nsa last person I would go to is my ex knowing he still has feelings for me  | |||
"Well the more to it then just her we have 3 kids and I miss them so much and not been able to been with them as much as I was I only see them two day in the week and then have them every 2nd weekend so I would love to be around them more and that's the thing I know she knows that and I'd do anything for her that's the really fucked up thing like this weekend she call me to pick her up and take her home as she had no money for a taxi so I said ya then when I got her home to her house that when she told me I picked her up for one of the lads she been sleeping with just can believe she did that to me my head is telling me yo run my heart is saying stay she might change this is a relationship not going to work. Truth be told you know it. Get access sorted for kids legally. And stay away from your ex and her mind gaming ways. Concentrate on your kids and you." Bingo, OP, it's far healthier for your kids not to grow up in a toxic environment. Sort out regular access, with mediation if necessary. | |||
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"Ya she know I'm on here as she is to was told by a friend she was on this so I said fuck it and have to say it's been good talk to a few people that know where I'm coming from and that I came on this to try and find something that may make me feel like I was wanted and that as I said she didn't want me and then after it all end now she dose put just for sex nothing more and have no feeling where she know I still love her that the things I have try my best to distances myself but I keep getting pulled in she was my world and she is useing that no me but I would do anything for her if it ment I would be close to her " So is she not reading this? | |||
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"I think it would be good for you to see a counsellor, to see what you really want in your life. If what you want above anything else, is access to your kids, then youre being manipulated into an open relationship, and that wont work. Sort out legalities, custody, etc... and, you wont want to hear this but its seems its time to move on from her. " 100% I would agree with that she is toxic, she is using you cause your good heart, dedication to family and your deep strong feelings and love towards her. I say you are really in a kinda emotionally bad shape, hard to get your own thoughts. but I know what you were going through. Done it 5 times in last 6 years. First one my ex fiance, second a girl I just started going out with. And last 3 times each year to my last girl. You are still blinded by love, and not being honest with yourself about what we all are trying to say. Cause what is she doing to you is way worse than some cheating on the side or making her life much easier having you as a punching bag cause her fuck buddy or date done something, a sponsor since you are back together, baby sitter not for emergencies but for her to be free and childless again so no need to comeback home for the night. She is really selfish, cold, kinda like energy vampire who would suck whatever still is good in you till you are mentally drained and impossible to fix. And you probably would be no use for her anymore. And out of the door. But good news is that you see those red lights in your head blinking since you got the courage and self-esteem to put out your life story out here. Online place with mix bag of characters which some would laugh, slag and make you doubt in yourself. But you see is so easy for me to talk and advise you in this situation but I was stupidly blinded by love, dedication, still giving a chance, leap of faith, trust since I couldn't bare that when my ex's seen me in bad shape, depressed, going down to the rock bottom and me keep repeating the words that even for the worst enemy or worst evil Nazi of this world I couldn't go through and kept this fucked up minds games going. But she still did it till I was no use and fun anymore. You are in better position that I was cause you did already first step by growing a pair and ask total strangers online on forum for swingers where some people, close minded, followers without own personality bidding feelings, pretending and playing with a poker face or just thinking about themselves and how to gain anything in your misfortune. But like someone above mentioned position it is what we call it hook up no swing place. And for no drama just all the benefits of human intimate interaction. And you would get no hate and all the support on designated site for your most important private life decisions. But people care still. Take not only my advice start, start listening to strangers. Cause they would be honest with you without any secret self-interest and selfish agenda cause they are random strangers that probably you would never talk to or even ever meet again in your journey through life. Good luck clear your head start listen you your inner voice. You are not going mental, that is your conscience and common sense and don't ignore those blinking red light if something feels doggy cause could be "too good to be true" | |||
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"Hi so what u all think then of open relationship as I was with my ex for 7 years and on we have been slipt up over a year and she is now saying she what to be with me but only if we have a open relationship " Open relationships can work but only if they are based on honesty, clear and open communication, and where both are looking for the same thing. Having read your other posts, that doesn't sound like the relationship you have with this woman. With the feelings you have for this woman, I can't see how getting back with her will be in any way healthy for you. Everytime she is with someone else it'll tear your heart out and it'll be detrimental to your mental health. And it sounds like she won't do anything to ensure you get your emotional needs met. I'm polyamorous myself and don't think I could ever be in a monogamous relationship again, but we all experience similar emotions and I don't see how you get your emotional needs met in that situation. | |||
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"Well that that think I just think it's to make her life easier for her as she said like me to move back in just seem like she like to use me really I still love her so much that's the had thing been trying to move on and every time I think I'm getting somewhere and my head sorted out she seem to pull me back the fuck me away again so what to say she not goin to do the same i ask her dose she love me still and said no but I was to be with her I can't stop how I feel so it hard to be with someone u love and they don't ur give ur all and there just there to have fun and nothing more I'm truly at a my end Why waste your life on someone who doesn't make you feel loved or valued? My advise would be to cut contact and stop allowing her to mess with your head. " | |||
