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"If a woman tells you she has no fantasy’s is she being honest or playing coy ?"
I do believe that there are those who just don't have an interest, hence no fantasies.
There are definitely those who are too ashamed of their sexual thoughts and fantasies, therefore reluctant to tell another.
Telling someone she has no fantasies... depends on how it's said in order for it to be considered "coy" - no?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a woman tells you she has no fantasy’s is she being honest or playing coy ?
I do believe that there are those who just don't have an interest, hence no fantasies.
There are definitely those who are too ashamed of their sexual thoughts and fantasies, therefore reluctant to tell another.
Telling someone she has no fantasies... depends on how it's said in order for it to be considered "coy" - no? "
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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In general or on fab? If she's on fab I'd be quite surprised to hear she has no fantasies.
What I would take from the answer is that we wouldn't be compatible and I'd just move on. Either she doesn't have fantasies or she's playing coy in which case I'd much prefer to avoid that potential drama-lama. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Met outside of fab. So maybe not open to divulge their fantasies?
Maybe just needs to get to know you bit better.  "
Possibly.. keep prodding then so !
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"It has been discussed on here before about an inability to fantasise and quite a few men and women suffered from it so I don't see the link between not having fantasies and being on fab. "
I've never seen a thread in relation to not being able to fantasise.
I find that interesting, actually difficult to fathom even, particularly in anyone with a "healthy" sex drive. Because without thoughts, fantasies and dreams what motivates you, what gets you going bar the actual physical act in itself? If you want "more", doesn't it have to be thoughts that drive it? And thoughts become stories, fantasies, ideas...
Was it something that was common? What about gender distribution?
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"It has been discussed on here before about an inability to fantasise and quite a few men and women suffered from it so I don't see the link between not having fantasies and being on fab.
I've never seen a thread in relation to not being able to fantasise.
I find that interesting, actually difficult to fathom even, particularly in anyone with a "healthy" sex drive. Because without thoughts, fantasies and dreams what motivates you, what gets you going bar the actual physical act in itself? If you want "more", doesn't it have to be thoughts that drive it? And thoughts become stories, fantasies, ideas...
Was it something that was common? What about gender distribution?
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From memory the thread was started in the Lounge by a well known female Irish fabber last year. That would be her story to tell.
I countributed at the time because of the link between Aphantasia and another condition that I suffer from called Anhedonia but I don't remember much about the gender breakdown. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont really have sexual fantasies and hate trying to answer that question in chats tbh.
And its not that I cant ot dint fantasise... just not sexual ones.
I know I'm not a lady OP but might help anyway |
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"It has been discussed on here before about an inability to fantasise and quite a few men and women suffered from it so I don't see the link between not having fantasies and being on fab.
I've never seen a thread in relation to not being able to fantasise.
I find that interesting, actually difficult to fathom even, particularly in anyone with a "healthy" sex drive. Because without thoughts, fantasies and dreams what motivates you, what gets you going bar the actual physical act in itself? If you want "more", doesn't it have to be thoughts that drive it? And thoughts become stories, fantasies, ideas...
Was it something that was common? What about gender distribution?
From memory the thread was started in the Lounge by a well known female Irish fabber last year. That would be her story to tell.
I countributed at the time because of the link between Aphantasia and another condition that I suffer from called Anhedonia but I don't remember much about the gender breakdown. "
Thank you. I must have a look at those. I've not heard of those conditions before. |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t have any particular fantasies at the moment. I’m sure I’ll come up with some soon but the ones I had have been fulfilled.
Perhaps she’s the same, perhaps she just doesn’t have any or perhaps she just doesn’t feel comfortable enough sharing them at the moment. I don’t see it as a red flag. |
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"I don’t have any particular fantasies at the moment. I’m sure I’ll come up with some soon but the ones I had have been fulfilled.
Perhaps she’s the same, perhaps she just doesn’t have any or perhaps she just doesn’t feel comfortable enough sharing them at the moment. I don’t see it as a red flag. "
Absolutely, maybe get to know her better. You may come up with more fantasies so |
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange "
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Course they have all women do and I know what's there number 1 fantasy is 
What may that be ? going into next with an unlimited voucher   "
Was expecting it to be you ! |
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
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Would you suggest with or without alcohol? |
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"Course they have all women do and I know what's there number 1 fantasy is
What may that be ?
going into next with an unlimited voucher "
My worst nightmare, seriously Hardy, don't matter the amount on that voucher or the clothes store in question 
I'll have plenty of sexy fantasies though, so a voucher to an adult toystore now that won't be frowned upon |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"It has been discussed on here before about an inability to fantasise and quite a few men and women suffered from it so I don't see the link between not having fantasies and being on fab.
I've never seen a thread in relation to not being able to fantasise.
I find that interesting, actually difficult to fathom even, particularly in anyone with a "healthy" sex drive. Because without thoughts, fantasies and dreams what motivates you, what gets you going bar the actual physical act in itself? If you want "more", doesn't it have to be thoughts that drive it? And thoughts become stories, fantasies, ideas...
Was it something that was common? What about gender distribution?
From memory the thread was started in the Lounge by a well known female Irish fabber last year. That would be her story to tell.
I countributed at the time because of the link between Aphantasia and another condition that I suffer from called Anhedonia but I don't remember much about the gender breakdown. "
People with aphantasia are unable to conjure a mental image but does that mean they're inable to have desires? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've slipped down to third place behind you 
Ah we enjoyed Christmas… once we get back to the gym we’ll be fine ! just not the day tho "
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
Would you suggest with or without alcohol?"
I'm not much of a drinker, and I'm relatively confident. If I get an inkling a healthy sexual relationship can be had (whatever that may entail), I don't need alcohol to lower my inhibitions in order to open up.
But not everyone is like that. In fact, I prefer to stay sober when meeting others. Alcohol clouds judgement. This can, of course, be good or bad. In my experience, it's mostly bad though.
A woman is more likely to open up in response to you opening up, while remaining non judgemental and being complimentary of her.
After that it's down to how she feels in your company, whether her fantasies align with yours, if she wants to share them, amongst many other things, I'm sure.
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
Would you suggest with or without alcohol?
I'm not much of a drinker, and I'm relatively confident. If I get an inkling a healthy sexual relationship can be had (whatever that may entail), I don't need alcohol to lower my inhibitions in order to open up.
But not everyone is like that. In fact, I prefer to stay sober when meeting others. Alcohol clouds judgement. This can, of course, be good or bad. In my experience, it's mostly bad though.
A woman is more likely to open up in response to you opening up, while remaining non judgemental and being complimentary of her.
After that it's down to how she feels in your company, whether her fantasies align with yours, if she wants to share them, amongst many other things, I'm sure.
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Wise words eloquently put |
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
Would you suggest with or without alcohol?
I'm not much of a drinker, and I'm relatively confident. If I get an inkling a healthy sexual relationship can be had (whatever that may entail), I don't need alcohol to lower my inhibitions in order to open up.
But not everyone is like that. In fact, I prefer to stay sober when meeting others. Alcohol clouds judgement. This can, of course, be good or bad. In my experience, it's mostly bad though.
A woman is more likely to open up in response to you opening up, while remaining non judgemental and being complimentary of her.
After that it's down to how she feels in your company, whether her fantasies align with yours, if she wants to share them, amongst many other things, I'm sure.
Wise words eloquently put "
You're just pulling the leg anyway but all the best if not |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
Would you suggest with or without alcohol?
I'm not much of a drinker, and I'm relatively confident. If I get an inkling a healthy sexual relationship can be had (whatever that may entail), I don't need alcohol to lower my inhibitions in order to open up.
But not everyone is like that. In fact, I prefer to stay sober when meeting others. Alcohol clouds judgement. This can, of course, be good or bad. In my experience, it's mostly bad though.
A woman is more likely to open up in response to you opening up, while remaining non judgemental and being complimentary of her.
After that it's down to how she feels in your company, whether her fantasies align with yours, if she wants to share them, amongst many other things, I'm sure.
Wise words eloquently put
You're just pulling the leg anyway but all the best if not "
Nope for once I am not !!
Jeez you have an awful opinion of me |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
Would you suggest with or without alcohol?
I'm not much of a drinker, and I'm relatively confident. If I get an inkling a healthy sexual relationship can be had (whatever that may entail), I don't need alcohol to lower my inhibitions in order to open up.
But not everyone is like that. In fact, I prefer to stay sober when meeting others. Alcohol clouds judgement. This can, of course, be good or bad. In my experience, it's mostly bad though.
A woman is more likely to open up in response to you opening up, while remaining non judgemental and being complimentary of her.
After that it's down to how she feels in your company, whether her fantasies align with yours, if she wants to share them, amongst many other things, I'm sure.
Wise words eloquently put "
Agreed. Except for the alcohol part. Lash the alcohol into the woman your talking to and then ask about her sexual fantasies. |
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"It has been discussed on here before about an inability to fantasise and quite a few men and women suffered from it so I don't see the link between not having fantasies and being on fab.
I've never seen a thread in relation to not being able to fantasise.
I find that interesting, actually difficult to fathom even, particularly in anyone with a "healthy" sex drive. Because without thoughts, fantasies and dreams what motivates you, what gets you going bar the actual physical act in itself? If you want "more", doesn't it have to be thoughts that drive it? And thoughts become stories, fantasies, ideas...
Was it something that was common? What about gender distribution?
From memory the thread was started in the Lounge by a well known female Irish fabber last year. That would be her story to tell.
I countributed at the time because of the link between Aphantasia and another condition that I suffer from called Anhedonia but I don't remember much about the gender breakdown.
People with aphantasia are unable to conjure a mental image but does that mean they're inable to have desires? "
I've no idea. I'm only aware of the effects of anhedonia which is partly an inability to have desires. For me it means that I don't get excited in advance by anything regardless of whether that has sexual connotations or not.
I'm always in the moment so don't look forward to holidays, events or meeting others.
Whatever happens during those holidays, events and meets stays within that time frame and doesn't carry over to the following day.
I don't have fantasies and never have done but I can visualise non sexual things that may happen even if I have no feelings of anticipation. |
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
Would you suggest with or without alcohol?
I'm not much of a drinker, and I'm relatively confident. If I get an inkling a healthy sexual relationship can be had (whatever that may entail), I don't need alcohol to lower my inhibitions in order to open up.
But not everyone is like that. In fact, I prefer to stay sober when meeting others. Alcohol clouds judgement. This can, of course, be good or bad. In my experience, it's mostly bad though.
A woman is more likely to open up in response to you opening up, while remaining non judgemental and being complimentary of her.
After that it's down to how she feels in your company, whether her fantasies align with yours, if she wants to share them, amongst many other things, I'm sure.
Wise words eloquently put
You're just pulling the leg anyway but all the best if not
Nope for once I am not !!
Jeez you have an awful opinion of me "
Ah, I don't take Fab forum too seriously. Most comments I take to be tongue in cheek (as most of mine are), including yours from what I remember
And whereas I may get an idea of you, I haven't half enough from a handful of forum contributions to form an opinion  |
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"Doubt it’s a mental thing. Probably just too afraid/shy to divulge just found it strange
Sharing sexual fantasies with another is something that's extremely intimate. It requires trust and confidence. That takes time to establish.
Would you suggest with or without alcohol?
I'm not much of a drinker, and I'm relatively confident. If I get an inkling a healthy sexual relationship can be had (whatever that may entail), I don't need alcohol to lower my inhibitions in order to open up.
But not everyone is like that. In fact, I prefer to stay sober when meeting others. Alcohol clouds judgement. This can, of course, be good or bad. In my experience, it's mostly bad though.
A woman is more likely to open up in response to you opening up, while remaining non judgemental and being complimentary of her.
After that it's down to how she feels in your company, whether her fantasies align with yours, if she wants to share them, amongst many other things, I'm sure.
Wise words eloquently put
You're just pulling the leg anyway but all the best if not
Nope for once I am not !!
Jeez you have an awful opinion of me
Ah, I don't take Fab forum too seriously. Most comments I take to be tongue in cheek (as most of mine are), including yours from what I remember
And whereas I may get an idea of you, I haven't half enough from a handful of forum contributions to form an opinion "
All I’m the name of good craic
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"In general men are visual creatures whereas women are guided by thoughts/fantasies so I'd say she needs to be more comfortable with you before divulging such details.
Give her time I'd say.
Mrs  "
Thanks for the advice, maybe I should be more open of mine |
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"In general men are visual creatures whereas women are guided by thoughts/fantasies so I'd say she needs to be more comfortable with you before divulging such details.
Give her time I'd say.
Mrs
Thanks for the advice, maybe I should be more open of mine"
Depends on how kinky they are and her openness to them. Thread carefully |
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"In general men are visual creatures whereas women are guided by thoughts/fantasies so I'd say she needs to be more comfortable with you before divulging such details.
Give her time I'd say.
Mrs "
Second this and also speaking for myself and not any other woman is perhaps she thinks if she shares some with you that you will think differently of her. Also maybe she thinks if she does share with you that you will jump on a fantasy and want her to try it out whereas she just has it in her head as a little thing to help her orgasm. |
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"Wise words eloquently put
You're just pulling the leg anyway but all the best if not
Nope for once I am not !!
Jeez you have an awful opinion of me
Ah, I don't take Fab forum too seriously. Most comments I take to be tongue in cheek (as most of mine are), including yours from what I remember
And whereas I may get an idea of you, I haven't half enough from a handful of forum contributions to form an opinion
All I’m the name of good craic
Meant it though "
Always in the name of good craic. Plenty of real life scenarios getting the blood boiling, don't need that aggro here - this is my escape |
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"Wise words eloquently put
You're just pulling the leg anyway but all the best if not
Nope for once I am not !!
Jeez you have an awful opinion of me
Ah, I don't take Fab forum too seriously. Most comments I take to be tongue in cheek (as most of mine are), including yours from what I remember
And whereas I may get an idea of you, I haven't half enough from a handful of forum contributions to form an opinion
All I’m the name of good craic
Meant it though
Always in the name of good craic. Plenty of real life scenarios getting the blood boiling, don't need that aggro here - this is my escape "
You said it. Some people get confused and Fab becomes their life.
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"In general men are visual creatures whereas women are guided by thoughts/fantasies so I'd say she needs to be more comfortable with you before divulging such details.
Give her time I'd say.
Mrs
Second this and also speaking for myself and not any other woman is perhaps she thinks if she shares some with you that you will think differently of her. Also maybe she thinks if she does share with you that you will jump on a fantasy and want her to try it out whereas she just has it in her head as a little thing to help her orgasm. "
Thanks always great to hear a woman’s perspective  |
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"In general men are visual creatures whereas women are guided by thoughts/fantasies so I'd say she needs to be more comfortable with you before divulging such details.
Give her time I'd say.
Mrs
Thanks for the advice, maybe I should be more open of mine
Depends on how kinky they are and her openness to them. Thread carefully "
Lol never thought of that!! Could run a mile |
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"In general men are visual creatures whereas women are guided by thoughts/fantasies so I'd say she needs to be more comfortable with you before divulging such details.
Give her time I'd say.
Mrs
Second this and also speaking for myself and not any other woman is perhaps she thinks if she shares some with you that you will think differently of her. Also maybe she thinks if she does share with you that you will jump on a fantasy and want her to try it out whereas she just has it in her head as a little thing to help her orgasm. "
This is so so true for me too! Though admittedly, if my fantasies would change someone's opinion of me to a negative, they're probably not for me. They're thoughts and fantasies, not something to necessarily be acted upon. I respect boundaries the same way I'd expect mine to be respected. Sex is supposed to be fun for both partners.
A fantasy is exactly that, thoughts in the depth of the dirty mind - and it does not necessarily mean I want to make it a reality. In fact, I have plenty of thoughts and fantasies I never want to make a reality. And then there are those thoughts and fantasies where the partner just has to be compatible.
There are things I'd do with my current partner I wouldn't have done with a previous and vice versa simply because everyone has somewhat different likes, interests and fantasies.
Context, right? |
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"I don’t have any particular fantasies at the moment. I’m sure I’ll come up with some soon but the ones I had have been fulfilled.
Perhaps she’s the same, perhaps she just doesn’t have any or perhaps she just doesn’t feel comfortable enough sharing them at the moment. I don’t see it as a red flag. "
I agree here, don't have fantasies as I have experienced them all, but that's not to say I won't develop them in future times. Not coy or shy, just got nothing to say about them |
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