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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Been on/off here for a number of years. Fair to say there is a certain “clique” that has developed since the last time I was here that have an opinion of themselves and their clique. Anyone else agree ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People form friendships and get to know each other, hate this clique shite. Get involved in the forums and let people get to know you.

Its a small community and thankfully people look out for each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fair to say there are cliques as well as there are folks who for some unfathomable reason like to stir shite.

Two ends of a sad stick

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally, and our clique is the best and by far the most exclusive

Current membership:2

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"Been on/off here for a number of years. Fair to say there is a certain “clique” that has developed since the last time I was here that have an opinion of themselves and their clique. Anyone else agree ?"
of course there is a clique. it's probably like any site. there is people stick together, agree with one another on everything. also people chat privately with the same sexes on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People form friendships and get to know each other, hate this clique shite. Get involved in the forums and let people get to know you.

Its a small community and thankfully people look out for each other.

Just an observation…

I have met many friends via fab over the years and am still in contact with a few that have left the site. Yes it’s a small community, yes people will look out for each other. Those always have and will happen here. But as for the smugness it seems to be a relatively new thing.

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By *ondalingerMan over a year ago

City center

"People form friendships and get to know each other, hate this clique shite. Get involved in the forums and let people get to know you.

Its a small community and thankfully people look out for each other.

"
sounds like something a clique member would say tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The smugness certainly isn't new

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People form friendships and get to know each other, hate this clique shite. Get involved in the forums and let people get to know you.

Its a small community and thankfully people look out for each other.

Just an observation…

Dint think it's a new thing on here I just pass no heed. Some People will always have notions

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Been on/off here for a number of years. Fair to say there is a certain “clique” that has developed since the last time I was here that have an opinion of themselves and their clique. Anyone else agree ?of course there is a clique. it's probably like any site. there is people stick together, agree with one another on everything. also people chat privately with the same sexes on here. "

Exactly and when enough people stick together and agree with one another they become more small minded because they cut off anyone who doesn’t toe the line.

FB groups had a big part to play in the US capital riots last January due to cliques

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People form friendships and get to know each other, hate this clique shite. Get involved in the forums and let people get to know you.

Its a small community and thankfully people look out for each other.

sounds like something a clique member would say tbh

Well if I'm in a clique nobody told me what's the benefits or perks of this clique?

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By *rankbMan over a year ago

around

Have seen friendships develop in fab and people who respond to each other’s posts regularly but I haven’t experienced any exclusion or isolation. Have also enjoyed chatting with really nice people here and I suppose have developed my own regulars over time. Takes a bit of time but the number of good people far outweigh the number of assholes (so to speak!)

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I have an opinion of myself. It's usually a good opinion and fairly spot on because I've taken the time to get to know myself over the years.

Others may have a different opinion.

Just like there are others who preach inclusiveness but don't practice it.

Lip service should be included in the list of fab interests.

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By *ondalingerMan over a year ago

City center

"[Removed by poster at 05/01/22 12:29:41]"
proof right here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Absolutely, they enjoy massaging each other’s egos. Heaven forbid someone disagrees with their opinions in a forum post, they suffer the wrath of their “clique” regardless if the point is valid or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 05/01/22 12:29:41]proof right here"

What was it ?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"Been on/off here for a number of years. Fair to say there is a certain “clique” that has developed since the last time I was here that have an opinion of themselves and their clique. Anyone else agree ?of course there is a clique. it's probably like any site. there is people stick together, agree with one another on everything. also people chat privately with the same sexes on here.

Exactly and when enough people stick together and agree with one another they become more small minded because they cut off anyone who doesn’t toe the line.

FB groups had a big part to play in the US capital riots last January due to cliques "
there is a big mentality on fab with some that you should be a certain way or interact in a certain fashion. id even say there are some afraid to give opinions on forums for fear of been ridiculed. it's great to speak your mind but it's amazing how many won't talk to u because of it. I have gotten on in life with many people that I don't see eye to eye on every matter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So a clique causes riots holy crap

OK who's up for a Good old riot?

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"Absolutely, they enjoy massaging each other’s egos. Heaven forbid someone disagrees with their opinions in a forum post, they suffer the wrath of their “clique” regardless if the point is valid or not."

Is that not part of the fun?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Been on/off here for a number of years. Fair to say there is a certain “clique” that has developed since the last time I was here that have an opinion of themselves and their clique. Anyone else agree ?of course there is a clique. it's probably like any site. there is people stick together, agree with one another on everything. also people chat privately with the same sexes on here.

Exactly and when enough people stick together and agree with one another they become more small minded because they cut off anyone who doesn’t toe the line.

FB groups had a big part to play in the US capital riots last January due to cliques there is a big mentality on fab with some that you should be a certain way or interact in a certain fashion. id even say there are some afraid to give opinions on forums for fear of been ridiculed. it's great to speak your mind but it's amazing how many won't talk to u because of it. I have gotten on in life with many people that I don't see eye to eye on every matter. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally, and our clique is the best and by far the most exclusive

Current membership:2"

Can we be in your clique ? We feel left out lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally, and our clique is the best and by far the most exclusive

Current membership:2

Can we be in your clique ? We feel left out lol"

How dare you even speak to us!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So a clique causes riots holy crap

OK who's up for a Good old riot? "

I started typing explaining how FB groups cause people to be narrow minded, but it’s not worth my time.

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

"So a clique causes riots holy crap

OK who's up for a Good old ride? "

Fixed that for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"Been on/off here for a number of years. Fair to say there is a certain “clique” that has developed since the last time I was here that have an opinion of themselves and their clique. Anyone else agree ?of course there is a clique. it's probably like any site. there is people stick together, agree with one another on everything. also people chat privately with the same sexes on here.

Exactly and when enough people stick together and agree with one another they become more small minded because they cut off anyone who doesn’t toe the line.

Yes because that’s how we function in the real world. You can’t block someone at work or sports association because their opinion differs from yours. Just because they have a different opinion doesn’t make them wrong. "
exactly and differing opinions add to forum topic and discussion. if we all agreed it would be boring but I don't judge someone on their forum behaviour. I talk to them one to one if I like their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules. "

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules. "
I have a serious question for u. did u honestly sit down and read all site rules before partaking in the forums? u can also be guaranteed squeeling and reporting goes on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So a clique causes riots holy crap

OK who's up for a Good old riot?

I started typing explaining how FB groups cause people to be narrow minded, but it’s not worth my time. "

Not in that many FB groups other than a knitting one and how to make your house a home

Definition of ego - A person sense of self esteem or self importance.

So my self esteem has been rock bottom for years as I felt I wasn't good enough to be a mum cause I had a kid alone and according to some I had ruined my life, I wasn't attractive or wanted because I was always the funny friend. So my self esteem took a battering and still at 47 when I'm paid a compliment I don't believe it's genuine. I see people people say that someone is out of their league , I'd be glad to be in anyones league.

Self importance - do I think I'm above anyone else, no I don't but I'm a good decent person.

If sinton has confidence or high self esteem fair bloody play to them because in this modern world its hard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally, and our clique is the best and by far the most exclusive

Current membership:2

Can we be in your clique ? We feel left out lol

How dare you even speak to us!!! "

Sorry will never happen again. We slowly leave the forum room bowing to you not making eye contact

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich. "

You have some neck on ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Been on/off here for a number of years. Fair to say there is a certain “clique” that has developed since the last time I was here that have an opinion of themselves and their clique. Anyone else agree ?of course there is a clique. it's probably like any site. there is people stick together, agree with one another on everything. also people chat privately with the same sexes on here.

Exactly and when enough people stick together and agree with one another they become more small minded because they cut off anyone who doesn’t toe the line.

Yes because that’s how we function in the real world. You can’t block someone at work or sports association because their opinion differs from yours. Just because they have a different opinion doesn’t make them wrong. exactly and differing opinions add to forum topic and discussion. if we all agreed it would be boring but I don't judge someone on their forum behaviour. I talk to them one to one if I like their profile. "

A man with real life experience and not skewed by the online world. Great there’s still some about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cliques come and go, here and everywhere else. If people think you aren't worth being in one then they most likely aren't one you want to be in.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

If you kick the saloon door open and come in shooting don't be surprised if others start shooting back.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

If you kick the saloon door open and come in shooting don't be surprised if others start shooting back. "

And if you rode in on a dead horse ffs stop flogging it.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

If you kick the saloon door open and come in shooting don't be surprised if others start shooting back. "
that's what u want, shooting back. it adds to the forum but it's unreal the amount block u because of it.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

If you kick the saloon door open and come in shooting don't be surprised if others start shooting back. that's what u want, shooting back. it adds to the forum but it's unreal the amount block u because of it. "

I refer you to my last comment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

So what if they block you, I've been by people I've never interacted with and no idea why. Been blocked by people is an option on here some use it some.dont

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules. I have a serious question for u. did u honestly sit down and read all site rules before partaking in the forums? u can also be guaranteed squeeling and reporting goes on. "

Most of the rules are basic cop-on to be fair. And even if someone is reported, I imagine that the mods look at their post rather than going by the recommendations of the supposed cliques, that's the idea of moderators.

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I often don’t conform to the norm on here but I don’t think I’ve been ostracised. Not everyone is going to agree with you but, with the exception of a few, we can all handle that.

People have friends on here and will understandably defend them if they feel they are being targeted. That’s very normal human behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cliques come and go, here and everywhere else. If people think you aren't worth being in one then they most likely aren't one you want to be in."

Kind of a no-brainer, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I often don’t conform to the norm on here but I don’t think I’ve been ostracised. Not everyone is going to agree with you but, with the exception of a few, we can all handle that.

People have friends on here and will understandably defend them if they feel they are being targeted. That’s very normal human behaviour. "

Personally, I sit back and watch the fun

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

I refer you to my last comment

"
I read it the first time.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

So what if they block you, I've been by people I've never interacted with and no idea why. Been blocked by people is an option on here some use it some.dont"
its clear as day they're blocking u from forum opinion which is my point.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

So what if they block you, I've been by people I've never interacted with and no idea why. Been blocked by people is an option on here some use it some.dont its clear as day they're blocking u from forum opinion which is my point. "

So what if they do, they can't stop you expressing yourself on the forum. Unless you want to bombard them with messages, what's the issue?

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

I’m here for the clits, not the cliques

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

"I’m here for the clits, not the cliques"

Any particular shape or colour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m here for the clits, not the cliques"

He speaks the truth

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

"I’m here for the clits, not the cliques

Any particular shape or colour

Not fussy, whichever is easiest to find....

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

So what if they do, they can't stop you expressing yourself on the forum. Unless you want to bombard them with messages, what's the issue? "
the point been made is they judge u on forum opinion and your expression on matters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

So what if they do, they can't stop you expressing yourself on the forum. Unless you want to bombard them with messages, what's the issue? the point been made is they judge u on forum opinion and your expression on matters. "

Well of course they do, how else are they going to form an opinion of you lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

Is that not a pretty reasonable thing to judge if you want further interactions with someone on though?

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

Opinions expressed on the forum tell you a lot more about a person than their profile. If you’ve been blocked because of something on the forum, it’s probably for a very good reason

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By *ondalingerMan over a year ago

City center

Theres a main clique group

End of

Sheeple

Leave them to it and look after you

I gotta try my best not to respond to these clique threads

Its as clear as day who they are. If you have an issue, dont get involved with them. I too will bow my head and back away from this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab Clique and Collect let us know who you want it your clique and we offer a pick up service..

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By *man79Man over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Anyone see a set of keys?. I lost them again ffs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone see a set of keys?. I lost them again ffs"

I have a key for a g wagon

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

What were the forums like when you were on before Op

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By *man79Man over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

"Anyone see a set of keys?. I lost them again ffs

I have a key for a g wagon "

Did you steal my spare key ya wee bitch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone see a set of keys?. I lost them again ffs

I have a key for a g wagon

Did you steal my spare key ya wee bitch

Come and get it

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

"Theres a main clique group

End of

Sheeple

Leave them to it and look after you

I gotta try my best not to respond to these clique threads

Its as clear as day who they are. If you have an issue, dont get involved with them. I too will bow my head and back away from this thread"

See I don’t think there is one main cliques. There’s several cliques/groups of friends.

There are also people who post more regularly than others, so perhaps it looks like they’re a clique?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

Well of course they do, how else are they going to form an opinion of you lol"
by looking at your profile and chatting to u 1 to 1 lol. forum opinions on topics is not chatting to somebody. it's like I said at the beginning. I get on with numerous people in life who I had different opinion matters with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

Well of course they do, how else are they going to form an opinion of you lolby looking at your profile and chatting to u 1 to 1 lol. forum opinions on topics is not chatting to somebody. it's like I said at the beginning. I get on with numerous people in life who I had different opinion matters with. "

What people express in the "anonymity" of an online forum often reveals far more than in direct conversation

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

What people express in the "anonymity" of an online forum often reveals far more than in direct conversation "
no it doesn't. as I said if I adopted that mentality in every day life, there would be alot of people I don't talk to. also on here in the past I have seen profiles say they got on life a house on fire at meet and greets with profiles they had blocked on here.

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By *hilaboutMan over a year ago

kilkenny

Ah its all in your mind ..have given opinions agreeing n disagree ring with post on here n have never suffered any riots..dont be overthinking it enjoy n move on

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By *ummer_XOWoman over a year ago

Tyrone

"People form friendships and get to know each other, hate this clique shite. Get involved in the forums and let people get to know you.

Its a small community and thankfully people look out for each other.

Spot on

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

id be very surprised if most didn't get on with me in person. that's not big headedness, it's just how I am.

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By *asual777Man over a year ago

i travel all over

I d be very intrigued if there was any correlation between perceived cliques and reality .

My guess is almost none . Many regular posters don’t know each other, and some don’t get on I suspect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Human nature I think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is the reverse issue of individuals thinking that just because the majority of people disagree with them the majority are sheeple or pretending to have an opinion to be popular.

Yes that happens but mostly alot of people just have similar mindsets

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We’ll just an observation on my behalf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op I can see where you are coming and I would agree and disagree to an extent. What you see as cliques I would call groups of friends people have made via the site. I would have met a lot of the usual forum posters in previous incarnations at socials and swing club in my time. I wouldn't call them friends. In this incarnation dee would have met one regular forum user and think we have PM'd a handful about threads they posted something on that sparked our interest. Others however do meet regularly and chat privately so certain things would go over other people's heads. Friendships and more develop from these conversations. To call it a clique in my opinion would put a negative spin on things. Yes things are said and I'm certain people get bad mouthed (human nature. We can't like everybody) but that's life. I would say ignore it if it's bothering you and worry about yourself. That's what we do and it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Op I can see where you are coming and I would agree and disagree to an extent. What you see as cliques I would call groups of friends people have made via the site. I would have met a lot of the usual forum posters in previous incarnations at socials and swing club in my time. I wouldn't call them friends. In this incarnation dee would have met one regular forum user and think we have PM'd a handful about threads they posted something on that sparked our interest. Others however do meet regularly and chat privately so certain things would go over other people's heads. Friendships and more develop from these conversations. To call it a clique in my opinion would put a negative spin on things. Yes things are said and I'm certain people get bad mouthed (human nature. We can't like everybody) but that's life. I would say ignore it if it's bothering you and worry about yourself. That's what we do and it works for us.

(previous post deleted as I have big fingers

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Not bothering me but a general observation. Thanks for taking the time to construct a well thought out response

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's nobody stopping anyone from expressing an opinion here provided it's within site rules.

No but they will be ostracised for going against the ruling classes on here

I disagree nearly every day and I'm not an ostrich.

You have some neck on ya

But it's not buried in the sand. Everyone can express an opinion but it's how you express it. Make your point without resorting to name calling or telling everyone they are sheep or are wrong.

If you kick the saloon door open and come in shooting don't be surprised if others start shooting back.

And if you rode in on a dead horse ffs stop flogging it. "

The wild west has joined the Clique too its growing fast

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By *ofusplusCouple over a year ago

Limerick

Yep, it's easy to see who is friends with who on the forums, however the term 'clique' is not a nice term to describe any group of friends, never mind the term 'sheeple'.

I'm often on the forums (mostly reading these days) and I must say I've never seen whole groups of people be derogatory towards any individual on here unless they were being an asshole and quite frankly deserved it.

Would love to see an example of the type of behaviour you refer to.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think often friendship groups on here get labelled as cliques even though they are far from it, more just people who gravitate towards each other and people take offence to it. But I do think you get the odd group of people who exclude others and can be bitchy. But I don't understand why you let it bother you? I wouldn't like to be friends with people like that anyway.

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By *1CorkCouple over a year ago

Cork

If it’s generally obvious who the ‘clique‘ being referred to are, and I think it was judging by antagonised push back to OP’s assertion, does that not validate him to some extent?

OP, you may have to accept that if a close knit group who do not readily permit new entrants annoys you, it must mean you are on some level desirous of inclusion?

**Tongue in cheek** Every close knit group we’ve ever been a part of (friends and family), saw plenty of differences of opinion, disagreements and arguments. Therefore, in our experience the group we believe the OP is implicating surely cannot be classified as a close knit group or satisfy the definition of a clique!

Our observation is that it’s more a harmless group of like minded regulars dependent on mutual flattery, reciprocal online support and groupthink. Just our casual opinion, please don’t round on us collectively for airing it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"Our observation is that it’s more a harmless group of like minded regulars dependent on mutual flattery, reciprocal online support and groupthink. Just our casual opinion, please don’t round on us collectively for airing it."
That's it. it's more people who know one another through regular meets in person and have become friends but there defiantly is a perceived notion by some of how you should behave and interact on a forum. I'm all for speaking your mind. Will arguments occur? of course they will, that's part of differening opinions. it's part of an interesting forum also but has no bearing on what I think of a person in an individualised setting. as I said earlier, I wouldn't have all the great people in my life that I do if I judged them on their opinions. we all have differing opinions but doesn't mean you can't get on and not speak to a person because of it.

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to? "

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?"

I would have thought regular everyday less than 100

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?

I would have thought regular everyday less than 100 "

Regular probably 20-30 and a good chunk of them could be the same person

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?

I would have thought regular everyday less than 100 "

Sure there has to be a hundred gents alone posting regularly here (maybe not necessarily daily), then add in a few dozen ladies and a couple of dozen couples plus the occasional TV/TS...

I might start counting now

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By *R BxMan over a year ago

wonderland

Totally, and our clique is the best and by far the most exclusive

Current membership:2

Can we be in your clique ? We feel left out lol

How dare you even speak to us!!!

Sorry will never happen again. We slowly leave the forum room bowing to you not making eye contact "

I genuinely just laughed out loud at this,love it

ahh I'm dying

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By *indenMan over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?

I would have thought regular everyday less than 100

Regular probably 20-30 and a good chunk of them could be the same person

I get all the action on my 17 other profiles…..

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?

I would have thought regular everyday less than 100

Regular probably 20-30 and a good chunk of them could be the same person

I get all the action on my 17 other profiles…..

You must have a looooootttttt of energy

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?"
don't mi d regular posters. how many view them but won't comment.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

The lines are blurred more now between the village idiot trolls, the pop-up trolls and those who live for replying to both.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

"The lines are blurred more now between the village idiot trolls, the pop-up trolls and those who live for replying to both. "
those pesky trolls...

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?

I would have thought regular everyday less than 100

Sure there has to be a hundred gents alone posting regularly here (maybe not necessarily daily), then add in a few dozen ladies and a couple of dozen couples plus the occasional TV/TS...

I might start counting now

I’m planning a spreadsheet

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

"Who is this clique or group everyone referring to?

Me, myself and I

Anybody have an idea how many relatively regular posters there are in the Irish forum? A couple of hundred? Or am I way off with that figure?

I would have thought regular everyday less than 100

Sure there has to be a hundred gents alone posting regularly here (maybe not necessarily daily), then add in a few dozen ladies and a couple of dozen couples plus the occasional TV/TS...

I might start counting now

I’m planning a spreadsheet

I'd love to see the total figures at the end

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Truth hurts. Doesn’t bother me at all. Funny what happens when you kick a wasps nest isn’t it

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By *3nsesMan over a year ago

Dublin

Cliques have always existed on here. It's to be expected though. I'd expect the same in any situation where a large number of people come together.

The forums are just a tiny part of the community though. Obviously given the current situation re covid it's been amplified a bit more but it still makes up for a very small percentage.

In saying that, you'll come across cliques on the social scene and party scene. You need to decide how you'll navigate those if your going to get involved in them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dunno if you're referring to the Irish forum or in general.

My experience is that there have always been cliques.

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By *3nsesMan over a year ago

Dublin

Another point to add. If people think they should be allowed express their opinion and that expressing that opinion should not have any impact on what people's perceptions are of them then that's a fairly unrealistic attitude tbh.

Always important to accept what you say will have consequences.

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By *oghunter33Woman over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

How about all those in denial of the existence of fab cliques probably belong to one?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a new clique in town taking applications all welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How about all those in denial of the existence of fab cliques probably belong to one?

Ssshhh they are in denial

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's a new clique in town taking applications all welcome

Case in point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a new clique in town taking applications all welcome

Case in point

Your easily amused aren't ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's a new clique in town taking applications all welcome

Case in point

Your easily amused aren't ya

No not at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a new clique in town taking applications all welcome

Case in point

Your easily amused aren't ya

No not at all."

Your welcome to join as you seem so concerned with the clique. We have our first get together this weekend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's a new clique in town taking applications all welcome

Case in point

Your easily amused aren't ya

No not at all.

Your welcome to join as you seem so concerned with the clique. We have our first get together this weekend. "

Lol you’re grand thanks. Not into elitism.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's a new clique in town taking applications all welcome

Case in point

Your easily amused aren't ya

No not at all.

Your welcome to join as you seem so concerned with the clique. We have our first get together this weekend. "

Thanks anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a new clique in town taking applications all welcome

Case in point

Your easily amused aren't ya

No not at all.

Your welcome to join as you seem so concerned with the clique. We have our first get together this weekend.

Lol you’re grand thanks. Not into elitism.

I need to go look that up hang on

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By *3nsesMan over a year ago

Dublin

The reaction to the suggestions that there is a clicque was far more interesting I thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The reaction to the suggestions that there is a clicque was far more interesting I thought. "

Absolutely kick a wasps nest see what happens

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The reaction to the suggestions that there is a clicque was far more interesting I thought. "

Its been a laugh that's for sure I'm even more amazed with all the talk of the cliques no one has a list !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The reaction to the suggestions that there is a clicque was far more interesting I thought.

Its been a laugh that's for sure I'm even more amazed with all the talk of the cliques no one has a list !

No need for a list. 30 mins browsing the forums and you can see it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The reaction to the suggestions that there is a clicque was far more interesting I thought.

Its been a laugh that's for sure I'm even more amazed with all the talk of the cliques no one has a list !

No need for a list. 30 mins browsing the forums and you can see it

Sure we all one big happy family

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The reaction to the suggestions that there is a clicque was far more interesting I thought.

Its been a laugh that's for sure I'm even more amazed with all the talk of the cliques no one has a list !

No need for a list. 30 mins browsing the forums and you can see it

Sure we all one big happy family

Typical Family who kill each other

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

Why is there a negative view of the word clique

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

"Why is there a negative view of the word clique "

Definition: a small close-knit group of people who do not readily allow others to join them.

Doesn't it come with the image of the typical American teen movie where you have the various "cliques", the cheerleaders, the geeks and nerds, the popular vs the unpopular whereby it's often the "beautiful", intelligent and popular cliques who actively exclude and even put down the "undesirables"...at least that's the image that's conjured in my mind when there's talk of a "clique".

And I suppose some will say that that's the life they lived in school, regardless of what group you belonged to.

Frankly, I think it's about perception. It's personal. This is a virtual Forum. Yes, some people may know each other and be friends in the real world. There may be the impression of cliques.

I wouldn't have a clue who belongs to what clique here if there are any. I just don't pay attention to it because it doesn't bother me. I don't know anyone on the Forum personally.

I think it probably also depends on how you feel about yourself and your own position in society for want of better wording.

I've always been an outsider because I'm foreign and to top it off from Cavan

. I'm quite happy, now, being a little different, not necessarily fitting in with what might be the perceived norm. But I certainly didn't feel that way when I was teased and actively excluded in school, for example, just because I had a different nationality and upbringing.

That's why I believe cliques have a negative connotation.

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By *oghunter33Woman over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Why is there a negative view of the word clique "

As _ la carte said it has by definition a negative connotation.

From the outside the forum itself can be easily perceived as clique because it's the same people posting, but with the time you'll realise that the only thing connecting most is being a hopeless forumite like myself. However there is groups that know each other from socials, parties etc. and it's easy enough to spot them on the forum by the way they communicate with each other but also from the verification trail. I can easily understand why someone from the outside would perceive those groups as cliques while they themselves would never consider their interaction as cliquey.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Our observation is that it’s more a harmless group of like minded regulars dependent on mutual flattery, reciprocal online support and groupthink. Just our casual opinion, please don’t round on us collectively for airing it.That's it. it's more people who know one another through regular meets in person and have become friends but there defiantly is a perceived notion by some of how you should behave and interact on a forum. I'm all for speaking your mind. Will arguments occur? of course they will, that's part of differening opinions. it's part of an interesting forum also but has no bearing on what I think of a person in an individualised setting. as I said earlier, I wouldn't have all the great people in my life that I do if I judged them on their opinions. we all have differing opinions but doesn't mean you can't get on and not speak to a person because of it. "

Perhaps that depends on what they're expressing an opinion on. Certainly as far as Fab is concerned, there are those whose expressed opinions mean I have no desire to interact with them on a one to one basis. There are situations outwith Fab where that would also be the case but they'd probably be more extreme views

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also to add, if people agree with each other here on the forum could it be simply that? That they just agree? And its an individual's perception to that agreement (especially if they're of a differing opinion) that causes the perception of a clique?

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By *1CorkCouple over a year ago

Cork

Let’s face it, the prolific posters will never tread on each other’s toes, yet once one of them stomps on an infrequent/ new poster‘s toes, the rest come rallying for a stamp of their own - brandishing studs. It’s often the non worshipping single males that bare the brunt of the group ire. We find the varying tone of responses are as dependent on the OP as mush as the post itself. Fascinating to observe if interested in group dynamics.

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By *aid backMan over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Most people now communicate with their clique/friends group via Kik/watsapp groups etc these days. Even parties/events are now organised mainly through them and only rarely are put on the forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Let’s face it, the prolific posters will never tread on each other’s toes, yet once one of them stomps on an infrequent/ new poster‘s toes, the rest come rallying for a stamp of their own - brandishing studs. It’s often the non worshipping single males that bare the brunt of the group ire. We find the varying tone of responses are as dependent on the OP as mush as the post itself. Fascinating to observe if interested in group dynamics."

Very interesting indeed. Especially when a counter forum thread post was set up to discredit this one

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Most people now communicate with their clique/friends group via Kik/watsapp groups etc these days. Even parties/events are now organised mainly through them and only rarely are put on the forum"

Yep 100% without a doubt my ears were burning in a few kik groups

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most people now communicate with their clique/friends group via Kik/watsapp groups etc these days. Even parties/events are now organised mainly through them and only rarely are put on the forum

Yep 100% without a doubt my ears were burning in a few kik groups

Hopefully that's providing the validation you seem to so desperately need OP

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

There's a big difference between non worshipping and deliberately provocative.

I've yet to bear the brunt of any group ire despite being very far removed from the white knights and sychophants.

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

"Most people now communicate with their clique/friends group via Kik/watsapp groups etc these days. Even parties/events are now organised mainly through them and only rarely are put on the forum

Yep 100% without a doubt my ears were burning in a few kik groups

I'm in a few...you weren't mentioned ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very interesting indeed. Especially when a counter forum thread post was set up to discredit this one

My thread wasn't set up to discredit this one at all. Not my style I'm here for a laugh and escape from the Real life and anyone that knows me from posting here can agree or disagree with me. Like everything there probably are "cliques" on here do I consider myself in one nope I'm not one of the cool ones. I have friends here and enemies too but who cares, what difference dpes it make.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The delicious irony of this thread is people who consider themselves excluded from/a step above any supposed cliques rushing to agree with each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most people now communicate with their clique/friends group via Kik/watsapp groups etc these days. Even parties/events are now organised mainly through them and only rarely are put on the forum

Yep 100% without a doubt my ears were burning in a few kik groups

Not in any I'm in...sorry to disappoint *insert passive aggressive emoji here*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stick to yourself, that's what I do and I have a great time. Fuck that pally pally business. People in the cliques are the ones that live in the forums and who don't actually do much meeting but seem to have a grand opinion on it.

I'm not here to make friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Most people now communicate with their clique/friends group via Kik/watsapp groups etc these days. Even parties/events are now organised mainly through them and only rarely are put on the forum

Yep 100% without a doubt my ears were burning in a few kik groups

Not in any I'm in...sorry to disappoint *insert passive aggressive emoji here*"

Ohh you’re on to me

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

Very interesting indeed. Especially when a counter forum thread post was set up to discredit this one

Do you not think that was more out of humour though, tongue in cheek more so than to actually prove a point

As for watching the interactions, I agree, it is fascinating to watch

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

I got torn to shreds over a typo I made in a post one afternoon a few weeks ago...genuine error and wasnt on for a few hours afterwards

Some of the comments were by regular posters so yes we do thread on each others toes if necessary

New people I try to help and offer advise but those that deliberately come in to the forums to stir shite and get people banned deserve to be shot down..like last nights thread..they think that they're unique and edgy but truth be told there's a new one every month

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very interesting indeed. Especially when a counter forum thread post was set up to discredit this one

Do you not think that was more out of humour though, tongue in cheek more so than to actually prove a point

As for watching the interactions, I agree, it is fascinating to watch

That was my aim having a laugh but obviously some didn't get it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Very interesting indeed. Especially when a counter forum thread post was set up to discredit this one

Do you not think that was more out of humour though, tongue in cheek more so than to actually prove a point

As for watching the interactions, I agree, it is fascinating to watch

That was my aim having a laugh but obviously some didn't get it. "

I do I just enjoy stirring the pot too

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

There's a big difference between non worshipping and deliberately provocative.

I've yet to bear the brunt of any group ire despite being very far removed from the white knights and sychophants.

In fairness, RB, you are unique. I've rarely seen a more consistent and impartial poster than yourself! You take no shit, you come across as knowing exactly who you are and what you want. And you have a sense of humour to go with it...I admire that outspokenness. And no, I'm not here to lickarse

I'll get back to my usual sarcasm and flirting now

who's next

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

Very interesting indeed. Especially when a counter forum thread post was set up to discredit this one

Do you not think that was more out of humour though, tongue in cheek more so than to actually prove a point

As for watching the interactions, I agree, it is fascinating to watch

That was my aim having a laugh but obviously some didn't get it.

I do I just enjoy stirring the pot too"

Fancy unclogging my toilet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are certainly different responses to posters depending on their gender and forum presence here.

Some of that is good old fashioned wanting to get the ride off someone you fancy. Sometimes its because a poster might have a track record of being somewhat sane and a post that seems to contradict that will be taken with a pinch of salt.

And there are times when certain posters seem to be targeted by others.

Some of the perceived (mostly man but not all) bashing also comes from forum fatigue when regulars see the same topic come up repeatedly (covid/cliques/why can't I get a meet/I got a mean message) and just speil a frustrated post when they should probably just put the phone down

However in general I think the forum is pretty open to newcomers even those with strong and unpopular opinions as long as they can voice them in a reasonable way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stick to yourself, that's what I do and I have a great time. Fuck that pally pally business. People in the cliques are the ones that live in the forums and who don't actually do much meeting but seem to have a grand opinion on it.

I'm not here to make friends.

Drop the talk and grab the cock then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Very interesting indeed. Especially when a counter forum thread post was set up to discredit this one

Do you not think that was more out of humour though, tongue in cheek more so than to actually prove a point

As for watching the interactions, I agree, it is fascinating to watch

That was my aim having a laugh but obviously some didn't get it.

I do I just enjoy stirring the pot too

Fancy unclogging my toilet

Yes please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not here to make friends.

Drop the talk and grab the cock then?

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Opinions expressed on the forum tell you a lot more about a person than their profile. If you’ve been blocked because of something on the forum, it’s probably for a very good reason

I would agree that most blocks come from something said on a forum that makes someone say , no thanks or we won't get on well so block. However, I do believe I've been blocked before because of the group of friends I've made. The people who have verified me and with whom I would have been having the banter with on the forum.

I could be wrong, maybe it was for an entirely different reason but it was how I felt at the time.

As for cliques, I definitely see different groups who seem to have bonded maybe through socials etc however my experience has always been positive overall. Always been able to have a laugh or decent conversation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Opinions expressed on the forum tell you a lot more about a person than their profile. If you’ve been blocked because of something on the forum, it’s probably for a very good reason

I could be wrong, maybe it was for an entirely different reason but it was how I felt at the time.

Ah good to see you back

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

"Opinions expressed on the forum tell you a lot more about a person than their profile. If you’ve been blocked because of something on the forum, it’s probably for a very good reason

I could be wrong, maybe it was for an entirely different reason but it was how I felt at the time.

Welcome back

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By *man79Man over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Whoahhhhhh. Does this mean that I’m clique-sexual

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks Dd and Bman

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By * la carteCouple over a year ago

Dublin

"Opinions expressed on the forum tell you a lot more about a person than their profile. If you’ve been blocked because of something on the forum, it’s probably for a very good reason

I could be wrong, maybe it was for an entirely different reason but it was how I felt at the time.

Ah, you see now I had to look at who you're friends with

one way to get the profile views up

just kidding.

You have a point though I generally don't block because of something that was said or because of who you may or may not be verified by or friends with. That's what my notes are for

. But it's interesting to see, hear or "feel" how others use the block button and perceive you as such (in the widest sense)

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By *umon337Man over a year ago

Offaly

Very interesting topic. The idea of cliques or hierarchies is very typical of society at large.

Most people on here seem to be logging in and out, checking people out, aiming to have a bit of fun and others are on here more regularly and are more engaged on every level of the website so therefore seem to be have a larger presence overall, like the regular crowd in the pub that are always sitting in the same seats.

We form exclusive groups naturally but where cliques are bad is when the dynamic turns negative and bullying, etc. happens.

It can seem daunting when you join fab at first, like going into an new pub, but when you're there a while you rea that there's lots of different people for every sort of taste and fancy.

(And yes, I'm gasping for a pint and a lock-in

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