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At your age I can understand the anxiety but can assure you there is absolutely no need to be nervous. Until lockdown I did all my clothes shopping in person with the exception of some accessories like wigs. Most Shop Assistants will be very helpful if needed and at worst will ignore you - they cannot afford to make any snide or derogatory remarks as they could get fired. Over the years I have found some extremely understanding Assistants and have even engaged in a bit of friendly banter on occasion. Bite the bullet and enjoy the experience- it can be very affirming. |
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By *inag101 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
Galway |
"At your age I can understand the anxiety but can assure you there is absolutely no need to be nervous. Until lockdown I did all my clothes shopping in person with the exception of some accessories like wigs. Most Shop Assistants will be very helpful if needed and at worst will ignore you - they cannot afford to make any snide or derogatory remarks as they could get fired. Over the years I have found some extremely understanding Assistants and have even engaged in a bit of friendly banter on occasion. Bite the bullet and enjoy the experience- it can be very affirming."
Such a great piece to read, very assuring, was ot ever difficult for you? |
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"At your age I can understand the anxiety but can assure you there is absolutely no need to be nervous. Until lockdown I did all my clothes shopping in person with the exception of some accessories like wigs. Most Shop Assistants will be very helpful if needed and at worst will ignore you - they cannot afford to make any snide or derogatory remarks as they could get fired. Over the years I have found some extremely understanding Assistants and have even engaged in a bit of friendly banter on occasion. Bite the bullet and enjoy the experience- it can be very affirming.
Such a great piece to read, very assuring, was ot ever difficult for you?"
Well to be honest I was a bit nervous when I was young snd would have blurted out the standard line of ‘buying a present for my Girlfriend “. I soon got over that as it became apparent fairly quickly that most people saw right through that . Just go ahead and do it - the sooner you start the sooner you will realise how easy and non eventful it will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can definitely be a bit daunting at first but it'll get easier quickly. Never got any rude remarks or anything like that. Most cashiers couldn't give less Fs about what and why you buy it 
Got the occasional knowing smile, but just returned the smile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One tip: learn to walk like a woman.
Sway those hips and put one front in front of the other.
Main thing is to move the hips, then you'll naturally put one foot in front of the other |
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"One tip: learn to walk like a woman.
Sway those hips and put one front in front of the other.
Main thing is to move the hips, then you'll naturally put one foot in front of the other "
or you can just bring me with you Mel xxx |
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"One tip: learn to walk like a woman.
Sway those hips and put one front in front of the other.
Main thing is to move the hips, then you'll naturally put one foot in front of the other or you can just bring me with you Mel xxx"
An offer that can’t be refused!!! |
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"One tip: learn to walk like a woman.
Sway those hips and put one front in front of the other.
Main thing is to move the hips, then you'll naturally put one foot in front of the other or you can just bring me with you Mel xxx
An offer that can’t be refused!!!"
Well Brown Thomas is my favourite shopping place |
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By *eth TVTV/TS
over a year ago
Mid Meath |
I used to go shopping dressed all the time and hand on heart, it's rarely been any hassle. The odd time you may hear the very occasion comment but honestly, most girls get comments when out so IMO it's part of the journey. Most retail staff barely glance at you never mind comment on your purchases. Just dress presentably, don't be a dick and you'll be fine. |
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By *inag101 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
Galway |
"Would you be more comfortable if you had someone with you? Might be no harm popping up a post looking for a shopping partner if it would make you feel safer. "
It probably would be more comfortable to have some moral support beside me but not sure if anyone would be interested in doing that with me? |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Would you be more comfortable if you had someone with you? Might be no harm popping up a post looking for a shopping partner if it would make you feel safer.
It probably would be more comfortable to have some moral support beside me but not sure if anyone would be interested in doing that with me?"
You never know if you don’t ask |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
My daughter is a manager in Pennys ...she says nobody bats an eyelid if you come in dressed or not and her and other staff have often helped with advice anyway.
The changing rooms are unisex and they also have transgender staff who use whatever toilets they want in the staff area's.
This is the first time I've spoken to my daughter about these issues and it was because of your post
Thanks for opening my eyes to how progressive some of this country has become |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One tip: learn to walk like a woman.
Sway those hips and put one front in front of the other.
Main thing is to move the hips, then you'll naturally put one foot in front of the other or you can just bring me with you Mel xxx
An offer that can’t be refused!!!
Well Brown Thomas is my favourite shopping place "
Bring your credit card Bitch! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ireland is definitely moving in the right direction for sure 
But still a long way to go before the likes of us can be ourselves without worrying about potential consequences |
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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Ireland is definitely moving in the right direction for sure
But still a long way to go before the likes of us can be ourselves without worrying about potential consequences"
Which is the daily lived experience of women. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Ireland is definitely moving in the right direction for sure
But still a long way to go before the likes of us can be ourselves without worrying about potential consequences
Which is the daily lived experience of women."
It's not my daily experience at all |
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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Ireland is definitely moving in the right direction for sure
But still a long way to go before the likes of us can be ourselves without worrying about potential consequences
Which is the daily lived experience of women.
It's not my daily experience at all "
I'm sincerely glad you've been so fortunate. My point is simply that presenting femme in public present dressers with much the same risks and possible adverse experience as women face on a daily basis. It's not something that should deter you from doing something you want to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lighten up folks - OP only wants to buy a few knickers, bras & dresses!!"
Indeed, my apologies. deleted my previous post. Happy to assist with shopping in cork |
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