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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I'm amazed at the amount of guys who after a while chatting about the possibility of meeting and than the age old comment " I don't like condoms" , can I cum inside you etc
I know when I was in my 20s I wouldn't even think of having sex without using a condom for the fear of getting pregnant (27 yrs ago) don't remember sexual health been a big concern than.
Now don't get me wrong there have been occasions where a condom wasn't used and the panic between getting the morning after pill and and an sti test done, I actually dont think one guy even asked after if I needed to take precaution etc.
I would have thought on a swingers site that people would be more vigilant about protecting themselves.
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I get why they wanna but not why they would. Why would anybody fuck any basic stranger without a condom. Imagine the head melt afterwards, waiting on test/results etc. Often when i see single profiles theres a lot of non condom pics. Instant red flag for me |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I get why they wanna but not why they would. Why would anybody fuck any basic stranger without a condom. Imagine the head melt afterwards, waiting on test/results etc. Often when i see single profiles theres a lot of non condom pics. Instant red flag for me"
They also have safe sex in their bio
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"I get why they wanna but not why they would. Why would anybody fuck any basic stranger without a condom. Imagine the head melt afterwards, waiting on test/results etc. Often when i see single profiles theres a lot of non condom pics. Instant red flag for me
They also have safe sex in their bio
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
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A particular problem is that many STD’s don’t have too many symptoms coupled with the case that few people ever get checked out.
HPV (human papilloma virus) is endemic in the older swinger community (young women are now protected through vaccination)
We get a check annually which is why we know (despite mostly safe sex) that we’ve fallen victim to a whole range of STD’s over the years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wouldn’t even enter my head to ask for sex with no condom. I always keep some in my wallet in case I get lucky. Likewise I’m not a fan of using them but it’s a small compromise.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Regular sti testing should be the norm, not the exception. "
I have attended the Gum clinic in sligo and the staff in there are lovely, when I mention the clinic to people it's amazing how many go oh god I wouldn't go there, I'd hate to be seen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's far from just being guys.
And plenty people take various chances with their health and others for increase pleasure or wanting an easier life.
It's just another example of that.
I think there is a bit of hysteria and virtue signalling around it on here to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's far from just being guys.
And plenty people take various chances with their health and others for increase pleasure or wanting an easier life.
It's just another example of that.
I think there is a bit of hysteria and virtue signalling around it on here to be honest"
Hysteria? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's far from just being guys.
And plenty people take various chances with their health and others for increase pleasure or wanting an easier life.
It's just another example of that.
I think there is a bit of hysteria and virtue signalling around it on here to be honest
Hysteria? "
Ya excessive reactions to people having unprotected sex.
Especially those who are upfront about it before meeting |
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All you have to do is look at the amount of bareback pics here and that will tell you all you need to know.. The same people who swear blind they would never have bareback with a stranger but if the opportunity arose they would go for it.. Hypocrites.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's far from just being guys.
And plenty people take various chances with their health and others for increase pleasure or wanting an easier life.
It's just another example of that.
I think there is a bit of hysteria and virtue signalling around it on here to be honest
Hysteria?
Ya excessive reactions to people having unprotected sex.
Especially those who are upfront about it before meeting"
I hope my post isn't come across that way, I was just curious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's far from just being guys.
And plenty people take various chances with their health and others for increase pleasure or wanting an easier life.
It's just another example of that.
I think there is a bit of hysteria and virtue signalling around it on here to be honest
Hysteria?
Ya excessive reactions to people having unprotected sex.
Especially those who are upfront about it before meeting
I hope my post isn't come across that way, I was just curious"
No here was meaning fab in general not your post
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm amazed at the amount of guys who after a while chatting about the possibility of meeting and than the age old comment " I don't like condoms" , can I cum inside you etc
I know when I was in my 20s I wouldn't even think of having sex without using a condom for the fear of getting pregnant (27 yrs ago) don't remember sexual health been a big concern than.
Now don't get me wrong there have been occasions where a condom wasn't used and the panic between getting the morning after pill and and an sti test done, I actually dont think one guy even asked after if I needed to take precaution etc.
I would have thought on a swingers site that people would be more vigilant about protecting themselves.
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This has surprised me too OP, since I got back in the saddle after 20 years 
We were in the HIV hyper-aware generation I guess.
I only once had to kick someone out of bed back then for not gloving up. Everyone used them, no drama.
Im stunned how many are willingly taking risks now... |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Each to their own really like everything else it is there own choice and the choice of people who will meet them knowing it's their preference.
As long as they are upfront about it and not sly like the ones who try and slip it off and hope you don't notice which has happened once to me. Unfortunately for him I did notice.
I've seen several people on here who have asked for profile advice and get absolutely slated because they had it on their profile it is their preference. And they end up taking it off their profile then .But surely it's better on there because then it is not an issue later on.
It's like everything else on here it's a choice and if it's not what you're into then that's fine but I don't understand the whole looking down on others because of what they choose to do. There's plenty of things I see on here that I've no interest in doing but it doesn't mean it makes me better than anyone who does them. It's just means we're on different paths. |
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over a year ago
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"Each to their own really like everything else it is there own choice and the choice of people who will meet them knowing it's their preference.
As long as they are upfront about it and not sly like the ones who try and slip it off and hope you don't notice which has happened once to me. Unfortunately for him I did notice.
I've seen several people on here who have asked for profile advice and get absolutely slated because they had it on their profile it is their preference. And they end up taking it off their profile then .But surely it's better on there because then it is not an issue later on.
It's like everything else on here it's a choice and if it's not what you're into then that's fine but I don't understand the whole looking down on others because of what they choose to do. There's plenty of things I see on here that I've no interest in doing but it doesn't mean it makes me better than anyone who does them. It's just means we're on different paths. "
I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex. |
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"Each to their own really like everything else it is there own choice and the choice of people who will meet them knowing it's their preference.
As long as they are upfront about it and not sly like the ones who try and slip it off and hope you don't notice which has happened once to me. Unfortunately for him I did notice.
I've seen several people on here who have asked for profile advice and get absolutely slated because they had it on their profile it is their preference. And they end up taking it off their profile then .But surely it's better on there because then it is not an issue later on.
It's like everything else on here it's a choice and if it's not what you're into then that's fine but I don't understand the whole looking down on others because of what they choose to do. There's plenty of things I see on here that I've no interest in doing but it doesn't mean it makes me better than anyone who does them. It's just means we're on different paths.
I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex. "
Abstinence is the way forward |
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"Each to their own really like everything else it is there own choice and the choice of people who will meet them knowing it's their preference.
As long as they are upfront about it and not sly like the ones who try and slip it off and hope you don't notice which has happened once to me. Unfortunately for him I did notice.
I've seen several people on here who have asked for profile advice and get absolutely slated because they had it on their profile it is their preference. And they end up taking it off their profile then .But surely it's better on there because then it is not an issue later on.
It's like everything else on here it's a choice and if it's not what you're into then that's fine but I don't understand the whole looking down on others because of what they choose to do. There's plenty of things I see on here that I've no interest in doing but it doesn't mean it makes me better than anyone who does them. It's just means we're on different paths.
I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex.
Abstinence is the way forward"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Each to their own really like everything else it is there own choice and the choice of people who will meet them knowing it's their preference.
As long as they are upfront about it and not sly like the ones who try and slip it off and hope you don't notice which has happened once to me. Unfortunately for him I did notice.
I've seen several people on here who have asked for profile advice and get absolutely slated because they had it on their profile it is their preference. And they end up taking it off their profile then .But surely it's better on there because then it is not an issue later on.
It's like everything else on here it's a choice and if it's not what you're into then that's fine but I don't understand the whole looking down on others because of what they choose to do. There's plenty of things I see on here that I've no interest in doing but it doesn't mean it makes me better than anyone who does them. It's just means we're on different paths.
I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex.
Abstinence is the way forward"
I'm onto month 7  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex.
Monogamous sex. Thats why it became the social norm way back when ...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex.
Monogamous sex. Thats why it became the social norm way back when ...
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Eh, I wonder how many here have a partner who believes themselves to be in such a relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex.
Monogamous sex. Thats why it became the social norm way back when ...
Eh, I wonder how many here have a partner who believes themselves to be in such a relationship? "
Quite a few I imagine , even had an offer last night of popping over to a gent in mayo who's wife was away for the night, he offered the green house |
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over a year ago
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I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex.
Monogamous sex. Thats why it became the social norm way back when ...
Eh, I wonder how many here have a partner who believes themselves to be in such a relationship?
Quite a few I imagine , even had an offer last night of popping over to a gent in mayo who's wife was away for the night, he offered the green house "
Jesus I hope it was heated |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex.
Monogamous sex. Thats why it became the social norm way back when ...
Eh, I wonder how many here have a partner who believes themselves to be in such a relationship?
Quite a few I imagine , even had an offer last night of popping over to a gent in mayo who's wife was away for the night, he offered the green house
Jesus I hope it was heated "
I didn't ask lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with this. I wonder how many of those who swear by condoms are ever tested for STIs vs those who bareback. There's no such thing as safe sex except no sex.
Monogamous sex. Thats why it became the social norm way back when ...
Eh, I wonder how many here have a partner who believes themselves to be in such a relationship?
Quite a few I imagine , even had an offer last night of popping over to a gent in mayo who's wife was away for the night, he offered the green house
Jesus I hope it was heated "
He was hoping DD would bring the heat lol  |
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"Each to their own really like everything else it is there own choice and the choice of people who will meet them knowing it's their preference.
As long as they are upfront about it and not sly like the ones who try and slip it off and hope you don't notice which has happened once to me. Unfortunately for him I did notice.
I've seen several people on here who have asked for profile advice and get absolutely slated because they had it on their profile it is their preference. And they end up taking it off their profile then .But surely it's better on there because then it is not an issue later on.
It's like everything else on here it's a choice and if it's not what you're into then that's fine but I don't understand the whole looking down on others because of what they choose to do. There's plenty of things I see on here that I've no interest in doing but it doesn't mean it makes me better than anyone who does them. It's just means we're on different paths. "
i strongly disagree with this. Nor do i think im better than them. Do i think im more aware of the pitfalls of not suiting up brings? Yes definitely. I don't get it. I dont understand it.
Nor do i understand a lot of fetishes, i.e feet worship. But wearing a condom and having multiple sexual partners is just common sense. Why bloody risk it |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Each to their own really like everything else it is there own choice and the choice of people who will meet them knowing it's their preference.
As long as they are upfront about it and not sly like the ones who try and slip it off and hope you don't notice which has happened once to me. Unfortunately for him I did notice.
I've seen several people on here who have asked for profile advice and get absolutely slated because they had it on their profile it is their preference. And they end up taking it off their profile then .But surely it's better on there because then it is not an issue later on.
It's like everything else on here it's a choice and if it's not what you're into then that's fine but I don't understand the whole looking down on others because of what they choose to do. There's plenty of things I see on here that I've no interest in doing but it doesn't mean it makes me better than anyone who does them. It's just means we're on different paths. i strongly disagree with this. Nor do i think im better than them. Do i think im more aware of the pitfalls of not suiting up brings? Yes definitely. I don't get it. I dont understand it.
Nor do i understand a lot of fetishes, i.e feet worship. But wearing a condom and having multiple sexual partners is just common sense. Why bloody risk it"
Because they obviously think it is worth the risk. Like I said it is their choice just like it's everyone else's choice to decide if they want to meet them or not. You don't need to understand it,you can just avoid meeting the ones who do it,as long as you know that's how they prefer to have sex.
I'm sure most people on here bare back or using protection would be aware of the risks of having numerous partners and well you would think and hope that most get tested regularly .But then that may not be happening either because one thing I have learned in my time on here is common sense sometimes is not that common. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had a couple wanted to meet and not use one. Was an issue for me. They tried to say it’s different as they ar married and I’m single. They have nothing to worry about regarding std. Eh no, we are all fucking around! |
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We ve had a few single guys turn up with no protection,we always come prepared for such events. Turned out on more than one occasion ,they lost the hardon once we made it clear we wherent willing to have bareback sex no matter how clean they protested they where! |
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I would prefer to have hot raw dogging action/ unprotected sex with a woman who had a recent clear sti test result, than wear a condom with a woman who's not been tested in ages. Both condoms and covid vaccines aren't a magical impenetrable barrier against disease people think they are. |
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"I would prefer to have hot raw dogging action/ unprotected sex with a woman who had a recent clear sti test result, than wear a condom with a woman who's not been tested in ages. Both condoms and covid vaccines aren't a magical impenetrable barrier against disease people think they are. "
Just out of curiosity, would you be inclined to ask for proof of clear STI screening? If so, what proof would suffice? The text message you get from your GP/screening clinic, which gives absolutely no clue as to what you were tested for, or would you expect your potential bareback partner to have a letter with the list of tests and results?
Or do you take their word for it?
To answer the question on the topic, I'm very much pro-choice. I think JustBo explained it very well. I personally want to protect my sexual health, so I'll come prepared with a condom and it will be used for penetrative sex. I still get tested regularly too.
But if others are happy to take the risk of having unprotected sex with strangers, who am I to judge? Let them at it... |
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"We ve had a few single guys turn up with no protection,we always come prepared for such events. Turned out on more than one occasion ,they lost the hardon once we made it clear we wherent willing to have bareback sex no matter how clean they protested they where!"
If any guy turned up without condoms, we'd send him packing, regardless of the fact that Lee would have brought them! |
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Just to be clear STI test are not that reliable either unless it was done within the last 24 hours at max.
There are also many thing you should not do for perfect Sex health, but I would get death threats if I was mentioning them...
Wear gloves. |
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