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By *onnrod OP Man
over a year ago
moira |
Christ it's frustrating when the person you're waiting on not only doesn't weigh in, but doesn't even text to say they won't/can't make it.
So, honesty time! Has anyone here performed a no show on a meet? And are there any valid circumstances for not communicating that it wasn't happening?
(and yes, it happened to me today, hence the retaliatory indignant form topic) |
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Can honestly say I've never been a no show or had a no show.
The closest was someone forgetting we had arranged to meet when I texted to confirm so that didn't happen.
Another who was too busy at work but I had already worked out she wouldn't be there due to her silence that day. She cancelled an hour before we were to meet but I was already halfway home from work so I don't class that as a no show.
The veri she displayed the next morning which actually named the coffee shop we were to meet in was a different kettle of fish. I often wonder how she would have dealt with that situation if I had been there along with the other guy she had booked in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its such a crap and disrespectful thing to do to anyone. I just think we are adults, cop on and have manners and just text the person.
I've has a few and each time I do wonder is it my fault but now I just thing jog on mate your loss, even if we wouldn't be needing again, it's a cup of coffee and a laugh.
Sorry to hear you were stood up x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined fab I got a non show twice in a row!!
Communication right up to the time agreed and then nothing.
He came back the next day with some story and I believed him as I was very naive 
After he left me in a non show for the 2nd time and this time in a hotel room I wised up!!
Lesson learnt lol |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I've never not shown for a meet if I say I will then I show up. I've not had someone not show either. I did have someone go very quiet on the day we were to meet when I messaged to confirm he didn't answer so I cancelled it.
Like said above someone going quiet on the day is usually a sign they won't show .There's no excuse really for it as it's takes a few seconds to send a message cancelling.Real life situations where someone can't send a text are few and far between. |
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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago
Dublin west |
Have had lots of no shows or last min lame excuses.
Some people bottle out or some do have stuff that can come up last minute but you can usually spot the ones that are just going to mess you around.
Always a coffee meet now before anything more and that thankfully has stopped most of the no shows. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
I was a no show with someone because I got locked into a garage by staff that went home
I rang and gave an hours notice but we met the next time
I had a no show for a coffee meet when I was at the coffee shop but it was a family emergency which was way more important that meeting me
Anyone that goes radio silence and fails to show should be reported and blocked |
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By *ara198Woman
over a year ago
maynooth |
I had a meet arranged in a hotel few years back with a couple, luckily I was in a couple then too, we booked the hotel and paid, travelled the 2 hour journey, checked in, then got the text, can't make it something has come up. We still enjoyed the room and the night but got no explanation. I suppose at least they texted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s devastating. How could anyone do that! I’ve had 2 unofficial meets on here and both were on time and no messing about. I definitely wouldn’t mess around with a meet and if the unthinkable happened I’d be definitely on the phone to reschedule or cancel in plenty of time. Can’t understand why people do crap like that.  |
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By *willfindyouWoman
over a year ago
Not looking to meet new peeps. |
"Christ it's frustrating when the person you're waiting on not only doesn't weigh in, but doesn't even text to say they won't/can't make it.
So, honesty time! Has anyone here performed a no show on a meet? And are there any valid circumstances for not communicating that it wasn't happening?
(and yes, it happened to me today, hence the retaliatory
Ask the bug thing
indignant form topic) "
 he knows everything about it people life. puck |
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Yes I've had to do it on one occasion, came down to me being getting a close contact message on the day. Told the other person, anyone has an issue with that well then don't complain if you get COVID off a meet up  |
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yea happened me twice over this past 4 days with the same person..fiirst meet organised the day beforehand then the day of supposed meet nada nothing texts ignored not even an acknowledgement..the following dy i say hey and im told i was really tired yesterday and i didnt want to leave the house..no biggy say I sure no pressure then another meet was arranged for today and hey presto radio silence stone walled ..text was ignored  sure what do we expect its only an nsa site..people chance their mind like the weather.. |
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By *onnrod OP Man
over a year ago
moira |
"Christ it's frustrating when the person you're waiting on not only doesn't weigh in, but doesn't even text to say they won't/can't make it.
So, honesty time! Has anyone here performed a no show on a meet? And are there any valid circumstances for not communicating that it wasn't happening?
(and yes, it happened to me today, hence the retaliatory
Ask the bug thing
indignant form topic) he knows everything about it people life. puck"
Huh?? |
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By *j2000Man
over a year ago
mayo |
Have had it happen 4 times, first time we agreed time and sent eircode, she sent message "leaving now", went to send message "I had to run to the shop and would leave door unlocked" to find profile deleted.
Another 1 agreed to meet 3 ppl the 1 night. (Found out through a friend later)
Other 2 then put profile private after they were hour late with no reply to messages.
Have spoken to few Bi girls I know, some on here, some are not and they even say girls are the worst, book a few ppl and choose at last minute.
Rant over lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately this site is gone very bad for it. Iv had couples and singles all letting me down in last 12 months. About to meet, then profile deleted etc or no message back. A couple of years back this place was more straighg forward. Strange times. Seems to be same for all types on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have had it happen 4 times, first time we agreed time and sent eircode, she sent message "leaving now", went to send message "I had to run to the shop and would leave door unlocked" to find profile deleted.
Another 1 agreed to meet 3 ppl the 1 night. (Found out through a friend later)
Other 2 then put profile private after they were hour late with no reply to messages.
Have spoken to few Bi girls I know, some on here, some are not and they even say girls are the worst, book a few ppl and choose at last minute.
Rant over lol "
You advising to book a few meets and choose at last minute? |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Have had it happen 4 times, first time we agreed time and sent eircode, she sent message "leaving now", went to send message "I had to run to the shop and would leave door unlocked" to find profile deleted.
Another 1 agreed to meet 3 ppl the 1 night. (Found out through a friend later)
Other 2 then put profile private after they were hour late with no reply to messages.
Have spoken to few Bi girls I know, some on here, some are not and they even say girls are the worst, book a few ppl and choose at last minute.
Rant over lol "
You were going to leave your door unlocked for a stranger to let themselves in? |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Unfortunately this site is gone very bad for it. Iv had couples and singles all letting me down in last 12 months. About to meet, then profile deleted etc or no message back. A couple of years back this place was more straighg forward. Strange times. Seems to be same for all types on here"
I don’t see any difference in the site and the messers over the last 14 years tbh.
It’s certainly more difficult to arrange meets since March 2020 but that’s to be expected. |
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"When I first joined fab I got a non show twice in a row!!
Communication right up to the time agreed and then nothing.
He came back the next day with some story and I believed him as I was very naive
After he left me in a non show for the 2nd time and this time in a hotel room I wised up!!
Lesson learnt lol "
Can't believe someone would be a no show for you ,,, well his loss , twice ,, |
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I have once or twice had to cancel last minute due to sick kids but i rescheduled straight away so did actually meet up
When i first joined i remember having a,coffee meet and parked car and clocked him sitting in beer garden...his profile was 45 but he was at least 65 but i couldnt just drive away so had a perfectly pleasant coffee and chat but needless to say did not meet again |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
There is a wide range of reasons for a no-show, but the crucial response is to learn from the experience, move on (very promptly) and if necessary modify one's future approach for arranging a meet.
Some people do get cold feet at the last moment, go 'quieter' on the day and then ghost; or minor crises can occasionally arise such as work commitments, or the babysitter failing to show up at the last minute; but there are some individuals who do enjoy faking a build-up to a meet, fail to show and then 'disappear' and block, without any explanation.
I would suggest that if a 'meet' has been arranged after an initial social in a public area, and either person (or couple) goes off the idea, for whatever reason, the most mature respectful approach is to be politely direct and state that you're no longer interested.
If this produces an angry or adverse response, then block completely, and quietly inform the others within your close network.
Reputation is everything in life, and in a small community like this, it takes very little time for a 'bad' reputation, to become common knowledge.  |
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By *j2000Man
over a year ago
mayo |
"Have had it happen 4 times, first time we agreed time and sent eircode, she sent message "leaving now", went to send message "I had to run to the shop and would leave door unlocked" to find profile deleted.
Another 1 agreed to meet 3 ppl the 1 night. (Found out through a friend later)
Other 2 then put profile private after they were hour late with no reply to messages.
Have spoken to few Bi girls I know, some on here, some are not and they even say girls are the worst, book a few ppl and choose at last minute.
Rant over lol
You advising to book a few meets and choose at last minute? "
No but I would hope to be treated with respect the same way I treat every1 else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have had it happen 4 times, first time we agreed time and sent eircode, she sent message "leaving now", went to send message "I had to run to the shop and would leave door unlocked" to find profile deleted.
Another 1 agreed to meet 3 ppl the 1 night. (Found out through a friend later)
Other 2 then put profile private after they were hour late with no reply to messages.
Have spoken to few Bi girls I know, some on here, some are not and they even say girls are the worst, book a few ppl and choose at last minute.
Rant over lol
You advising to book a few meets and choose at last minute?
No but I would hope to be treated with respect the same way I treat every1 else"
Don't we all. |
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By *j2000Man
over a year ago
mayo |
"Have had it happen 4 times, first time we agreed time and sent eircode, she sent message "leaving now", went to send message "I had to run to the shop and would leave door unlocked" to find profile deleted.
Another 1 agreed to meet 3 ppl the 1 night. (Found out through a friend later)
Other 2 then put profile private after they were hour late with no reply to messages.
Have spoken to few Bi girls I know, some on here, some are not and they even say girls are the worst, book a few ppl and choose at last minute.
Rant over lol
You were going to leave your door unlocked for a stranger to let themselves in?"
Nothing to take only bills lol
No I was probably going to be back before her anyway |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"There is a wide range of reasons for a no-show, but the crucial response is to learn from the experience, move on (very promptly) and if necessary modify one's future approach for arranging a meet.
Some people do get cold feet at the last moment, go 'quieter' on the day and then ghost; or minor crises can occasionally arise such as work commitments, or the babysitter failing to show up at the last minute; but there are some individuals who do enjoy faking a build-up to a meet, fail to show and then 'disappear' and block, without any explanation.
I would suggest that if a 'meet' has been arranged after an initial social in a public area, and either person (or couple) goes off the idea, for whatever reason, the most mature respectful approach is to be politely direct and state that you're no longer interested.
If this produces an angry or adverse response, then block completely, and quietly inform the others within your close network.
Reputation is everything in life, and in a small community like this, it takes very little time for a 'bad' reputation, to become common knowledge. "
You've a blank profile with no verifications
What do you think your reputation is in this small community
Where do you come up with this stuff
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By *onnrod OP Man
over a year ago
moira |
"There is a wide range of reasons for a no-show, but the crucial response is to learn from the experience, move on (very promptly) and if necessary modify one's future approach for arranging a meet.
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It was already arranged and a place and time agreed so my approach for arranging a meet obviously wasn't the issue. Her lack of respect in sticking to the arrangement was.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a wide range of reasons for a no-show, but the crucial response is to learn from the experience, move on (very promptly) and if necessary modify one's future approach for arranging a meet.
It was already arranged and a place and time agreed so my approach for arranging a meet obviously wasn't the issue. Her lack of respect in sticking to the arrangement was.
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I always find it odd been told to look at my approach to getting meets when I've been stood up. I always agree to meet in a public place, pick a time, try not to spend too long chatting even though some of the longer timeliness chats have had successful coffee meets. I swap a face pic, I'm very clear that I'm not skinny/slim etc and yet guys still let me down. |
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"There is a wide range of reasons for a no-show, but the crucial response is to learn from the experience, move on (very promptly) and if necessary modify one's future approach for arranging a meet.
It was already arranged and a place and time agreed so my approach for arranging a meet obviously wasn't the issue. Her lack of respect in sticking to the arrangement was.
I always find it odd been told to look at my approach to getting meets when I've been stood up. I always agree to meet in a public place, pick a time, try not to spend too long chatting even though some of the longer timeliness chats have had successful coffee meets. I swap a face pic, I'm very clear that I'm not skinny/slim etc and yet guys still let me down. "
Their loss dd |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
The most significant occasion for me was when the lady failed to show for a meet in a coffee shop in Belfast, but after having spoken to her face to face on many occasions.
However, not wishing to pressurise her for her details (she worked in a sensitive occupation) I did not press for a phone number nor an e-mail address.
In my case, modification of my own approach would be having SOME means of contact, and if it was unavailable to not proceed.
I actually suspected that she was stringing me along, in the presence of her colleagues, and I also ensured she had no means of contacting me too!
When she didn't show, I was unsurprised and I just put it down to experience and learned from it.
I had totally put it out of my mind until I read this thread.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All I can say to the Granny's of the single guys on Fab you better get your affairs in order and write your will because you're very likely to die suddenly on a Saturday afternoon unexpectedly. It's terrible the poor Grannys that keep dying suddenly some even a few times over ... |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"All I can say to the Granny's of the single guys on Fab you better get your affairs in order and write your will because you're very likely to die suddenly on a Saturday afternoon unexpectedly. It's terrible the poor Grannys that keep dying suddenly some even a few times over ..."
Just use RIP .ie to verify |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
Dunboyne |
"All I can say to the Granny's of the single guys on Fab you better get your affairs in order and write your will because you're very likely to die suddenly on a Saturday afternoon unexpectedly. It's terrible the poor Grannys that keep dying suddenly some even a few times over ..."
News Alert!
Grannies are in danger of dying!
Age thought to be a major factor 
No, I've never used that one on Fab myself, or other excuses, I think |
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A no show with no contact before to explain is at best bad manners and at worst a wind up merchant unless as previously stated there was some kind of emergency or accident. Never non showed myself but then as a bloke ur im delighted to get a meet so im always eager lol. Anyway if u get a no show don’t dwell on it and try to stay positive the the next meet will be more successful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been a no-show but had to cancel literally last minute. It was right at the start of the pandemic and I was about 10 mins from the hotel when I got a call from my eldest's school to tell ne to come and collect them immediately as they'd developed a cough and been quarantined. Nothing I could do but say sorry and hotfoot it back home.
Shite move from whoever was supposed to meet you OP and, little consolation it may be, but they really missed out on spending time with an absolutely cracking man
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By *onnrod OP Man
over a year ago
moira |
"Never been a no-show but had to cancel literally last minute. It was right at the start of the pandemic and I was about 10 mins from the hotel when I got a call from my eldest's school to tell ne to come and collect them immediately as they'd developed a cough and been quarantined. Nothing I could do but say sorry and hotfoot it back home.
Shite move from whoever was supposed to meet you OP and, little consolation it may be, but they really missed out on spending time with an absolutely cracking man
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By *unnerbenMan
over a year ago
Dublin / Cork |
I have been let down a few times . Some times last minute message , sometimes a no show and then followed up next day by excuses . I have never failed to show up for arranged meet . Very frustrating |
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I have Never been a no show. If you say you're going to be there then be there. If you know there's going to be a chance things might change let the person know in advance as its so much easier for everyone when they know.
There's alot to be said for just being a genuine person. |
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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago
Cork |
Never not turned up but have been stood up on numerous occasions. We just enjoy a coffee ourselves. It’s a lesson not to travel or interfere with other plans for that initial social meet.
Had a few socials arranged where ghosting by our prospective meet starts a week or so out, profile disappears and all, so we don’t bother following through in that situation. Hardly counts as a no show on our part? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Christ it's frustrating when the person you're waiting on not only doesn't weigh in, but doesn't even text to say they won't/can't make it.
So, honesty time! Has anyone here performed a no show on a meet? And are there any valid circumstances for not communicating that it wasn't happening?
(and yes, it happened to me today, hence the retaliatory indignant form topic) "
Never if I say I’ll
Go I will. And unless you’re dead there is no excuse to not contact |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Had a meet with a guy but he cancelled a hour before saying he had fallen and injured his knee, even sent a pic of the injury including fading yellow bruises and healing stitches,
Jump forward 3 years,
Has a meet with a guy pulled same excuse sent same pic of injured knee,
Poor fuc..., stuck in A+E for 3 years, |
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You know it all comes down to confidence.. And that comes from self esteem and if you have
A low self esteem it can go either way you can meet and everything is great or you can totally bottle it.. Its a fine line.. Some are genuine time wasters that get a kick out of playing people others are tragic human beings.. |
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"Christ it's frustrating when the person you're waiting on not only doesn't weigh in, but doesn't even text to say they won't/can't make it.
So, honesty time! Has anyone here performed a no show on a meet? And are there any valid circumstances for not communicating that it wasn't happening?
(and yes, it happened to me today, hence the retaliatory indignant form topic) "
thats an awful thing to happen - its very disrepectful - of course things can crop up but ffs surely the decent thing would be to at least message - hope you have better luck next time |
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"Had a meet with a guy but he cancelled a hour before saying he had fallen and injured his knee, even sent a pic of the injury including fading yellow bruises and healing stitches,
Jump forward 3 years,
Has a meet with a guy pulled same excuse sent same pic of injured knee,
Poor fuc..., stuck in A+E for 3 years, "
same fella or different ??
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Never had a no show but get cancelled on numerous times best one was as i was about to leave he messaged to say his cow got loose and he'd to chase it down the lane so he would have to cancelled ... udderly annoying ... |
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"When I first joined fab I got a non show twice in a row!!
Communication right up to the time agreed and then nothing.
He came back the next day with some story and I believed him as I was very naive
After he left me in a non show for the 2nd time and this time in a hotel room I wised up!!
Lesson learnt lol "
. ?????? He definitely needs his head examined to miss a date with you ?????? |
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